Midwesterner who thinks he’s funny, kind of selfish, a touch elitist, yet I still have occasional bouts of optimism. Not entirely woke but trying my best.
@BrentLeeSDCIC
I was also a 9/11 inside job believer for a while. The special edition of Skeptic magazine debunking the conspiracy theory convinced me I was wrong.
I decided to quit drinking last Monday. Fell off the wagon Saturday but not excessively. Strict abstinence every day since, and I feel pretty good. I’m a little worried about this weekend, but I think I’ll be okay. Interesting journey.
#RecoveryPosse
@theashrb
I am barely middle class, but when I was a server I wasn’t even close. I will skip a drink, choose cheaply, or literally skip a meal before I take up a server’s time and table without tipping. The tip is part of the cost of the meal.
@AnxiousPenman
@LizerReal
I believe this is true. I know people who support open carry, and they tend to hold the belief that society is best held up by intimidation and control. And they typically see themselves as agents of that control.
@ask_aubry
Men so insecure that they’re terrified of being compared to any former lover. I’m no expert, but I don’t think that is even how a woman in a healthy relationship thinks.
This is my initial introductory playlist for those who don’t consider themselves country music fans; I will be adding to it as time goes on.
Give my playlist a listen: Intro to Alt Country
@AutisticCallum_
One reason I need to live alone. I’m a different person at home than in public where I’m masking most of the time. And that person is messy, emotional, and usually pretty quiet - sometimes to the point of nearly non-verbal.
@nintendo6664
Illinois is primarily corn and soybean fields interspersed with small to medium sized towns whose primary income are from agriculture and manufacturing. And a few fishing holes. I can’t believe I miss it, but I do.
@hannaweeny
My son and I were talking about that term the other day. He said, “Just because I can have a conversation and dress myself doesn’t mean I’m’high-functioning’! Meanwhile, I have been able to maintain employment, but my life is in shambles.
Look - I am trying to be a good person, but I have a drinking problem. I promise that I am working on that and making progress, but weekends are a real issue for me right now. If you are able to grant me some grace for a bit I promise I’m worth it.
@ask_aubry
Awkward and weird, but he went away without pushing the issue. He strikes me as likely autistic with paper bags as a sensory stim. He should’ve not touched her bag, but he wasn’t going through it or touching them.
@DarkHorse1382
@kerionmywayward
Been on both sides myself. I have grown and matured a lot. It’s pathetic how many men do not. Sex is important to most, but it definitely should not be a duty or a weapon.
@autistic_hannah
My scalp sometimes itches for no reason (I suspect mild eczema), and if I’m not careful I get little scabs from scratching. Then I pick at the scabs.
@pot8um
I get your points, but Ari has a pretty solid point too. Nearly everyone I’ve personally known who homeschooled their kids (limited sample, I know) did it for religious reasons to isolate them and protect them from ideas that might challenge their beliefs.
So many guys are really missing the mark when they complain about being “friend zoned”. Sure romantic rejection sucks, but have you ever BEEN friends with a woman? Actual friends, not just hanging around in case? They’re pretty awesome!
Survived my first sober Friday night in recent memory. It was not as bad as I feared. Keeping busy today being productive and proactive. I’m gaining confidence each day.
@itskristofer
A Christian anti bullying advocate? I’m just gonna hazard a guess that means they get riled up over imagined slights against Christianity but not much else.
@AutisticCallum_
The psychologist who diagnosed me with ADHD (in my 40’s) told me, “Most people don’t understand that ADHD is not a failure of willpower; executive function dysfunction does not respond to willpower.” I nearly cried.
To all my alt-country and “real country” fans, what songs should go on my Intro to Alt Country playlist to show a newbie (who doesn’t like country) how amazing this genre can be? Feel free to tag musicians; maybe they’ll have their own suggestions!
@forestvanslyke
I know that many autistic people are fine with it, but is it most? I know that my son and I would happily give it up. There are some positives, but the negatives are pretty rough.
@AutisticCoach_
That is an under appreciated issue. I always say that almost nothing annoys an autistic or ADHD person more than another person with the same disorder but different presentations.
@RemakingManhood
Who in the whole damn world takes a public position like this and has such a deficit of self awareness they don’t immediately realize they’ve outed themselves as Super Creep?!?
I’m about to get off the bus on my way home from work and walk right by the liquor store. But I’m not going in today. This will be a very mundane experience, yet significant. Sorry to make this my whole personality, but it’ll get better.
@dieworkwear
I’m very ignorant about tailoring and fashion, yet my untrained eye instinctively rejected this pairing. Thanks for explaining my visceral discomfort at this outfit!
@ThatEricAlper
Jason Isbell, probably. An Alabama boy playing country music and being outspoken on his liberal political views. Also one of the best songwriters ever. And a great singer and musician. And he got sober. Hero stuff.
@ArielleDundas
I had a friend ask me how I’d feel if my children had been aborted. I said the same way I feel about all the thousands of potential children I never helped create but could have. Duh.
