A lot of men aren't interested in being patriarchs anymore. They're forever teenagers. Just want to have sex all the time and socialise with their friends. They're not building anything. They're not sacrificing anything. There's no greater goal. It's just perpetual adolescence.
If a man I respect is married, I keep my distance from his wife. I have no reason to be her friend, I'm his friend and thus by extension honour him by giving almost no attention to his wife. I do not want to form any type of emotional attachment to her, not even a platonic one.
The Long Road:
Men are invisible until they become successful and so the path to success is a lonely one, filled with setbacks and suffering he learns to thrive alone.
This is why when a man finally arrives, and the world suddenly decides it wants to know him, because now and…
Use your suffering to create beauty.
Do not let it go to waste. Create art.
Write, paint, draw, sculpt.
Channel your pain into the creation of something truly resplendent.
Make your curse a blessing.
Men don't like sharing their pain with women for the same reason parents don't like sharing their pain with children.
They don't think you can handle it, and they think they'll look lesser in your eyes.
And the thing is, they're usually right about both of those things.
As a man gets older, he gains more control over his ego, and thus his shadow.
He becomes more methodical, more selective with how he acts and reacts.
He is not oblivious to disrespect, but harder to offend.
He preserves his honour in less predictable and obvious ways.
He…
Man with no social obligations nor social or financial support still manages to be self-sufficient with modest but respectable savings from a low status job, pursues hobbies, keeps fit and has his own vehicle yet thinks he's a total failure.
These are the men I care about.
Taller men get away with things short men don't.
Ruthless men get away with things more lenient men don't.
And rich men get away with things poor men don't.
I don't make the rules, I just observe and announce.
Women complain men are horny and only care about one thing and that's true of most young men.. because if it wasn't true we would die out. Why? Because women are annoying. And it takes a man being horny to look past how annoying a woman is to take an interest in her.
If she's not obsessed with you, drop her.
Ask yourself now. Whatever her stupid name is - "does she fixate on me?" if the answer is no - remove all investment and energy.
I'm telling you, women are extremists. Clingy. Emotional. If they're mild with you, they don't love you.
Keeping Women In The Dark:
Sometimes a man has to say "Don't worry I've got this" or "I'll fix it" or "I'll work something out" even when he has absolutely no idea what to do, not out of egoism or a desire to be deliberately misleading, but because he doesn't have the luxury of…
When men are ruthless we implore them to open their hearts, but when their hearts bleed because they listened, we tell them to toughen up. We expect compassion from men who learned not to give it, because we first denied compassion to the men they used to be.
When they bleed and…
As men get older and more experienced, they stop caring about women so much and start investing time and energy in things that will guarantee them a return, instead of relationships that make them feel drained. Men learn they have to take care of themselves first or nobody will.
High trust societies don't survive contact with low trust societies, because the people from the low trust society view the goodwill of those from the high trust society as stupid and thus proceed to exploit the absolute crap out of their kindness until they become cynical.
A man can love his wife the way her father loved her, but a woman cannot love her husband the way his mother loved him, because a woman prioritises her own survival whereas a mother prioritises her son’s.
Look for your mother in your lover, and you will be disappointed.
You will regret your leniency far more than your ruthlessness.
Because if you were too cruel you can say sorry, but if you were too weak you can't say anything.
Tell son.
Men have a lot on their shoulders
Kids rely on men
Women rely on men
Who do men have to rely on? Themselves.
This is why men need friends
Being an isolated pillar of strength can wear on the best of men
And this is why so many men kill themselves
Look out for your brothers
When a woman hates you enough, she fantasises about you fucking her.
I know, it makes absolutely no sense.
And no, you shouldn't try to make any logical sense out of it whatsoever.
But yes, it's the truth.
I don't make the rules, I just observe the madness and tell the truth.
You pay for the sins of every guy that fucked her up before you met her. Her father, her ex etc.
Because the trauma from her suffering typically overshadows the wisdom from her experiences.
Women do not improve with use. They deteriorate.
Deep down everybody knows this.
As a man, the world doesn’t care how you’re feeling, whether you’re tired, or whatever. It only cares if you can perform. Can you perform or not? Yes or no? If you can, it’s interested in you, if you can’t, then it isn’t interested in hearing why you can’t. Perform or go away.
Women are sweet to the men they look up to and cruel to the men they look down on, in the same way they break rules for men they like and make rules for men they don't.
Her boundaries and demeanour change based on the man, which is why one man's bitch is another man's darling.
Nigerians are some of the funniest mfs on the internet.
