A soul that escaped barriers of patriarchy & believes in feminism but is called "Kharab Aurat" because she speaks for herself and challenges the norms & culture
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My handle is “Kharab Aurat” but it does not mean my profile has anything to do with sexual pleasure.
It is “Kharab Aurat” bcz this is a name society gave me.
When women does something challenging & society couldn’t accept the change bcz they’re too narrow minded, they say-
When men don’t have anything else to add to the argument, they end up turning women into “prostitutes”.
Oh, a woman bruised their tiny ego? a woman called out their abusive behavior? well that woman must be a prostitute, because how dare she.
Also, why blame prostitution? Wtf.
Me & my sister (divorced couple years ago) went to meet some new friends. During conversation one of them asked my sister about her relationship status & she said “Divorced”.
And the woman did not stutter when she said “Congratulations on your divorce”.
It felt good to hear that.
Things that society need to understand that when we talk about equality, we aint talking about biological equality. As feminist, we do not deny biological differences.
When we say women need equality, it’s based on opportunities, rights, decisions, wage & other important issues.
I belong to a village where when a woman dies, the mosque does not announce her name but instead they call her by her father, brother, or husband’s name. E.g if a woman name Rokhana dies, the mosque wont announce “Rokhana haq rasidali da” instead they will say “De planki (A man)-
Early marriages does not save you from anything. It only adds more responsibilities to your life & for girls it pause their dreams. They do not learn to achieve dreams by their own but have to incorporate entire family & then kids?
Early marriage is just a tool to control girls.
A Friend told me he is blessed with a daughter. I congratulated him, wished him that his daughter grow up in a safe environment, & is never discriminated on basis of gender & may she get all equally opportunities of growth.
& He got offended by it coz I bring feminism everywhere?
The “Islam” of Pakistani muslims revolves around 3 major things:
1. Zina
2. 4 marriages
3. Finding ways to associate women with lollypops, oranges, and cars.
Oh, and cherry on top is “blasphemy”.
That’s all.
There’s no win in this. If a girl feel safe, you’re just a normal person. The mentality that making women feel will give you reward of “win” is problematic. Its not always about being safe with you. Do you call out your friends on their sexism, or just pretend good around girls?
In 2008, Alliance Against Sexual Harassment released a calendar based on Sexual harassment against women.
It included a variety of characters that illustrated the harassment that Pakistani women had to endure on a daily basis.
I believe the 2023 Twitter deserves to see that.
My friend’s mom passed away recently in Pakistan. It���s sad. But a couple weeks later I saw her Mom’s tombstone photo in her phone. It said Zoja-e-*husband name* in Urdu.
The woman lost her life & with that lost her identity. She definitely was more than a wife & a mom; herself.
I hate it when ppl argue that Before Islam infants were buried alive. It’s not like that now.
Well, ok girls were killed the moment they were born, but now they have to live a whole life just to get raped, harassed, & then killed in name of honor.
What is the difference at all?
If I die & my body is sent back to my village, I would want the mosque to say my name out loud! say my name bcz thats my identity. I dont want to be buried as someone’s wife, daughter, or sister. I want my village mosque to say my name loud so world knows whose funeral it is!
Khaza/khor/lur haq rasidali da”.
We as Pashtun dont recognize woman’s identity on their funeral. When funeral is announced, its associated with men. It is fucking disturbing. patriarchal norms have trapped us so much that woman has to live through a man identity their entire life
You can be acquitted of a murder in less than 4 years (honor killing), but if you criticize army you will be in jail for 5 years.
Pakistan has an interesting judiciary system.
One thing that Pakistani celebrities proved is that they do not have any brain cells.
You have a platform, resources, opportunities, & access to information, and yet you still chose to be a fucking dumbass.
Dear Pakistani women who thinks Aurat March didn’t address issues of common women,
If you think that women of Aurat March are not highlighting enough issues, then grab a placard, write about that issue, & join the March. Be that first person who raises that issue.
#AuratMarch2023
A decade ago, when I used to hear about divorces, I would get upset & used to think that something really bad happened.
