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When my wonderful stepson came out as gay at 17 he said to my husband:
“Dad, would you be angry if I brought I boyfriend home without telling you about it first”
My husband said “Yes. Because I wouldn’t have had chance to Hoover”
How it should be.
#BBCBreakfast
#Pride
❤️
I’m British. I believe the only way
#MeghanMarkle
could’ve won over the British public was if she was a white woman who kept her mouth shut
This isn’t just about Meghan Markle. It’s about a nation’s unconscious AND conscious bias
We need more white British women to speak up
It’s sickening that after Princess Diana’s death, Britney was hounded.
That after Britney’s breakdown, Amy Winehouse was hounded.
That after Amy died, Caroline Flack was hounded.
That after Caroline died, Meghan Markle was hounded.
This is dangerous
THINGS MUST CHANGE
I have an anxiety disorder
I’ve jumped out a plane
I’ve taken on bullies
I’ve travelled the world alone
I’ve given public speeches
I’ve danced on tables
I’ve challenged stigma
Anxiety’s a health problem, not a personality trait.
#MentalHealthAwarenessWeek
#MHAW19
I just don’t get it WTF has she done wrong? Like, ever? Why can’t people leave her the fuck alone. It’s ridiculous. How SERIOUSLY lacking do you need to be to have a pop at someone announcing their OWN baby. FFS. Yes, I’m angry. Rant over.
No rant is not over
GET A FUCKING LIFE
Marjorie Wallace. Leading a national mental health charity. Suggesting it’s ‘playing the victim’ to speak out about your mental health problems.
I’ve never felt more justified writing a book about mental health stigma
And, no, the scale of that justification doesn’t feel good
This is a fascinating article about hate and conspiracy - specifically relating to Meghan Markle but also gives an insight more broadly.
But also - HOW has the palace not condemned what is so utterly abhorrent? That makes no sense. It’s astounding.
I have the most gorgeous little country park / bridleway on my doorstep - perfect for a run. Beautiful.
Every time I go I have at least three flashes in my mind of being stabbed or pulled into the woodland and am suspicious of any bloke walking alone.
This is the norm isn’t it?
@JimMFelton
All this pales in comparison to when an elderly business associate of my dad’s informed him that his ex wife, my mum, was dead, confusing her with someone else. That phone call is one I’ll not forget. Luckily I managed to get hold of her eventually while she was shopping in BHS.
🧵I’m going to debunk some dangerous
#mentalhealth
myths that have been shared on here by people who, for whatever inexplicable reason, detest Meghan Markle & make it their business to ‘prove’ she was never suicidal.
This is harmful to EVERYONE. And this is why it’s WRONG 👇🏼
Who else has got a theme tune for their pet?
Mine’s ‘Dennis the cat’ to the tune of Cherish by
@Madonna
Don’t be shy. We’re all a bit fucking weird aren’t we
#WednesdayThoughts
@JimMFelton
Driving home with parents. Spotted black & white cat lying in the road. My dad’s Like ‘oh God is that our cat?’. I saw a flash of fur but couldn’t look. My mum scoured the village to find my sister who was devastated and refused to come home. When she finally did, so did our cat
MYTH: We all take antidepressants to get high and buzz through life like 90s ravers packing cardboard boxes while rushing our tits off in euphoria
REALITY: We so love feeling normal we’re too scared to drink grapefruit in case it reacts with our pills and makes us a bit giddy
Remember that feeling of sheer elation when your teacher rolled the massive brown telly on wheels into the classroom and you knew you didn’t have to do your times tables for at least the next hour...
Only just catching up on the Jeremy Clarkson / Victoria Newton call to arms. Because that’s what it is. These are not just words. They are loaded with hate and ideas of how to vent that hate.
Did we learn nothing after the death of Jo Cox? Has nothing changed?
HOW IS THIS LEGAL
Had no idea I wasn’t coping very well until today’s meltdown.
Brains can be sneaky little fuckers sometimes. Sitting there in your head like all is fine and then 💥!
I’m guessing I’m not the only one who thought the covid crisis wasn’t affecting them when really it was?!
5 things not to say to someone with acute anxiety:
5. Calm down
4. Don’t worry
3. You’re overreacting
2. Don’t be silly
And in at No 1 enjoying yet ANOTHER week at the top of the charts:
1. But what have you got to be anxious about?
This response is poor
@CharitySANE
- the clip says it all. It is in direct response to the Q about Meghan Markle.
It needs to be acknowledged and apologised for.
