Also, thinking about how friendships can be a 7H matter if we’re talking “best friends” as these friendships are essentially partnerships and represents a bond/commitment

It’s funny bc people make it sound so easy to “unfriend” someone and comepletely disregard the fact that a lot of close friendships are abusive af and for some, getting out of them can feel terrifying and be extremely difficult

Healthy friendships are just as important as healthy romantic relationships, and we need to start talking about what healthy friendships look like so people don’t find themselves traumatized bc they didn’t realize their friendships were severely unhealthy and abusive.

@jailmousee Literally SAME thing happened to me, bc it’s literally not talked about I didn’t know it was a problem

@sagistarbb have you watched can't stop won't stop?

@sagistarbb @VThomas_ at least i had the privilege to leave

@sagistarbb I’m still trying to repair the damage one friendship caused me. After a big situation that was the breaking point, she acted like it wasn’t a big deal and completely isolated me from the rest of the friend group. I was alone and my self esteem was at rock bottom. That shit hurts

@sagistarbb Most times I feel used in friendships, I am more diligent in choosing friends these days. One friendship was extremely toxic but I felt balanced until I realized a 30y shouldn’t be best friends w/19y & she tried to get me to cover for a drunk wreck. Worst breakup of my life

@sagistarbb literally just left an extremely emotionally and sexually abusing friendship that hurt more than any romantic shit i’ve had

@sagistarbb My life has been drastically influenced/shaped by my mostly abusive friend track record from 14-23. I didn’t realize until the last year that being in abusive friendships had sustained negative long term effects in me. I rly hope people start talking about it more tbh

@sagistarbb All of my codependency was taught to me by past emotionally absuive friendships from my teens. I didn’t realize how deeply I had been affected until this year. It was the most liberating realization. I now look back on these friendships so differently...thank goodness.

@sagistarbb this is a big one. I had an abusive friend in highschool - we were inseparable until I did an exchange program and became more independent, then she turned all our friends against me. it hurts most that those "friends" took her side but i know they're still stuck in her cycle

@sagistarbb even ones that I wouldn't consider abusive have definitely fucked me up and my ability to trust or be open with people in a really negative way

@sagistarbb yes!! in my experience, i have noticed that my friendships are the ones that stir up the most trouble for me, rather than romantic endeavors. the first time i dealt with an emotionally abusive person was in a friendship in my teens. it absolutely broke me but i rebuilt myself

@sagistarbb I was in an extremely abusive friendship during the first three years of college and to this day I am absolutely traumatized. This shit exists. It’s devastating and seriously damaging.

@sagistarbb Hi