And I've always got a lot of love for people with a good sense of humour, because it shows mental toughness.
They don't get offended easily, they suffer, they make jokes, they push on.
I respect that.
"He who is only an athlete is too crude, too vulgar, too much a savage. He who is a scholar only is too soft, to effeminate. The ideal citizen is the scholar athlete, the man of thought and the man of action."
― Plato
I strongly believe all capable men should practice being losers for a while so they can learn deeply and emotionally who doesn't care about them, and get a proper sense of just how cold this world is and what their place is in it as a success object that needs to bring value.
Manhood:
-Life is war
-You're judged by your usefulness
-You're a success object
-Few people if any genuinely care about you
-You're always blamed
-You require extreme self-reliance
-No one is coming to save you
-You're needed more than you're appreciated
Harsh truths for son.
Men have no inherent value.
Women and children are valued simply for existing
This is why boyhood to manhood is an especially rough transition for males.
Because they're no longer loved simply for existing.
Their worthiness must be proved, or they're nothing. And no one cares
Men rarely cry because they don’t use crying to manipulate others into giving them what they want, nor as a coping mechanism for dealing with everyday stress. Men only cry when they’ve experienced profound anguish. They don’t cheapen their tears by being frivolous with them.
Men need breaks from women like parents need breaks from children.
Space to speak and act as you please, not prioritise them, and to not define yourself in relation to your duties, but to express who you were before you committed to them.
Men who never get this lose their edge.
One of man's deepest desires is not to be a burden on anyone and to earn his way. Burdening others brings him shame. He aspires to self-sufficiency so he can be one that gives rather than takes. He does not pursue independence out of vanity, he covets self-reliance out of honour.
Next time you see someone complaining about declining birth rates, remember this.
These women aren't outliers. They have pretty average and unremarkable takes most women would agree with.
These women really stand no chance at all. They're not marriageable. Society failed them.
One doesn't become a great man without first becoming a broken man, repeatedly, if need be.
Because in order to rise from the ashes, you must first get burned.
You cannot circumvent the suffering. It is a feature, not a bug.
You have to pay your tuition fees to the game.
When men make a lot of money, they think "I can take care of my family with this", but when women make a lot of money they think "I don't need a man that makes less"
Common for men to support women, opposite is rare
The pay gap is fake news, but if it was real it'd be righteous
A boy doesn't truly become a man until he steps out of the shadow of his father to become his own man in his own right - unless his father was absent, in which case his graduation to manhood comes from becoming a competent, discerning and stable man without the guidance of a man.
Telling a poor man money isn't everything is like telling a homeless man housing isn't everything or a sick man health isn't everything - sure, you may be technically correct, but dismissing someone's focal point of struggle as irrelevant or exaggerated is socially unintelligent.
If a man’s never been heartbroken, don’t take his views on women too seriously because no matter what he reads his innocence hasn’t been lost yet. I dare say, perverse as it may sound, that heartbreak is a modern rite of initiation into manhood. Pain is sadly a necessary teacher.
Why So Many Men Are Checking Out Of Society:
People respond to incentives, and women are typically an incentive for men, but modern women are often arrogant, foolish, unempathetic and promiscuous and therefore do not provide a sufficient incentive for responsibility taking.
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Not taking women too seriously will improve your life in many ways.
You're more attractive to them when you're playful, and when you dismiss all the noise they generate and do what you need to do anyway, they cannot mislead you with their anxiety and fickle rationalisations.
In life man faces 3 deaths: the 1st death is cowardice, he becomes domesticated and risk averse, but tells himself he's civilized, the 2nd death is to become useless, to produce nothing of value and lose the ability to self-sustain, the final death is apathy - the loss of hope.
Every man should have a man who is at least 5-10 years older he can learn from, and a man who is at least 5-10 years younger he can teach.
Trickle down wisdom.
The only two real privileges are IQ and beauty.
If you are attractive, doors will open to you simply for existing.
If you are smart, you can work situations to your advantage.
Gender and race privilege are nonsense ideological concepts used by manipulative people to panhandle.
Crime pays. Cruelty pays. Being able to get away with breaking the rules pays. Competence pays and being competent at wickedness pays best. The world you live in has perverse incentive structures, rewarding the evil and punishing the good. Justice is rare, and mostly illusory.
Success isn't a lifestyle choice for men
It's a matter of life and death
It's a lifestyle choice for women
A woman who fails in academia or business can just give up and become a mother
She will still be wanted for who she is
Who is interested in a loser man?