The online bullying of authors
@Joannechocolat
@monisha_rajesh
@ProfSunnySingh
, Chimene Suleyman & Graham Norton made me realise that, if we fear the onslaught of the bullies we leave others to take the weight of the hit. As someone who was bullied in work I know that hurts 1/2
I’ve written a more in depth blog on this here:
“As a high profile mental health professional, Marjorie Wallace’s invalidation of Meghan Markle’s suicidal thoughts could cost lives”
The only cure for suicide is prevention.
Call 116 123 for help.
A message on
#suicide
to anyone who’ll listen:
Don’t assume high functioning people are struggling less with mental illness. The tragic passing of
#AnthonyBoudain
&
#KateSpade
shows that you can function day to day AND be in crisis. Don’t make assumptions. Be kind. Lend an ear.
OK it's Christmas, and we're all getting merry.
But PLEASE DON'T question someone about their choice not to drink.
It's nobody's business but theirs and they may have a very good reason. There is, however, no good reason to put somebody on the spot.
Who wants women to ‘tow’ the line anyway?
To adhere to tradition & keep our mouths shut?
To think its taboo to mention our hormones? (WTF)
What woman *truly* believes that should make us proud?
I don’t. I’m proud to be a difficult woman in the era of Clarkson/Morgan.
Dear
@MarcusRashford
- your next mission should you choose to accept it:
Remove Katie Hopkins from ALL social media platforms with immediate effect
Love from the general public
Just spent 2 hours driving home. A journey that usually takes 30 mins
The bridge was closed. A man was very distressed.
My journey was an inconvenience. That is all. His journey was no doubt terrifying.
Do not judge a person until you’ve stood in their shoes
#tynebridge
What not to say to someone with:
Depression: Just do it
OCD: Just stop it
Psychosis: Just don’t think it
Anxiety: Just don’t worry
Addiction: Just don’t have it
Bipolar: Just chill
If only. Mental health problems are illnesses.
Have a broken leg: Just walk
Same thing.
Things you should never forget the sheer brilliance of
1. A plain grated cheese sarnie
2. Closing your curtains early on a winter’s night
3. When cats cover their eyes with their paws
4. The still evening air when you put your rubbish out
5. Pyjamas fresh off the radiator
I know I will be one of MANY authors saying this tonight but THANK YOU
@Joannechocolat
for all that you do and, for all you have had to endure, I am so sorry you had to go through it. We are so so lucky to have you as Chair of our union. Your continued support means the world ♥️
As a National Trust member and a Society of Authors member all I can say is THANK FUCK for common sense, love, tolerance and the TRUE definition of free speech prevailing.
The world feels a little brighter today.
For five years I’ve taken antidepressants for anxiety.
Something needs to change*.
*The thing that needs to change: I need to stop worrying about the fact I’m still taking meds that help me feel better after five years. I’ve never once considered stopping thyroid meds.
WHY is speaking out - especially when on behalf of others/a bigger picture - always seen as trouble making. No wonder the so-called 'snowflake' generation get a hard time when they speak up. People just can't cope with hearing something they disagree with. I'm with Gary Lineker.
@Aggerscricket
Jonathan, I’m the face of my own Twitter account. I’ll continue to tweet what I like and if folk disagree with me then so be it. Thank you so much for your concern, which, I imagine, wouldn’t be a concern at all if you agreed with me. 👍🏻
So I’m not going stay quiet anymore. When I’ve tweeted support of the trans community I’ve had to lock my account. Like I was being bullied into silence. No more
Fellow authors - pls vote in the
@Soc_of_Authors
AGM to keep
@Joannechocolat
in post
I fucking hate being English right now. I’m seriously ashamed. Too many selfish bastards refusing to do their bit. They want to travel for fun without restriction but refuse to empathise with those who travel for sanctuary. Makes me sick.
Reasons why people tweet about their mental health (spoiler - it’s not attention seeking or pity)
1. Because it externalises it which is healthy
2. Because writing it out helps to rationalise it
3. Because you realise you’re not alone
4. Because messages of support help
Not everyone who’s suicidal seeks help/speaks about it. That doesn’t mean they are not suicidal. Many lives have been lost because people have felt unable to reach out for help. And this stigma we are seeing on here could prevent help-seeking. It is DANGEROUS. It could risk lives
People who HATE people they’ve never met - who make it their life’s work to tell the world - WHY? To what end? How does this help you? What do you get from it?
Community?
Do you *really* want to join a community united only by hate??
Honestly. BAFFLED.
B.A.F.F.L.E.D!!
It’s a dangerous myth that people with severe MH probs – inc suicidal ideation – will appear sad. Yes – they may well even be smiling and working.
