My husband was alive for exactly the first 1000 days of our daughter’s life. Apparently these 1000 are the important ones that make a child who they are.
So… I really shouldn’t be surprised when she insists on ketchup with her pizza, just like he did. 🙃
It’s not an exaggeration to say that Michael Mosley changed my life. His Fast 800 recipes taught me how to eat in a way that allowed me to lose weight while still enjoying satisfying and delicious food. I am >6.5 stone lighter and healthier for life thanks to him. Sad, sad news.
Not a report, but my chemistry teacher (absent-minded professor type) once raved to my parents about my genius, to which they said “that’s lovely but… are you sure?” and he looked down again at his notes and said “oh, no, that’s someone else. No, Emma is Very Bad at chemistry.”
What’s something you always remember from one of your school reports? And did you prove it wrong or was the teacher spot on?
Mine is: “I feel a bomb needs to placed under his chair to shake him from his daydreaming”
@kittystrand_
Hi Kitty. This came up on my feed via
@shutterj
and
@jackjewers
, so I reached out to my friend
@jonnymayner
who is a UK-based IP lawyer. He would be happy to chat with you about it - just DM him. x
@StacyStryke
@zoewhittall
@TheRaDR
The Herschel Museum at his home in Bath (well worth a visit) is as much dedicated to Caroline as it is to him, as well it should be.
@john_boyne
a) she didn't call you queer - she called herself queer. In fact she didn't say anything to you at all as far as I can see. b) she's not straight. Do you think deliberately setting your large following onto a young - clearly upset - woman is acceptable behaviour?
@jp_asher
I'm so sorry. This has just broken my heart. My husband spent 4 of the last 6 weeks of his life in hospital and wasn't allowed to see our daughter at all. I feel very grateful that he had two weeks at home before he died. Sending you love and solidarity. x
Found myself on my feet after
@JakMalonee
’s Dear Bill at tonight’s
@mincemeatlive
. Couldn’t help it. In my 2.5 years of widowhood nothing has ever so perfectly summed up how it feels to be left behind by the person you love.
My kid’s teacher just described her as “a remarkably resilient little girl” and although I hate the reason why she’s had to become that way so young, I’m so glad she is because I genuinely think it’s the key to happiness. She is such a wee gem, I’m so proud of her.
@Waterstones
Full support for the list and for you for being brave enough to stand by it. (And mad props to the social media team wading through all the abuse and bigotry.)
Stopped at
@cargocoffee_
to get our usual Friday lattes to discover that the first customer of the day had bought a coffee for the next person, and everyone thus far had paid it forward. So lovely! We did the same - and they gave us a free traybake! Best coffee in Bangor. 😍
Anyway this is really just a reminder to you all to check in on your grieving pals because they’re almost certainly still hurting more than you would imagine and it helps them to know that somebody sees that. Thank you kindly.
@IanDunt
I spent it mourning my husband who died in the October at the age of 42 from a heart condition that went undiagnosed because he couldn't get in to see a GP. I was allowed to see him for just one hour a day for 4 of the last weeks of his life. He should have been 44 tomorrow.
@Sir__Duque
@thatsajellyfish
Quite possibly nobody better in any role ever than David Tomlinson as Mr Banks. That fine balance of humour and pathos is unmatched.
@lewis_damian
I am so, so sorry. You don't know me and you'll never see this but I lost my beloved husband and the father of my little girl 6 months ago. It is the most unbearable pain. But hold on. I promise it gets easier, with time. Not less painful. But easier to carry.
It’s astonishing that I have been widowed for two and a half years and I *still* have moments where the grief feels crushingly unbearable. It really does never go away, does it? Life is easier now by a long way, but those moments are as bad now as they ever were.
Just a reminder of
@WidowedAndYoung
and the wonderful work they do supporting those of us who have experienced partner loss. Please remember their name in the future in case anyone you know ever needs to join us - it is a life-saving community of peer support.
@dontlookdown_FB
@jackjewers
Similar here for my husband's funeral. It makes you want to scream, doesn't it? I don't regret following the rules. It was the right thing to do. But I'm incandescent that they didn't. I'm so, so sorry about your son.
My absolute favourite thing about seeing
@spitlip
’s
@mincemeatlive
with my reptile-loving fella: at “DOES A NEWT HAVE A PENIS?!” he laughed uproariously, then very quietly and seriously informed me: “No”. 😍
I sent this email to my MP
@StephenFarryMP
today, on what would have been Mike's 44th birthday. If you have a few minutes I would really appreciate it if you would read it and then consider emailing your own MP.