Fucking nobody
Never tell a woman how much she hurt you. That kind of thing is a letter you never send. She won't care, and she'll just disrespect you further. So write it all out. Then burn it. Save your pain for God, because a woman doesn't deserve it.
Tell son.
An 18 year old woman is in a stronger position than an 18 year old man.
A 35 year old man is in a stronger position than a 35 year old woman.
Will not explain.
No matter your age you'll always wish you started younger, but today is the youngest you'll ever be again, so better to start late now than to start late later.
A woman's burden is to be pretty, a man's burden is to be successful.
There's more pretty women than rich men for a reason.
One of these things is easier.
She’s waiting for you to be successful.
Until she isn’t.
Because not every man can be successful, but no woman wants to be with a man who isn’t.
Feel the pressure. Feel the burden of performance. You play on a higher difficulty level, whilst they just judge.
Tick, tock.
You're not meant to start at zero every generation. You're not meant to have to earn your own house, because your family never left you a house. You are meant to reap the rewards of your ancestors and build on them. Intergenerational wealth is how your descendants escape slavery.
You don't teach men to respect women. You teach women how to be respectable. If she is well composed, thoughtful, modest, graceful etc then respect will flow naturally. I wouldn't want my sons to respect mediocre people just because they're female. That's entitlement. Earn it.
A woman that does not, cannot and will not respect a man’s authority does not deserve the benefits of a relationship with a man. She should remain eternally single, leftover, unchosen, and preferably childless so she does not impose great misery upon an innocent soul.
Weak men think impressing women will get them laid.
Losers.
Trying to impress women suggests you believe you're beneath them and thus must make them like you.
Hilarious.
Imagine believing women are above you and so you must perform for them for approval.
Straight in the mud.
When men are young they want to date women their own age when women their own age want to date older.
When women get older, they finally want to start dating men their own age, when those men want to date women that are younger. This really upsets older women.
Poetic, isn't it?
The more confident and shameless you are as a man, the more you can get away with. You will get away with things you never dreamed were possible, saying things even you think deserve punishment but instead finding yourself rewarded. You need only the grit to see it through.
Young women value themselves based on how much men want to sleep with them, which gives them a false high self valuation. If they valued themselves based on how much men wanted to marry them once they got to know them, they'd have a much more accurate estimation of their worth.
I think one of the most fundamental differences between a man and a woman is that a woman feels entitled to a high performing man irrespective of who she is or what value she brings, whereas a great many number of men don't believe they deserve a family unless they're successful.
Men used to have unbreakable friendships, because they went to war together, hunted together, and shared tough times. This bonded them together like brothers.
Nowadays many men are dishonourable and only out for themselves, because they aren’t bonding with the men around them.
Women and children inspire men to work harder, but their actual presence impedes them from doing so.
So men will want to work harder when they've got dependants to provide for, and yet those very same dependants lower his productivity if they are present.
Poetic, is it not?
@DudespostingWs
No context at all here, but slurred speech, weird eyes, she's either on drugs, has a mental disorder of some kind, or both. Very distressing for the poor animal. Glad it's with someone that doesn't think it's a handy projectile weapon.
The problem with women, is they need to be wise when they're young to best leverage their beauty into finding a man who will take care of them until they're old. But young women are by and large foolish. The wisdom comes too late, after much pain and much ageing.
The Ingratitude of Women:
Entitlement and resentment build easily within women, because it is a woman's nature to be ungrateful. Her higher trait neuroticism has her in more of a fear based and scarcity state, and therefore she is more prone to focusing on what she dislikes and…
A man is only your brother when you tell him you're at war, and his response is to ask what weapons he should bring.
Commitment to your cause without question and the willingness to personally sacrifice and inconvenience himself for your benefit defines brotherly love.
When resentful women meet sweet, feminine women they almost always try to corrupt them. You see, perpetually seething angry women feel threatened by positive femininity because they know they can't compete with it, so rather than aspire to emulate it, they try to sabotage it.
Trauma makes men, but breaks women.
That's why a woman's mistakes are a liability, but a man's are an asset
No, it isn't fair
And no, I don't make the rules
It's just the truth.
A man who hasn't been through sh*t will be a weakling, but a woman who has will be less feminine.
A young man has little value, a young woman has lots
But most women become less feminine with age whilst most men only become more masculine, as femininity is preserved by avoiding trauma, whilst masculinity's built from transcending it
Nature may be her friend, but time is his
Suffering men hate sharing their problems, because even when they need help they don't want to burden anyone.
But it's not a burden for a true brother to help you, it's their pleasure.
Remember that.