Babysitting for a friend is out. Older siblings making a bottle is out. Baby sitting for a family member during an emergency is also out. Tough crowd fr.
I say this all the time. No one ever has the same energy for psychosis and personality disorders. Most of the push to end MH stigma is centred on supporters wanting to be seen as benevolent.
She’s right. It’s not even about natural vs straight hair either, a lot of BW simply don’t feel attractive until their hair is ‘done’ in some way. Gotta be neat, slicked, styled, defined etc as if any of it changes the structure of your face.
The saddest part of this video is her intended audience likely won’t listen. The young girls who see this will insist their man would never, that this is just her story and that women who encourage education/working are just jealous/bitter.
Lady is warning the young brides with no plan. She got married at 19. She was the brains behind a few businesses but nothing was ever in her name.
When they divorced he got to keep everything and she was left with no money and been struggling since.
People always think wanting photos of a special occasion means you want pics for social media. Some of us like quality images for our memories & family photo walls/albums, thanks.
2018 Bank/Public Holidays mean...
23 Mar - 8 April
16 days off for 8 days annual leave.
5 May - 28 May
24 days off, 14 days leave.
25 Aug to 2 Sep
9 days off, 4 days leave.
22 Dec to 6 Jan
16 days off, 7 days leave.
Book wisely ✈️
@hapikohw
100%! It’s such a dishonest convo, to pretend like community is crumbling because people are no longer kind, thoughtful or valuing the collective. Girls have been burdened almost exclusively, unnecessarily & thanklessly. They are tired. 🤷🏾♀️
When someone is depressed/anxious, it feels and looks good to say you'll be there, to tell them there's no shame etc. But when someone is hallucinating in the office or behaving erratically on the train, you're filming and laughing.
K.
Before you trash a destination, QTNA:
- Did you spend 90% of your time at a resort
- Were your pockets long enough to have fun
- Did you make attempts to immerse yourself
- Did you research your destination beforehand
- Are you a picky eater
- Again, were you broke
@MissCrabbe
@esie_xo
@Chanelle__92
@RKwabea
"As advised in my last email" "You'll note in the attached that.." "Perhaps I can redirect you to.." Today's was: "Concerned about your tone above. Looking forward to discussing points raised with my Director, cc'd, at your earliest convenience."
Baby girl tried to shame men for gifting flowers without a vase only for the internet to expose she had no furniture. You see why it’s better to be quiet sometimes.
You are not entitled to free content from the public just because you have a camera and they don’t have to be polite if you push a camera in their face without asking.
Friendly reminder for those in the UK, unpaid internships ARE illegal.
Only exceptions are shadowing, internships for qualifications & non-profits who must provide some food/travel ££. Everyone else, pay up.
Unpaid internships should be illegal. If you can't pay an intern a salary, you shouldn't have an intern. Plus, they're overwhelmingly biased towards those who are white & wealthy. It's an exploitation of free labor. Full stop.
@BermyJB
“When you have a moment, grateful if you could share the rationale for [insert exact opposite of] the agreed actions (attached).”
Most importantly...
“Regards.”
Every now and then I think about how my coworker went to see Queen & Slim, then went home and broke up with his girlfriend because he realised they didn’t have a real connection like characters’ did.
I feel like this is a problem every diaspora has. No one born or raised outside of “home” is ever truly welcomed by home, even tho 99% of the time the foreign country they’re in is rejecting them because they’re ‘other’.
@findingmalo
Everybody! This wonderful era of accountability and self awareness that we live in, but when I bring something harmful/hurtful to your attention it’s a factory setting? Mate..
People will say you’re being paranoid or dramatic, that being overly cautious is unnecessary, no one is checking for you like that etc but this happens easily and quickly ALL the time.
They’re in the replies saying normalise knowing how to mow the lawn and use power tools as if that’s even remotely similar to being a competent parent to your children.
Been saying for years women are gonna flock to more practical ways of living the lives they want. BFF marriage, mommunes, platonic co-parenting, etc. Men refused to evolve, so women are.
And I need more of us to treat leaving as a skill that you have to practice, it’s not something that will suddenly come naturally when you need it if you haven’t made it a habit.
If you’re a woman you need to embrace leaving. It’s one action that’ll keep you happy and light. The only thing staying does is force you to leave eventually and later you’ll have to take more time to rebuild yourself.
Reminds me of my neighbour who said she finished work early and called her husband to ask where he was at. He said home. She was calling from the landline.
