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Caring about Dignity is a new website that will amplify stories from people about their experiences of single-sex care and dignity in care. You can submit your story or ask for a call with someone to discuss your story here:
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“The NHS has apologised to a woman who was left “embarrassed and distressed” after a nurse with stubble and a deep voice was going to carry out her cervical smear test at hospital.
The woman requested a female NHS nurse to perform the intimate procedure but was dismayed when a
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A healthcare professional has contacted us concerned about one of his patients. "I have a 80+ year old woman patient denied personal care and labelled‘difficult’ by social services because she wouldn’t let a (transwo)man help her with intimate care."
#SexMatters
#SingleSexCare
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It is deeply concerning that Melissa Poulton/Matthew Viner is a health care assistant as well as a safeguarding lead working with SEND children. That someone in this position should find it funny/appropriate to share such ‘jokes’ is alarming.
@TheGreenParty
have done no due diligence on Matthew Viner, amongst the ‘sissy’ content on his Pinterest (which is in his own name), he has shared a number of ‘jokes’ including this one
@carla_denyer
how much longer will you defend this man?
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A vulnerable elderly woman was distressed after being sent a male carer in the night. The daughter says "any strange man turning up in a woman's house in the middle of the night would be terrifying. How that wouldn't be obvious is beyond me."
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A woman's decades-long struggle to get same-sex care - recently told her views were "not acceptable in the modern world."
We have recently been contacted by a disabled woman with a history of past sexual abuse who is battling to get care providers to respect her right to
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Woman needs a chaperone; male nurse in a dress volunteers and woman is left distraught:
A woman has recently been in touch to relay her frightening experience in A&E- being provided with a male chaperone when she had requested a female.
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It is extremely concerning that the right of this male carer to provide care are being put ahead of the needs and wishes of the patient. The fact this patients is now being denied personal care is deplorable.
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For every non verbal girl who grows up needing same sex care and for every single person standing up for vulnerable women’s rights, we salute you
#IWD2024
💜💚🤍
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Women often want same-sex care for dignity, privacy & safety. 98% of sexual offences are committed by males & whether someone is a doctor or priest doesn't change that. People have seen stats but sometimes it's important to hear some stories behind those statistics. 🧵hard read
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We have been contacted by someone whose elderly male relative is cared for at home. The district nurse came round asking him to fill in lots of forms. He was horrified to find a question about gender identity. His relative has told us "...he felt insulted. Nurse told me it was a
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"A care worker who raped, sexually abused and filmed grotesque videos of an unknown number of elderly vulnerable women across two care homes has been jailed." And unfortunately these women were denied justice for so long due to their vulnerabilities (1/2)
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‘Her family has alleged that after Penny refused to allow the man into her home they were informed that she might have to undergo a psychiatric evaluation and would be infringing the carer’s human rights if she continued to refuse.’
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@markinneswilli
The question basically asks whether you believe in the metaphysical concept of gender identity. Why do we ask that and not about other metaphysical beliefs? How will it help provide care for people? Sex is medically salient to providing healthcare. But belief in a 'gendered
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‘HCA has rewritten its policies to promise that patients will be provided with intimate care by a staff member of the same “sex” rather than the same “gender”.’
Private hospital guarantees same sex care for patients as pressure mounts on NHS
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This week we spoke to parliamentarians about our campaign for single-sex care. We presented them with our report, sharing our concerns, your stories from your experience of care and we shared statistics gathered by others regarding abuse. Please see here:
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We know from NHS data of assaults on women that more of those assaults were committed by staff than other patients. So in re-establishing the need for same-sex care, we look at stories behind the stats. This 🧵 is about doctors with child porn and child sexual assault charges.
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Both of these men are in the care sector. When women request same-sex care they do not want men who say they are women. Sex ≠ 'gender identity'. Can you imagine as a woman asking for same-sex care and one of these men turning up? Very difficult for vulnerable women to deal with.
@jamespearson88
why not publish the pictures of Matthew Viner’s partner and let the public make up their own mind as to whether these two men are ‘proud lesbians”
Do you understand why this is grossly offensive to many women, especially lesbians?