But now when I hear divorce news, I only get positive feelings bc I know an unhappy/ unhealthy relationship ended. Someone gathered courage to walk out.
And then they ask me, but why you hate men and this country so much.
Because love can not liberate here. Women get killed because they show interest in life, because they dream, and they love. Women pay the price with death because how dare she existed once.
Because people usually respond with “Oh”, followed by a “Sorry”.
They do say it’s good that the person took divorce but after they hear their entire story & reason behind it.
I have said “Congratulations” to other people but to hear it from someone else, fir my sis, was a joy.
How is this beautiful? Spending 30 years away from family, only focused on earning bc that’s what society expect from men. Then grandmother spent her entire life cleaning, cooking and washing & taking care of entire family & waiting.
How is this definition of love or beautiful?
My maternal grandfather sacrificed his 30 years in saudia earning for the family never seeing her family face and my grandmother use to do all the other house chores
Marriage is s beautiful bond don't add the tag of "responsibility" to it
Happy Mother’s day to all desi girls who are baby sitting their brown boyfriends and are taking care of them bc their brown man babies have mommy issues and thinks they needs be took care of all time.
#MothersDay
There you go. I fixed your profile photo brother. MA you look so safe and secure in your new hijab. Now change your pfp to this.
Maturity is when you realize hijab is a restriction and not a choice or protection.
My brother gifted me his winter jacket last year. A male winter jacket & it has like 3 pockets ON INSIDE. I can put my keys in them, money, cards, ANYTHING.
Then I have my own winter jacket I got from ZARA which has pockets that can barely fit my hands.
But it has a belt though.
Every time we desi women post something that benefits women, why do desi men feel the need to come & snatch it away and give their 2 cents; which we never asked for in the first place. We do not want your validation. Women posting something is not an invitation for your opinions.
(1) If you are a newly married couple in Pakistan. Your relationship is not going good and you think things are not setting right between you and your partner. DO NOT BEAR A CHILD.
If you think a child will make things right in your life, IT WONT. The only thing it will add to +
Please do not tell your friends who do not want to have children that it’s just a phase or they will know once they hold their own child, or any concept of children that you find attractive. Also, do not tell them it’s an investment of lifetime. That’s bullshit.
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So, if an 18 year old girl is old enough to make her own decision of marriage, & has the right to decide for herself, Then why do you all lose your brain cells when 22+ yo women come out on roads to protest for their rights in March & ask for right to decision making?
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When extremists like Khadim Rizvi protested, entire Islamabad was on standstill. They blocked Faizabad, damaged cars & property, while exercising their right to protest.
But peaceful Baloch protesters are denied entry into Islamabad?
That’s hypocrisy!
#MarchAgainstBalochGenocide
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@MahrangBaloch_
leading
#MarchAgainstBalochGenocide
protesters entered Islamabad, but officials blocked the roads. She questioned if the authorities owned copyrights to Islamabad Press Club and insisted that if they didn’t permit her, a protest would be held on the road.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT.
ACCESS TO SAFE ABORTION IS A HUMAN RIGHT
#InternationalSafeAbortionDay
@Aftab_Hazarvi
@FeministAsFukc
You patriarchal men think that to respect women is to hide her from world and hide her identity. Also, Istg, You men do not have the right to say anything when it comes to women & their identity.
Take your opinion and siuya! 🙃
In another post, Tribune shared that 114 cases of child abuse were reported in Pakistan in the month of August alone. And Many cases are never documented.
In Pakistan, a child is sexually abused every two hours. If this isn't concerning, what is?
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How many times do we have to remind PM that divorce rate has nothing to do with western culture or Hollywood movies. It is utter shameful to hear a person talk shit about divorce when he himself has been through multiple.
We agree that divorce rates were min back in days -
1. Women are not an object or property.
2. Women are human beings and not some random man’s honor.
3. Mard ki ghairat khabi aurat ki shalwar se agay bhari bhi hai k nahi bus ghoom ghoom kar aurat k kapron per akar ruk jati hai?
