Advocating for evidence based treatment for the sudden spike in gender dysphoric youth. Concerned by the profit driven medicalization of gender dysphoria.
My 14 yr old daughter got a pixie cut and her friends teased her for it. She even wore earrings. They called her Justin Bieber. She’s crushed. Can’t help but think if she told them she was a boy she’d be celebrated instead. This gen is so tight with stereotypes.
1) My own son, I birthed from my body is arguing to me about how it’s suicide prevention to let males play on female teams. He used the Michael Phelps argument, too. I did not murder him, but I got a bit passionate.
@billmaher
I was actually at a night out with friends. We all have teens questioning gender. All 4 sets of married, middle class, college educated couples. 2 boys, 2 girls. What are they doing to this generation?
I’m not sure who is following my daughter’s rogd journey, but it’s been almost 3 years. She shaved her legs last week and asked me today if I thought she could get her hair chin length by summer. I’m guarded, but happy. It feels unreal and I worry it’s going to be taken back.
Just got a warning on Reddit for stating the hateful fact that people without uteruses don’t have periods in a discussion about males in women’s sports. I got a pile on and then told I was in danger of losing my whole account. Is this culture war lost?
The “mommy blogger” known as Dooce has died by suicide. She suffered from depression her whole life. She came out as gender critical (the view most people have) and was harshly cancelled. The war for our daughters is so hard. I’m so sorry she’s gone.
@icons_women
What narcissistic parents let their boys do this? Even if you think they’re the real deal, you know it’s not fair. Adults like Lia can do what they want, but who cheers their male 15 year old for smashing records of females. Adults should be ashamed.
MRA and their allies say that women and girls shouldn’t be afraid of naked men walking around locker rooms naked. Even if they have an erection, that just happens if the wind blows. Men- have you seen men prancing around your locker rooms and showers proudly sporting erections?
I don’t know if anyone remembers my daughter’s rogd story. Sudden personality change at the end of 5th grade after being introduced to gender ideology by a toxic friend. After about a year, the hold started to loosen after getting her involved in a girls’ outdoor activity group.
If you could have your son, who keeps arguing people don’t like Dylan Mulvaney because they’re bigots, read one book on the trans issue, what would it be? I’m thinking Kathleen Stock’s. I’m hoping it changes his viewpoint.
2) when I said women’s sports weren’t male affirmation pageants he said that women are only given sports to affirm them. 😡 We argued back and forth. I think this finally made him think:
@TheScientistLLC
So you can say males, but not women or females. Use people for every pronoun or nothing. If it's too confusing that way, stop erasing women. We aren't just non men like we were in previous centuries
@RizomaSchool
Yeah, unschooling seemed appealing to me, but I quickly knew it wasn’t going to work. What kid wants to write essays or master basic math. I would have just read novels all day. I know someone who’s in this position. Her kid is turning 18 and basically spent all his time gaming.
Why aren’t we concerned about trans identifying females playing to prevent suicide? Why don’t we make special roster slots for them if it’s for suicide prevention? If a male gets a starting spot on the girls team, same spot given on the boy’s team at the same school or country
@DogsDogsMoreDog
@ask_aubry
I’m a stay at home mom, and it would not occur to me to pick up my husband’s clothes if he tossed them about, or open his mail. Thankfully he’s a big boy and his clothes go in the hamper. How petty. He wants her to be a personal assistant, those aren’t shared chores.
@zackbeauchamp
It's because in the UK, people aren't as paralyzed to call a spade a spade, or a man a man. The USA and Canada are terminally polite. It's why dems polls are so incorrect and they have no clue why.
@The_Feminist_TM
@Lostlain1
Seriously!!! Why would anyone want to get married at 25, if by 40 her husband doesn’t think she’s attractive anymore? If men are too shallow to find women attractive when they’re older, why would they waste their youth on them? 40 with 3 kids and he leaves for a younger woman?
How much longer before gender ideology falls completely apart for everyone? When it’s no longer respected by western institutions? It feels like a lot of progress has been made, but has it?
Does anyone have a good guess for how much longer gender ideology will go on before it collapses? I assume it collapses for minors first, but when? Will it just take the right person with influence peaking?
No wonder so many decide they must really be non-binary or “not a girl”. She doesn’t want makeup, skirts, or long hair- but she’s still a girl. Her hair looks cute, would have been totally accepted in the 90’s.
I’ve been worried about my daughter who had ROGD 2 years ago. How she still “dressed like a boy”. And kept cutting her hair short. I don’t care about gendered style, I was just worried it was a sign she still wasn’t over it. This week, she asked for a women’s cut uniform shirt!
