i remember as a teenager crying to a friend over the fear that i was deeply unlikeable. and she was like "ohmygod you've got this backwards. it's only bc you're so likeable that we've put up with the rest of your horrible bullshit"
i ask my hairdresser what haircut would suit my face shape. she pauses. "sorry i just worry beauty rules that involve dissecting features can get phrenological". i pull off my hair to reveal my smooth bald head. "monsieur foucault" she gasps. i nod. "you've passed my first test"
i asked r/Coding how long it would take me to learn to code a heart for our anniversary and the redditors said my bf was a programmer with a girlfriend so he had already "won at life" and was "legendary among his peers"
i feel like american girls are so impressed by matty healy because they don't know he's a very common archetype of british man. when i was 17 i knew like six floppy haired faux-self-deprecating wannabe oasis boys. it's just the british version of the bushwick no-bed-frame boys
the advertising of certain clothing as "handmade" unintentionally obscures the fact that ALL clothes are handmade. when "handmade" is reserved for the artisanal, whose hands get to count as real human hands? and whose hands are understood as merely part of the machine?
all this (wonderful) coverage about Ken has confirmed to me how generous female art is to male charcters even when writing them as pure accessory. even when she's Everything and he's Nothing, his Nothingness is still intriguing, we want to know WHY he's Nothing, HOW he's Just Ken
BREAKING: the london claw clip commuter girlies have EN MASSE made the transition from long black wool winter coat to lighter spring trench coat. anyone caught without their matching beige accessory will be shot on sight
i love the leftist twitter people who seem to think you can be mean to people as long as you're not mean to them bc of structural injustice (gender, race, neurodivergency etc), ignoring how a lot of the existing traits we're primed to be mean to are shaped by structural injustice
not to sound like a snob but it genuinely is sad to see young people passionate about learning get sucked into LinkedIn investment pop psychology learning styles healthy habits start-up finance podcast culture because that's the only framework of learning they've come across
the classic girl talk moment when you're both like "omg yes relationships can be tricky" and your problems are like "im wondering how to navigate moving to different cities for a while!" and your friend's are like "im not sure my boyfriend sees me as human!"
ohhhh i thought we were using "fake email jobs" to mean the pointlessness of creating profit. turns out people are using it to gender any office work women do as unnecessary and fantasise about them becoming housewives
imo the funniest and stupidest macro economic outcome is always the most likely so mass layoffs of women with fake email jobs might just be the catalyst for a new american baby boom
makes me DESPAIR the way that people's gut reaction is to frame things like this as "the robots are taking over". this is not Skynet or RoboCop. this is a very mundane, very upsetting industrial accident with a very human cause - TESLA have a history of ignoring workplace safety
unfortunately realising that if i don't at least have one night a week where i stay up insanely late just thinking about nonsense, i lose all sense of self
I saw my life branching out in front of me like the fig tree in the story. One fig was an upaid social media internship, another fig was a master's degree in gender studies, and another fig was moving home for a bit and working retail. I wanted each and every one of them.
can't believe im still seeing "buzzfeed feminism pushed young men to the alt right" take in 2022. it's not accurate. the algorithms didn't cut across political boundaries that often, they showed young men the "feminist cringe compilations" before they ever saw a feminist video
all of you are vehemently against "your husband smacking your butt as you unplug the crockpot full of buffalo chicken drip", but if i said "your partner slapping your ass as you add a splash of vegan cream to a hearty soup in your mid-century kitchen" then you'd all lap lap it up
but 1. dw im not actually complaining, this is like the smallest issue ever and 2. envy is politically unproductive so i should maybe go and dig a hole by myself. or with the girlies.
my friend was telling me about all the gigs of now-famous comedians she saw as a teenager in london, and my mind drifted back to me being 17 in hampshire getting excited for "apple juice thursday" which was when every thursday we'd try a new apple juice from sainsburys
i liked "pick-me girl" when it meant girls who would say they "didn't get feminism" as a form of flirting, or put down other girls for a guy's approval. now it just seems to mean "girls who play sports or video games" ???
i like 'girls' girl' as a concept but it would be cool if it meant women getting possessed together by the spirits of 70s feminist theorists and not women supporting each other's compliance with a male dominated culture
if this resonated - you can simply stop doing your horrible bullshit like i did!! it's probably happening when you're stressed or insecure or lonely, and those are just emotions you can live through & learn to deal w in better ways! you might be stupid but noone is irredeemable!!
there's a fun twitter thing where <300 likes, everyone understands that you're just having a thought. and over that, everyone assumes you're writing a political thesis. to be clear: my tone is mostly tongue-in-cheek, im not up at night weeping over the hole. id just dig the hole.
in my first year essays i always wrote "historians have said" or "political thinkers said" and then i would get a big huge red ❌️ with the comments "WHICH historians/thinkers". so i just swapped those for "existing scholarship" or "recent literature" and suddenly it's fine lol
vv funny the people who have seen enough infographics to know that in theory women should be allowed to break beauty norms, but in practice have never seen it. once a girl at a party pointed to my underarm hair and said "you don't shave" and i said "yes" and she said "that's ok"
project management for a big tech corporation is girly and fake and useless to society, but doing web dev for the same big tech corporations is very manly and real and important to society
american (specifically hollywood) beauty standards for teeth honestly scare me. he had perfectly straight teeth before, and now is reaching uncanny valley levels of "perfection"
@michellecyca
He did something to his teeth and I can’t look at him in the same why. I don’t understand if it’s just for this serie or he changed his smile
@badgendervibes
sadly not in time for our anniversary! trying to do it in C, which is his preferred language. but the redditors gave me v good advice so i'll defo give it another shot - mayb for valentines day!!
gotta do something drastic in my life bc im reaching the point where im like "omgg i can't wait to go to sleep!! something interesting might happen in my dream!!"
