I belong to Jesus. 25. Podcast Host. Singer-Songwriter. Musician. Doula. Traveler. Amateur photographer. Small business owner. Matthew 11:28. This is the way.
I turned 25 today. It was my โplanโ to be married by 22 and have my first child by 25, but here I amโsingle for over 8 years. I have always prayed to the Lord about becoming a wife and Iโve been praying for my future husband since I was a child. So Iโve wondered: Have I missedโฆ
I donโt usually ask for prayer, but Iโm currently in some of the worst physical pain that Iโve experienced in my entire life. If you see this, please say a prayer for me. Thank you. ๐
@JPaulNorton
I think that itโs also because we tend to idolize blessings. Too often people โserveโ the Lord for what He can give, not for who He is.
Men of value do not cheat on their wives.
Women of value do not cheat on their husbands. There is zero justification for cheating. Itโs always wrong.
And even when women were โstudiedโ in the 19th and 20th centuries, it was almost always minority women who were being experimented on (aka: tortured) against their own will. This would often happen to African American women and Puerto Rican women (who were test subjects for theโฆ
Women are more likely to die from almost every illness and disease than men are because medical science is studied on men, not women, with very few exceptions.
Science knows little about female bodies and the medical system doesnโt know what to do with female bodies becauseโฆ
Does the manosphere not recognize that men break up with good women too? Itโs always โwomen pass up good menโ but never โmen pass up good women.โ The last guy that I went on multiple dates with ended it with me because I wouldnโt sleep with him, even though at the beginning, heโฆ
Respectfully, I havenโt been asked out very much. When I was asked out, however, the majority of the time it was by men that at the end of the day, wanted to get in bed with me and I donโt jive with that. The standard that Iโm abiding by is Godโs standard. Not mine. Godly menโmenโฆ
The people who always say โyou should have picked betterโ when talking to a woman who married or got with a man who ended up being abusive very rarely acknowledge the fact that manipulators put up a front until they get what they want. These people often put the blame on theโฆ
โYour standards are too highโ
My standards:
Loves the Lord and has spiritual fruit
Has aligning values
Is masculine
Is attractive (to me)
Does not watch porn
Abstinence is a good practice not only in singleness, but in marriage, too. It will be necessary within marriage. If your wife has just given birth, you will need to practice abstinence. If one of you gets sick, you will need to practice abstinence. If one of you is recoveringโฆ
To those shaming and criticizing Christian women for not getting married โyoung enoughโ, why donโt you try dating as a woman that strives to honor the Lord in this current climate like we are?
Try dating as a woman of God in a hookup culture which has negatively affectedโฆ
โMen can get multiple women pregnant at the same time so because of that they should sleep with multiple women at once to spread their seed.โ
This is the result result. These babies will grow up without an involved father. Even if he does show up, thereโs no way he can investโฆ
In order to be a feminine woman:
- never help out with physical labor (including painting, carrying in groceries or picking up trash)
- donโt be American (especially Southern because YIKES)
- donโt enjoy the outdoors
- donโt leave the house without wearing makeup
- always wearโฆ
This interview. Wow. The fruit of the Spirit is evident all over Nala. Her demeanor is one that is exudes the brilliance of the joy of the Lord. The wisdom that comes from her mouth is the wisdom of the Lord.
She went from making millions on OF and being broken and hurting, toโฆ
Iโm at a hospital and theyโre not letting a woman, who drove 30 minutes to come here, go see her husband because her 3 year old child (that is in a stroller) is not 12 years old. She said that she was able to bring her child the past few days sheโs been visiting. Theโฆ
Today I met a woman that got married for the first time at 37 and is pregnant with her first child at 39. It was so nice talking with her and Iโm very excited for her, she was so sweet.
Genuinely perplexed as to how Christians find godly spouses nowadays. Itโs always โI got luckyโ or โwait on Godโs timingโ (which is completely true because His timing is perfect and always the best), but whereโs the practical advice? Where are the matchmakers? Weโre strugglingโฆ
I canโt believe there there are people defending the fact that men donโt have to be virgins when they marry but women do. I justโฆ
Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you notโฆ
โWomen expire but men donโt.โ
Iโm not sure if you know this or not, but weโre not talking about milk, here. Out of touch men expose themselves when they apply language used to talk about food or animals to women. To them, weโre cattle to be bred and nothing more. Stay away fromโฆ
Hate to break it to you, baby girl, but unless you have your momโs last name, you still have another manโs last nameโyour fatherโs. ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ
โWomen in their early 30โs get really upset because they say โthe boys donโt want to date me anymoreโ because theyโre not in their primeโif youโre in your early 30โs Iโm sorry, youโre just not as attractive in the dating poolโ
- says the man who got married to a woman who was inโฆ
I have a prayer request/testimony. There is a woman who is a single mom at our church who was having pregnancy complications with her recent pregnancy, the doctors told her to abort but she had faith in God and refused. She recently had the baby, who is actually doing well,โฆ
I was talking about maternity leave with one of my co-workers who is from Latin America earlier today. When I told her that 6 weeks was average for maternity leave in the US, she was genuinely shockedโshe thought that 3 months (the norm in her country) wasnโt nearly enough. Sheโsโฆ
Itโs illegal to sell a puppy within 8 weeks of birth because itโs deemed cruel to separate it from its mother but corporate America expects women to return to work 4 weeks after giving birth.
