@TopherAqil
I didn’t say it was good or right or that I do it. I said it’s clear communication. I personally don’t need to be told WHY someone doesn’t want me when their actions show that they don’t want me.
This idea of black women indulging and luxury is basic chocolate-dipped capitalism if we want to be real about it. And the women selling it to you from their curated social media accounts are doing it solely for individual profit. It’s ok to admit that.
@VtheEsquire
There’s a body of research that says men view women in 2 categories: mothering and sexual object. The daughter is the first to break that mentality bc in childhood, she is unable to mother.
Y’all think conversations about ‘isms and society only exist on Twitter because the people you surround yourself with in real life don’t talk about anything of value.
J&J has a real PR problem right now. Their highly effective vaccine is thought to be inferior because people don’t seek complete information. Now misinformation is casually floating around that will be extremely difficult to overcome.
So do women become non women when they are infertile or start menopause? When they have amenorrhea? When their hormones don’t activate in a typical way? When they have undiagnosed PCOS or endometriosis?
@Frediculous
Being consistent and specific with their praise. Instead of you did a good job, I got “you’re such a great speaker or leader” and then they elaborated from there.
This thing y’all do to make women feel like their statistically shared experiences are individual phenomena is the very same thing white people do when discussing racism and its byproducts.
Her videos are 100% satire and she says that over and over again, that’s why. She’s made them even more absurd and mocking yet people are still too slow to be in on the joke.
@Mr_A1Hunt
Yes, it’s a test to see how horrible he can treat her before she sticks up for herself. He made a point to say that HE ate but didn’t care if she did.
I enjoy luxury and a lot of it *but* I do not pretend that it’s some philosophical social good that other people can see me living well and suddenly experience freedom.
This is one of those things that if you haven’t experienced it, you won’t get it. Weight is not an important metric for most medical visits. I have a history of eating disorders so my weight is only taken in instances where it’s required for proper medication dosage (rare).
The facts are that we are grossly overestimating how active parents have been across generations. They call millennials helicopter parents for a reason.
I’m not going to tell someone else, whose childhood I didn’t experience, that they owe their parents. They don’t even have to be in communication with them if it is not best for their health. Being in community is wonderful but you can choose who belongs to yours.
Gen Z is getting the same media treatment that Millennials got years ago. Remember how they mocked us for not being able to move out of our parents house a year into a recession?? The headlines are recycled content with new non stats.
It’s not about protecting the men women are close to at all. She knows that no matter what, HER life will be ruined and very little will happen to the man. The vast majority of these men will never face a judge, let alone a jail cell and will always be welcome in the community.
It truly hearts my heart to see the “femininity” movement picking up with black women. Our issues are not because we are lacking softness and daintiness. Nothing we do is going to be delicate enough to be seen as white women.
These women keep putting unqualified men in positions to make decisions about their careers and it’s so sad. Men might make you their admin but you damn sure won’t be their manager
I just don’t understand women wanting their man involved in their work at all. Like sir stay out of my business other than when I say where them dollas at. I don’t need you on the track, the management team, none of that. If you minding my business you ain’t got enough of yo own
I’m so glad that I was encouraged to be headstrong from a young age. Nobody is going to tell me what I can and can’t wear. Who I can and can’t hang out with. What I can’t do with my time and career and not get laughed out the room. 😭😭🤣
It’s important to me that I am interchangeable with my partner on most things. I am not the only cook, the only grocery shopper, the only one doing shared laundry or handling the calendars. We are either sharing in a life we are building together or I can be single 😬
@Frediculous
They also supported whatever I wanted to do and allowed me the autonomy to make choices while reminding me that I had a soft place to land
Men get all upset that women treat them with caution and then when women are sharing their overwhelmingly negative experiences with men tell us we should be treating them with caution.
I remember getting called to HR to discuss why I didn’t want to be my colleague’s friend outside of work. And that it hurt her feelings that I felt that way. The same person grabbed my hair because it was so interesting and weird looking to her. HR said I should just let her.