Post the same actor in two roles that show their range…
(Seriously though, watching
@JakMalonee
switch from Hester breaking your heart with Dear Bill to (frankly very sexy) gruff submarine captain is pretty amazing. Plus, y’know, SPILSBURY. And not to mention shoeshine boy.)
Oh beautiful yellow show – you brought me back to myself when I thought I might have lost theatre forever. Hearing Dear Bill in the first show back after losing my husband (who loved theatre more than anything (except me and our kid)) was just… transformative.
@widow_waiting
Ach, I’m so sorry. Children’s grief isanother layer we have to cope with and it can be one of the hardest, in my experience. She will be okay though. Trust in that. My daughter was almost 3 when her Daddy died and she speaks of him every day, but she’s also happy and thriving.
@NatashaHodgson
I work for a (very successful and highly regarded!) author and monitor her inbox and I cannot believe the emails she gets from men (always men) with niggly little criticisms, usually about the technical specifications of guns or boats or cars. MEN BE QUIET CHALLENGE.
Today’s developments made me so proud that I put
#mincefluencer
in my bio. What a bloody lovely fandom to be proud of. Thank you
@spitlip
@mincemeatlive
for bringing so many gorgeous people together. 💛
In less than 24 hours the
#mincefluencer
community banded together and put together this astonishing doc of archival research. This is the most dedicated cult fandom of a musical since Rocky Horror
The differentiator here is so important. I’ve experienced poor mental health and I was able to "wellness" my way out of it, with talking and self-care etc. But I’ve also experienced mental illness (PND) and NOTHING could have touched it apart from professional medical treatment.
After my husband died by suicide I spoke a lot about it, and I don’t do much these days because it affects me a lot. But I have to say this because it’s
#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek
- the conversation around mental health has come light years, but around mental illness it has not.
Had the privilege of sitting in on a branding meeting with the
@WidowedAndYoung
team today. Blown away by how much they care about their members, past, present and future. I wish nobody needed to join WAY, but for those of that have, it's good to know we're in safe hands. 💙
Blown away by the response to this tweet. Sorry I haven’t been able to reply to everyone but I’m so very grateful for your kind words. Mike was a wonderful man and his way of living would serve us all well. Love hard and enthusiastically. And put ketchup on your pizza, dammit. ❤️
Before I took my chap to
@mincemeatlive
I explained how Natasha-As-Monty had triggered a sexuality crisis for me. After the show (which he loved) he said “Well, I’m not having a crisis. Monty was just plain hot.” 😍
Just treated myself to a coffee and an extensive session reading all the zillions of five star
@mincemeatlive
reviews. It is ridiculous how proud one can feel of something one has had absolutely no input in to whatsoever. But I DO.
@b_mcgeever
@katemond
Love the sentiment but this is fake unfortunately - you can tell the additions are in a font rather than handwritten. It’s been cleverly done with resizing and re-kerning to make it look real but the letters are exactly the same.
A life-saving community. Please remember their existence and if you ever meet someone in this situation, send them our way. We'll welcome them with open arms, even though we hate it when someone has reason to join us.
Being widowed young can be isolating 💙 Inside the WAY community there are always other members ready to listen and offer support online - members can post any time of the day or night in the closed facebook groups and members-only website forum. You're not alone... 🦢
I honestly can’t believe that I have a new Monkey Island game waiting to be played tonight. The 11 year-old kid inside me is as excited as the 38 year-old mum I am now. Thank you
@grumpygamer
,
@phrenopolis
, everyone at
@terribletoybox
and
@skilletdoux
for this utter joy.
@Kelisia
@Jerseyatheart1
@thotsofblue
They're not spelled strangely, they're just in Irish. In many instances it's the original spelling, you're just used to seeing the Anglicised version.
These arrived today with an unsigned note. I was baffled until my guy walked in, saw them and started looking a bit sheepish. He’s now building a Lego ice cream van with my kid so that I get peace to work.
There is always hope. And there is always more love. I am so lucky. 💞
@LorDempsey
@carl_dempsey
I'm so sorry Lorraine. I lost my husband last year in a similarly sudden fashion. When you feel ready, please come and join us at
@WidowedAndYoung
. You'll find a loving welcome from people who understand the sheer violent force of your pain. ❤️
NEWS! Pagans is the best book I've read in YEARS and I was desperate to publish it (no, really, it was genuinely embarrassing how keen I was, as
@blackpooltower
will confirm). I'm so excited to be editing it and I can't wait for you all to buy it. Because you WILL ALL BUY IT.
We are absolutely thrilled to share that we're publishing the debut novel from the dizzyingly talented
@james_blue_cat
, screenwriter extraordinaire. PAGANS is laugh-out-loud funny with writing so clever it'll make you gasp. Coming October 2024.