Verbal abuse is abuse.
Emotional abuse is abuse.
Financial abuse is abuse.
Spiritual abuse is abuse.
Just because someone isnโt hit doesnโt mean that they are not being abused.
All abuse is wrong and should not be tolerated.
If youโre single over 25, you have to quit your job and just sit at home so you can make sourdough bread and so your future husband can knock on your door and marry you on the spot. Take notes, ladiesโฆโ๏ธ
#ThisIsTheWay
I havenโt โchosenโ to be single, and itโs not what Iโm โchoosing.โ If I could snap my fingers and be married, Iโd do it at the drop of a hat. Iโve been asked out maybe once or twice. I have done some traveling as I mentioned, as well as investing in hobbies and startingโฆ
As spiritual as statements like this sound, there's one glaring flaw that needs to be pointed out. If you have been actively seeking marriage since 18, but are still single at 25, you must have either:
1. Turned down eligible suitors
Or
2. Not deliberately sought marriage.
Men on this app are really out here upset that we, as women, are not attracted to all of them. They are not attracted to all of us, either. What do they expect?
Oh, yesโฆI am subjecting myself to a life of singleness because a man that watches p*rn is a dealbreaker and I will reject a โlong and happy relationshipโ because this hypothetical man watches p*rn. Rightโฆso in your mind, basically all men watch it, and itโs not a big deal?โฆ
@BasedZillenial
Enjoy being single forever.
& itโs not because you donโt tolerate something men enjoy.
Specifically, itโs because you will reject the opportunity of a happy life long relationship because of 1 thing you donโt like.
& that 1 thing itself doesnโt physically affect anything but hisโฆ
Even if women were down for polygyny, the thought of a womanโs husband regularly sleeping with a woman that is not her would likely be repulsive to her.
The people that always say โall the good ones get married by 22โ donโt know enough people in real life. Not every good, marriageable person, specifically woman, gets married by their early 20s. There are so many godly people that donโt get married in their early 20s. Thatโsโฆ
Tell me you donโt know the heart of the Gospel without telling me that you donโt know the heart of the Gospel. The heart of God is for the one who came back home. Thatโs the point of the parable: the prodigal came back home and was celebrated when he did.
โBut when he came toโฆ
Some of yโall act like every woman that is single has full dms and a long line of marriage-minded men pining for her. ๐ Maybe IG models do but typically not your average modest, chaste Christian woman.
Remember ladies: if you are a Christian and desire to marry, you canโt do anything that is remotely enjoyable, or else you are deviating from Godโs plan for your life. This includes but is not limited to:
- traveling internationally
- going on missions trips
- having a job
-โฆ
When people say โjust get marriedโ to singles that desire marriage, they donโt realize the mental gymnastics of dating that Christian singles are dealing with. Dating is so hardโand no, itโs not hard because our โstandards are too highโ and weโre โmaking it hard on ourselves.โโฆ
This app is free comedy. The โselfless and self-subjugatedโ women that heโs talking about are human doormats. You canโt make this stuff up. This canโt be real. ๐ญ๐
Competent men donโt obsess over single women who they do not know, how old they are, and why theyโre โworthlessโ in their eyes. Full stop. Little boys tend to worry about these things, though.
We do. Especially if we donโt want to have sex until marriage. That is often the culprit. In my experience, women with stronger or more conservative values get friendzoned the most, but I could be wrong. That could be anecdotal. ๐คท๐ฝโโ๏ธ In the church, many of us have been told thatโฆ
Donโt be like the prodigal sonโs older brother who was bitter that his younger brother who went astray was welcomed back home and was celebrated. Be like the ones who celebrated and rejoiced in his return.
Friends that worship Jesus together, stay together. The unity that takes place when a group of friends are gathered together in worship cannot be found elsewhere. Stay around people who are addicted to the presence of God.
If a man is not attracted to me because I wonโt give him wife privileges (sexual intimacy) then I donโt want to be with him anyways.
I also may not appeal to men โsexuallyโ because I dress modestly, which is one of the points of dressing modestly. Everything isnโt about sex.โฆ
I would never play โwifeโ if Iโm not married. My wifely attributes can be observed and acknowledged through courting. Why give a man โwife benefitsโ when Iโm not his wife? This is one of the reasons why some long term girlfriends stay long term girlfriendsโthey are playingโฆ
Being a virgin is embarrassing when you are well into adulthood.
Adult virgins for either male or female just shows you aren't really capable of attracting mates, and/or you don't have the appropriate psychological functioning to have normal, stable adult relationships.
โYouโve traveled a lot so you must be a h0eโ
Meanwhile, my last trip that I went on, that I got back from yesterday, with my mom was a literal missions trip. People looovvvee to make up stories about you. ๐