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Journalists from Sky News and The Independent made more than 50 freedom of information requests to NHS England mental health trusts, and obtained 38 responses as part of their investigation into allegations of rape and sexual assault in mixed-sex wards and shared spaces in NHS
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A new story from a daughter regarding her mother. "She very nearly died from sepsis, but was finally moved to a ward and asked for female nurses for the "intimate care." She was told they were short staffed and she mainly had male nurses." (1/4)
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So very sorry to read the comments on your post. Your concerns about your mother's privacy, dignity and safety are entirely warranted. She is a vulnerable woman and dignity and safeguarding should take priority. She may not be able to bear witness should anything happen.
So my mum is having carers visit her 3 times a day to help with personal care after a fall. For 3 days, they sent young men and no females. In what world is it ok for a 94 year old to be washed by a man? Don't these care agencies think about this?! 😡😡😡
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Another important reminder for why we need
#SingleSexCare
and better protection for the most vulnerable in our society. This story is from 2 years ago. "Care worker, 48, is jailed for life after he was caught raping a 99-year-old dementia patient."
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“It's my body, my choice & I'd rather have a safeguarding for self neglect than put myself through being touched by someone I'm not comfortable with.”
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"A carer who murdered the elderly woman he was employed to look after had a history of violent crime including actual bodily harm, a report found. He was also reported for domestic assault on several occasions." Shocking safeguarding, tragic consequences.
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“I was informed my views were "not acceptable in the modern world". I'm not transphobic I think everyone should live as they wish, but I don't believe vulnerable people (men & women) should be forced to be around the other sex during certain periods of time (sports, prison,
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Judge Terence O’Sullivan ‘suspended a sentence of 18 months on condition that Hilliard keeps the peace and attends a weekly therapy group.’ An incredibly lenient judgment considering the nature of this appalling crime!
Carer filmed sex acts on residents
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One of the first stories we received. Worth posting again. From a male carer: "people had to agree to having male or female carers under the rules of the care provider, otherwise the provider refused to provide a care package...If a woman said no to a male carer the agency would
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It's very important that people understand this. Women with learning disabilities, elder women and women with physical disabilities are vulnerable to sexual predators. Same-sex care is incredibly important in safeguarding from predators. Whether it's the hospital, home or
@RonniNicole1
10 years ago I attended training on the dark web about sites discussing alternatives people to abuse if you can’t get access to children
Care work for older and LD people including taxi services
One comment on site,
“It’s worth the wait”
There were 7 sites then
How many now?
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"Woman sexually abused by nurse says she suffers nightmares and fears hospital treatment. The woman, who was targeted by Paul Grayson at Sheffield’s Royal Hallamshire Hospital says she is scared about having to have further procedures." (1/4)
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@Cherity694420
Very interesting isn’t it. How women are labelled difficult for articulating their needs and making requests they are entitled to make. Single-sex care requests for intimate care are allowed under CQC guidelines regulation 10.
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"Met Police defends not telling NHS about children's doctor flashing arrest
The Metropolitan Police has defended its decision not to inform the NHS when a paediatrician was arrested and cautioned for indecent exposure, four years before he was jailed for child sex offences."
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“When I was in my 20s, I woke up from full-body surgery to find a male nurse groping my boobs, which was a really horrific experience. I did not report that—women who go through such things do not report them.”
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This man is a former carer. Many women and girls request same sex care precisely because predatory men like this exist!
Paedophile filmed and sexually assaulted child, court hears
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“Once the sheer panic had subsided, all I could think of is that great big man bursting into my cubicle and grabbing my leg uninvited, trying to roll me over without asking…In hindsight I’m annoyed that I didn’t have the guts to speak out at the time, but I was totally consumed
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This is an absolutely shocking story. A woman has been left absolutely traumatised after a male intern was in the room when she had an intimate procedure, a procedure that ended up going badly wrong. This was not informed consent.
#ProtectSameSexCare
#WomensRightsAreHumanRights
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…the clinic if this man was attending these procedures at this time. I fully expect them to deny it and say that he was a woman. Please get in touch IN CONFIDENCE if you have any further information.
* I have changed Lucy’s name and redacted certain identifying details.
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“ I had one company tell me it was illegal, another stated "they'd try."Some seemed to get it but I'd still find myself with males being sent for the odd shift. This would be declined. Complaints never went down well, I'd be told of staff shortages, sickness or holiday.”
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“I'd have a care company for several months, before a long hospital admission would leave Social Services hunting for an alternative. Not all companies understood my need for same sex care.”
