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#SisterPlz
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Ten years ago my house was robbed and I was slut shamed for wearing a ‘behooda’ tshirt over a shalwar. You BEST BELIEVE that to this day I sleep in clothes that a daku would approve of no matter how hot it is and how tempting shorts are to sleep in during the summer😭
DHA phase 2 has a whatsapp group. This morning I posted about not having electricity or gas = we can’t cook or heat food. 3 aunties from the group private messaged me offering to send food & one succeeded in sending over fresh cooked Daal Chawal & Chicken Saalan ❤️
This is so wholesome. This is why we’re not allowed to visit each other and visas are impossible. Because it’ll kill the hate and that’s not good for politics and ratings and defense funding 🤷🏻♀️
@Typicalblkchick
@__Chandler
@kyalbr
@ReignOfApril
If not that, as a Muslim woman she probably expected to have to answer for a country she probably has roots in but isn’t actually a national of because that’s literally what Muslims live on a daily basis; answer for all Muslims, good or bad.
So many questions about why Sarah, a solid 10, chose Shanawaz, a two time divorced human red flag. Without knowing the details all I can say is, have you ever heard how people talk to women past 35? We’re ‘too old’ for single men our age so society tells us to compromise.
The gender switch Snapchat filter is really unfair. The men all turn into gorgeous women and the women all turn into the guys in our Facebook Others folder 😒
My
@CareemPAK
captain rn is a woman. The car smells of sanitizer, there are sequinned throw cushions, she’s polite & just asked me what kind of music I’d like her to play on the stereo. AND she’s actually following the map unlike most other captains 🙌🏼
One of the most intentionally cruel things desi parents say to their daughters is “Shaadi ke baad jo karna hai kar lena” to keep them from living with some degree of freedom. These parents KNOW FULLY WELL that shaadi ke baad, for so many women, is further clipping of wings.
I am not apolitical. I just have enough tact, and respect for relationships in my life to not disrespect anyone over politicians who live in mansions(ALL OF THEM) and who will NEVER EVER know the experiences of the common man. Choose your fighter but know the game is rigged.
Unpopular religious opinion, but as a practicing Muslim & a non-vegetarian, I just can’t reconcile with Bakra Eid. Not the religious context of it, but the excessive, exhibitionist occasion it’s become where you display your status & wealth through what you spent on your janvar.
Last night, my mom's childhood bestie(also a neighbor) showed up with oil in her hair & told my mom(also in her day-end sweaty fits) "Get in loser, we're getting Mr. Burger". Seeing my exhausted mother decide to go along with this impulsive plan was everything. She was glowing ❤️
He’s not around to see this tweet, but
#HappyFathersDay
to this man who didn’t bat a lash when his daughter came home from a bad marriage, two kids in tow & then took care of her & raised the two kids better than he raised his own! Proud to have taken his name ❤️
#MunirHussain
Dear Lord protect Nimra from Nida Yasir’s toxic and exploitative show. Our media has a tendency to over expose someone as a ‘product’ & try to gentrify the ones who don’t fit a certain standard of visual finesse. We ruined the Chai Vaala. Leave Nimra alone.
I used to be that 😍 Karachiite who would look at the ruin & rubble around Karachi & romanticize it as being ‘rough around the edges but oh Karachi’. Unfortunately the filter is gone & I JUST CANT SEE anything redeemable here. It’s a sad, angry & neglected city & no one cares.
Not gonna get involved in last night’s Nana/Uncle/Rishtedar tea spillage but just wondering why we don’t hold Bhutto lineage to the same shame as Zia ones when it’s literally just about one having better suits & finesse & the other being an easy caricature. Both did SOLID damage.
