Normalizing pronouns in bio is cool but incessantly tweeting at someone you follow to put them in when you have no idea about their circumstances seems counterintuitive and invasive
It's good to deplatform abusers and bigots. It's fucked up to obsessively comb through someone's entire history for any lingering evidence of any minor transgressions to weaponize and feed your delusion that they're some kind of irl supervillain who you must eradicate
Don't sext or fuck your fans :( just don't do it. don't be horny with your fans/audience. Even if you don't want to consider it morally wrong, it'll end in disaster. An equitable relationship with someone who likes you as a concept vs as a person is impossible
Incel and PUA replies to this stuff are always like "Yeah cause Jack Black is rich and famous" as if a straight line cook who looked and acted like Jack Black couldn't get laid wherever he wanted. Dudes do not know women and don't live in the real world
Hey the person who drew these emojis people use all the time (
@mothcharm
) is a young Black artist in a really difficult spot financially atm- he has a shop you can buy charms and pins and stuff from to support him and his family
The needlessly intense adult fans of queer children's cartoons are such a weird minefield. Feels like if I made a video critical of (or in approval of) the wrong ship or character or whatever I'd get mailed a pipe bomb with rainbow stickers on the box
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queer terminology twitter discourse is always somehow both maximally annoying and irritating while also being over just completely inconsequential shit. it's just 19 year olds being gender cops online
This is true. It sucks. Being openly excited and sincere is looked down on both by self-serious normies and people who are irony poisoned. Let yourself be happy and goofy
"Adults who exhibit genuine joy are often dismissed as childish, too feminine, unserious, or self-indulgent, so we hold ourselves back from joy."
@ingridfetell
#TED2018
Being a queer creator means sometimes your audience will lash out at you as if you personally betrayed them when your work is in conflict with their myopic saccharine view of life and queerness and it's a lot of why I have almost 0 interaction with my audience now
4chan has always been a cruel and hostile and unhealthy environment but acting like everyone who posted there in 2006 or whatever is a suspect human being or a literal nazi just means you both don't understand how the site worked and don't understand how human beings work
It's great if you enjoy Marvel films or get something out of them emotionally or representation-wise or etc. I'm never gunning for taking away someone's enjoyment of a piece of media. But Disney is both vaulting film history and hurting film's future. It fucking sucks.
Apart from extreme cases, using media consumption as a litmus test for someone's personality/ethics just seems like a symptom of people feeling so helpless wrt having control over their lives or understanding of others that they turn to media consumption as a paramount signifier
If you see someone firmly establish boundaries with a person who is being inappropriate, please don't respond by complaining they weren't nice or gentle enough about it while you completely fucking ignore the inappropriate behavior. Nobody is a bad person for having boundaries.
last time i said anti-sicilian/italian jokes were funny someone (sincere, not a troll) sent me a multi-paragraph very upset message about how offensive it was and how discriminated against sicilians are and it took inhuman restraint on my part to not reply with this image
If you shit talked the south like it was a racist monolith or celebrated Georgia's corona rates, remember you were talking down so many of the same Black people who live in Clayton County who all this shit is coming down to. Do not ever let yourself forget that
Having been on the receiving end of this same sort of behavior (including when I was underage) and knowing how unpleasant and difficult it is to deal with, it's wild to see people blaming Emily or writing it off as a quirk of neurodivergence or whatever
Eventually I started ignoring him because I wasn’t sure how to navigate around him clearly trying to rope me into fetish shit and in return his messages to me got more frequent and aggressive
Contrarianism and cruelty are not the same as actually being funny/insightful. When someone says some pithy mean shit it doesn't mean they're right or that there's any actual weight or meaning to it. It takes a lot more conviction to be sincere and risk being made fun of for it
Lots of people in the QRTs saying waffle house is missing out on a business opportunity who don't understand waffle house. Leave waffle house and their menu alone they aren't Starbucks
@Discourse_Stu
Yeah I also find it really counterproductive when cishet people are seen as inherently the enemy or the aggressor. That's not my life experience at all. Also kind of ahistorical to treat the word dyke like it's the n-word and nobody who isn't wlw should say it in any context ever
It is difficult to think of a creative field, style of performance, type of fiction or nonfiction filmmaking or writing, etc that isn't bolstered tremendously by the person doing it having a variety of hobbies/interests that have nothing whatsoever in common with it