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• Nearly 20,000 "sexual safety incidents" were reported on inpatient mental health wards between 2019 and 2023 - these numbers appear to be rising year on year.
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“I'm finally in my own home with 24/7 waking night care. I'm two years in & on my second company after the first gave notice in part due to me specifying same sex care. I'd received a profile of an agency staff member. I had suspicions this person wasn't a female as I define (as
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A recent FOI has been received regarding the nursing and midwifery workforce. In it we can see how the number of trans identifying nurse and midwives has increased since 2018. First up, an increase in trans identifying midwives 🧵
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Single-sex wards protect the privacy, dignity and safety of all patients and are very important for women when we hear of 6,500 rapes in hospitals over the last 4 years
🚨 BREAKING: Labour will ban trans women from female hospital wards, says Wes Streeting.
Labour would ban all trans patients from "single-sex" wards, instead putting them in separate wards solely for trans people. Streeting says this is a "priority" for Labour.
(Via Sky News)
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After posting specific examples of rape, to look behind the shocking statistics we have seen of sexual assault within the NHS, a search was done for other sexual offences. This 🧵looks at voyeurism - first page of google - again difficult read
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• More than 800 allegations of sexual assault and rape involving female patients across over 20 trusts were recorded between 2019 and 2023 - only 95 were reported to the police
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“I found myself in a nursing home, "temporary”…I was in my late 30s in a dementia nursing home with confused men & woman banging at my door day & night thinking I was the exit. It made my anxiety worse.”
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A ‘sexual safety incident’ is defined as unwanted sexual behaviour which makes a person feel uncomfortable/unsafe. This includes rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment, voyeurism, comments of a sexual nature or observing sexual behaviour, including exposure to nakedness.
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‘The court heard how one female patient had been threatened with being assigned male carers against her expressed wishes, even when sufficient female staff were available.’
Since this article was published sentencing has been pushed back to January.
Former Whorlton Hall care
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“A paedophile who abused children in Scotland but was not on the sex offenders register was able to move to England and attack a six-year-old boy with special needs. Snook even pretended to have a disability himself, that he was mute, to get close to the child and his mother.”
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@judgejules75
Hopefully he will be replaced by someone who understands the Equality Act and is willing to
#ListenToWomen
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Again AGAIN - another woman abused by four carers in her home
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Crimes of ‘depraved’ care worker who raped patients
“The guilt is unbearable,” one relative said. “She asked for help and we thought it was the dementia.”
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• More than 500 of these allegations of sexual assault and rape occurred in mixed sex NHS England psychiatric inpatient settings, across over 20 trusts
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Men who expose themselves often go on to commit more serious offences. A search was done for medical professionals who have committed such crimes. James Kelly was a nurse who was struck off for exposing himself, making sexually explicit remarks and groping a colleague's breast🧵
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"The care company that we now had to employ asked if she would except male carers. She said "No." She is in her 80's, would often be alone in her home with the carers and feels very vulnerable. Unfortunately we had to sign a contract allowing male carers because the care company
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Caring About Dignity issue the following complaint regarding the WHO Guideline Development pertaining to Transgender Health. We would like to thank
@segm_ebm
for their in-depth analysis which has helped to inform our complaint.
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"However, according to Caroline, a "mistake" by police officers - three of whom are now facing a misconduct investigation - meant the care worker was able to flee the country before coming back to the UK to work at another care home, where he was able to abuse more vulnerable
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• Approximately 4,000 ‘sexual safety incidents’ were reported between January and August 2023. This is higher than the annual total for both 2019 and 2020
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In 2014 a paper was published about a hospital in Australia that reconfigured its psychiatry wards so one had a female only area. During this 6 month period women patients and workers agreed provision of this single-sex facility provided a safer experience of care for women.
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“…without warning or asking, the male chaperone grabbed my leg and started trying to roll me. I shouted ‘no, don’t touch my leg’…The doctor snapped at the male chaperone “if she wants help she’ll ask for it”. The male chaperone didn’t look too happy that I had stopped him from
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"Her reason for refusing treatment was the dreadful pain she was in from the catheter and the male doctors not taking basic care over her comfort in such an intimate area. It wasn't just physical discomfort, it is also very intimidating and humiliating having male nurses for such
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"A doctor who persuaded women and teenage girls to undertake invasive medical examinations under the guise of genuine need has been jailed for life, convicted of a total of 115 sexual assault offences against 28 female victims."
