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In love, we train ourselves to embrace the intensity, loving journey with @alinsonh
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My morning read: “You aren’t in the DSM” by Awais Aftab. A thoughtful piece about the history and limitations of American psychiatry’s disease model of mental health.
For the Books issue of @asteriskmgzn, @jkeatn recruited me to write about the DSM... its historical evolution, scientific disputes & cultural debates. I’ve tried to capture the texture of the rich discussions and the vast commentary that exist around the manual. Enjoy!
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Hi If you have an EDU email address, there are many great premium online services that you can get with a huge discounts or even for free.
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Ambivalence, as psychoanalyst Nancy McWilliams remarked, is ubiquitous, rather than in itself an indicator of mental illness. It is the state of holding conflicting desires, intentions, or beliefs, with, often, one side being conscious and the other hidden. https://t.co/GT2HQCpBOL
psychologytoday.com
Moral perfectionism, the excessive preoccupation with being perceived as good, is often a significant barrier to meaningful change, causing denial and defensiveness.
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I think that the reason affection is important is because I think, for me, a good life is an affectionate life, essentially. Adam Phillips
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Image 🧵 for psychodynamic friendly therapists, based on Malan’s triangles of conflict & persons; some added images on cultivating change, an intersubjective/relational perspective, and trigger compass of said affect/anxiety/defenses. Triangle of Conflict:
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Favorite shapes of each orientation Psychoanalytic: Triangles (mostly, except for some weirdo math stuff) CBT: Triangles ACT: Hexagon!!!
What I like about Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is that it is a wellness model of mental health. As opposed to most disease models (like the DSM), ACT concerns itself with what makes people healthy.
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@samhbarton Yeah. It’s tough at that age. I lost my shit several times back then. I highly recommend reading up on attachment parenting and hand in hand parenting and the book Listen. That is where we found the tools. That and a lot of teamwork with my wife and doing whatever was
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This book changed my life. Inside it was one of the most profound spiritual practices I have ever done. It completely transformed my relationship with myself, my daughters, and my business partners. 3 lessons from Patty Wipfler:
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The question I get asked the most is easily "How did you raise your daughters?" People who meet them are deeply impressed and always want to know what "technique" we used. The simple answer is that my wife and I never dealt punishment. And if we ever shamed them, we apologized
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How to criticize with kindness – the late, great philosopher Daniel Dennett on the 4 steps to arguing intelligently
themarginalian.org
“Just how charitable are you supposed to be when criticizing the views of an opponent?”
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This quote catches me in my throat every time I read it. The extraordinary variance in human experience. A researcher for whom human comfort feels so natural he assumed it was innate; children for whom human comfort is so foreign they do not even know it exists.
"Zeanah said he hadn’t realized that seeking comfort for distress is a learned behavior. “These children had no idea that an adult could make them feel better,” he told me. “Imagine how that must feel—to be miserable and not even know that another human being could help.”"
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When Kafka received the diagnosis of his terminal illness, he wrote little aphorisms that are just perfect.
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🆕 New post just dropped ▶︎ When the Real Reason for Therapy Finally Surfaces It can take months to reach the moment when everything changes. (full text 👇)
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The problem with the idea of waiting to have kids until you have faced your demons, which isn’t a bad idea, really, is that when you actually have kids, you’ll encounter demons that you never imagined you could possibly have, including all those you assumed you’d already faced.
The patterns you don’t confront don’t vanish, they just change hands: "You either face your demons, or they raise your children."
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Meaningful psychotherapy is often a process of mourning. To invest fully in life, we must mourn the past that never was and the futures that can never be.
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