@FemSchoolsNi
@little_pengelly
How on earth can you have someone who doesn’t think women should have the basic human right of autonomy over their own bodies speaking at an allegedly “feminist” event? What an absolutely bizarre decision. She actively campaigned to make women’s lives *worse*.
When my kid has pins and needles she says “my foot has gone sparkly!” And if her hand or arm goes dead she says “I’ve got the floppies”. Six year olds are such a DELIGHT.
I go back to work
@KainosSoftware
on Monday and I'm pretty nervous but so looking forward to seeing everyone (albeit virtually). Please be nice to me if you see me, work pals! 😘
I think it must have been written from experience because it captures grief so perfectly. And as much as I hate thinking about anyone feeling the way that I do, I’m glad it exists. Because it makes me feel understood.
This show is truly special. Thank you
@spitlip
.
Paused in the middle of the work day to have a cry to Dear Bill from
@mincemeatlive
, totally normal thing for a human being to do, nothing to see here, certainly not a problematic relationship with a piece of art, nope nope not me
@spitlip
One of the toughest things about grief is how it makes all the best things bittersweet. Just got my kid's school report through and it's wonderful, I'm so happy and proud – but also so heartbroken that her Daddy isn't here to see and to share the joy.
The movie posters at
#KickOff19
have been such a hit that we’re considering a limited print run for purchase in exchange for a charity donation… would any
@KainosSoftware
people be interested?
Thanks
@KainosSoftware
for allowing me to have the best of both worlds by returning from maternity leave part time. I feel very grateful to have such a flexible and family-friendly employer. 🤱🏻➕👩🏻💻
Every time I see
@WaitressUK
a different song breaks my heart. Tonight it's When He Sees Me -
@EvelynHoskins
is just an ASTONISHING talent, I'm always blown away by her performance - and it's a production completely stuffed full of perfect performances. I adore this show. ❤️
This government have committed a record number of horrors but “we don’t care about modern slavery if the victims came here ‘illegally’” really is a whole new level of evil.
If you come to the UK illegally:
➡️ You can’t claim asylum
➡️ You can’t benefit from our modern slavery protections
➡️ You can’t make spurious human rights claims
➡️ You can’t stay
Tomorrow will be the very last time I go into the house I bought with my late husband. When we bought it I was pregnant with our much-longed for daughter and we were hopeful and excited and so, so in love. We had our future as a family all mapped out.
@james_blue_cat
Two opinions of such wildly differing accuracy in one tweet! (Thank you, he was gorgeous indeed and she still is, even when she’s hoofing ketchup-covered margarita into her face.)
Father’s Day is very tough for so many people, my and my little girl included. We miss her Daddy very much. He was a beautiful man and the best Daddy anyone could have asked for. He blossomed when she was born, it was incredible to see. And I’m so grateful he got to have her.
So impressed with
@ee
- when I told them about my husband's death they immediately wrote off our remaining contract and device payments and switched me to an affordable SIM-only contract. They couldn't have been kinder or more helpful. Customer for life.
Well, I never thought I'd see a Much Ado and come away saying "I think Dogberry was my favourite part" and yet
@GeorgeFouracres
has achieved the seemingly impossible in
@The_Globe
's absolutely charming production. I enjoyed every minute of it. What a delight.
Fantastic Into The Woods at
@LyricBelfast
tonight. What a joy! Fabulous cast all round but
@MaeveAineByrne
understudying as the Baker's Wife was a particular stand out and deserved her extra loud applause. If you can get a ticket, go - only a few days left!
The sadness, the anger, the guilt. The fondness. The nostalgia. And above all, how oddly prosaic it all is. Because life is prosaic, and it goes on. (But I’m not going to talk them, because talking to roses is mad and he knew it.)
@Isysuttie
I lost my husband in October 2020 (I was 36 - our daughter was 2) and didn't see my own parents for almost 8 months after the funeral because we were following the rules. I still believe that was the right thing to do, but I'm incandescent that I grieved alone while they partied.
Mother’s Day is a toughie, huh? Sending love to anyone else finding it hard, and a huge thank you to anyone making it easier on those of us who are. ❤️
Another perfect night at
@mincemeatlive
and I’m so sad to be going back to NI and leaving it soon. I’ve been going to the theatre for over a decade now and honestly, it’s the best thing I’ve seen, and the most exuberantly received. I can’t imagine anyone not adoring it.
My Twitter was described today as “a
@mincemeatlive
stan account with the occasional publishing-related aside” and honestly that is absolutely correct and I love it.
