As someone who watched my attempted murderer (and murderer of my wife) declared guilty, I know the utter relief the family felt. I also know it doesn’t bring justice or peace. Justice is George Floyd alive. Prayers for the family as they continue to mourn.
I love this picture of my mom. Even though life broke her heart many times — and she couldn’t break the cycle of addiction — she never stopped smiling or laughing or finding joy in the mundane.
Courage doesn’t always roar, my friends. As I told one of my closest friends on my walk this morning — sometimes courage is putting one foot in front of the other when your soul is heavy.
Happy birthday to
@jamiehahn
. It is hard to believe that she would have turned 37 today. As has been said of others who died too young, she had every gift but the length of her time on this Earth. Today I hope those who knew and loved her will take time to remember her.
It is amazing how grief hits you. Just a bit ago I went to pull out my cell phone to call my dead Mom without thinking about it. I miss her every day, but it just is hitting hard today.
The first Mother’s Day without my Mom just hits differently. Thinking of all of those without a Mom, those who wanted to be a Mom and never could, those who want to be a Mom and aren’t there yet, and those who Mother all of the folks in their life without the title.
Seven years ago on April 24 Jamie took her last breath. I’ve never heard a silence so loud. And I had never had the experience of my whole heart shattering all at once.
Hey, you are doing great. Even if you are in your PJ's and drinking wine right now, I am so damn proud of you. This is a hard time and we're in it together. Don't give up.
October is always a challenging month for me. It has many landmark moments that are worth celebrating — but it also holds Jamie’s birthday (a day of mixed emotions) & now the anniversary of my mom’s death. It is a reminder of how hard it is here — and how good too.
My wife
@jamiehahn
and I were attacked six years ago today on Monday, April 22, 2013. This is the first time April 22 has fallen on a Monday since and I am reminded of how normal that Monday seemed. A busy day at work, a quiet drive home, and our normal Monday routines.
So often throughout this pandemic I've noted that I felt overly blessed. And I still do. But I have to acknowledge the past four days have been the hardest stretch since it started. It is important to say this part out loud because this is all so damn hard on all of us.
Finally working on an idea I've wanted to do for a long time... a true conference and festival focused on grief and loss. It is time we had a real conversation about what it looks like to lose someone, how we find meaning, and how we build support for resilience.
Mother’s Day hits differently when your biological Mom is dead. Thankful for the many other mothers in my life — and thinking of everyone today who is facing a more difficult day today.
Bravo to
@bcbsnc
for paying off the school lunch debt in five districts in the Piedmont Triad -- the second hungriest metro in the country by some measures -- as they end the
#GoThriveNC
Summit. The donation amounts to ~$450,000. cc:
@EducationNC
🍎🥕🌽🍕👏👏👏
We had a great life together. A year of becoming best friends, a year of dating, four years and a few days of being married. Life always presents challenges, but I knew she always had my back, even when I least deserved it. She was kind, generous, and brave.
As someone who by all rights almost wasn't alive at this point, I just want to say how very grateful I am to be here, to get to do the work, and to get to have the people I have in my life. It is a blessing I hope to never take for granted.
@JamesLarsenPFN
I am not entirely sure why people are comparing the 2020 debut to 2023 debut numbers. The question is where do they go from here. They are well in-line with the mid-season 2020 numbers at present and against top competition.
Three years ago today I was on the way to golf with friends when I received a call. The person on the other end was sobbing and all they could say was “Your mom…” and I knew.
She died of an accidental overdose. And I’ve missed her every single day since that call.
@BlueDevils
We won the regular season championship this year. Ya’ know, the one that matters. And we will be seeded higher than you. Enjoy opening weekend!
My wife and I were brutally attacked six years ago in just a few weeks. I woke up this morning remembering how close I came to not being here and grateful that I am here today.
The
@XFL2023
continues to draw strong ratings on cable outperforming legacy properties such as MLS and NHL. As well as doing better than the EPL, etc. Most importantly they are drawing well above time slot averages for their home networks.
For eight-plus years I’ve continued to pay for
@jamiehahn
’s cell plan so anyone can call her voicemail to hear her voice. I know at some point that will end, but it has provided some comfort in trying times.
How grief works: my best friend died three years ago and in that time I still haven’t been able to delete our text thread or her phone number from my contacts. I know at this point her number has been reassigned. But to me, it’ll always be her number. Forever.
The way that you are feeling this week is probably grief. It is hard to name because we do such a good job of hiding it... until it bursts out in the open.
My favorite take (*least favorite take) right now has to be the tweets attacking college students (large numbers of whom are vaccinated per the data) for being students. I understand the need for public health messaging. It’s the shaming and holier than thou that gets me.
Returning to work full time today after a few weeks off for bereavement leave. Deeply grateful for my colleagues who picked up the baton during my time away — and ready to go. Let’s get this work.
Delta Airlines is temporarily changing how people board; travelers whose seats are in the last row will board first, with the process continuing row-by-row to the front to minimize interactions. First and business class can board when they want, but are encouraged to wait.
Last night I had the distinct privilege of watching one of my best friends get married wearing
@jamiehahn
’s veil. I can’t imagine a better “something borrowed” and I remain unbelievably touched. Grateful to see how many of her ripples remain in this life of ours.
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@Mebane_Rash
, I can think of few in this state better suited for the Friday Medal. Your deep love for this state is a tribute to Bill Friday’s own love for NC. I look forward to our continued work together — and a heckuva lot more BBQ, breakfast tacos, and doughnuts.
Debating launching an infrequent newsletter focused on food in the Triangle — given how many folks ask me for recommendations, especially during the pandemic. Thoughts? Interest?
Hi. Hello. For the last several years I've been discussing the idea of a Grief Fest. Now we're bringing it to life on 10/25-10/27. The headliner will be bringing my friend
@noraborealis
to
@PullenChurch
to discuss grief and resilience. RSVP here:
One thing we heard this morning re: vaccine hesitancy. “Some people are just scared. If you can get them to have the conversation they will admit it — and then you can usually get them to get the shot.” — This reminds me of Mr. Rogers — anything mentionable is manageable.