“The abnormal has become the norm; the unnatural has become the inescapable.” - from The Myth of Normal. Have you read Gabor’s new book yet? What lessons did you take away from it? For more information on where to purchase, visit:
#themythofnormal
Join us on Saturday, March 4th for a virtual live conversation between Prince Harry, The Duke of Sussex and Dr. Gabor Maté, renowned speaker and author of THE MYTH OF NORMAL: TRAUMA, ILLNESS, AND HEALING IN A TOXIC CULTURE.
If we could begin to see much illness itself not as a cruel twist of fate or some nefarious mystery but rather an expected and therefore normal consequence of abnormal, unnatural circumstances it would have revolutionary implications for how we approach everything health-related.
The Wisdom of Trauma will be rebroadcast at the end of this month, as will the "Talks On Trauma" series. Over 4 million people worldwide have watched this film so far, which speaks to the deep hunger for a trauma-informed revolution in our thinking.
Our culture wounds people by its very nature. It then elevates some of those wounded people to ranks where they can cause further harm to massive numbers of others, as the traumatized often do. A closed circuit of pain, of which Trump is merely the most recent/blatant exemplar.
A new book from Donald Trump's niece, Mary Trump, claims he suffered "child abuse" & "deprivations that would scar him for life."
Listen to
@DrGaborMate
on this, from May 2019:
"Trump is a clearest example of a traumatized politician one could ever see."
I'm gratified to announce that the documentary about my work, "The Wisdom of Trauma", which has already been viewed by over six million people, is now available online.
Tomorrow (1/28) at 7pm ET / 4pm PT, I'll be joining my son, journalist
@aaronjmate
, on the Callin app for a live discussion and audience questions. An iPhone is required to join live but the broadcast will be available to all right after it ends. (link below in thread)
On his 90th, I salute one of the intellectual and ethical giants of our time, or any time, Noam Chomsky,
whose truth-seeking intelligence, calm, non-egoic rationality, and moral courage will long continue to lead and inspire those working for a sane, just and humane world.
As mental health pathologies and antidepressant medications explode in growth in the US, we spoke with Dr. Gabor Maté about his newest book “The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture.” His view: the underlying causes are often ignored, and are rooted in…
From the dark days of the Vietnam War I was inspired by the courageous truth-telling of the legendary investigative journalist I.F. (Izzy) Stone. Today I am proud to be the father of
@aaronjmate
, co-recipient of the journalism award given in Stone’s memory.
A huge honor to be among winners of the annual Izzy Award for achievement in independent media, named after journalism legend I.F. Stone. I was cited for "meticulous reporting for
@TheNation
[that] consistently challenged the way the public was being informed about" Russiagate.
Pleased to speak once again with my friend
@rustyrockets
, this time on one of the most urgent political/moral issues of our time, Israel's treatment of the Palestinian people, which is driven (as so many things are) by unprocessed trauma in the background.
I spoke with my son
@aaronjmate
(
@PushbackShow
@GrayzoneProject
) about how legitimate fears of anti-Semitism have been confused/conflated with (equally legitimate) criticism of Israel & Zionism, and how young Jews are breaking free of these toxic, trauma-bound identifications.
My parents, Gabor and Rae, are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary today. I can personally vouch that they make a great pair -- especially on the dance floor. Happy 50th, mom and dad.
On sale day! The Myth of Normal is officially available in the U.S., Canada, and the UK today. This is Gabor’s most urgent book yet. You can find where to purchase, here:
#themythofnormal
TODAY (7/31) and TOMORROW (8/31) only, the re-release of the documentary film about my perspective on trauma, and the work of others in the field, is available to watch online once again. By donation, no one turned away due to lack of funds. LINK:
THREAD: Today marks the release of a new documentary that I hope will find a wide audience. There is a growing awareness around the nature/prevalence of trauma that I'm proud to help encourage. The filmmakers have done a terrific job of distilling this.
