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1 in 10 Keeper dates lead to marriage. Building the relationship singularity.
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Finding someone to marry is harder than ever. We used to marry for practical reasons and grow into love. Now we hold out for a soulmate. That’s good! Marriages today are much happier. But soulmates are extraordinarily rare, and too many people are struggling to find theirs.
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Focusing on moralizing and blame is rarely productive, especially in romantic life. Okay, your exes were all crazy and everything was 100% their fault. What now? How will you avoid ending up in the same situation again? What will *you* do differently?
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The idea that you should be a perfect, complete, entirely untroubled person before pursuing marriage just means you’ll be alone forever. Growth never ends. Find someone who will grow with you.
"Learn to be happy by yourself, first." No. We cannot really be happy by ourselves. We are born to connect—to love and devote ourselves to each other. 🙏❤️
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Family life and childlessness are both contagious, largely because people with families create social infrastructure for people with families, while the childless create events that are often hostile to kids. This is a very positive development, great work!
It's happening! 🎉 @grin_io, @marinwaves and I are delighted to invite you to TribeCamp - the first summer camp and retreat for families in this corner of Twitter 🌞 When? The main event takes place on July 19-25th 2026. If you can't make it during this time, some of our
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Many men see research showing that “benevolent sexism” (basically chivalry) is attractive then start practicing malevolent sexism.
Don't look at the research suggesting women like dark triad traits or find 'benevolent sexism' hot & conclude it's optimal to neg/bully women. Much better to be ruthlessly pragmatic, assertive, and prolific, while taking interest in women's goals & helping them achieve them.
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If having a family really is a priority for you, then you should treat it like one.
@JillFilipovic Men and women who are single at age 40 often convince themselves that they've 'spent many years looking for a partner', and they just had bad luck not finding one. But what they often mean is, apart from the tens of thousands of hours that they spent getting educational
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Men and women care equally about a potential partner’s past promiscuity. Both are less eager to date someone with a very high body count, and by the same amount. There’s been endless discourse about a double standard that doesn’t even exist.
"Intriguingly, we found no evidence for a sexual double standard: none, zilch, nada. Contrary to what’s often claimed, women weren’t judged any more harshly than men for having a high body count. That’s not to say they weren’t judged for it, but only that men were judged too."
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It would be nice if ennui, social isolation, low birth rates etc had a simple, physical cause like microplastics or whatever. That would at least be something tangible we could more easily address. But the truth is that these problems are cultural, not biological.
Just a reminder: Neither sperm counts nor testosterone levels have significantly declined over time in America. Claims otherwise are made on the basis of bad sampling and incomparable measurements, and usually both.
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Guys, clean your place before you have her over.
New research shows clutter dramatically spikes women’s cortisol—while men’s stress barely budges. Household clutter extends far beyond mere aesthetics—it's deeply intertwined with stress physiology and cognitive burden, impacting women in particular. Drawing from studies on
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People are prone to either overstate or understate the universality of romantic preferences. It’s either “every man/woman likes [X], and anyone who says they don’t is lying” or it’s “preferences are totally random, and there’s a match for any set of tastes”. The truth is that
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Parents affect their children both via their genetics and the home environment they create. Genetic effects are generally stronger, especially for core traits like intelligence and personality, but the environment has non-negligible impacts on outcomes like education and income.
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Men and women are equally conscientious on average. The only Big 5 personality traits that consistently show significant average sex differences are Agreeableness and Neuroticism, with women scoring about half a standard deviation higher in both.
I agree with this, but men are less conscientious on average so it’s hard to do this as a straight woman. My partner is not conscientious, for example, and I still know lots and lots of men who are even less C than him
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Humans are funny since we unconciously base most of our decisions around mate selection and our offspring but in modernity kind of forget the final step of actually having the children
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“it just is true that the variable that explains both within- and across-country variance [in fertility] in all of these cases is ‘prevalence of marriage’ if you can find a policy to boost marriage, you get more babies”
policy no but it just is true that the variable that explains both within- and across-country variance in all of these cases is "prevalence of marriage" if you can find a policy to boost marriage, you get more babies, bim-bam-boom.
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Sex differences in play are observed in pre-verbal children, and even in our closest primate relatives. The idea that these preferences, and the differences in psychology that produce them, are purely socially constructed is a very strange and unlikely hypothesis.
My four year old daughter when she plays with trucks: "This is the mommy truck and this is the baby truck." My fifteen-month son when he picks up his sister's baby doll: *Truck noises.*
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These explanations for declining births are unconvincing for the simple reason that almost all of these factors were worse/more intense in the past when birth rates were much higher, and are more salient in parts of the world that today have higher birth rates.
They still don’t get it. It’s not just the expense. It’s the disbelief that your kid will have a good life. It’s the threats against women’s rights. It’s the lack of equality in relationships STILL. It’s the inability to find a quality partner. It’s the maternal mortality rates.
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For most people in history, it was common sense that family is the center of your life. The other things we do - career, community-building, even serving your nation - are important precisely because they impact your family. Family is the end-in-itself.
“Given the scientific literature, our neurologic wiring, the millions of years of evolutionary adaptation that shaped our relationship to pair bonding, the societal and psychological benefits of monogamy, and the risk that chronic loneliness poses, I can’t imagine why we don’t
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Your spouse’s conscientiousness (roughly, diligence and responsibility) predicts your career outcomes, even after controlling for your own conscientiousness. Who you marry is the most important decision of your life, and it will impact absolutely everything else.
Major life hack: Marry well. The person you choose to marry will impact your professional outcomes. Choose wisely.
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Our major cities are effectively traps for highly talented and ambitious people. You move there for work, succeed financially, then struggle to marry and have kids, which is a major reason many people care about financial success in the first place.
Half of the men in San Francisco reach age 40 without ever getting married. This number is 35% in NYC and 25% for the US average. San Francisco is the worst place in the entire country to: - find love - start a family - raise children Some people are like, "Zach, why would you
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Financial support for parents causes the religious to have more kids, but has no effect on the nonreligious.
The study found, "among women who grew up in religious households, fertility went up by a statistically significant 5.7 percentage points representing a 46.3% increase." Meanwhile, there was "no change in fertility among women who did not grow up in religious households." 3/5
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