Intuition aside, men are bad cheaters because once you start something with someone else, you neglect the little things with your partner, you move weird and become inconsistent. Y’all even start lying about things you have no business lying about.
Probably an unpopular opinion but I think they should stop announcing country's first cases. We should all just assume and act like this virus is everywhere, because it is.
We don’t hate to admit it, we dislike that society is rigged that way to begin with and that people trade mediocre partnerships for the illusion of ease.
Automating bills, savings & investments.
Stretching every morning & evening.
Prioritising community/my village.
Using a calendar for everything.
Learning 1-2 high value skills.
Embracing my signature fits.
Having combination goals.
Saying no (even more).
You cc'd half the company to call me out, but when it's evident you were in the wrong, your cc button is broken. Issokay issokay! Mine works just fine 🥰
Took ages for me to say this confidently & believe it. Used to think I was “respecting myself” by not tolerating mistreatment but I’ve decided not to tolerate mediocrity either. I deserve the energy I give & no dusty man or bitter woman can convince me I’m asking too much.
Nope. I’m not a seed being buried, an arrow being pulled back, a diamond building under pressure or whatever else people say to endure hard times. I’m human and I don’t do unnecessary hardship, so I reevaluate and make changes to be comfortable again.
@findingmalo
It’s super off putting, especially when you know that people will learn and unlearn skills/traits for things they do want, like an undisciplined person getting it together for the gym or a career. Just say “I don’t want to change that part of me” and I’ll respect you more 😂
In Arabic, there are 12 levels of friendship. Most of our 'friends' are level 5 or below, and many of us don't have a single level 12 friend 🤯
Here are the levels:
1. Zameel - someone you have a nodding acquaintance with
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If I’m working on my internet, electricity, phone bill and devices, in the spaces I pay to be in, where I’m more productive AND I’m saving you a fortune on commercial rent… the only direction my salary can go is up.
@InDo_TheDopest
@King_Primus_
Agreed, plus if he was smart he would’ve made it a teachable moment about being flexible/balanced and realistic about food. So called ‘trainers’ like him are part of why people fall off so hard and so often.
@RejiYates
If there’s any truth to this new storyline, I legitimately see her snapping. Don’t really care for her personally but I do hope she has a good support system for the sake of holding it together for her kids. Because… yeah.
Every time y’all respond to this with “Men change for who they want to change for” you give hope to a woman who thinks that she’ll be that one. There is no such thing as real change if it’s for another person.
I really want women to stop thinking they are the exception to the rule. However that man treats everybody else consistently, is how he will treat you. You are not special. You are not different. You are not going to make him a better man.
They mocked the thinkpieces, told everyone to mind their business, said no one could possibly judge, insisted people were overreacting… Anyway. The north remembers.
Women tried to tell y’all that his public reaction to KeKe Palmer being serenaded by Usher was a red flag, but folks (especially men) swore he was just fighting for his family, blah blah blah. I hope her and that baby get some much needed protection and peace.
Your upbringing shapes your perceptions but as an adult, you shape and take responsibility for your behaviour. "The way you are" can't be blamed on Mom & Dad forever.
You can’t - even people who are fully committed and happily in love can d:e. You promise them that you’ll do your utmost to provide a safe, beautiful, happy & healthy childhood no matter who is present.
This. People keep talking about not budgeting well enough, crunching the numbers and doing the math, while ignoring there’s an entire class who don’t think about the numbers at all. Ever.
£85k a year isn’t rich. Neither is £100k or even £200k imo. Capitalism has us believing that being able to live without actually having to think about money at every waking moment is a luxury labelled as “rich”. Nah son, the 1% are rich & the rest of us are debating over scraps
Morning thoughts: Can I get ready in 10 mins? Do I really need this job? I could go to the airport & disappear right now. Who's stopping me from going to work in this towel? Too late to call out. Should I do my hair? The rose microfibre towel, with a belt. Could work. 6 minutes?
They joke and brag about doing this ALL the time. “I’m gonna get you pregnant” should always be considered a threat, especially if you have a lot going for you.
Harder question - you're offered your dream job, a 200k salary increase, a house, and unlimited expenses - but it's abroad and if you go you can never return to this country. Are you taking it?
Do you guys not think it's insane that instead of encouraging people to take better care of themselves, you label older parents as selfish for burdening their young kids with caring for them in old age or losing them early.
Moved 3000+ miles from a tiny island to a huge city in a different country, only to start a new job and see a girl from high school on my second day. Both of us just sat there like