@matthiasellis
and now every single time I write anything, this is the speed of production I assume of myself by default, and anything less must just be laziness
Britney doesn't owe anyone—from her family to her fans—anything. Not purity, not new art, not even palatability. The whole point has always been that she—like everyone else being held under immoral conservatorship—should be able to do whatever the hell she wants.
I loved May December but it’s missing the point for the discourse to be “how much control should biopic subjects have?” This is a conversation about whether a movie—about exploiting an already-exploited person for a movie—is exploitative. That’s a more unique & nuanced situation!
@jzux
everything in it we found on the street or secondhand (except the rug under the big table which was Purchased New & A Very Big Decision) & my partner even learned how to refinish wood to sand down the word “dick” carved into the coffee table & being here just fills me with warmth
just think, if glee had only been 2 season long and lea michele had never spoken to anyone ever or given any indictaion what her personality was like she could be in funny girl rn
@matthiasellis
and it’s not a reliable rate! it’s like saying “one time I lifted this car that was on fire off myself so why can’t I always lift 3,000 pounds???” (ignoring for now that in this metaphor I also set the car on fire and dropped it on myself)
During the 2021 IATSE strike authorization I interviewed a PA who had a seizure & kept working, two who had accidents driving for jobs & kept working, & literally everyone had physical or mental health issues bc of work hours & treatment, but yeah don’t let the energy dip Brad
Bradley Cooper says "there's no chairs" on set when he directs: "I’ve always hated chairs on sets; your energy dips the minute you sit down in a chair. There's no video village."
He's also adopted Christian Bale's acting method: "I had heard stories about Daniel Day-Lewis. I…
I really appreciate the fact that this gen z writer actually talked to various gen z ppl about sex instead of treating us (them?) like a monolith & theorizing about them (us?) like zoo animals
Whoever has this power, please leave the
@BitchMedia
site up, archived. There's so much powerful, meaningful, incisive work there that people should be able to access.
when I was 19 I was waiting tables & I was really bad at opening wine so I was practicing opening house bottles at the bar & my manager, this tiny, terrifying Irish woman Fiona, stopped in her tracks to observe me & then said “some people are just fundamentally graceless”
@ElyKreimendahl
when I was a kid begging my parents for a baby sister they thought it was some feminine mothering instinct thing but rlly I was just like "you are insane and I need a witness"
@ArielleDundas
He was like “idk man I just acted in it” and the guy was like “well I’m a scientist who studies wolves” and then someone else was like “no you’re not you’re an SAT tutor.”
It is so utterly demoralizing to have to expend energy on being angry about losing corporate rainbow capitalism and the dregs of mainstream acceptance and safety it represents.
In a stunning cave to far-right anti-LGBTQ fury, Starbucks has banned Pride decorations in its stores halfway through Pride Month, the company’s workers union revealed Tuesday.
If you direct your massive platform and your billions of dollars toward furthering cultural and legislative efforts that hurt trans people, you are a transphobe! Even if being called that makes you feel icky because you want to kick people and hear “thank you!” Hope this helps!
i think a lot about how we just don’t know how to take something seriously in this country—like 9/11 is maybe the thing this country takes most seriously and we’re still like “i am of course going to need a large frosted cookie from stop ‘n shop about that though”
I also think a lot of this “therapy speak” is actually like wellness-astrologer-life-coach-influencer jargon that no semi-lucid therapist has ever told anyone and that further muddies things
This year has been bad.
That being said, this has also been the year of one of the loveliest things that's ever happened to me: the chance, because of kind people, and the wonder of the internet, and the magic of mail, and
#penpalooza
, to send a photo of my mom around the world.
This isn’t The fucking Crown, this story—no matter what the campaign says about “inspiration”—is undeniably about Vili Fualaau’s abuse. I’m not saying it shouldn’t exist, or he should’ve co-written. Just, we should remember what we’re actually talking about.
how did the stock market even happen? I feel like if I tried to suggest something like this people would treat me like I was trying to teach them a board game
I’m happy & honestly proud to have had some really meaningful conversations w loved ones lately about how our friendships could be better, & in a time of advice columns telling you to like, lay off your friends, I’d like to speak on behalf of telling people how to love you better
Watch people and outlets that ordinarily claim to find they/them pronouns impossibly complicated suddenly deploy them flawlessly to explain with glee why this negates all mentions of homophobia and transphobia around this tragedy.
Decriminalizing sex work & pushing for workers’ rights shouldn’t be conflated with declaring entitlement to sex. Many of the despondent men you talk about earlier in this thread already feel they have a right to sex—it’s what makes them so dangerous, including to sex workers.
We should be moving toward a right to sex. People should be able to have sex when they feel they want to, and we need to develop services that meet people’s needs without attaching the baggage of shame or criminalization.