People whining about Humayun Saeed getting cast in The Crown make it sound like he got his phuppo ka beta to do sifarish for him. This is a big budget Netflix show & he probably wasn’t the first guy they auditioned. The man earned the role whether you like him or not 🤷🏻♀️
#NotAFan
My favourite foreign woman travelling in Pakistan just dropped a video loaded with truth bombs that might make the ‘lovers of gora tourists’ uncomfortable. But she’s honestly the only one NOT projecting a rose tinted image while still being respectful
Zainab Abbas's old tweets are stupid & offensive. But India running this whole WC like a spoilt petulant child, gatekeeping an International event, is insane. Take a book out of Qatar running the Football WC. No one was kept out BUT everyone was made to respect their religion.
Have you ever said No to a very $$$ job opportunity because your brain & gut just KNEW the money wouldn't make up for the stress, anxiety & work/life imbalance the job would bring on? I just did. I don't regret it. But I am thinking about my actions & if I did the right thing :/
Nobody looks at what the woman has achieved. Her education, her accolades or awards. Her personality or looks. They see her age. Staying single is unbearable for society so she’s pushed to compromise. Lower her standards.
Sibling’s childhood buddy’s wife was stuck in the Murree blizzard. They’d been stuck since Thursday night & were trapped for 36hrs. Locals were knocking & checking on cars. Helped them out. They walked for 8hrs. She says numbers of casualties are being under represented.
Hello, my kitten being Nebulized is the cutest thing you’ll see today! His name is Sultan, he’s just a bit clogged up(nothing scary) and please say MASHALLAH 😬🙏🏼
Nothing wrong with being divorced or widowed but we all know the context of why he said what he said. Single independent women past 35 have no place here. Society is more comfortable with unhappily married women than happy single women.
Slow Sunday evening & just saw Shahid Afridi on a show so am reminded of how he will always be revered by my family. Here’s why:
More than 2 decades ago, my Abu had a large ulcer burst in his stomach. He almost died of blood loss & was at AKU for weeks (1)
It’s a slow day today so I’m gonna do a story thread I’ve been meaning to do for ages. At some point it will seem like I’m making shit up, but there’s enough old friends here who know it’s completely accurate. The year is 2006/7 and the Munirs experience their first ‘Daka’ 💆🏻♀️
Women know. Because their friends and sisters who work 9-5's TELL them. I, as someone who works a 9-5 & also does housework(cuz woman), KNOW that the housework is more backbreaking. But arguing with a man who is convinced it isn't is futile & has consequences for most women.
This is Abdul Muhammad, former tea boy at my AlmaMater, IVSAA, where over the years he started assisting in the fine art studio. His interest in print making was noticed & the students & teachers encouraged him to practice. Today was the last day of his first exhibition
#SoProud
So last night, a close friend messaged me asking to RT her tweet where she’s posted an illustration her 10yr old made for a competition for J K Rowling’s new book
#TheIckabog
. It’s a competition but Pakistan doesn’t qualify for it. She asked me to tag JKR.
My dog, who loves car rides but hates the vet, escaped her leash yesterday. After 20mins of the vet's staff trying to catch/find her around the block, my mom goes to the car, opens the door & shouts, "BUSS KAR DO SPARKY! CHALO GHAR!" And out appears a dog who wants to go home! 😅
Please re-imagine this scenario if Jemima wasn't a rich, white woman. A desi woman playing the same role(all kosher, supportive, candid & enabling) would have been slut-shamed for not being over her ex-husband. But please impose the gori ex-wife on his current wife's moment.
Guys is it just my family or do your elders also have an obsession with white tube lights. Like it is a power struggle to changing the lighting to yellow where even if we(sibling & I) win, we can’t remove the tubelights cuz when we’re not around those get used 😶
The details of Noor’s ordeal have one glaring oversight.
EVERYONE saw something bad happening and escalating.
NO ONE called the police.
Arrest the guards outside his house. Arrest his parents who knew he was holding her hostage. Arrest the therapy works staff present.
@kissmyelite
So many of these influencer ‘drops created from hard work and creativity’ are essentially just fancy fonts and an adapted design from an existing design. And they aren’t cheap. Why wouldn’t one just spend that money on an actual brand?
