im speechless. what the fuck is GOING ON?
how does the LGBT+ RIGHTS GROUP not even reject A TRANSPHOBIC “REVIEW” DONE BY ANTI-TRANS CONVERSION THERAPISTS that rejects 98% OF AVAILABLE CREDIBLE EVIDENCE ?!?
i need to move off this forsaken fucking rock don’t i?
The Cass Review, an independent review of gender care services for children and young people, has been published today after almost four years. We know that elements of the review and how it is covered in the news may cause concern for trans children and young people and their
you know what fuck it.
there are some people who are mutuals with me who have had completely abhorrent opinions devoid of empathy in this last discourse.
like ive genuinely lost so much respect for people whose opinions i actually held in high esteem before this.
ppl outside of the uk trans community “criticising” DIY HRT dont know how bad it gets here. private healthcare is too expensive and has year long waitlists. NHS gender services have 8-12 year waitlists. getting HRT as a minor is next to impossible now. fuck off you slimy cretin.
Muta really did have the opinion of some ordinary gamer. Bro was fearmongered DIY HRT for minors, and even sided with the fucking UK government cracking down on a DIY HRT supplier. This medicine helps prevent suicides, and these sites are often the only way minors can access it.
like im going to start blocking people. you can say you hate men and ill stand by you, you can say femboys have a tendency towards transmisogyny and i agree.
but spewing the same rhetoric used to demonise transfeminine expression, but towards gnc men, and calling it good?
you know what word i have for supporting the scapegoating of femininity? for thinking its fetishistic when men wear “womens” clothes? for supporting harassment of men who embrace feminine aesthetics?
misogyny. you are actually being misogynistic.
“oh yeah i oppose the patriarchy” *perpetuates the idea that feminine aesthetics are divine and unique to only those with female bodies* *perpetuates rhetoric calling gnc bodies ugly* *perpetuates policing of gendered expressions to enforce rigid categories defined by sex*
i am not a thirst trap or a porn account or anything adjacent. if you as a porn account follow me, rt or make a comment that is more degrading than complimentary i will instant block. i post selfies bc im proud of my appearance, and nothing more.
as a ciswoman i have a lot of freedom in my gender 💕 so my pronouns are whatever!!! im chill!!! like i usually go by whatever gets trans women with self esteem issues the most turned on 🙈 so its she/her if they have mommy issues 💅 and he/him if they have daddy issues 🖤
liberation of the transfeminine body can only happen in tandem with liberation and freedom of feminine expression in men and im 100% serious and if your kneejerk reaction to that is to call me a suck up to men then your brain is rotten to the core. i dont want you near me.
either we “boymode” for years OR at some point in our lives us trans women have to navigate the world as a visibly feminine person who others (mistakenly) gender as male/masculine. if that period of time is judged harshly, less trans women will feel comfortable coming out
(a) the sexuality doesn’t actually inherently do that de-centring, thats what political lesbianism dies
(b) the idea that a woman being attracted to a man is something that inherently centralises men as a political class in their lives is insane
@servicemasc
i did a few paintings using my feelings about gender as emotional context and my sister said to me, without context when looking at them, that they overcame her with a profound sadness but she didnt know why. i hope im beating the accusations 😭
@peachmilfshake
@Pupperdoon
asking people to help them with things directly is somehow “exhausting”. ive had people say “its tiring to have to ask you directly to help me all the time” and im like its LESS EFFORT THAN PLAYING MIND GAMES LIKE BE SERIOUS?
you know what fuck it.
there are some people who are mutuals with me who have had completely abhorrent opinions devoid of empathy in this last discourse.
like ive genuinely lost so much respect for people whose opinions i actually held in high esteem before this.
hey girlies!!! ✨would it be okay if i used they/she pronouns 🤩??? its just… i want trans women to be more comfy around me, theyre really put off by me when i say im a cis bicurious girl 😭. does this also mean i can say the t-slur!!!?? 🙈 i think that would be fun tbh 🤔 ♥️
logging off for the day. my blood is boiling. the sheer heartless precision in this whole review and its subsequent praise by british media and organisations is getting to me.
this is what an entire nations healthcare system is using to excuse medical discrimination btw. an “independent” “review” that excludes *98%* of all clinical studies on the topic and then comes to conclusions that *funnily enough* disagree with the *98% they removed*.
like… the idea of “de-centring” men in ones own personal life is hilarious. even if that were a possible thing to do, its not like being attracted to only women inherently causes it, or that being attracted to men excludes it.