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• Trusts are largely failing to apply 2020 government-backed sexual safeguarding protections. Only 6 authorities demonstrably showed that they were complying with these safeguarding procedures.
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"single-sex wards and access to intimate care provided by a health professional of the same sex are crucial to the wellbeing and safety of female patients" New NHS constitution an important step forward for those in hospital - need to ensure also rolled out to social care.
NHS to limit trans ideology with new constitution
“Clear language, single-sex wards and access to intimate care provided by a health professional of the same sex are crucial to the wellbeing and safety of female patients. They should never have been compromised.”
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This means it is becoming more and more crucial that providers know sex means sex when it comes to same-sex healthcare provision and we do not have another case like this (from one of our founders) for women who want same-sex care:
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@61harpy
Then you should read the other testimonies we have gathered about how women are being pushed to accept male carers. A choice of a male carer or no carer is not really a choice for many who cannot go without care. This is coercion. This is the destruction of women’s boundaries
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Thank you to all the women who help organise these events including
@CforWomenUK
@LibVoice4Women
@LabWomenDec
. Thank you also to
@RosieDuffield1
whom we were fortunate enough to meet and who speaks so passionately on this subject.
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“The first was to be the rectal exam and he went to ask a female nurse to come in and act as chaperone but I heard her say she was busy, but then I heard a deep voice outside my cubicle say to her “oh I’ll do it” and a huge man in a nurses dress appeared through the curtain, and
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"Teo-Valentin Todorovits, from Cheltenham, targeted an unknown number of “helpless” victims over three years while they were under his care, with many suffering from dementia or mental disorders and unable to report his behaviour." (2/2)
#SingleSexCare
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Serious issues with safeguarding in care: "A carer who raped a disabled woman had already been sacked from the NHS for allegedly trying to have sex with a patient. Michael Forson failed to disclose the misconduct allegation to Magic Life UK when they employed him in November
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"She just sits and screams, balls her hands into claws and starts to tear at her body as if she's trying to get rid of something. The condom was found in Joanna's room in March 2021. The care home managers alerted the police to a potential safeguarding incident"
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"Due to the immense and unnecessary pain my mother was in from the lack of care or understanding putting the catheter in and out, she refused all treatment...we were told by the hospital doctors that without treatment she would be dead in a few weeks." (2/4)
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“A carer who raped a disabled woman had already been sacked from the NHS for allegedly trying to have sex with a patient. Michael Forson failed to disclose the misconduct allegation to Magic Life UK when they employed him in November 2021”
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Shocking report from Hourglass last month on the Sexual Abuse of older people. Key excerpts: "“sexual violence sits awkwardly between elder abuse and domestic violence, and has been described as one of the last taboos in society.”
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“I was horrified but so scared about wasting any time I said nothing. The doctor was on one side of the bed and this male chaperone on the other. The doctor didn’t look too happy about the other man being in the cubicle.”
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"It could make it impossible for a care agency to honour a disabled woman’s request for female-only intimate care..." Thank you
@soniasodha
for calling out the need for clarity in this area of the law and the plight of vulnerable women seeking female-only care.
Why spend political capital to solve a real issue when you’ve got pundits who will happily denounce it as the evil invention of Kemi Badenoch?
Today’s column on Labour’s legally illiterate response to Tory proposals to clarify the law on single-sex spaces
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We were fortunate to be joined by members of
@CanSG_org
who spoke about consent, the issues in mental health and the problems with Annex B. Some of our founders also spoke about their own personal moving stories. Many of the speeches can be accessed above.
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Hospital implements safeguarding policy to protect vulnerable women (well done) and yet some people just cannot put the needs of women first, even if it means compromising their safety. They just don't or are unwilling even to try to understand. 99% of sexual assaults are by
My mother: Goes to the hospital.
Me: Visits
Nurse: Oh, sorry, visitation for males ends at 9pm when there's two females in a room.
Me: That's sounds sexist.
Nurse: No it doesn't.
Me: You're literally saying I can't visit my mom after 9pm specifically because I'm a male.