I’m confused why we can’t just compliment Kate and her outfits(if you like them) without putting down local women and how they choose to dress up. Yes Kate looks lovely in minimal make up & no print but now you want all Pakistani women to make a lesson out of it & dress like her?
From my personal experience, I once had a GP tell me to get married. I wasn’t feeling well & he felt that would be something to uplift my life. To quote, I was told to look around, there would definitely be a divorced or widowed man I’d find it suitable to marry 😳
Men will identify and seek out the prettiest and most outgoing of the lot and then proceed to punish her for all the things he liked about her and make/force her to change.
Just wanted to conclude this thread by saying that I’m in that rare situation where my family does not believe I am ‘expired maal’ & HATES when I say I’m off the market. The same goes for friends. Yet, society & folks outside my inner circle/family manage to get to me too 😳
After years of trying to convince her, finally today my mother is undergoing a surgery which will improve the quality of her life. Inshallah. Please say a prayer for a safe surgery and a quick recovery with manageable pain(we know there’s gonna be pain🤦🏻♀️) 🙏🏼
Every few days a girl will apologetically & anonymously post her issues with a toxic partner, who puts her down/gaslights her, on a women-only platform and wonder if she’s overreacting. A part of me wishes I could compile them all for men to see what they put women through.
Random cute animal post. This is Scooby, a stray in my neighborhood who my family(& several others love & feed) since puphood. Haters relocated him once but we found & brought him back. Every morning Scooby has breakfast with us & sleeps off the afternoon sun under the fan ❤️
Just spotted this opposite Frere Hall. I wouldn’t have noticed them if I hadn’t heard them confidently chatting and laughing next to my car completely oblivious to my and other people’s fascinated ogling ❤️
To give context to any future confusing tweets & at the risk of revealing ACTUAL info about myself, Dear Twitter, im currently at the airport headed to London for a year for grad school. And because I rarely have anything to brag about... it’s a fully funded scholarship! 🙈
This tweet by
@maulana_banana
which I found amusing once hasn’t aged well. Still on point & relevant but the context is somber now. Even in death we must uphold our reputations and our family’s izzat.
People hated Soul Bitches. Because women exchanged stories & became smarter about what they should or shouldn't tolerate. Women told each other about their legal rights. Women gave advice to those in need. The page empowered women. This is sad. Not shocking.
Just to clarify, for non-followers, Abu was Munir Hussain, a cricket commentator who founded Urdu commentary & served as an enabler and mentor for many young cricketers 🙏🏼
Appreciating a city & it’s public spaces should not be a gender privilege. Of the Pakistani women who are privileged enough to travel abroad, 100% will mention the liberating feeling of ‘being a pedestrian’, using public transport & just accessing public spaces 🤷🏻♀️
Can we normalize being absolutely devastated at losing a pet and not getting over it right away? We lose a piece of our heart, a member of our family. Don’t dismiss it as frivolous because it was an animal!
@mahwashajaz_
Mahwash, you’ve built a certain credibility here. I think if you really wanted to apologize to him you should have done it directly & if this tweet is alluding to his innocence then atleast share the damning evidence you’ve become privy too. This is vague & a tad irresponsible 😳
Why does Shireen Mazari always tweet like she’s a regular citizen appalled by what’s happening in the country but also
@powerless
like the rest of us 🤷🏻♀️
Today my family and I lost our beloved cat of 10yrs, Rano. She was an OG twitter cat before cat twitter took off here. She was the undisputed Queen of my cat loving household & to say my family & I are devastated would be putting it lightly. We are in mourning 💔
Yesterday my Nani passed away. Mrs Munir Hussain, who despite being married to a ‘famous’ man, was revered & known independently in every area of life she engaged in. She was the matriarch who kept her big (literally)fat Punjabi clan tied together under one roof.