There are men’s groups for soon to be fathers. Join them and process your fears there but do not expect the person doing 100% of the childbearing to carry this too.
@nhoodpublicist
My cousin said “why would you not get up and cook for your man at 3 am” and I feel like we failed as a family bc up out of my sleep? The food apps ain’t even delivering at that hour so why should I 🤣🤧
And this is the nonsense I’m talking about. Sis should be being celebrated for her accomplishments but the focus is on her husband’s empty headed thoughts. Shutting up is a free activity
House manager is a job that is different from a housekeeper different from a chef different from a nanny. These are four full time jobs that can exist in one household but people think one person doing all 4 is not enough work. BFFR
The messaging for vaccine safety measures was wrong from the beginning. The US is not a collective environment except as it relates to ‘isms. The messaging should’ve never been framed as “doing your part” or “saving other people’s lives.”
This is nice in theory but they need to donate to a bank that will test the donor and the breast milk. Please don’t put your baby at risk by accepting untested milk from strangers 🥺
One of the moms I follow on TikTok recommended the group ‘Human Milk for Human babies’ on Facebook for any moms who want to donate breast milk or get breast milk as we figure out this formula shortage. RT to pass along!
Many of them are so desperate for someone to save them from their lives that they will do, believe, and pay anything for a chance to be “special.” It’s really sad. Those “coaches” are taking advantage of a vulnerable population
All this discourse on how to get a rich man on these platforms always lets me know most ppl have never actually been around them ppl. I’ve always said y’all have zero class analysis. You have no idea how the world and white supremacy works.
I guess this would be the concern if we ignored how men have engaged women about sex for centuries, even expecting women to perform FOR them when not in the mood. If our generation appears more sexual, it’s because women have decided to enjoy sex too.
My hot take will always be that children are allowed to not like their parents and/or discuss the trauma their parents caused them. They do not have to center their parents feelings in those discussions at all because it’s not their responsibility to manage mom and dads emotions.
I wish we would move from the idea that if women just dated men that liked them, they’d turn into 1950s housewives. That is not a default setting waiting to come out 🤣
I can’t wait for the day where we move past thinking “doing nice things for your partner” = “labor”. If y’all actually dated people you liked, and weren’t trying to use, we wouldn’t have this repetitive conversation
Don’t misunderstand me, I do think black women should be free to be vulnerable, weak, delicate, soft and whatever other adjectives we feel like. But none of that will make men treat us better.
I’m suspicious of large romantic gestures coming from a literal stranger. It’s manipulative. They wouldn’t know me well enough for that to be a meaningful activity.
Probably because most older women will tell you about their marriages and what they wish someone would have told them. They recognize that younger women have more options than they did.
The most interesting thing about this discussion is how few men actually have the resources to take care of another adult (let alone kids) with one income. They never talk about things like retirement planning or family savings plans
@asj519
We’ve internalized so many negative narratives about black women that the default is to assume that there’s something wrong with us and by paying $20 a month to join a femininity group and fix ourselves, everything will fall into place.
Y’all do this thing where y’all want to invalidate people’s trauma with “well, your parents did the best they could.” That doesn’t make the trauma disappear, friends. That’s true and the person was harmed in the process so now what 🤔
Y’all want people to dress like it’s 1985 on Pan Am Airlines where every seat looked like today’s business class and it was full service in the air. Flying today sucks. People dress accordingly.
“I wore revealing clothes to get external attention and validation before and now I dress modestly to get external attention and validation from a different group of people.” 😌
I knew it was going to be a parent not paying attention to their child before I read the second tweet. This is one of my biggest pet peeves!! They just leave their children completely unattended and get furious at you for being a present adult
What's the rule for gently helping other people's kids on the playground? Because I was helping my 3-year-old reach some monkey bars and hang from them, and then another 3-year-old came up and asked me to lift him up, so I did. And then...