Forget consent, men in Pakistan do not even understand “women only”. The number of men that tried to enter into “all woman” space was astronomical.
What part of it men do not understand? What makes you think you even have the right to enter into space that clearly restricts you?
So they decided to award Ali Zafar with pride of performance? More than achievement, I think its a sympathy award. The way our society sympathies with sexual harassers is by providing them with the best they could. Pakistan, trying to make him proud of himself, & thats fucked up.
Other countries: Let’s not wear white because the bride is wearing white.
Pakistani: Oh, I was married 10y ago but let me just wear my wedding dress that might be much heavier than Bride’s dress. Let’s all wear bridal/red so ppl couldn’t recognize bride unless she is on stage.
#ToxicCultureOVERLOAD
One of kids says “Hide your faces”.
Romanticization of snatching childhood from kids just so grown men do not sexualize them is toxic. This aint cute bc it shows how toxic a culture can be to women & children.
& No, men has no right to defend this oppression
Year ago, I was bashed on Twitter when I talked about taboos related to women’s graves.
It makes me angry, how easy it is in patriarchal society to lose your entire identity/existence just like that.
Her grave has husband’s name & thats like a full stop on her identity. Vanished.
When I moved out of Pakistan & started living an independent life, I developed a false belief that just because I moved out & can speak up, it will be now easy for me & people around me to be different and not get as much affected by patriarchy as we used to when back home.
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Amazing. He is extremely patient and he handled this stupid misogynist really well. These YouTuber literally has no sense of questioning. So proud of this kid for calling out the do takay ka youtuber journalist when he objectified women.
Listen to this 2 min audio, it’s amazing how this young boy stands up for women and counters this bully YouTuber
He made me proud 🥲
A lot of people can learn from him
#AuratMarch2023
3 years ago on this day
#MashalKhan
was lynched by a mob in his university on basis of false blasphemy allegations. 3 years & it still breaks our hearts that our country didn’t do anything in these years to protect its citizen. The blasphemy charges are still used as benefit tool
The amount of hate HUM AWARDS received for their fashion style was not even shocking, specially from Diaspora (as always)
First of all, No it was not a cultural night so No they were not supposed to represent culture all and every time. They are not supposed to hold the basket+
“I am a woman, but I have never been harassed in this country”.
If you’re never harassed, that’s amazing that you do not have to go through the trauma.
But,
There is also a difference between actually not getting harassed & not being able to realize what harassment is. There are+
@yunesh_K
This is not love, it’s slavery. And WTH, the guy didn’t even had a bit of sense to say “I LOVE YOU” to her face, and why was she romantizing being a maid rather than being a wife. This is a very fucked up concept of happy marriage life.
Of course, in eyes of men/misogynist, victim will always be “man”. The fault is of the 50yo who was abusive & manipulative, not the 18yo who was manipulated into believing that she can get married to 50yo. Stop saying country warned her, no, y’all taunted her. She was manipulated
She is a child. She is unaware and wrong. She said it’s not her right to stop her husband from marrying 4th time. IT IS!
It is your constitutional & religious right to say “No” to your husband’s 4th marriage.
She needs awareness and education and some common sense.
This is🔥. Henna is a traditional art of temporary tattooing & it has no gender.
I remember during my school time our PT would apply henna on one of his fingers in EID bc he did not have a sister & it was one of their tradition.
MEHENDI DOES NOT HAVE A GENDER ♥️ it’s for everyone
I just found out that Men Bleed too and experience menstruation cramps. Apparently they even know more about period cramps than the entire sex that actually go through it every month.
During all my 160-170 cycles I had so far, I never realized that I was a sick feminine Ladies.
Happy Father’s day to only those fathers who saw potential in their daughters & provided them with same opportunities as they did for sons. Happy fathers day to only those fathers who never discriminated among his children.
Rest who discriminated does not deserve to be celebrated
Do not go around and tell to women who demand equality that will you be okay if a man hits you like he hits his other fellows. (First of all no one should be hitting anyone), or would you lift a 60kg weight like the body builder does?
That’s just fucking bullshit.
