Now she embarrassed because he impulsively reacted to being embarrassingly shoved into a cake. We gotta stop provoking these babies for laughs. This is the complete opposite of soft parenting. This is textbook schoolhouse bullying.
My 6yo ask for a “rest day” so I let him stay home.
He asked me for a cookie, I told him the groceries won’t be here until this evening.
Him to his brother: i gotta make up my bed and we don’t have snacks…I should’ve went to school.
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The fact that Pilates was rebranded into a workout for healthy/wealthy yt women is...
Joseph Pilates created Pilates in a prison for sick prisoners. AND it was his understudy, Kathy Stanford Grant (a black woman) that refined it. She was an acclaimed choreographer.
Child development gem: Kids enjoy roughhousing because it stimulates the brain to release endorphins, natural pain and stress-fighting chemicals, and oxytocin, which makes them feel comforted through physical contact with others. It also builds body awareness and confidence. ❤️
My 5yo had a meltdown because his chicken had meat but he didn’t want meat but he asked for chicken.
And upon further investigation, he wanted bbq chicken not rotisserie. He calls rotisserie “meat chicken”.
I be positive parenting but children don’t be positively childrening.
Me minding my business on the sofa:
My 6 yo: mommy can I hug you
Me: awe, sure baby. what made you hug me?
Him: those pants
Me: what about my pants?
Him: they’re not nice. You wear ugly stuff when you’re not feeling well.
Just lectured my son about misplacing his glasses while he was anxiously looking for them.
He said, mommy you’re making me more nervous. Can we talk afterwards.
Good for him because I was wrong. I aided in his dysregulation. I mess up, too.
New neighbor came over and introduced himself with a bottle of wine.
I told him we’ll have to have a glass with my husband.
He gone say “I thought that was your brother and y’all had a daycare”.
My 7yo ADHD baby: I don’t remember where I put my toothbrush I just had in my hand 3 secs ago.
Same kid: You told me 8 Mondays ago at 4:11 pm that we could go to target today. I remembered because I was wearing a blue shirt with 3 buttons and you was eating two grapes.
My 3 yo take this twin thing seriously. I wonder if it’s because her brother is nonverbal and she feels the need to make sure his needs are met too or simply a twin thing.
“Mommy, me and brother want a snack”
“Mommy, me and brother sad”
“Mommy, me and brother sleepy”
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Developmentally, the most important learning phase is in early childhood. Napping aids in the consolidation/sorting of memories for children. It allows memories to move from one area of the brain to the next to free up space for more information. Our babies need their naps.
If a child tells you they feel like they don’t fit in, stop responding with trite phrases about “individuality/standing out”. It is a cry for community/friendship. Children desire connection and shared human experiences too.
6yo: mommy take me to Target
Me : you got target money?
Him: I’m not telling you until we get there
Me: but what if we get there and you have nothing
Him: I could have .60 or I could have $6000
Me: let me see
Him: let me see target
Leaving the store, dude ask me if I needed a bodyguard, my 8yo gone say “why you think I’m here”.
The dude laughed and kept right on walking.
“He not about to rizz up my mother in my face”… 💀
My son didn’t want pizza so he made a salad. He washed his spinach, added croutons, leftover rotisserie chicken, craisins & feta crumbles. I was waiting for a mistake to happen but it never happened. There’s a parental lesson here…
The way that menstruating people have to normalize bleeding, cramping, lethargy, brain fog, mental/mood lapses, severe exhaustion, even “period flu” for 3-7 days every month is NUTS.
This little boy got in my car with the kids and I assumed it was one of their friends. I asked his name and introduced myself. He gets out of the car and my kids say “I don’t know that boy. I guess he just wanted a ride”. 💀💀💀
My 6 yr old asked for juice with his breakfast. I offered him flavored cranberry juice or orange juice. He looked me dead In my face and said:
“What am I, 35?! Can I have some apple juice please.”
I am unmothering. I simply cannot mother under these conditions.
Y’all take care of your guts. Over 75% of your immune system operates via your gut.
- Take probiotics.
- Eat leafy greens.
- Eat good fats.
- Drink warm lemon water.
- Eat fermented foods.
- Eat more slow foods.
- Do deep belly breathing.
- Practice good sleep hygiene.
Children are born with innate belief of self-worth. Parents tend to diminish their self-esteem by setting unrealistic expectations, comparing them to other people and ignoring what the child needs in that moment. Parents are often their child’s first bully and hater.
