My piping-hot take on marriage is that the cultural / social script of a multi-year courtship, cohabitation, and lengthy engagement leads to highly-calculated, tepid relationships and doesn’t really hedge against failure, anyway.
Look, I'm not super into synchronicities,
but there's never been a better time in human history to be a nerdy babe into UFOs, meditation, and psychedelics
Here is my contribution to dating discourse:
If you are involved with someone at war with themselves, they will ultimately be at war with you, too.
Even if not consciously realized.
Especially if not consciously realized.
the functional tradwife:
strong Baltic blood, ready to lift large books, throw my husband over my shoulder & carry him to the bedroom, produce strapping, ruddy-cheeked children, birth a goat, crush fascist skulls between my thighs, etc
date idea 💫
you come over. i light candles and incense. we pop 1mg melatonin. i lead you to the bedroom.
we get snug & doze off to max richter’s dream - an 8-hour album the composer described as ‘adult lullaby’
in the morning, we compare whoop recovery scores
@pieratttt
@ungatedcreative
I keep my Twitter public for the same reason I read paper books in coffee shops: I hope, beyond hope, someone will recognize a shared knowing-ness, strike up a conversation, and we will connect
My absurd romanticism rules the day, despite everything
Me, wanting the rewards of being loved: Haha fuck yeah!!! Yes!!
Me, submitting to the mortifying ordeal of being known: Well this fucking sucks. What the fuck.
I share this because I want it to be known:
Your person is out there. Your people are out there. It may take time to find them, and it may be immensely painful.
But it’ll be worth it. You don’t need to settle.
tpot has
1 abjectly reactionary members that use aesthetics to obscure the harm of their ideologies
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2 a community proclivity to declare itself 'above politics' and refuse to disavow these views or call them out because of ~vibes~ or whatever
Grieving over all the years and efforts I spent trying to annihilate my emotional sensitivity - which felt like a liability - instead of deliberately seeking and cultivating relationships with generous and great-hearted people
Six months married ❤️🔥
My best friend. My lover. My protector. My guide. My sweet, gentle, infinitely strong husband
What a beautiful, strange, loving life we are building together: there are no limits to our depths
I was made to be at your side
One year ago, Mr. (Prime) slid into my DMs
We texted some, then talked on the phone
We met in-person in March: he flew across the country to spend 2 weeks together
(Quite a first date! ❤️)
He proposed two days into his visit
We were married in May at the courthouse
lol last year I was publicly excoriated for simply (and gently) observing that maybe there’s some vile stuff on tpot and it would do well to pay attention
privately, I got 100+ DMs from people agreeing but afraid to do so publicly for fear of blowback
gm ✨
3,000 people inexplicably want to read my woo-telligentsia, dharma-poasting, & strangeness
AM(A)A*
* my Twitter is not a democracy, it is a benevolent dictatorship
Me, wanting the rewards of being loved: Haha fuck yeah!!! Yes!!
Me, submitting to the mortifying ordeal of being known: Well this fucking sucks. What the fuck.
Morning at the vet -
Almost certainly cancer
My beloved tabby queen, Gábor
Keeping her stoned to the bone until it’s time, all the love and treats she can handle ❤️
What a privilege it is to have such companionship for 12 short years
More dating discourse contributions:
I bought wholesale into the modern notion that it was unreasonable to expect a partner to be “everything.”
I was an independent, lifelong serial monogamist. All my relationships were easy come, easy go: there was always another.
As someone who’s struggled over the years with acting as my own advocate and maintaining strong boundaries, I found a lot of power in asking myself:
What would someone who loved themselves do in this situation?
@magghu
psychedelics will let you see the destination, but not actually access it: you need to walk through the door (e.g., follow a path) to actually get “there”*
*”there” being stream entry, awakening, non duality, etc.
Of all the times in the billions of years that my particles could assemble into consciousness, they did so at the same time as yours.
How cool is that?
I’m really glad you’re here - You’re loved.
💘 Happy Valentine’s Day 💝
The whole obsession with immortality is one of the most categorically infantile and spiritually vacuous views regularly propagated by the STEMicists
An eternity with these brain geniuses:
is this hell?
The one group of people I think of as “NPCs” are the ones who say they don’t mind dying, and think wanting to live forever is silly. I literally can’t imagine not wanting to hold onto the precious jewel of consciousness. If you disagree you are basically an insect - sorry.
To be wild is not to be crazy or psychotic. True wildness is a love of nature, a delight in silence, a voice free to say spontaneous things, and an exuberant curiosity in the face of the unknown
Robert Bly
Here’s the thing with narcissists:
Every accusation they make is a confession
They are so corrupted and ego-driven, they assume all others act with the same lack of integrity, malice, and grift as they do
Their entire reality is a projection of a vacant spirit
Talking with a friend, we both have noticed a drop in search engine quality - particularly Google.
Does anyone else have this impression? Any theories for the decline in performance?
All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake up in the day to find it was vanity, but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams with open eyes, to make it possible
T.E. Lawrence
Assuming good intentions is a laudable general strategy for building a better world. We've grown up in a culture that denigrates earnestness, sincerity, & care.
A community predicated on our better nature is a wonderful, soulful rebellion to the emptiness of irony and cynicism.
Fascism doesn't show up as jackboots and swastikas, it's far more clever and insidious than that:
it shows up as seductive victimhood. It preys on our sense of loss and grief, by creating systems of violence to combat the 'other.' It arrives with answers..
I consider my marriage as one of the great works of my life
Everything that came before is a sort of prelude, “love being the work for which all other work is but preparation” (Rilke)
Beloved,
You are the first to compel all of me: your depths, power, and gentle nature have captured me totally
It is my divine task - set upon me by what lies at the heart of all things - to love you for all my days
I cannot wait to be your wife
❤️🔥
I've seen members of this community make proclamations about women, gender and sexual identities that are deeply disturbing, but are couched in soft-spoken gentleness and thoughtful memes, and therefore are beyond reproach.
UAPs? Non-human intelligence? Superconductors?
All while the planet burns alive.
We live in the “futureless present,” the end of history. The convergence of all things.