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Erectile dysfunction clinic - man wanted a male clinician: "The clinic, which includes examination and counselling, was described by Mr A as “hugely humiliating” and “embarrassing”. Mr A alleged that ABUHB “hid” the gender of clinicians as appointment letters did not outline
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"A Cambridge-educated GP allegedly coerced a vulnerable colleague into a sexual relationship and sent her pictures of his head in a noose, a tribunal has heard...Half a dozen women made complaints against him"
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"A surgeon faces years behind bars after being convicted of raping two women he met online. Salil Korambayil, 32, attacked the two women in their own homes."
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“I was rushed into A&E after I had spoken to my GP who recognised symptoms of something called Cauda Equina, a dangerous spinal injury which risks paralysis the longer it is left.”
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"“I don’t feel safe going out. I have issues in trusting new people and am also fearful of what may happen, if I need to undergo further medical procedures."" Women are traumatised after sexual abuse at their most vulnerable time.
#SingleSexCare
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The ‘Safe care at home review’, while highlighting many areas of concern, fails to mention the necessity of same-sex care provisions for many vulnerable people accessing care services.
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“I went into sheer panic and my head was all over the place as they told me of the tests they needed to do - full bladder scan followed by empty bladder scan, rectal exam, MRI, neurological and others.”
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"The NHS is losing essential data...lobbying by the World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH), a transgender ideology activist group, has led to confusion and obfuscation in the IT systems that record patient data in some NHS trusts."
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Single-sex accommodation is not new. Historically wards were single-sex, then for a time became mixed-sex and then in the Blair government single-sex accommodation became a priority. A 2002 article discusses the situation in psychiatric wards.
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A NHS junior doctor who worked with elderly patients has been jailed for his role in a dark web chat site dedicated to sharing indecent images of children...facilitated the sexual exploitation of children by acting as a ‘moderator’ of the site.
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First up: in section 1 of our report to Parliamentarians we discussed how gender ideology and misapplication/misunderstanding of guidance and legislation is undermining patient's access to same-sex care. For example, CQC regulation 10 allows for same-sex intimate care. (1/5)
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Such cases are from the first page of a google search of cases in the UK. However as this BMJ paper states there is an epidemic of sexual assault in the NHS and most trusts do not have a dedicated policy in place for dealing with this. 35,000 cases from 2017-2022
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"She contacted police having woken after surgery to find her underwear had been removed. Officers found that she had been filmed...Grayson videoed four women as they recovered from surgery at the Royal Hallamshire as well as female colleagues using the toilet." (2/4)
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"Paul Grout, 65, Ulverston, is accused of repeatedly raping a girl in Barrow and South Cumbria in 2020 when she was aged between 11-12 years-old...the complainant expressed difficulty in saying out loud the intimate detail of what the defendant did to her" (trial in progress)
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Really difficult thread to write. Again these stories are taken from the first page of a google search. Some of these doctors were GPs and paediatricians. Medical professionals who would have access to children as part of their job. Some doctors blamed depression, or stress due
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And the number of male nurses slightly increased but remained fairly stable. Nursing is still a predominantly female profession with around 88% female staff so there should be no issue with providing female care to females.
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@LynnSoWhat
So sorry to hear about your experience. We fight for women and girls rights to same sex care. You can share your story with us anonymously as we are trying to collect data. We publish stories anonymously on our website, but even if you don’t want it published, we would still
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"“To find out a sick individual abused me and others for his own gratification is devastating.“While I’ve tried to forget about what happened and blank it out, I’ve not been able to. It’s remained with me and has affected my day-to-day life for years." (3/4)
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"A doctor who raped a woman and then threatened to release a video of the attack has been banned from working in medicine - a decision he says he's "not interested in"."
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The scale of this problem in surgery recently came to light. One third of female surgeons have been sexually assaulted by a colleague.
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A doctor who was found to have kept thousands of child porn images has been accused of stealing a number of medical records from Edinburgh and the Lothians...pictures of children which he described as an "addiction."
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Dr Em wrote an eye-opening article about sexual abuse of disabled women. Key statistics: "In the UK Government figures for ‘the three years ending March 2018 [suggest] 3.7% of disabled adults aged 16 to 59 years experienced any sexual assault (including attempts), compared with
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Of course it is not just patients who are at risk, staff members are too. "An NHS doctor who suffered a sexual assault by a colleague says the investigation into the incident was plagued with “mistake after mistake” and that her sex life was called into question during the
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