I spoke with
@olivia_lang
of
@bbcideas
about the roots of addiction. Whatever the substance or behaviour of choice, pain is always at the root, hence the compulsive flight from self via numbing out or getting high, in spite of negative consequences.
Pleased to speak again with my friend
@rustyrockets
about
#Coronavirus
, how we respond to chaos, how trauma impacts our view of crisis, and much else. Full episode available tomorrow on the
@hearluminary
app.
No one with awareness and a commitment to justice and equality can live these days without pain and sorrow or anger; nor can we, especially those of us who do not encounter police brutality or systemic injustice based on our skin colour, stay silent, resigned, or inactive...[1/4]
The horrific abuse chronicled in this Times piece should shock both our conscience & intelligence: in what sort of world could there exist an "industry" that preys & capitalizes on "troubled teens"? Yet these barbarities reflect a more general misunderstanding in our culture. 1/6
“Future generations will look back on many of the tactics used in the troubled teen industry in the same way we look back on forced lobotomies and ask: How did we allow these practices to pass off as mental health treatment for so long?”
Happy 77th birthday to
@DrGaborMate
. As a joke, he asked for an elaborate tribute video in his honor. So our extended family made him a mock one. Here he is enjoying it. 📷
@hannahrosita
@DanielBMate
I am a part of the community launching Drugs Over Dinner, a new initiative aimed to support and engage curious folks in having their own compassionate conversations about the healing potential of psychedelic medicine. More information:
#drugsoverdinner
As we come up on the second anniversary of the pandemic, the indispensability of human connection cannot be overlooked. Health impacts that result from a feeling of belonging are immeasurable and a clear indicator that health is not just a physical but a mental and social matter.
In honor of the start of National Trauma Awareness Month and of Mental Health Awareness Month, we need to acknowledge the roles that trauma and stress exert on our bodies and minds if we have hope of untangling the myth of normal.
Thrilled to announce that my next book (co-written with my son
@DanielBMate
) will be released this September in the US, UK, and Canada. "The Myth Of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture" is available for pre-order now:
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture has just been named one of
@audible_com
's top selling books of 2022. Thank you Audible!
My co-writer
@DanielBMate
sporting an advance reading copy of The Myth Of Normal. It's wonderful to be at the stage where we can hold it in our hands, and we're less than six months away from when you can too.
Pleased to sit down with Izzy Award-winning journalist (and my son)
@aaronjmate
to discuss the culture of collective shock, denial, delusion and wishful thinking that have fueled the hysteria over Russiagate.
Is there something we can learn about ourselves from Russiagate's all-consuming prevalence?
@DrGaborMate
joins me &
@GrayzoneProject
for a unique take on the psychological dynamics behind it: "America in Denial: Gabor Maté on the Psychology of Russiagate"
Register by March 1 to submit a question, and you may see it answered live! Access is open to residents of most countries—visit for tickets.
#PrinceHarryMemoir
I wrote in the
@TorontoStar
about what this particular Canada Day demands from us in light of recent "discoveries"— quote marks bc Indigenous people have known of these atrocities for decades. If the rest of us don't, that's our denial on display.
"This society is built on filling people's emptiness from the outside, which can never be done..." Trauma expert
@DrGaborMate
helps us make sense of addiction and disconnection on this week's
#TheMWPodcast
Listen:
Watch:
We also touched on my own history as a child survivor of anti-Semitic genocide and as a former Zionist youth leader, and how repeated rude awakenings have taught me to embrace (or at least not to fear) disillusionment.
An interview from my recent London trip. “When you treat children well, they’re going to be OK and if you don’t treat them well, they’re not going to be OK... The fact that this message is even necessary is a sign of the times.”
Not sure I ever expected to be quoted re: a Metallica song, but
@DanielBMate
is quite right in observing that addiction is neither a brain disease nor a "bad choice" but an attempt by traumatized people "to fall in love with life again."
