Watching Queer Eye and they're making these straight frat boys ask each other how they're feeling. Two seconds later they're all balling tears because they never thought to do that for each other........................
“I think of the uniqueness of Taylor Swift is that she speaks for an audience that is not always spoken for”
Kat McKenna, Taylor Swift fan and Author discusses the fandom around Taylor Swift
To all my white LGBT friends, I need you to be clear that the straight pride parade isn't *just* a homophobic/transphobic march.
It's actually at its heart, a white supremacist march, using anti LGBT sentiment as a front.
Research the organisers behind it.
Everyone talks about how hard it is to trust people after you've been hurt.
But barely anyone talks about how hard it is to trust *yourself* when you've had your gut instincts and convictions skilfully undermined by someone.
I don't think white ppl realise that if their black friend tells them "hey, this was racist", it's a sign that their black friend cares about them and is trying (hard) to save the relationship.
Reminder to white people:
You will continue to mess up re racism. So continue to be teachable, open to correction from POC, and vigilantly monitor yourself for defensiveness and white fragility.
You never "arrive" as an ally, you must continually *practice* allyship.
Babies. Please read. Do not string together terminology you heard on twitter and try to workshop your own theoretical frameworks out of thin air. It don't work like that.
Trans people get a free pass to obsessively post selfies. Liking what you see in the mirror for the first time in 30 years is the excuse. We've got years of self lovin to catch up on x
Namibia's Christine Mboma and Beatrice Masilingi have been withdrawn from the 400m race at the Olympics by World Athletics.
They are said to not be eligible for female classification.
The same rules are affecting Caster Semenya, Francine Niyonsaba and Margaret Wambui.
I do feel that bisexual culture needs to be fleshed out beyond noserings, cuffed jeans and "I fancy all women and one man who is called Timothée Chalamet"
We have to start teaching gay history 101 because cruising both predates and heavily inspires the hook up apps you're all on.
And when gays clutch pearls around historical queer sex practices, you're playing into reactionary, conservative narratives that are ultimately anti-gay
Learning that Brianna Ghey was doing community care work and helping others access medical transition at the age of 16 has destroyed me today.
If now is not the time to be angry then when is? If now is not the time to fuck shit up until they stop killing us, when is?
Pre and early testosterone I was so suspicious of tboys that said they couldn't cry anymore.
Fast forward to now and not only can I not cry, I'm legit having to learn new processes for managing my emotions because I *feel* things very differently to how I used to.
I canNOT breathe 😩 This is so chaotic. I don't know where to look... Between Beyoncé's pixie cut, Fergie and Miley's "vocals" and Natasha Bedingfield being there for some reason I-
Not a single harmony. Just 10+ solo singers in a vocal Battle Royale 😂😫
Enough of transgender studies. It's time for cisgender studies.
Why do cis ppl just accept what they've been told about themselves?
Why do they feel threatened by the gender of others if theirs is so factual and secure?
Why do they have sex in such narrow, limited ways?
What's crazy is they're not even bro-y types. They openly want intimacy with each other but don't have the most basic tools or understanding of how to do that. It's very scary out here......................
She's doing TradWife on easy mode because I don't see 4 kids and another on the way. This isn't even tradwife this is peacefully working from home as a content creator.
@KCMiller1225
Sweetie, either detransition or get on minoxidil, or finasteride, or microneedling or wear a cap like other bald men. But don't sit here pretending like you didn't know testosterone would make you look and sound like a man 😩 That's on YOU not on hormone provision
There's a brand of diet culture that vilifies cultural, ancestral foods and replaces them with whatever contemporary white ppl have decided is "healthier". (This healthy "superfood" changes every year)
Me, I will eat what my people have been eating for centuries god bless 🙏🏿
It's so scary to me that body politics have gotten to a stage where people think that showing off a very slim, still slightly muscular body like this is brave...................
Fatphobia has us in a deathrgip but he's not even fat. Our ideas about bodies are very twisted.
Something about that "trans fems r beautiful, trans men r ugly" tiktok, and that detrans person bemoaning male pattern balding is giving me thots....
Something around trans mascs' fear of manhood as opposed to twinky boyishness. Something around not seeing real life men as hot.
Like wow even cishet men that aren't invested in hegemonic/toxic masculinities don't know how to do the ABCs of communication and care....................
I really hate how transness is always flattened and reduced so that the cis can understand it.
The most current iteration of it is cis people being told that "they/them" are THE "nonbinary pronouns".
It don't work like that lol
Doctor just told me I should exercise 5 times a week and if I don't I should feel dirty/weird - or the same as if I haven't showered for the day. Aka I should treat exercise like personal hygiene... I'm so tired.
This on the same phonecall we discussed my depression too 🙃
Nah we need to talk about how so much depression advice you get is basically "live clean".
It boils down to "do some exercise, cook and eat healthy foods, stop drinking/smoking, do a sun salutation every morning and go to bed early each night".
It's actually so unhelpful!