One of my mutual got divorced 3y ago & finally started dating again. Her only worry is, what if she breaks up with this guy & then finds another, which means she would’ve had sexual relationships with 3 men as if she’s characterless.
No matter where you go, patriarchy follows.
Homosexuality is Pakistan’s favorite label. Whenever they don’t understand an issue, or grasp a concept, they put the label on it.
Women speaking up for rights? HOMOSEXUALITY
Transgender bill?
HOMOSEXUALITY
Transgender representation?
HOMOSEXUALITY
Gender equality?
HOMOSEXUALITY
No. Hijab is not our culture. Hijab never was our culture. Do not make it our culture. That’s a culture of the Saudia, do not mix those together. Keep your Al-Bakistan mentality to yourself.
Yesterday I had a full convo with one of my male friend who believed that women DID blasphemy in AM. After educating him on so many things he agreed but ended with, “Han lekin dekho it all started with Feminists”.
Well I had to block that shit.
I lost a good friend to misogyny.
Also, its not like the guy told me he had a girl & I directly said that to him.
No. we had a convo, I Congratulated him, told him I am so happy & it’s such a good news & blah blah conversation & then in end I sent similar wish.
So No, this is not an inappropriate wish AT ALL. Wtf
So when you wear hijab you become more porous and less dense?
If that’s the science behind it then shouldn’t men also wear hijab so they can float?
Next time you shouldobjectify women with something creative, we are done being compared to lollipop, orange, cars, & sweets.
ppl saying this is from Britain & not Pakistan as if these people would never approach such website in Pakistan.
Secondly, the ad was on a very very Pakistani page. The picture also shows Pakistan endorsing it.
Lastly, If it happens in PK, a lot of you would sign up free, so stfu
Your daily reminder:
Traditions can be oppressive. Just bc it’s a tradition that was enforced upon a specific target group ages ago, does not mean we have to preserve traditions & culture.
Rejecting traditions will not make you lose your identity! It will only benefit future gen.
Who says you can’t have house help in America? Of course you can if you pay them the amount of wage that has been set by the government.
Oh, wait! She meant to say she can hire house help for $14/month & exploit them in Pakistan whereas in North America you have to pay $14/hour.
Actor Hira Mani believes Pakistanis are incredibly lucky to have the luxury of house help, something that isn’t available to her in the United States, where she is currently vacationing.
For more:
#etribune
#etlifeandstyle
First of all, you and your baba might need to enroll yourselves in classes for basic communication.
Secondly, if you could see the eyes of a woman in a shuttlecock burqa, then you are a legend for looking so deep into eyes that you can see them beyond the drapes.
Bold of him to assume rich don’t steal.
Also, rape has nothing to do with relationship status of man & his non-active/frustrated sexual life.
Lastly if marriage prevents rape then how would you explain marital rape?
Explain the assaults that happens by the elderly in families?
I nearly forgot about all the characters, yet I vividly remember Ghuran Chatto.
When the calendar was published, I was 13 years old & Ghuran Chatto drew my attention because I related to it. & it stayed with me till this day.
Here are the rest of the artwork.
Artwork:Sabir Nazar
If woman bring male friend home, have a boyfriend, hangs out with men, defies all the norms your society has set up for women, it still doesn’t mean the world automatically got the right to character assassinate her. No. THAT IS HER CHOICE. And no man can kill her.
#EndFemicide
Omg! Thank you sir for enlightening me on body issues of my own sex. It warms my heart when I see men knowing more about period than women.
Thanks for saying we are sick. I should book myself an appt. with doc & will make sure to print your tweet on A4 paper to show it to my doc.
My wife caught me cheating on her twice, but guess what, bc I am a Man so I will just joke about it.
wife? Oh, yk, “boys will be boys”. If we see opportunity, we grasp it. It’s not our fault. Its women that come at us even when they know we’re married.
Whats extra marital affair?
I am not implying that you should compare traumas or tragedies, but if you know how to show sympathies and how to speak up for the one who are suffering then you shouldn’t ignore the children of Afghanistan also. 💔