I feel like it’s been 2 step forward and 1 step back for nearly 3 years, but I would count my daughter as a desister and I’m not worried about her anymore. I’m not sure I’m ever going to be over the trauma her rogd caused. I credit
@4th_WaveNow
and others for walking me through.
@genderisharmful
A grown man can hardly hold him back, what are those poor girls supposed to do if he decides they cross him while alone in the bathroom?
@Psychgirl211
I didn’t take her to therapy, based on good advice. Her dad and I spent all our extra time and money bonding with her and her siblings. Lots of time outdoors. Stopped talking about gender. Filtered the internet and got her away from the bad influence friend covertly.
@ConsentRev
Whoa....red flags galore. This is an abusive statement. Consent means one side says no- everything stops. Not negotiating so both walk away happy.
@MimingMinotaurs
Sisters don't wear each other's underwear. Imagine finding your brother in all his glory in yours. I could never look at him the same again. She probably went to the women's college to avoid him. He feels so entitled.
Saw in rogd daughter's search history that while looking up fantastic beasts info, she found an article about JK Rowling and then searched a bunch about Alison Bailey. It's so important these women are being courageous. I dont know what conclusions to draw, but info is good
A friend’s 17 YO son has decided he’s a woman. He’s clearly autistic and adhd, but not diagnosed and friend has always been in denial that he’s not typical. He’s also always been an extreme attention seeker. He’s always on the internet. She uses pronouns and doesn’t agree with it
@DANILALONDERS
That's awful. Girls can't go to school because of their periods in a lot of the world. If feminism isn't about getting girls in school and women in the workplace, what is it for?
I had lots of friends who had short hair the whole time growing up. Didn’t seem to correlate with who grew up gay or straight. Some women just prefer short hair. There’s no option for those girls in 2023. The “kind” adults they/them or he/him her even though she’s clearly female
@HRC
So, screw female bodied people? Why do we separate sports by sex? We aren't separating by who wanna to have long hair and dresses. Why have female sports at all?
@MarcieBianco
Yeah, all those 8 year olds on my daughter's soccer team should quit being entitled brats and let me play. It would make me feel really good.
@JohnDSailer
@wesyang
My son is doing engineering at a top 50 us school and he needs 3 classes from the DEI department to graduate. Students don’t want to take these classes, but are forced into it so they can justify these jobs. Three semester long courses with no choice nor added value.
This thread is so full of gems that really show these men think women are just a costume. I don’t know how liberal feminists miss this. These men are tightening the noose of the patriarchy.
@arcfem
Wow. I remember in cultural anthropology, my very feminist teacher speak about the difference between sex and gender and using pregnancy as an example for sex based discrimination. I can't believe a man can get away with mansplaining that 15 years later. Not progress.
@nSquib
If you don’t think so, you’re in an echo chamber. You can be kind and also not believe you need to change your body to match stereotypes to go with your personality.
He said it’s different with trans men because no one wants a participation trophy. And they wouldn’t be very good. This kid has a genius level IQ and it’s the stupidest thing I’ve heard in my life. Hopefully, he’ll chew on it a bit and come tell me I’m right.
I am so sorry Jewish friends. I didn’t know. I thought we’d all read the diary of Anne Frank as kids. Number the stars. Seen Schindler’s list. I didn’t realize both the left and right were anti-semetic. The left hiding it behind “colonizer” rhetoric. The right this garbage.
@JonathanShedler
@Notplay65894531
It's why you have to be very careful to spot wolves in sheep's clothing in places where they can look good and make rules. Places like schools and churches and non profits. I've seen a ton in academia as well.
Someone said at the beginning this wouldn’t change overnight, that it would take years if ever and I had to accept it. I hoped they were wrong but they weren’t.
@letsgetitbetter
And he thinks dsd’s don’t matter either. He’s such a smart kid, this is disappointing. I feel like he’s trying to take smart people arguments and make them his own right now. He was a better critical thinker a year ago. Wonder what he’s watching. He’s 17
I was completely banned from Twitter last June for expressing concern in a comment that so many kids being diagnosed with GD have autism. When a major sign of autism is not liking social rules and roles. “Hateful conduct” I’m back!
@lukerosiak
WTH! Are librarians and teachers being radicalized in universities?! If an 11-13 year old is having sex consensual or not, cps should be on call.