A lot of people spend a lot of their workday simply trying to look busy because it's not sustainable. And the ones who actually are busy those full 8+ hours are paying for it mentally, physically and in a bunch of other ways.
Under late stage capitalism and an ongoing mass disabling event, it's SO unhinged to see an article about younger people going to bed at 9pm and think the blame (if any) rests with self care culture 😭
I honestly can’t stop thinking about this and I think it’s the realization that “self-care” has become a cover for being totally anti-social and risk averse
An aspect of trans healthcare reform that I don't see enough chat about is removing the arbitrary BMI requirements on gender affirming surgeries.
Apparently fat trans ppl don't deserve to feel gender congruence and at home in their bodies 🙃🙃🙃🙃🙃
I wrote about the devastating impact fatphobia and the outdated BMI metric have on trans people's lives: From being denied gender-affirming surgery, to being pressured into disordered eating. Thank you to all who shared their stories with me.
It is so funny how the word "queer" is being used as a dogwhistle for "trans" because there are actually lot of trans people who are very straight and assimilationist and not queer in any way whatsoever.
Always cracks me up when the skinny yt trasnmascs are like "wearing XS shirts and them looking like an XXL on you/ being treated like a smol boy/ your head being too small for men's hats is transmasc culture". Is it? Or is it just a white, thin experience of transmasculinity?
Jameela Jamil, giving instructions to trans people on how to stop being misgendered... Is perhaps the most Jameela Jamil thing (not staying in her lane) she's ever done 😩😩😩
I accidentally misgendered someone who was rude to me on here because I did not know they were NB. I instantly corrected myself but NOBODY reads your bios people. *PLEASE* include your pronouns in your name on here to prevent misunderstandings/offense if it's important to you.🙌🏽
Me: I'm a trans guy
Them: What does that mean exactly?
With all the terfery I forget that most ppl including the gays simply do not even know trans men exist 😩😩😩
There is a film every white woman loves which is essentially about a rich white girl weaponising desirability politics to get into law school and stalk her ex... and if you saw that movie and thought “uhhhh fuck that???” YOU’RE the bad guy
Watching Discovery's "My Husband is Pregnant" which is about pregnant trans men. And the experience of the Black trans man on the show really underlines the difference between being a white tboy, and being a racialized tboy.
So much love to Sam Smith for being unapologetically fat and femme with the eyes of a million miserable protein-based muscle-poofs on them. They look good and the haters can keep hating!
The way history is taught in England... it's like Henry the 8th, then it skips forward 350 years *mysteriously* to WW1 and when England "saved the world" from fascism/Germany. I don't understand how they get away with it.
Thinking about how pain in Black kids is also ignored by doctors. My beloved 7 year old cousin died very suddenly one night after *two* trips to the doctor for something that didn't feel right led to no further investigation or tests. Had they done due diligence he might be here.
This is the epitome of British liberalism... they think they're so evolved and different to homophobes and transphobes elsewhere that they can joke about violence that doesn't affect them? Meanwhile anti-lgbt hate crimes in the UK are spiking? Hate this country!
And not to undermine the violence of patriarchy and men's need to be accountable regarding that but this experience has given me a lot more understanding of why cis men are like that than before
Cis allies on this app:
"Woooh yeah trans rights! Fuck terfs!"
Cis allies replying to that mum "grieving" her "daughter"/trans son:
"Don't feel bad it's normal to be bummed out that your kid is trans. Your grief is 100% valid and their transition is about you!"
We gotta start defining the word trauma because hearing the bed creak a lil in your parents' bedroom is many things... awkward, funny, embarassing, cringe... but I draw the line at traumatic lmao.
You do have to give it to Ana Mardoll - he produces excellent quotables. "I do not own my home, I have a mortgage" is like smol bean on social media performance art.
Gender psychologists requiring trans people to have 6 to 12 months' experience living in their "actual gender role" before signing them off for surgery or hormone therapy is really inhumane.
If your response when we voice our discomfort is
- defensiveness
- white tears
- not taking it seriously
You've shown us that you don't really care about us and our struggle as black ppl.
Then it's friendship over.
I personally find it a red flag when a person's mode of existing on twitter is entirely antagonistic, rooted in "dunking" on others, and supported by the belief that they can never, ever be wrong. We're all growing and learning. No one is complete, or finished.
There are some white friends I've made the effort to have these difficult conversations with.
But other "friends" I've just ghosted after they did some racist shit.
🗣🗣🗣 When we call you out it's because we like you and are trying to still be your friend.
I think bisexuals may have spent too long campaigning that we aren't sexually greedy and it's led to bi culture becoming.... unsexy 🙊 I think bisexuality needs a slutty maximalist, more [dick/pussy] is more rebrand. Lean into the chaos of someone who hoes indiscriminately
When ppl congratulate you on getting thin from starvation or illness they reveal that antifatness is not and has never been rooted in health concerns. I don't want to see another "it's not healthy" on my timeline!