It’s a slow day today so I’m gonna do a story thread I’ve been meaning to do for ages. At some point it will seem like I’m making shit up, but there’s enough old friends here who know it’s completely accurate. The year is 2006/7 and the Munirs experience their first ‘Daka’ 💆🏻♀️
Yesterday was my Uni reunion & every time someone said, “you haven’t changed a bit!” I would jokingly respond with an, “I didn’t get married” as explanation.
The number of married women who knowingly and understanding nodded as of what I said made sense is mind boggling 😅
I think she’s being smart in terms of wanting to feel productive. Sometimes these things are needed to not feel like you’re bumming at work & to separate work time from down time. Good for her 👌🏼
I’ve grown up knowing Aitbar by Vital Signs is a lovely song. But revisiting it as an adult is just a whole new level of feels. What a beautiful song ❤️
I can’t imagine how Karachi will physically recover from this. We’ve been neglected under the most normal conditions. Now we’re ACTUALLY in pieces. This rain has ruined us. The roads look like war zones 💔
My three year old cousin, who I COULD SWEAR JUST LEARNED HOW TO TALK, looked me up and down yesterday and said, “Kahan ja rahi ho itni stylish ban ke” and I am in awe not only of her context filled vocabulary but of her on point observations 😂
Today on our coffee table I saw a club brochure. Was informed by Mom that “Nawaz designed it & printed it in his press”. Her voice was full of pride/awe & I followed suit with praises of my own for Nawaz. Why? Because Nawaz used to be a tea boy at my grandfather’s office.
We’re getting it wrong. The (handful of)BBCD women appalled by the things Pakistani women marched for aren’t conservative. They’re irritated because they sit on a high horse of having inherited first world rights & to see women back home catching up irks them
#ThatsTheChai
Told someone about new job. They congratulated me while adding, “Mujh se toh job nahin hotee. Daddy ka buss ye business hai aur mein ne NGO khola” to which I said, “meray daddy ki koi business nahin thee” He got what I meant but added “Daddy ne SIRF 10lakh diye mujhay!” I LOLED!
Sometimes I’ll type out a long WhatsApp message, foresee the commitment to a conversation I’m making, delete my response and add a quick “Hahahaha”
#Done
I'm surprised this girl is having to write a whole thesis justifying this tweet. What's wrong with wanting this? She didn't say she has control over it or can achieve it. She aspires. Women don't hate the joint family system. They are wary & scared of it because of bad precedence
I wanna marry into a funcional family where they have huge dawats, holidays, family events and all that. i want to be able to go get breakfast with my mother in law & go shopping with his siblings. I don't want it to be just "US" I want a complete family😭
All that changed. We have massive locks now. A padlock on the main door. CCTV camera & other things paranoid people do. Mostly because it happened again a few years later(in the middle of the day. I wasn’t there)
Also, I never wear shorts to sleep now 😳
How did people suddenly wake up to vaccines? Is it REALLY the fear of their SIM cards getting cancelled? Because potential death was always on the table 🤷🏻♀️
Says very little help from the army till too late. Meaning when all that’s left to do is recovery of bodies. Lots of them. And despite blizzard predictions, roads and routes hadn’t been blocked. This could have been avoided! Accounts are gut wrenching 💔
Conclusion: We called the police. We got the call about our car. We were too scared to leave the house.
We called up a carpenter & installed UGLY latches to EVERY DAMNED DOOR! Called up ADT & had it installed.
AND I wore shalwar kameez to work for a solid two weeks 😂🤷🏻♀️🙈
My sibling, living in a country with nice weather and lots of lovely open public spaces, like parks and public events(farmers markets etc) with proper SOPs being followed: “I miss home”
Me, locked down in Karachi: “STFU”
You know I can’t stop thinking about how Noor managed to escape by jumping off the balcony only to have the guards stall her till that monster came and dragged her back in.