@raynefq
yess or even just being able to envision a stable career in the arts is a huge leg up to be honest. tho it's frustrating that the discourse has essentially just replaced "cultural capital" discussions with the significantly more limiting lens of "nepo baby"
none of you here are allowed to pretend you came out of the womb as a perfect intellectual with a fully formed worldview and an amazing literary taste!!! this is a conversation abt how capitalist productivity culture and pop politics are disucssed online, not abt ur huge brain!!
for clarity: im specifically arguing against ppl who are otherwise leftists but build their online identities out of "being mean". im arguing that often their insults are reliant on stereotypes that reinforce structural injustices and hinders them being good, effective leftists
very specific thing that im grateful for in my life is that
@ContraPoints
was studying for a PhD and her videos made me realise that political and philosophical theory existed, and now here i am ! i sometimes wish id had a better origin story than that but there we are
“It’s hard to be hurt, and perhaps even harder to hurt the people you love — why not cut the risk, lock the doors, and live a life of robotic, impersonal, action-oriented optimization?
The answer, of course, is that none of us are any good alone.”
don't let anyone use this International Women's Day to sell you clothes !! there is nothing "GRLPWR" about systemic sexual abuse, unsafe working conditions, and poverty wages !!!
is love too much of a big emotion it warrants diagnosis now?? must everything be therapeutic, an attempt to heal some wound?? the words of the mind - "imagination", "projection" are supposed to imply a falsehood, an illusion. but ofc love is all in our heads, what else is there!!
i do think that the uncritical aspects of 2010s sex positivity did actually leave a lot of young women vulnerable and ill-equipped to deal with patriarchal conditions of sex, BUT those criticisms have to be razor-sharp or you risk just rewording plain old curtain-twitching taboo
muting now! if i delete the tweet it's because it has come across as a cynical anti-whimsy tweet, when it was in fact tweeted from a pro-expasion-of-whimsy position. anyone who knows me can vouch i am an avid and regular practicer of whimsy, silliness, dilly-dallying etc. etc.
you? shallow, trapped by aesthetic boundaries. me? enlightened, sees across the frontier of buffalo chicken drip to the shared human instincts of love, kinship, and warmth
i BEG you don't gloat. i aged 19 to 23 in my childhood bedroom watching lectures like podcasts. i didn't meet anyone new for 2 and a half years. my 21st birthday was a zoom quiz. i promise never to make fun of the laugh/cry emoji again.
to add: social media algorithms are more likely to reward insults that play into structural injustices, bc those insults are already familiar to most people as the ultimate "put downs"
imo it's not just the people, but the medium we are being squeezed into for musk's ad revenue
im using buzzfeed feminism here as a stand-in for any of the contemporary "woke" marketing or "ineffective" social media feminisms. you can make criticisms of them in their own right, but it's not true or fair that these people are responsible for creating the alt right pipeline
kind of living for the taylor swift/matty healy dating rumours bringing down that whole "leftist" podcasting era. actually the funniest way this could've gone down. the humour was always boring and often bigoted anyway, deserved an undignified death like this
saying "meal prep": sterile, sequenced, monotonous, optimising yourself to be a better cog in the machine
saying "leftovers": cozy, humble, indulgent, reclaiming leisure time from the clutches of capitalism
actually maybe we don't even need to know how or why he's nothing, maybe that even detracts from how nothing he is. but point is that everyone is obsessed with his nothingness and i love it.
i think real human connection just makes you way less cynical in general. sometimes i will dismiss an entire music genre, film style, even a viewpoint or approach to life, only to find out someone i trust is into it. then i like to give it another go
it would be silly for me to be even remotely surprised to see that exactly none of the women in this supposedly pro-stubble ad campaign coating the times square subway station have genuinely hairy armpits. And yet..!
criticising the 9-5 grind is the core of all that hyper-masculine entrepreneurial "don't succumb to the rat race" content, but if it's a young woman with a valley girl accent then she's stupid and lazy i guess
@agneswickfields
yes! it's surprising to me that this is new information to people, but i will always have sympathy for women attempting to square the realities that an artist can write thought-provoking work that shapes their life/how they see the world, and is also a run-of-the-mill misogynist
the development and application of technologies are always shaped by human conditions, and currently that often works to serve unjust power structures - capital, the state etc. and capitalists can use conceptions of "the robots" to avoid taking responsibility for human decisions
actually so funny that jimmy carr does a whole "im gonna get cancelled for saying what the woke mob doesn't want to hear" set-up only to read out the most year 11 cards against humanity answers you've ever heard
so INFURIATING that all this work on self-love won't change that i exist as woman where my appearance affects my material conditions. i feel like ive embraced body neutrality, rejected anti-aging messaging. but ultimately i have to play the game somewhat in order to live my life