very very weird online behavior where folks put marginalized people on such a pedestal that when someone in a marginalized group is shitty they rush to invalidate that person's identity. you can say someone is a freak and a rat you don't have to say they're fake gay too
Had to have high, high hopes for a living
Shooting for the stars when I couldn't make a killing
Didn't have a dime but I always had a vision
Always had high, high hopes
@CHAPOTRAPHOUSE
Networking lifehack!!!!!: don't approach human beings on the basis of their utility to you. Just be nice to people and value them as human beings. If you try to use people as rungs on a ladder they'll know you're a vampire weirdo and will resent you and distance themselves
One Piece also has a major arc villain whose villian origin story was his dad was a wealthy liberal who tried to take a "both sides" approach to life and long story short it ended poorly for everyone and now his son is Like This forever
(tw for explicit self-harm talk) This is a particularly, uh, bizarre instance of self-harm being weaponized to manipulate someone and villainize them and I think it's worth talking about because people saw this exchange and somehow took away from it that Jones is a bully/monster
Never underestimate the value of having friends who will challenge you on stuff. I think people over-value politeness/conflict avoidance and underestimate the value of friends who have your best interests at heart who will tell you if you're being mean or being a dumbass
You have no idea the abuse/harassment/exhausting pedantry/failed "friendly" ribbing someone with an online fanbase gets every day so please reconsider before trying to engage in a "playfully" adversarial way with someone you are a fan of or pedantically arguing with them or etc
To clarify this is from my Spotify wrapped. I listened to basically no podcasts this year since I don't walk alone or take the bus now so it is so fucked it was like "you listened to THREE whole Chapo episodes... the hosts are your dad now :)"
Watched Contra's new video in full. Not up to full Discourse or any kind of fully-thought out condemnation or exaltation of the video but it made me take stock of and reassess what I've been through online and how it feels to always function under a microscope.
getting mad at cishet people saying "partner" is the most "we make up problems to get mad about despite the looming horrific real problems we face irl" shit ever
Mean little bloodthirsty freaks on twitter take "powerful people should be held accountable for their actions" and run with it to mean "anyone with the smallest, irrelevant in the grand scheme of things amount of e-celebrity is now my own personal punching bag"
it's always stunning to me that Publick was not a VA by trade because he is one of my all-time favorite voice actors. Incredibly versatile and talented (he voices Hank, Hatred, The Monarch, 24, Pete, Sovereign, Killinger, etc etc)
Venture Bros Comedy is about 98.5% delivery alone. Idc what anyone says, the whole "gay gene" scene has some of the funniest line deliveries in the entire series.
surprised to see comments hating on Sean Evans and calling him a charisma vacuum and etc. Everything is subjective but to me it reads as kneejerk contrarianism. He builds incredible rapport with guests and isn't a spotlight hog. Don't know what else people want
Re: "women aren't funny" shit, MOST people aren't funny- just go to an open mic and see. It takes years to develop skills as a comic/storyteller/etc. Men who bomb are just seen as unfunny individually vs women being seen as confirmation of their whole gender not being capable
I've spoken at length about how damaging online harassment is, both generally and in how it's rotted my own brain, but holding a presidential candidate responsible for his fans being rude online or acting like it's a legitimate political issue that should impact voting is insane
Very weird tendency in media crit or media generally to see any form of female sexuality (whether written by men or women or whoever) as inherently exploitative or inappropriate and it's an attempt at feminism that just comes off as puritanical and demeaning
The man who tried to groom me when I was a teenager is Steve Ressel, the animation director who worked on a bunch of cartoons (mostly known for Invader Zim).
Here are some messages he sent me when I was 16. I just found out that he did it to someone else.
You would think that being gay was invented in a lab at Cartoon Network in 2014 and that no other queer media or irl queer people exist so if you say something mildly rude about a cartoon they have to come to your house and murder you. to protect lesbians
Same with nostalgia critic. Not a lot of film "analysis" stuff I've been overtly negative about but I could not STAND either of those (hated tgwtg as a teenager) and people acted like I was such a debbie downer for not liking them and time has vindicated me
It's corny that people (not dan!) are using this as an "I never liked (person) anyway, the vibes were off" vibes = moral barometer BS statement BUT just coincidentally I never watched Somerton or knew of Somerton at all so this was like a bizarre instantaneous rise and fall to me
This visualization of the sheer scope and audacity of Somerton's theft is legitimately sickening, and that video's sudden, very explicable absence, is a beating heart under the floorboards.