@LyricsToGoShow
This by
@caitoz
is a tremendously incisive thread that points to the theme of my forthcoming book, THE MYTH OF NORMAL (9/13/22). One doesn't need conspiracy theories to see how, right out in the open, illusions are perpetuated that are ruinous to our well-being in every respect.
Most propaganda goes not toward convincing us to accept new agendas of the powerful, but toward keeping us entranced in the status quo dream world. Toward normalizing status quo systems and training us to shape ourselves to fit into them like little cogs in a well-oiled machine.
Very pleased to be featured in
@Journeys_Movie
, a fascinating, beautifully rendered film about psychedelics and consciousness, to be released September 19th.
Understanding the biopsychosocial connection is an essential step we need to take towards healing from the myth of normal. Readers will learn more about that in Gabor's next book The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture being released on September 13, 2022
My son
@AaronJMate
in conversation with a woman of bravery, commitment, and principle.
@MedeaBenjamin
is a true hero, unafraid to confront unscrupulous power— or rather, afraid, and still willing. That’s courage.
Another insightful gem from
@SarahKSilverman
. (I would add “mommy issues” to the mix.) My next book, The Myth Of Normal, will include a section on how we tend to elevate deeply wounded people to positions of power and leadership.
Here is a free special talk I gave last year on human nature, development, trauma, and society. Connection is especially important in these trying times.
New piece in the
@guardian
about Gordon Neufeld's and my book "Hold On To Your Kids", recently released in the UK by
@EburyPublishing
. A parent's primary attention is best devoted to the quality of the relationship, not managing behaviour.
I'm happy to celebrate Father’s Day through music and word with my lyricist son and co-author,
@DanielBMate
on his show
@LyricsToGoShow
. Here's part 1 of our conversation.
The Wisdom Of Trauma, the documentary film about a new understanding of trauma, its impacts, and why it's so widespread in our time, is being rebroadcast this week, along with special interviews with
@jeweljk
@jamieleecurtis
@marwilliamson
@AshleyJudd
...
"Suppression of innate knowledge is one of medicine's unfortunate tendencies.”--from The Myth of Normal
Gabor’s new book goes on sale worldwide next week. You can still pre-order your copy so it arrives at your door (or on your e-reader/audiobook player) on September 13.
An ironic joke, but also funny because true. Personality traits that “help” us and even win us praise early on can become stressful internal traps later in life, noxious to physical/mental health— but only to the extent that we don’t question them, assuming they *are* us.
Going live at the top of the hour with
@danielbmate
to discuss the complicated relationship between parents and adult children, the topic of our next book.
Case in point. Even extraordinary achievers like
@serenawilliams
—sometimes especially them—find saying no to others' (and their own) expectations to be the toughest challenge of all. Making matters worse, our toxic culture normalizes and praises this self-suppression.
Learning to master saying "no" is something we all must practice. But it can be tricky for us people pleasers out there when the guilt over disappointing or being rejected by others kicks in.
Listen to this conversation i had with
@drgabormate
. 👉
A free online event on addiction and trauma, based on the must-see
@netflix
film
@CrackedUpMovie
, about the life of comedian and
@nbcsnl
alum
@DarrellCHammond
.
The documentary is mesmerizing, brave, powerful and will be an impetus towards transformation for many.
Fresh from an inspiring Toronto workshop last weekend,
@DanielBMate
and I will lead the 4th annual Vancouver
#HelloAgain
for parents and adult children Nov 22-24. Last year's sold out; early reg. is encouraged. Info at link along with a brand new video.
Thread: 1/ Someone sent me this clip from a mid-2018
@joerogan
interview where
@kingsbu
mentions my work and the proven links between early trauma and addiction. It's heartening to see folks familiarize themselves with the science and seek root causes...
6/ More and more we see suppressed rage erupting in ways that cause grave damage. Social discourse is getting dangerously rancorous. It is all the more important that we bring insight and compassion—the sources of authentic responsibility—to our understandings of self and others.