@OrangeFreddyG
I remember working for starvation wages as a dishwasher at Cracker Barrel. Their policy is to fire employees who eat food designated as waste. They say it’s so they don’t intentionally over prepare. I nearly got fired for eating leftover meatloaf.
@motiblackart
All I knew about autism was from the movie Rainman and my son who would melt down in busy environments. I only learned about masking in the last few years. I very slowly realized I am also autistic.
In the spirit of transparent honesty, I got drunk this past weekend, but I’m not giving up on sobriety. I know what led to it and am making plans to make sure it doesn’t happen again. Nothing terrible happened, but it definitely wasn’t worth it.
@historyinmemes
Trust the Africans to make Christianity even a little cool. I’m an atheist, and I still kinda want to make the trek! There are fascinating legends and documented historical stories of the history of Christianity in Ethiopia.
@autismsupsoc
I know that many people (not just autistics) despise the texture even if they like the flavor, but they’re my favorite fruit. Except tree ripe peaches, but those are rare and very seasonal.
@butchanarchy
I have been following the conversation about masculinity closely for a while. I find it fascinating as a cis white man who wants to shed the toxic elements but appreciates some idea of “manhood”.
In the spirit of making positive changes in my life I finally decided to address my alcohol consumption which is the direct or indirect cause for much of my suffering and an exacerbating factor in the rest. The weekend will be my first big challenge.
@drewmorgcomedy
In my 30’s I worked as a dishwasher, had no car or license, went to a junior college, and lived in a 28’ camper in a trailer park. Still got laid. And I’m not even a player. People are gonna fuck, esp young ones. Why are we so against that?!?
@mightbeautistic
So many in retrospect. The most common difficulty was being punished for meltdowns because they were interpreted as petulant tantrums.
@ask_aubry
The correct response from him would be “okay”. Reply Guy thought she was being rude just for being curt, yet had no issue with the dramatic escalation by self professed “gentleman” who obviously lied.
@karen1smith1
@BrentLeeSDCIC
I’m not defending the theory, lol. The cultural aftermath, though, did quash dissent to a large degree. Hardly anyone even pushed back against the invasion of Iraq despite there being no connection at all.
I hope y’all had a wonderful holiday if you celebrate. Mine sucked, and not because I had to work; my situation just sucks in general right now. The good news is that I have a plan, a clear path forward, and good odds of being in a better position very soon.
@itsmegangraves
Goddamn. Every self professed “good guy” should utterly ostracize and demean men who act like this. The more stories I see like this, the more I feel like the mythical “good cop” reading ACAB stories all the time.
I’m slowly getting over a breakup from 3 months ago after a relationship that lasted just under 5 months. I am not as resilient as I imagine, I guess. Even now, if she asked, I’d probably cave. At least I haven’t drunk texted.
Damn, I feel pretty good this morning. Just 4 days sober, and I finally got a decent night’s sleep. I knew intellectually it would improve how I feel both mentally and physically, but experiencing the shift is so very different!
#RecoveryPosse
@autismsupsoc
It still surprises me that some fish seem affectionate. I remember visiting an aquarium a few years ago where we could pet stingrays. I was nervously holding my hand just above the water, and a stingray breached slightly to rub my hand!
@dancingonjelly
@ask_aubry
Yeah, it seems that he thinks the only male-female relationship that matters is sexual, and any other interaction is only to serve that.
@ask_aubry
He’s not only toxic, but objectively wrong as far as I can tell. Attraction is a factor in most relationships, but it’s not only physical. I’ve seen plenty of people in happy couples with less pretty partners who had other attractive qualities.
Do people know they’re going to have a nervous breakdown before it happens? I don’t think that term is even used anymore; I think it’s “mental health crisis “, but whatever we call it I feel on the cusp.
@shaedygirl
@ask_aubry
I am autistic people as is my son. Sometimes we say weird stuff and then walk away when we get a weird look and a laugh. Not every odd person is dangerous, though that assumption is perfectly defensible on the street.
Growing up poor means that when you’re in your own apartment as an adult, and you’re comfortably warm despite it being cold outside, you feel you should turn the heat down.
I told her that I wanted to write love songs about her and not heartbreak songs. I didn’t write the love songs fast enough, and now I’ll have all the time in the world to write heartbreak songs.
I’m taking a break from alcohol for personal reasons and haven’t made a big deal about it also for personal reasons, but I’m kinda proud I haven’t drank since Sat. The concert tonight will be a bit of a test, but I feel good about it.
If this platform ultimately collapses I will be so sad because it has been a source of joy for me when people whose work I admire respond with humility and appreciation when I tweeted at them. I’m tempted to tag them all in a thread. 💕
The last gift Betty White gave us was to die a tad early so as to avoid messing up 2022 for all of us. What an amazing performer, quick wit, and all around lovely human being.
A coworker died unexpectedly this past weekend. On the card being passed around I wrote, “It was a pleasure to know you,” and I kinda hope that’s the kind of thing people write on my card someday.
@Mike_P_Williams
@ask_aubry
The emotional immaturity is staggering. I’m certain that I am no paragon of emotional intelligence, but I have attractive female friends that I’m not trying to have sex with. And I’m not mad about it, lol. They’re solid friends.