PSA for anyone looking for a volunteering opportunity:
@homestartuk
are the most wonderful organisation I’ve ever encountered. They have helped me so much in such a short time and once Lyla’s older I will definitely be volunteering myself. It’s a lifeline for new mums.
I can��t in good conscience share this article without warning you that it is desperately sad and will haunt you. But you should read it.
The hierarchy of seniority in hospitals – and how it hurts patients – rang so true with me. 1/12
I’ve been thinking about this piece for a year. There’s so much more I could say. The only thing that matters is that Martha should be alive today…
‘We had such trust, we feel such fools’: how shocking hospital mistakes led to our daughter’s death
God bless the NHS, man. I know it’s not perfect, but 4 hours ago I had a very poorly little girl with a sky high temperature and low oxygen sats - a quick ambulance ride, some steroids and anti-inflammatories later and she’s home, bathed, and eating Nutella toast on the sofa. 💙
@ajtwenty2
That’s a very outdated view. The body reacts very differently to calories from carbohydrates than to calories from protein. But quite aside from that, it is significantly easier to stay in a calorie deficit when you eat a high protein diet that’s rich in good fats.
I have had the most wonderful weekend but I am also very excited to be on a train home to this little unicorn, and to only be a few days away from a plane home to my guy (not pictured because he’d hate it) and the dog. Huzzah. 🥰
Feeling very London-publishing-industry-wanker, sitting in the foyer of a theatre on my Macbook making editorial notes on an unpublished manuscript after having spent the day at LBF 🤓
Made a stressful day a lot better by booking a little last-minute bonus trip to
@mincemeatlive
tonight. I mean while it’s still £35 it would be rude not to, tbh. Bargain of the decade. Can’t wait.
WAY Widowed and Young member Emma recently shared this wonderful analogy about resilience and grief in her blog Widow All At Sea💙
We're thrilled Emma will be joining us tomorrow evening on our Instagram Live Series - 25 Tuesdays with WAY. Head over to Instagram at 8pm Tuesday
The best part of my job is when I read a submission that absolutely blows my mind with how good it is, and for a brief moment I get to feel like I have this incredible secret that I'll (hopefully) get to share with the world soon. BOOKS ARE SO GREAT.
I mean, I am generally Okay – my daughter is happy, my career is going well, my friends and family are wonderful and this is very much not a cry for help! – but despite all that, the grief remains. I didn’t understand that about it before it happened to me.
Just got a proper overwhelming feeling of… love? joy? blessedness? that my kid is my kid. She is just such a DELIGHT. She’s so funny and eager to please and kind and thoughtful and sweet and silly and delicious.
Hey, Twitter, I have a question for a thing. When did clothes start getting labels? Or even maker’s marks? Like… if you had some tailored clothes from England in the 1600s would there be a way of identifying who made them? Even a guild mark?
Just had a beautiful call from Muiris Crowley as part of
@AbbeyTheatre
's Abbey Calling programme. He read two of Mike's favourite poems, "When all the others were away at Mass" by Seamus Heaney, and "Everything Is Going To Be All Right" by Derek Mahon. Brought me so much comfort.
What a glorious night at the launch of Piece Of My Heart. Beautiful people celebrating a beautiful book. And I only bloody went and met Michael Palin, didn’t I? 😍
@crownprincess50
@janky_jane
One my colleagues had an ankle-length dark green serge greatcoat, and when he burst through the office doors one day, another looked up and said: "What news of Stalingrad?" 🤣
Took my musical-sceptic boyfriend to
@mincemeatlive
and turned him into an absolute convert. A hooting-with-laughter, crying-at-Dear-Bill, “God-that’s-brilliant”-ing convert. A masterclass.
My kid’s dad is dead, but according to her picture last year, this is the thing that makes her the saddest in the world (to make it worse, I’ve just realised that the picture is me on the sofa trying Deliveroo it).
we went deep sea fishing, we took a train up the hudson and into the mountains to see her great grandparents, she won mountains of prizes at the boardwalk and swam in wave pools and the ocean, but this THIS is what my second grader wrote about her “memorable” summer 😭
I’m off for a proper luxury spa and fancy dinner break with my guy tomorrow and we’re staying in one of these bad boys 😍 I cannot WAIT. It has been literal years since I’ve done something like this.
Thank you so much everyone ❤️ boyfriend appeared as if by magic, took my kid to the shops to choose me a present and a cake, and then ran me a bath and brought me a glass of champagne so I’m feeling significantly better already.
What a treat to see the fantastic
@HairsprayUKTour
at
@gohbelfast
! Feel especially fortunate to have seen the magnificent
@Bernadettaaa
understudying as Maybelle - I Know Where I've Been is one of the best songs in musical theatre imo and I've never seen it done better.