My mama got my 6yo in here frying fish. And he just as excited as he can be. He walked up to me talking bout, “Gigi taught me to season the flour. That’s where the blessing is.” 😭😂
My 7yo son made me a cup of coffee that somehow taste like beef stew.
“Mommy, I put a sprinkle of that brown stuff in it like you”
The brown stuff I use is cinnamon. The brown stuff he used was dry rub seasoning.
I can’t wait for these kids to go to my mama house today.
One of my students like to run to the bathroom during morning meeting, carpet time or anytime that requires a bit of stillness. I notice that she just washed her hands. Baby girl regulates by washing her hands.
My kid asked me if he could do his homework outside. I said no because “you need a desk”. But then I thought about it. Who am I to tell him how he should be doing his homework?! Maybe the sunlight and grass is what he KNOWS he needs to get it done.
He kicked me out of my house on our anniversary. Left me for his assistant. I ended up taking care of him when he got shot in the courtroom and was left paralyzed. I was mean to him until I started dating a man with a braided wig.
Elderly Black lady offered to pay for my groceries this morning after chatting. She said I felt familiar. I had my 1yo with me. She said my baby reminded her of her daughter as a baby. Her daughter passed from Covid in April 2021. My daughter was born in April 2021.
I asked my 8 yo why he so quiet today. He said it’s too hot for all of that stuff.
That boy said it’s too hot to be bad. He finna lay down in this air like he got some sense. IKTR
One thing I will say about this generation of parents, yall are raising incredibly empathetic children. The way these babies drop everything to go hug or rub their classmates backs is remarkable.
My 7yo: mommy, is there anything you want me to do? If so, my doing stuff schedule is 9-11:13. After that I’m laying on the floor doing nothing. My day will be full of nothing and maybe something after the nothing.
Why is 11:13 so exact? 💀💀💀
My 8yo: Mommy, good night, I’m going to bed.
Me: Night my love.
Him: Are you okay? You’re really quiet tonight. Do you need anything?
Me: I’m okay baby. I’m just tired.
*5 minutes later*
Him: I have a hug and some chips for you mommy.
Me:
Gentle Reminder: Kids aren’t born knowing how to “calm down”. Telling a child to calm without empathy and the tools for emotional regulation is invalidating. Regulation is a process that is taught and practiced over and over again until it is a skill.
Why I hear my kids talmbout “I like when daddy cook because he gives us a meal and a real dessert”.
Twin b: mommy be like eat this chicken and then give us applesauce for dessert. That’s a snack.
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Let these children rest on the weekends. Their weekends are not for *YOUR* housework and servitude. Their weekends are for them. Their nervous system need to recharge just like yours.
- Single Black women
- Childless Black women
- Childful Black women
- Single and childful Black women
- Degreed Black women
- Undegreed Black women
- Sexually liberated Black Women
- Nonconforming Black women
- trans Black women
- Breathing Black women
I am laughing at that British mom saying her child developed an American accent from watching Ms Rachel. Folks in the comments saying “my child got a British accent from peppa pig, she’ll have to deal”
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My 8yos arguments be wild.
8yo: That’s why your pencils the wrong yellow.
His twin: That’s why your pencil erasers don’t work.
Me catching strays because I got their pencils from the bodega:
My mama had my son in there making potato salad. He gone have all her recipes by the time he’s 10. He gone be cooking better than me by the time he’s 12.
My mama got my 6yo in here frying fish. And he just as excited as he can be. He walked up to me talking bout, “Gigi taught me to season the flour. That’s where the blessing is.” 😭😂
Y’all leave religion and still cling to the misogynistic parts under the guise of spirituality. Why in 2022 would you proudly proclaim that someone on their period can’t hold a baby? WHY???
Yesterday when I picked up my kids from school, my neighbor was at that school knocked out in her car(she’s a new nurse). I woke her up and offered to take her son home with me. I wanted him to have dinner, study and chill with us while she rest up.
Y’all my son just told me i’m a great mom because he never feels invisible with me. I had no idea how to respond but it shook me real good. I love my babies so much. I’m glad they know the weight of them being here is not too much for me. I’m glad that they know they matter.
I would love to see a documentary on the process behind styling our iconic Black sitcom characters from the 80s-early 00s.
Who was y’all’s favorite BLACK girl style from any era on any sitcom?
Black women if you do nothing else, please make sure you are getting enough magnesium, zinc, calcium, DHA/Omega 3s, vitamin d, b vitamins and iron. Please invest in good supplements.
I use garden of life products. But there are other brands with quality supps.