Humans are not inherently fucked up, we're just traumatized and manipulated by an abusive system into doing fucked up things. Very few of the ugly behaviors we see in people would exist if we had conscious and compassionate systems in place for organizing ourselves in this world.
Trying something new tomorrow, answering questions from readers live. Feel free to submit your own— better there than here if you want them to be seen by my producer/daughter
@hannahrosita
who knows about these things, unlike me.
NB: my handle on Instagram is [at] gabormatemd.
I urge all reading this, especially those in positions of relative societal privilege, to do what you can—in memory and honor of George Floyd and in the name of a just future for all.
Thank you. [4/4]
I spoke with
@kthalps
of
@KatieHalperShow
about my journey from a child of genocide and teenaged Zionist to a critic of Israel's destructive policies towards Palestinians. There's both video and audio, and bonus material for subscribers. All links below.
How do we break free of our generational traumas and not let it pass down to our children?
@DrGaborMate
has all of the answers.
Head to episode 1319 on The School of Greatness for more.
We can't heal our toxic culture without acknowledging that trauma's toxic effects are not distributed equally. Some populations are dealing with legacies whose health impacts are unfathomable and impossible to overstate.
As my friend
@AshleyJudd
’s history exemplifies, abused people are often too isolated to speak up, or discredited when they do. The courts and political system maintain the dismissal and denial, thus deepening the trauma.
#WhyIDidntReport
. The first time it happened, I was 7. I told the first adults I came upon. They said “Oh, he’s a nice old man, that’s not what he meant.” So when I was raped at 15, I only told my diary. When an adult read it, she accused me of having sex with an adult man.
There is a crucial difference between cure and healing. Gabor explores both in his next book, The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness & Healing in a Toxic Culture being released on September 13, 2022 and available for pre-order now:
#themythofnormal
In which I speak with the charming, passionate, dizzyingly well-versed
@Alanis
about addiction, trauma, the plights and gifts of highly sensitive individuals, and—believe it or not—even cop to a little bit of decades-old Alanis envy on my own part.
You think you know your grown sons’ music tastes, until you watch one interview the other on YouTube. Learned much I didn’t know I didn’t know re: Marvin Gaye, not to mention the rapper Ice-T. Great convo btwn
@aaronjmate
&
@DanielBMate
on
@LyricsToGoShow
Fantastic discussion on the shattering of illusions & psychological release so many Jews experience as they emerge from the mental captivity of Zionism.
Gabor: "Don't be afraid to be disillusioned. It's better than being illusioned. And don't be afraid to be disidentified."
If we look within deeply, honestly, and without succumbing to defensive avoidance, most men—myself for sure—will find lurking in ourselves anti-female anger & an urge to control women. It's part of the culture we've absorbed; it isn't always personal. But the reflection must be.
I don't want men to be allies. I want you to be traitors. I want you to be traitors to the system that violently holds you up at the expense of women. I want you to betray the silent pact that patriarchy makes with you to have your back so long as you don't make waves. Revolt.
Excellent piece by
@JoannaMoorhead
in today's
@guardian
on my work. Topics covered include the nature of addiction, the power of self-awareness, and the welcome quavering of the "infamous British stiff upper lip".
A very rare opportunity this June to work with me and a friend/teacher I hold in high esteem, at one of Peru's most respected healing centres. See program description for details on who can apply.
Beautifully said, and all too true. The "inhospitable soil" metaphor goes to the heart of the book I'm now writing (with
@DanielBMate
). The Myth of Normal: Illness and Health in an Insane Culture will be published in 2022 by
@penguinrandom
@KnopfCA
@PenguinUKBooks
Please read and share this by my son
@DanielBMate
. What happened to him is awful, but it's even worse for 1000s trying to get to the US from countries the US has helped destabilize. We are so glad to have Daniel home, while aware that, as he says, horrors continue for so many.
This from my newfound podcast buddy
@rustyrockets
will be one I’ll be watching with interest—I expect it
to be a source of illumination and belly laughs.