Corporate life taught me this. People at every level of leadership ramble on and on with no substance because that behavior is rewarded. I will never ever have imposter syndrome because of that.
So are going to keep this energy towards all shady tweets. I’m just checking that y’all agree this is an appropriate response. Even when it’s directed at you? We sure guys?
Y’all don’t talk to enough women. My grandmothers were telling the men in our family to stay out of women’s business for as long as I can remember. They aren’t on anybody’s social media & didn’t go to any ballrooms
I have cameras in my apartment for a reason. I knew someone had been going in my old place because my underwear and bras kept going missing and my drawers would be messed up. the cameras caught the maintenance man going through my draws and dirty clothes. 😒
Rom Coms need to stop storylines where men show up on women’s doorsteps without invitation to woo her. It’s creepy behavior and not at all romantic in real life
I love this conversation bc what they are really getting into is core values and how they expect/desire their partner to show up in the home. I am very clear about not facilitating my partner’s life regardless of how busy she gets.
So WW on TikTok talking about being wives to men who make marathon running their hobby. I never thought about how much time that takes away from your family and how your wife has to plan your entire lives around it. And most of them have demanding jobs too. So interesting
Imagine being concerned about tracking devices in vaccines while posting content on your smart phone to a social media app that accesses your personal data all day 24/7 😭
“You don’t want a family?” I have one already 😐
“A woman like you needs a husband.” I’m scared to ask but for what? 😬
“Who’s going to take care of you when you’re old?” Statistically not a husband
“Don’t you want to be loved?” I am loved 😑
The issue is that this not entirely true. The J&J vaccine has a 100% efficacy against death and hospitalization which is the same as the others available in the US.
Bloggers, YouTubers, and personalities are not journalists. I’ll stand ten toes down on that. Do not argue with me unless you have a journalism or pr degree then I’m willing to hear you out
@shOoObz
It’s both at the same time and to continue to curb immigration. I’ve been hearing about the whole replacement theory mess in very credible spaces for a decade now.
I really wanna know as a black woman working in a cooperate. Have you ever had a boss who was also bw and gave you the hardest time while working under her?
I just want black women to be free to be who we are without the performance. Without begging people to see us as women. Without internalizing that by existing in a black body, all we know is lack.
My takeaway from this whole Johnny and Amber circus is that two toxic individuals got into an increasingly toxic relationship where they tried to out-toxic each other. I was hoping for something more original than that
Every dinner is not a business dinner. I promise you’ll get your feelings hurt if you approach a rich business person on some transactional expectations when you have absolutely nothing to offer them in return. These relationships are built over time and not over one dinner.
No, you don’t. BUT the other vaccines have not even released results for the new variants where J&J has. It’s not an even comparison. You do have a higher chance of experiencing MILD symptoms if you do get it whereas you’re more likely to be asymptomatic with the other vaccines.
We need to stop using the phrase “extend Grace” outside of a religious setting. The expectation is to forgive people unconditionally and give them unearned favor because God does. I don’t care what God does 🤷🏾♀️
@Hlalumi__
Lmao single women generally have this belief that married men hate their wives/settled and would rather be with them because THEY are the ultimate prize.
They believe men abalali becingana nabo. Quite a popular narrative kle app.
…sittin here watchin Girlfriends and hearing William say “black women ain’t checkin for me cause I’m not dangerous” makes me realize we still having these discussions in 2023 on Twitter nothing has really changed oh my God 😭😭😭😭😭
I’ve followed this for a bit and it’s one thing to admit it but there are still thousands of professionals out here with zero cultural competency and it’s deeply impacting us. The steps they’ve outlined are frankly not close to being enough.
She didn’t even look at the photos because they show exactly what you’re going to get. And the lighting isn’t meant for filming videos. If content is your thing, buy a portable light, duh! 🤣