2 years ago I lived on the 16th floor of a high rise building in Dnipro, Ukraine. 2 years ago today, I woke up at around 6am and opened my twitter account to find out Russia had invaded Ukraine. (1)
My little brother woke up before everyone else thinking he would be able to open presents before everyone… instead he’s now peeling potatoes. 😂😂😂😂 There is a life lesson there
If the level of support that Ukrainian refugees were given was given to every refugee group the world would be a better place. I am sorry to be blunt but it has never been about the care of victims of war but always about racism and white supremacy (14)
8. You might not feel an instant gush of joy
giving birth is a lot and I think there is this misconception that the minute you give birth you are automatically happy. If I’m honest when I have birth I felt strung out “the awww my baby” feelings didn’t come till days later
How do i explain being trapped in a country that has been annexed by the Russian military and you are not allowed to leave? How do i explain rescue missions being organised to save everybody but you? (10)
5. Coughing or laughing can be extremely painful after a C-Section -
I was so scared to laugh after I gave birth cause it felt like my uterus would fall out of my vagina 🥲 try using a pillow on your stomach when you need to cough or laugh
1. If you have an epidural right after you give birth you might be very itchy - this is a symptom of some of the medications used in epidurals. I remember feeling so itchy I could rip my skin off. Let your care provider know there is a medication they can give you to counter it.
How do I explain, spending days at the border in freezing cold temperatures and being told you can’t cross to refuge because you are not Ukrainian? (9)
How do I explain entering into a country and being detained for months on end, because black and brown people fleeing wars aren’t refugees their criminals… (12)
Solidarity to the students in Netherlands who are facing deportations on March 4th who are saying “we aren’t Ukrainian but we are still human”. Please lend your support to them, they need us the most
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11. You will still look pregnant -
I think mainstream media made us obsessed with the idea of the instant SnapBack and it’s honestly a myth your stomach doesn’t go down straight away and it’s absolutely normal your body needs time to recover
My heart goes out to the black and brown people who Ukraine was their home and their life was ruined because of the events of 24/02/2022. The people who all they want to do is move on and reclaim their lives but they are constantly having to fight that their life matters (16)
The past 2 years have been marred with deportations, expulsions, suicides, deaths, homelessness for black and brown people who fled Ukraine. 2 years on things have gotten worse rather than better (13)
15. It can get very lonely -
having mum friends is an actual lifesaver during that time not many people actually know what you are going through making friends with people you can relate with makes life a lot easier.
From being told you can’t get on bus because you aren’t Ukrainian, to you aren’t eligible for a scholarship because you aren’t Ukrainian, it has always been racism. (15)
14. You might lose hair
I didn’t even realise this was a thing until my entire hairline fell out and after some research and talking to other mums I realised a lot people go through it 😭 thankfully it’s started to grow back but this one was hard
7. The first poo can get quite emotional
- depending on whether you’ve had a c-section or stitches that plus weakened pelvic floor muscles and possible haemorrhoids can make that first poop very daunting. Nothing ever prepares you for it either.
My heart goes out to the students who took their own lives because they couldn’t see a light at the end of this tunnel. Solidarity to the students who went back to Ukraine after being denied refuge everywhere and have had to witness this war every day for the past 2 years (17)
I struggle to read books, if I start reading my mind ends up drifting, I will still be reading the book but I won’t be taking anything in. Does anyone (especially neurodivergent folk) have any tips for this?
My friend has a jar of memories, she just writes memories and achievements and keeps them in a jar and she opens it at the end of the year. What a cute idea, I’m gonna do this for 2022.
Solidarity to all the black and brown people of Ukraine who will never realise their dreams of becoming doctors because they have had to give up their education because the scholarships are for “Ukrainians only” (19)
Today marks 2 years since the Russian Invasion of Ukraine. A day that changed the lives of millions. As our hearts and minds are on the people of Ukraine let’s also remember
#AfricansinUkraine
let’s also remember bombs do not discriminate people do. (20)
12. Breastfeeding may be painful -
I think sometimes breastfeeding is painted as this easy thing but I’ve seen mothers be brought to tears by breastfeeding their baby. If you struggle speak to a lactation consultant or your midwife
6. The first pee can be rough
- if you’ve had a catheter or experienced tears that first pee can actually be very scary and you may experience some pain whilst you heal - use a peri bottle and try to relax as much as possible.
10. After-birth contractions and trapped gas are a thing -
you may experience contractions after you give birth as your uterus shrinks, and it can hurt ALOT, I think this is one thing that took me by actual surprise 🥲
9. After a C-Section getting out of bed can be extremely painful -
I don’t think anything really prepares you for the recovery of a c-section. Getting out of bed is a process in itself. A step stool, grabber and pilllows can go along way
3. You might need to wear a postpartum nappy
after you give birth your womb basically has to shed which will result in bleeding there are different types of maternity pads available, bleeding may be at its heaviest between 2-10 days but should ultimately lessen
13. It might take more than 6 weeks for you to feel like yourself again
Everyone looks forward to that 6 week mark like “oooh yeah buss case, I can drive, exercise and shag again” but honestly sometimes you may need a little longer and that’s absolutely fine.
I remember having this sinking feeling. As in I felt my heart physically drop to my feet. I remember looking outside and seeing military everywhere. It’s really hard to explain (2)
16. You might be apprehensive to have sex after you give birth -
it’s very normal to feel scared of sex after birth especially everything your vagina has been through.
The weeks leading up to the invasion, anytime you brought up the W word, the locals, our unis, other students would automatically tell you “it’s sensationalism from the west”. So maybe this was also sensationalism, maybe it wasn’t going to be that bad? (3)
17. It may feel like you will never sleep again - but ask for help even if it’s when people are round to visit, sleeping is essential to your recovery and your mental health.
Today is the 2nd year anniversary of the Russia - Ukraine war. A war that has claimed the lives of so many, and I have tried to think of the best words I can use to advocate for my community, the best words to use to express how I truly feel, but I can’t (5)
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Whats frustrating about that Channel 4 report is Ukraine had so many black, Asian and Middle Eastern people already. The issue isn’t integration the issue is racism. The people complaining the U.K. is “multicultural” are racist but the report is framing it as an integration issue
So many things went on in my mind, I think I must have done the entire grief cycle that morning. I denied, I was angry, I was sad… I was in shock. The rest of the day we stayed put trying to figure out what do we do… (4)
A lot of women and birthing care can attest postpartum care can often be poor, very little information on what to expect and what to do. The main takeaway is take it easy, this too shall pass and be vigilant of your physical and mental health. I hope this helps 💛
18. You may experience back pain after you give birth -
but if you are experiencing back pain after birth consider booking some sessions with an osteopath, chiropractor or regular massages. Anything that works for you if it does not help see a doctor.
Guys if you have learnt anything this Christmas let it be known that relationship debates live and die on Twitter people are LOVING each other in real life 😂
You can help by signing this petition
And asking
@TransformingEdu
to give African Students from Ukraine an opportunity to have their voices heard at the summit next month
#TransformingEducation
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I genuinely think if you don’t shoot your shot as a woman you are limiting your dating pool to only the men who are aware of you. What are your thoughts?