the (on average) ONE person you’re in a relationship with does not mean the rest of your life takes a different shape. stop acting like sexuality is literally your whole identity.
i fully believe a gay guy can “de-centre” men as a political class from their lives, and that quite a few actually do that. same with bi people. just bc you find a gender attractive doesn’t mean you’re gonna bow to their political or social oppression lol. the insanity…
@alyraejepsen
no. some people are actively mocking feminity in men. i dont support femboy communities online at all, theyre often deeply fetishistic (unironically) and transmisogynistic. but that critique is not what im talking about. i have seen some deeply troubling things.
im angry. im so fucking angry. and ppl wonder why trans ppl use private services or self administer hormones. because the services they want us in are just designed to be intrusive, miserable experiences aimed at desistance. i want to scream.
My daughter and ourselves had our first appointment in the new gender services set up as a result of the Cass Review outlined here Here are my reflections: 1/12
@elle_carnitine
its ironic isnt it because a lot of actually effective strategies for mental health are to work within the limitations that it sets, in order to adjust how you live to be more healthy overall, which then makes your world better, thus easing depression symptoms
@DroningG
exactly. i critique social forces, communities and attitudes. i do not critique the individual appearances of people, i think its a low blow and cruel.
@killa_inkk
@infiniteindust
this is misleading because breaking down food with heat makes certain nutrients more bioavailable and digestible while reducing others. in fact fire for cooking is one of the key reasons why humans are advanced as we are, by predigesting food into useful compounds.
even if diy was more dangerous (its not, so long as you get regular blood tests) id still support it because for a lot of trans people its Transition or Die (or Live in Debilitating Depression until you can Transition and basically have No Life or Joy)
i do not like femboy culture; i think it lends itself to incredibly toxic ideals and serves as a funnel for vulnerable people to oversexualise themselves in a desperate attempt at validation to patriarchy. but you dont need to be a cruel piece of shit to people to say that !
@girldrawsghosts
i started in 2017, where everyone i met went through the same cycle; confusion then contemplation then acceptance or rejection. transphobes were usually so through ignorance/ostracisation, but now most are fear/anger addicts instead, hell bent on eradication. its insane…
@lildevilhorns
@pissvortex
cheaper than going to the cinema and tons more interaction and fun. some of the dumbest memories i had with my friends were stupid little multiplayer horror games
@jackiedotnet
the best trans rep she can do now is be a cool and good actor in general. having a trans person just exist and be a regular a-list actor is really really normalising for us tbh. “trans rep” roles just box her into being “the trans actor” instead of “the actor thats trans”
@bloomfilters
>7 feet tall
>haunted by buried trauma
>hopeless romantic
>dismissed as an object with no regards to her emotions/needs by her society
>resilient even in the face of a completely hostile world
yep…
@SillyStinkyMeow
its a game about how even in the depths of pain and suffering, in a hostile world that makes no sense, when everything is confusing and nothing matters, when there is no hope of redemption or happy ending…
there is still love. and its between two women. stay mad bigots 🤷🏻♀️
simultaneously, if a 16 year old lesbian calls men ugly online, perhaps we maybe ignore that comment instead of signalboosting it, followed by considering maybe NOT sending her death threats. perhaps.
the reason i talk about this- i oversexualised myself before i had the language of transness. it is fucking misery. serving yourself up as an acceptable type of degraded oversexualised feminine person for patriarchal consumption fucked me up for ages and we shouldnt encourage it.
@TheGayChingy
holy fuck ive written so much about how much this angers me just let me have some silly little fun playing make believe whilst getting railed like ?!?
not all femboys are trans, not all trans people were femboys, but regardless of identity we should be *analysing this stuff to help people*. the goal of the social critique is not cruelty, its understanding, and being cruel to any man just for being feminine is disgusting.
@Aliceinwunderl3
talk to other girlies about dumb shit you enjoy or wax lyrical about how annoying society is or some bullshit yk. i Certainly dont really enjoy talking to ppl whose initial reason to even reach out was just horny or jealous or “goals” or w/e
fyi this post is about non british people, hence the airquotes. its about visibility, mainly online. ive met many strong trans women in my time who weather the storm, not conventionally attractive but their beauty shines through their souls.