@ImWatson91
I know I’m just a stranger on the internet, but you deserved so much better. Then and also now. Thank you for being brave enough to take the abuse to save other young people. It matters. You matter. You’re enough.
@budlight
Dylan Mulvaney mocks women by squealing at bugs and wearing womanface. He’s everything misogynists think women are. That’s why they love him and shower praise on him and ignore most women.
@golrizghahraman
Fight with words, not fists. Your lot are cowards. You’re the fascists preventing people from speaking. What are you afraid they’ll say?
@FreyaAndHerCats
It feels like gaslighting. Like they're telling us that the emperor's new outfit is beautiful and made of silk. While our own eyes see a naked man.
A friend’s daughter (20) just had an elective double mastectomy. She’s been going by they/them for a few years, but still wears makeup and feminine clothes often, just not dresses. Had her hair in a feminine style in the recovery pics. Why would a Dr do this?!
2) still wearing baggy t shirts, slumping, hair as short as possible after 18 months, but personality and interests mostly back. She loved and more importantly liked us (parents) again after a lot of purposeful family bonding around her interests. Asked to homeschool.
@jimalbarano
@sourpatchlyds
@Dodgers
So… womanface and catholic face? What am I missing? How is this different than a minstrel show group or a group that mocks other cultures and faiths? This description is classic hate group. Just because you like them, it doesn’t mean they aren’t bigots.
@hosannah_moodie
@JessDeWahls
@OwenJones84
Everyone peaks at some point. I mean, you'd think women getting raped in prison would do it for most, but some people don't care about impoverished and disenfranchised women.
I feel like I should be happier. I do believe it’s over-the mental stuff came slowly over the last year and now physical changes. Is it just that my bubble was burst? Is it survivor’s guilt? I feel like I’ve aged 15 years in 3.
@YetItMoves
@catseesXX
I know my MIL would have my back if my husband ever pulled anything close to this. She knows what moms go through. It's not dress up and lipstick.
Her 12th birthday was gut wrenching. Had no idea what to get this kid who hated me and everything she loved 6 months before. Her 14th is going to be awesome.
@citrus_sage
Yes, they are. Show me a study where most people think males should be in female sports, or they medicalizing people under 18 should be allowed. You won’t find one.
4) two years in- had a wonderful week at camp for girls. Came home and hugged us for the first time in years. Side hug, but still. Had beads in her hair another girl braided in. Had put lemon Juice in her hair to lighten it. Is wearing simple earrings again. Can it be over?
@cuckfapitalism
Except it did. If you want to look at my Twitter history, you can see examples of me worrying about this for 2 years and freaking out at different phases. But since I’m not insecure, I don’t need your affirmation. You not believing me doesn’t erase me. Funny how that works.
@Serena_Partrick
I can’t take credit. Many parents did everything I did without success. I feel lucky I got good advice, husband was in total agreement. Family and friends in total agreement that this was not her. Everyone kind, but not reinforcing.
3) started to realize a year in that the other girls going through the gender thing were off. Changing pronouns all the time. Being dramatic about misgendering when wearing makeup and skirts. Or being called a furry instead of cat girl. Public school helped in that way.
@neil_dorin
I think the climate has changed since the case started. More people have realized what’s going on. That it’s not about being nice to mentally ill people, it’s not the new gay. It’s trans supremacy at everyone else’s expense. Especially kids falling into it and women
5) she’s always been super analytical and logical. Which is why I never thought something like this could happen to her. But she’s also highly anxious, possibly ocd, and I think she caught it like a brain virus.
Daughters, 14 and 12 were trying to explain why neo pronouns and animal genders were dumb, but they/them valid. Thanks to coaching here, I asked questions and it went okay. They couldn't answer what gender was if not personality.Asked if I felt like a woman, I scoffed and said no
@HRC
Can you imagine if human rights included a quota for a certain number of "transmen" on men's teams so they can live their truth. That's how you know it's a male bodied rights movement.
@scottsummers_87
@MsBlaireWhite
And what about suicide attempts among girls who made a terrible mistake? Suicide risk is higher years after transition, not lower.
@jk_rowling
I believe Helena. Raising my daughter in a stable home. Loved being a girl. Middle of 3 sisters, caught up in this madness at 11. At 12.5 she seems to have grown out of the ideology, but she still hates girls and being one. This is a tragedy. What is girl power in 2022?
@MildredsTache
In my experience, men think you’re calling them and their sons rapists if you want single sex bathrooms. They all take it so personally. I get it stinks to have people be wary of you, but it also stinks to be prey and not knowing who the predators are.