So let’s talk about sex.
@katiemathewson
the way my high school experience drilled the importance of the standardized measurements of academic achievement into us, I'll be on my deathbed having forgotten my own name but weeping to anyone who will listen about how I did on the verbal
For a small fee, I will attend your enemy's book launch, raise my hand and say, "yeah this is really more of a comment than a question" before rambling on for 15 minutes.
@TimHerrera
When I was in high school (financial aid kid at a boarding school) a kid gave me a cell phone. We were in a group chat and my messages always sent slow because my phone was old. It was annoying him so he just…gave me an old iPhone he had lying around. This was like 2013.
love how in fiction “driven mad by grief” is a perfectly serviceable & succinct villain origin story but in real life it’s like “you get 3 days of bereavement leave please arrange to have your work covered in your absence 💕”
I would go so far as to say it’s highly specific & maybe when we talk about situations we should try harder to keep their details in focus rather than context collapsing everything to make it easier to Make Points!
@AnaMardoll
my partner and I used to greet each other by saying "Hey there, Delilah," and then the other would answer, "What's it like in New York City?" Over time we've gotten lazy so now one person just nods and says, "Delilah," and the other responds in acknowledgement, "New York."
@ArielleDundas
Liam Neeson came to my high school for a showing of his movie ‘The Grey’ and then someone in the audience started haranguing him about the film being inaccurate and stigmatizing portrayal of wolf behavior.
@FareedZakaria
you didn’t NEED to draw a false parallel & target extremely vulnerable people to make a point about investing in infrastructure but you did anyway, which really makes it seem like you care more about attention than you do either parkways or pronouns.
How do 0.1 percenters get into their top-choice schools?
For our new cover story,
@caitmosc
reports on elite educational consultants—like Command Education— who charge upwards of $120,000 a year to sculpt high-school kids into Ivy League bait.
Read now:
There is no way to try assault in the perfectly sterile "objective" environment the legal system pretends to aspire to when so many people believe sexual abuse is deserved or not real or just wholly unimportant. And the court absolutely knows that.
The New York court of appeals that has overturned Harvey Weinstein’s felony conviction says that too many women were allowed to say he had assaulted them.
I think reports of the “mental health toll of WFH” fail to address that capitalism teaches us hobbies & sleep are “rewards” for getting enough work done, but now we’ve untethered them from that dynamic & are confronted by how demoralizing & without reward much work truly is
@anne_theriault
@sadydoyle
Like, people who are shocked to see "the moms engaging with activism" are really telling on themselves in terms of how they see motherhood
In response to what people are saying here about form and if the film artistically acknowledges this—of course it *artistically* acknowledges it, it’s the point of the film. But are we who enjoyed the film, & those who made it, acknowledging it in real life?
There's absolutely an incentive for studios to elevate mediocre work by minority creators. When it gets a tepid response, studios can blame it on the market "not being ready" & safely avoid elevating more incisive, potentially game-changing work by minority artists in the future.
My mom Debbie loved the beach. Seeing her by the ocean in Australia, somewhere we wanted to go and didn’t get to, is indescribably wonderful.
Thank you so, so much
@sesameellis
for taking her on this trip, and thank you
@rachsyme
for inspiring me to send her in the first place.
This is why the argument against AI art shouldn’t be “it’s bad.” I mean yeah it’s obv laughably bad. But that incentives them to prove it can be good, when the real point is that we should be building a world for people, where people make things, bc that’s what it is to be alive.
The first photos I received, after tucking my mom's grin into envelopes bound for addresses around the globe, were from
@sesameellis
.
My mom was in Melbourne, Australia.
I can't tell you how my heart filled up to, and then over the brim. The beach was my mom's favorite place.
"Is [the concern] a reflection of genuine worry for her wellbeing or a reflexive desire to keep controlling someone most people have only seen as a commodity engineered for consumption?"
I wrote for
@BitchMedia
about the reaction to
@britneyspears
' agency.
"Kids are traumatized by watching violence perpetrated against their guardians. It stands to reason watching guardians endure systemic violence from an ableist healthcare system harms them too."
I wrote about kids caregiving in
#Euphoria
for
@BitchMedia
.
@1followernodad
It’s this kind of opinion that enables people like my partner to do things like constantly pretend that a faceless man from another dimension is standing in the corner of our room making custard, and frankly I won’t stand for it
@AnaMardoll
also once my dad had a bad reaction to anesthesia during a colonoscopy. the way i told this story to my friends made us all hysterical, so now when someone seems disgruntled we all start imitating him and barking, "DID YOU PUT THINGS INSIDE ME? DID YOU HAVE SEX WITH MY WIFE?"