I love logging on and seeing 500 tweets roasting the same two nobody guys. One of the guys doesn't like people who read at bars and the other says Jesus is mad at boobs! Both are completely irrelevant but wow I love seeing 50000 tweets doing epic clapback takedown roasts on them
I've gotten increasingly frustrated by people who expect radical revolutionary texts with the power to meaningfully change the world to exist in the form of big budget toy movies
"Barbie was fun but it was very 'feminism 101' and I am so much more feminism"
Full grown adults out here bragging that their feminism is so much better than a movie made for literal children about a literal children's toy, like, good and thank god?? WHY ARE YOU YELLING???
I've been called a dyke a bunch and get the special kind of street harassment you get when people think you're a lesbian and I've known cis bi people and straight trans people who have been called f*ggot. no bigot stops to politely clarify your identity before yelling at you lol
I am an idiot with no political instincts so I have no idea what will happen from this. But I know in my heart that, in this moment, it is extremely fucking funny
It's invasive and inappropriate to publicly speculate on the sexuality of someone you don't know, especially in spaces where they're likely to see it. People aren't characters for you to ship or have headcanons of. It seems silly to say but this has happened to me multiple times
with some shit you can just tell someone had a weird unfounded vendetta against a podcaster or whatever and they're delighted to have dug up a weapon they can cudgel them with and then you look at it and it's nothing
CURSED! CURSED! CURSED! FUCKING HELLWORLD! they need to take the cutout and burn it what the fuck???? What the fuck???!???????? Fucking siren call waifu cutout this is absolutely horrific
I didn't know antifascist activism was so easy! You just have to claim responsibility for a slight dip in the patreon earnings of a socialist podcast you don't like. Wow :)
I get marketing is marketing but re: One Piece live action sold as "follow your dreams" and "be true to your friends" or whatever makes it sound trite when it's much closer to this meme. Yeah it has shonen dream and friendship tropes but is more a story about attaining freedom
Why would you want to forcibly control the plot of media you supposedly enjoy & support just because you're unhappy with narrative choices? You could make a fan work or make your own original work if you want something you have complete control over that always does what you want
Thinking about how cool it would be to go to literally any public event in the country I live in and not have to worry about it ending in a mass shooting
Re: idubbbz there's the phenomenon Contrapoints talked about in her incel video (and JT Sexkik in his leaving 4chan one), that misery loves company & parts of the internet are a clawing hive of self-loathing full of resentment and excuses and hate for anyone who moves on/escapes
Bouncing off this, the false dichotomy between "embarrassing sincerelord" &"level-headed irony poisoned poster" is grating. Equating sincerity with embarrassment does nothing but reveal your own insecurity. Then acting like being fat/queer/etc is embarrassing just reveals bigotry
But I would hope anyone could understand that "Many years ago Y was in the same room as X once who was multiple years later revealed to be a bad person so Y is literally a Nazi now in 2020!" is a fucking stretch and that people who cling to this stuff are exhausting
Though tbh I expected more harassment for putting mine in and it's barely happened lol. I think people only made pronoun jokes at me a couple times and one was an aborted one the person immediately deleted. I get more harassment from other queer people now whoops 🙃🙃🙃
the thing about Lupin III is that 70% of it by volume is trash, either mediocre or stunningly offensive or both, 20% of it is pretty good/fine, and 10% of it is the ABSOLUTE best shit you've ever seen. and you have no way of knowing which until you hit play. so it's like gambling
If you are put off by something someone actually did and don't want to support them because of that that's totally your prerogative regardless of how long ago it was. But acting like a tenuous not-connection from several years ago is evidence someone is a bigot is fucking insane
Anyone who is queer and embarrassed by ace spectrum stuff or teens making new genders is weak/insecure. Bigots will be bigots either way. People who single out those different from them for ridicule so they look "normal" by comparison are transparently insecure & assimilationist
The more accessible and independent you are and the more reliant you are on queer/progressive/etc fans the more you court the ire of a (very small!) subset who thinks you have to be beholden to them specifically or they get a free ticket to try to destroy your work and harass you
The only paintings that reflect my soul are Vanessa Stockard's many paintings of her black cat Kevin wearing a cute little Elizabethan neck ruff sitting in massive chairs
It's ok to take inspiration and comfort from someone's work and have your life changed by their work AND admit they were harmful or unethical in aspects of their life AND be upset they were (allegedly) abused in their old age while vultures milked money from them
I say this as someone who has experienced obsessive/pseudo-stalking behavior & rape/death threats and so on- making "this game has upsetting content that I want to opt out of to play the rest of it" an accessibility issue doesn't sit well with me (vs prioritizing proper CWs etc)
Hey everyone! I don't know if you're familiar, but there's this thing called a "parasocial relationship". You should watch out! Sometimes parasocial fixations can create a dynamic that is bad for both you and f(blood just starts pouring out of my mouth)