She got away 💔
@sundiiiii
@curlistani
I was 16 on my first Umra and had a Pakistani guy(Cuz Urdu) whisper ‘sweet nothings’ in my ear while I was doing the Tavaaf. It was one of those eye opening moments pre-MeToo-Twitter-wokeness. I couldn’t fathom why he wasn’t afraid God would strike him down with lightning 🙄
Last night mamu was telling us about a former classmate of his who might get 20yrs in the US for fraud over ‘some blood testing stuff’
Me: Did he work with Elisabeth Holmes?
Him: Pata nahin vo kon hai
Me: what’s his name I’ll Google.
Literally Sunny Bilwani 🙄
There is nothing religious about showing off your wealth, being inconsiderate about your qurbani waste(animal guts on every roadside & blood soaked streets, not actually knowing religious context. A tv show interviewed people on the street. Most didn’t know the
#EidUlAzha
story.
You know what is hell for people with anxiety? Spending a lifetime avoiding having to answer the phone/make phones calls only to end up in a pandemic where your entire professional life relies on CALLS. Calls that you can’t avoid even with your heart racing at the thought 😭
“First you’re wearing these trashy clothes! Then this FASHION!!! You know what we do to girls like you? We thrash them! Look at Dr sahab. SO HANDSOME! SO LAYAK FAYAK”
Sibling, wearing a banyaan & shorts, now looks more worried for himself than me. “YOU SHOULD BE LIKE HIM!”
🤔
My cat ripped my upper lip open and as I stood there holding my bleeding face together, while sibling told them he was taking me to the hospital, the last thing the women of the house yelled out was “BILLO SE NARAZ NA HONA!!!”
#BilloTheCat
My dad when I left extra lights switched on around the house:
" TUWAADA DADA OIL REFINERIES NAE CHAD K GYA!!"
My dad when the cat knocked the 50 inch television on the floor:
"Maown jee ye aap ny kya kia" (in baby voice)
CBC showed up to shoot dogs in my neighborhood. Residents caught the shooters, took them to the police thana & are taking legal action against, not them but, their bosses for breaking the law cuz you can’t shoot live ammunition in residential areas. Don’t mess with our dogs!
Someone accurately commented that this is why men hate these pages. They allow women to vocalise the abuse generations of Pakistani women have faced with no avenues for advice or support because ‘these are private matters’! Bullshit!These pages help. With advice & resources.
Someone posted she was in an abusive relationship on Soul Sisters Pakistan & needed to get out with her two teenagers. Couldn’t seek refuge with parents as her husband was threatening them already.
A woman offered her a whole apartment for free for a month! And legal help!🥹😭❤️
Locals got them out of the car & told them which way to trek. And asked them to knock on windows of cars to check on others. They did. Silence from most. Also said they saw people falling off steep hill sides due to lack of visibility. Horrific account.
@isthisstillme
@Bluemagicboxes
Women leave on time because they finish on time with less smoke breaks because they know ghar ja ke aur kaam hain. Men don’t get judged for working late so work with a more relaxed pace & get praised for overtime when work could have been finished sooner. Been there seen that!
Turns to sibling, “what’s the landline number? We’ll call you and tell you where we are leaving your car!”
Wah
“Acha amma! Khuda Hafiz! Next time we’ll take you on a drive to sea view! We’re family men too”
Naani nods in disbelieve 😳
I’m confused about everyone(yes EVERYONE seems to be) travelling up North. I get we’re all knee deep in cabin fever & I’d LOVE to go too. But weren’t we NOT supposed to travel and spread germs & potentially infect locals of the areas. EVERYONE can’t possibly have a place there :/
I’m so proud of
@itsmeeshashafi
for her courage in speaking out about
#AliZafar
. Even for an empowered and strong woman like her, taking on
#Lahore
social scene’s Golden Boy takes guts. Enough people will jump to his defense! But just as many women with stories on him 🤞🏼
To clear up the argument that the “Dick pic” placard from the
#AuratAzadiMarch2019
didn’t represent women of underserved classes... it did! The sign isn’t talking about just literal dick pics. It’s talking about unsolicited ‘exposure’ to dicks. Which domestic workers do get.