@shockproofbeats
@The_Fence_Mag
this led me to do things like put on my best red wig and go to the same bookstore I spent all my time at and introduce myself in my best lindsay-lohan-in-the-parent-trap british accent as "jessica, visiting from london" to the same bookstore employees who saw me every goddamn day
I don't have student loan debt. I paid it off with my mom's USPS life insurance, which she paid into for 30 years and which the government held patiently while she repeatedly applied for funds to cover her care, and was poised to reabsorb if she hadn't died younger than expected.
@LauraJaneGrace
After my mom died I connected with strangers all around the world & mailed them her photo & got to see her smiling at me from places she'd once traveled & places she'd never gotten to go, & it was truly one of the most moving experiences I've ever had
The first photos I received, after tucking my mom's grin into envelopes bound for addresses around the globe, were from
@sesameellis
.
My mom was in Melbourne, Australia.
I can't tell you how my heart filled up to, and then over the brim. The beach was my mom's favorite place.
Film & TV workers are in crisis. In light of a near-unanimous strike authorization & a disappointing tentative agreement, I spoke w union & non-union workers about the culture of ceaseless grinding & fear they face to make the shows & movies we all love.
But if anyone ever doubted this kind of "allyship" was hollow, or if the pendulum swings back toward rainbow cups in the future, remember this. They had a profit incentive for a minute. Now they don't. Simple as that.
my grandma turned 82 so my cousin cooked her a lobster! she interviews people during their hospital stays & writes down stories from their lives for them, she raised 4 kids & prevented her ex-husband from turning them into Scientologists, & I love her dearly! say happy birthday!
@arb
was holding the boss's dog during the conversation and found like 5 ticks on her, had to ask my partner to tick check me when I got home. got the job though 🥴
When I was 13 & my mom was 54, we both entered congregant living.
When she died, I was at work a state away.
Now I see how different life could've been if we hadn't learned that family & disability were incompatible.
ICYMI, my first of 2024, for
@TeenVogue
I’ll say it again: You’ve got to be as careful navigating healthcare as you are navigating prosecutors and police
(ESPECIALLY if you belong to one or more marginalized groups)
we really manage to be obsessed with actors & movies/tv without paying nearly the attention deserved to the craft of acting (outside stories of people being horrible under the guise of “method”)! it’s a fascinating art we all benefit from & I love hearing about it!
also most all my friends were like “thank you for telling me this, I realize you could’ve just not told me and resented me or distanced yourself and I appreciate that you love me enough to tell me” which honestly floored me
I have so much love for every person who's reached out and offered to receive a photo of my mom. Thank you for making this bad year brighter.
Thank you for giving me this moment of surprise and delight, each time I see her grin somewhere new.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I am beyond grateful to finally announce that the Official US Premiere of THE PEOPLE'S JOKER will be at
@Outfest
on July 15, 9:15p, at the Roy and Edna Disney CalArts Theater. With a Q&A after with me and my cast/crew/cowriter.
Toxic can feel like a buzzword, but its consequences are real when workplaces say they care, but break down by design when we stop to breath. The dynamic survives unspoken, begetting guilt & sacrifice.
Believe me. I learned the really fucking hard way.
last night my partner said that they see being a journalist as asking a question you think matters and then trying to help explain the answer to people you’ll probably never meet and I! cried!
four years ago today I graduated from college! everyone said it was a miracle my mom made it to watch & I'm so truly glad she did! I had to argue with sarah lawrence about her wheelchair accommodations & at one point we poured a jug of her pee into the hydrangeas!
@frynaomifry
I was so paranoid, I always journaled like someone was gonna end up reading it. I'd mention things that I knew people close to me would be looking for or particularly affected by. so like yes I'm scared of my unfiltered mind but journaling isn't the problem.
@emmastraub
my 6th grade language arts teacher actually gave us bonus points on our grade if we found a typo in a book and brought it in to show her. mrs. sadowski, your pedantic 11-year-olds have come home to roost.
I spoke to
@BryanFuller
& Steak House (of
@SteakhausProd
) about their smart & fun & truly beautiful docuseries Queer for Fear, which dropped today on
@Shudder
! From Mary Shelley on her mom's grave to Mrs. Danvers the service top, this club has everything!
Nobody likes working while sick, neither the CDC nor doctors recommend it—but in 1 of the only rich nations without mandatory paid sick leave, we do it all the time. For
@SELFmagazine
, I spoke with 3 doctors about basic ways to make it a little less awful.
I still feel
#TheUltimatumQueerLove
gives us less drama than it can & should—but I do think the most bonkers part is Lexi's deploying every second of therapytok she's consumed to deliver the most outlandish takes with the solemnity of a eulogy