“third genders” are rarely treated with equality, and often serve a function to Other trans people, esp transfeminine identities. they are often not True Nonbinary identities and instead used to shape transsexuals into a form that their cissexual societies can accept
@robin_glomps_u
@CISFAKER
genuinely? dont copy words, or vowels, from voice training. work from exercise examples/paper instructions to develop your resonance+vocal weight to be lighter, and your pitch to be where you want it, and for example voices to think about use ones of your preferred accent.
@peachmilfshake
@Pupperdoon
plus when you give up sincerity and directness you also stand to build resentment for no reason. the “you dont care” line is so fucking annoying because yeah, it will feel like nobody helps you if you never Just Ask them?!?
@bloomfilters
@starfader
i equally think its important not to turn a blind eye to how the way feminity is perceived in men also affects trans women. because the general attitudes of scapegoating feminine expression and aesthetics does impact us.
yknow, if we are vagueposting about this.
@furiousnor1
@saltysauerkraut
if someone in a healthy scene used their safeword that pretty instantly makes one Not Into It anymore and stop. like the consent is the whole point its like the same kinda thing as watching a movie; a way to explore feelings (in this case kinks) in a SAFE environment.
@notCursedE
@KamilaRCGP
my gp refused my shared care (despite allowing literal controlled substance adhd meds via sc months before), citing “lack of prescribing knowledge” even though they literally got a new member of the practice so they could prescribe HRT to menopausal women 🙃
endlessly funny that all the qrts are people just assuming masc HRT = ugly. microdosing exists, duasteride exists. its not going to flip an “ugly” switch. its not for everyone but if your goal is “girly boy” you might need the boy hormones man im sorry like 💀
transitioning from being seen as a boy to being seen as a woman is a really odd one ngl. been reflecting recently and realised i never actually have had access to the privledges of being a man. ive never been seen as one. boys are treated very differently to men.
@JayHulmePoet
not only that but I had approval for HRT with the NHS after 5.5 Years (yes) and despite this approval I have not had a single piece of communication for 6 months post that appointment.
nhs trans clinics are intentionally bad.
@PhilosophyTube
has a great video on it.
no hate but last time there was a push towards medicalisation of transitioning you had to be thin, white, pretty and socially transitioning for years just to get the most pathetic dose of HRT ever conceived. no thanks…
hot take: trans healthcare (in particular hrt) should always be kept under the supervision of medical professionals. we should be working towards a medical definition for transsexuals for a multitude of reasons, not the least of which being that it's in our best interest to make
@starfader
>“trans men are men are not just women-lite. we are part of the category ‘man’ within dating”
>1000 quote tweets infantilising the guy in the exact way he was trying to prevent
💀
@broadwaybabyto
the fact N95 equivalent masks are not required in healthcare settings is going to be one of those things historians use as a cases study for the degraded political climate, its such an obvious thing to do…😔
any confident trans women feel like personality wise being “direct” is now “bitch”, “blunt” is now “bitch”, “strong character traits” is now “being a bitch”, “integrity” is now “bitch”, “loud” is now “bitch” maybe im just getting called a bitch a lot idk wonder why
example; the reason the overlord terf herself started a harassment campaign against the trans woman she did recently is because said woman isnt conventionally attractive. existing as a tw online is awful, but its extra vulnerable and awful if you dont meet conventional beauty…
conventional beauty has no value beyond your own self perception and the way that society treats it, there is no moral worth to attractiveness. it is simply a concept our society has given extra weight to.
@woodstockSSB
fun story during my first time properly making out a woman did this to me for approx 3 hours on and off whilst dominating my mouth, and i have never emotionally recovered from it. my mind wanders back to that club night often it was so fucking gay…
@alyraejepsen
idk. its all marred by the context of all of it.
ive seen too many people defend or celebrate actual homophobes, or effemanic narratives, or misogynyistic mysticisms of femininity, all because they just cant wait to giddily signal they hate femboys.
@qwertysparrow2
@Nash076
dont forget the best part, where you have the shitty ai that barely works scan your resume and cover letter for key words and, if you dont happen to have the specific bullshit its looking for, get instantly auto rejected without it even seeing a human 🥳
@yuri__subtext
@chuulicent
this! plus its in ADDITION to the fact that a large amount of the domestic violence is from men, that they date BEFORE coming out as a lesbian and dating women.
@SoliSolstice
yes!!!! i supported an abuser bc they were convincing and manipulative. didnt realise what they were until someone told me what they were doing; abusive people are very effective, and to downplay that will get you hurt like i did, when i assumed i couldnt be tricked by one…