So this is NOT evidence of Meghan Markle ‘lying’ – otherwise Gary Speed would still be with us today:
Dear Vaccine Scaremongers
I’ve got anxiety. I’ve refused chiropractic care, meds and hair dye over the years for fear of death. But you’re a bigger risk. I’ve had pneumonia. I’m scared of Covid. My 1st panic attack was over a ‘blood clot’. Pls stop headlining rare side effects
On hearing I had a step child someone once said ‘but it’s not the same is it’
True. He’s a ft taller than me, has brown eyes & 2 mums
But I panic if he doesn’t pick up, skipped work to watch his judo & cried waving him off at the airport
So it’s not the same. But it’s not less
Read this. Squirm a bit. Squirm *a lot*. Indulge in some self pity. And anger. Realise some stuff. Feel a bit liberated. Feel *really* liberated. Finish the book. Start the journey.
(I bloody loved this book. Did I say you should read it yet? Oh & on toxic positivity- see pics)
Are these the rules of life for all Brits?
Everything cooks at 180
Everything washes at 30
Nothing you wear needs ironing
No big lights ever
1 wee before tea
2 wees before bed
@LucyENichol
shared her rules to follow - do you agree? Or have you got your own?
#JeremyVine
This is what they tell you about how to be a woman:
1. Enjoy sex, but not too much
2. Be confident, but not too much
3. Be clever, but not too much
4. Get angry, but not too much
5. Be you, but not too much
But the reality is. To be a woman. A real woman. JUST BE YOU.
I don’t understand people who say they don’t understand people who eat vegetarian sausages and burgers that taste like meat. It’s quite straight forward....
IT’S THE LACK OF DEATH
Marjorie Wallace and
@charitysane
*do* owe us an explanation. They are not random people commenting or sharing opinions. They are mental health professionals, who treat vulnerable people. So yes, it *does* need to be acknowledged.
Just deleted a tweet promoting my books because I got embarrassed but then I thought - how the hell else are we non celebrity authors supposed to do it!?
Answers on a postcard (or tweet) please….
Toxic friendships:
You probably can’t put into words the specifics. You’re wondering if you imagined it. You’re not quite sure what went wrong.
But you know you don’t feel good, happy, confident or relaxed in the friendship.
Time to move on
When you get to see your new book IRL for the 1st time…
Piers Morgan once told me to ‘man up’ then blocked me when I challenged his views on mental health. Snowflake is dedicated to anyone who’s ever been called a ‘whiny needy twerp’ for speaking out about MH. Pre order now.
It’s 4.17am and you’re in your:
20s: ‘Hi can I get a taxi please?’
30s: ‘Oh god I need to be up in two hours. Sleep god dammit’
40s: ‘Is it too early to get up yet?’
50s: ‘Want another cuppa love?’
*If* Meghan Markle’s mum is trained in suicide prevention/awareness it doesn’t mean she would automatically be the first port of call - some people feel unable to speak to close family for a plethora of reasons. How many suicides do we hear of when relatives say they had no idea?
Finally, speaking publicly re suicidal ideation on social media doesn’t signal ‘attention-seeking’. We saw this with a tragic case of a NUFC fan. He broadcast his intention. Despite people rallying, they were too late. NEVER ASSUME people are ‘just seeking attention’.
Perspective Britain please
Australia is burning. Planes falling from the sky. Stories of rape are hitting the press.
But what are we raging at?
#MeghanMarkel
.
What action are we taking? Unfollowing
#meganandharry
on Instagram.
I STILL DON’T GET WHAT SHE’S DONE TO DESERVE THIS
The comments about Meghan Markle being suicidal one day then OK the next also don’t prove anything. According to psychologist
@DrAnnieHickox
, no longer being at crisis point doesn’t mean that someone is fully recovered. And it doesn’t mean they wont go back there…
If somebody speaks out about their mental health, they are not obliged to disclose every detail of it. If somebody speaks of suicidal ideation specifically, then they are offering hope to others, as simply being able to speak of it shows you can recover.
If you’re worried about why Helen McCrory is trending don’t look. Just grab a box of tissues, raise a glass and remember how much we love her for giving us the best Shelby.
Really interesting article from
@devisridhar
about the leaked WhatsApp messages and how they are being interpreted. Also - how increased lockdowns were happening because the preparation (that was advised) *didn’t* happen…
Just had a brilliant GP consultation. She was so understanding. In her words: “People with health anxiety are as entitled to have symptoms as anyone else”
Therapy starts next week too and Dr Lackey has calmed me right down AND taken me seriously
It really makes a difference
I dedicate this author unboxing video to my crappy former boss who told me I was a ‘sloppy writer’ - amongst many other things that reduced me to tears after coming back to work from a mental health sickness absence
Pre order a copy of my
unapologetic romcom No Worries if Not ⬇️