Coleman Joshua PHD
@drjcoleman
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Clinical psychologist, contributor @TheAtlantic, @nytimes, @WSJ, @Sesamestreet @NBCNewsTHINK, @sciam, @MarketWatch, @NPR, @Aeonmag, @CNN, #rulesof estrangement
San Francisco, CA, US, 94115
Joined December 2009
Here's my new article on the topic:
@drjcoleman It’ll be the first I’ve seen so I’ll def subscribe, but never heard of those types changing so I’ll enjoy the read but not gain any hope.
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My newest Family Troubles Substack article is about the "dark triad" personality traits and how they can increase the risk of estrangement .
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Hi Emily. I don't agree. She didn't splice my interview, she interviewed me directly. And I agree with her premise that therapists are sometimes the cause of estrangements when they wrongly blame parents for adult outcomes.
@drjcoleman are you aware of how Abigail Shrier spliced your interview in her book and changed your meaning? Her book is really going to hurt your cause of increasing reconciliation, with parents more likely to see themselves as victims and not listen to their kids’ issues.
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Yes, there's quite a bit of research in that area. I plan to write something soon on it in my Substack Family Troubles which you can subscribe to here:
@drjcoleman If there’s literature/ research on when the child (in my case son now 27) fits the profile of a narcissistic sociopath I’d love to know. They don’t change so I see my situation as hopeless.
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That's very kind. I appreciate that.
@drjcoleman @ccf @MPGKeynoteAgent @penguinrandom this very well could be the most important book i have ever read. and on the topic of mental health/ ptsd etc. i have read too many to count. i've been stuck for 10 years, trying my best to live the best life i can. thank you for all you do!.
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My newest article for the WaPo: Our 24-year-old has a mental illness. How can we help without enabling him? @CCF_Families, @MPGKeynoteAgent, @penguinrandom.
washingtonpost.com
A clear, consistent and emotionally neutral approach is often more effective over time than trying to persuade or plead.
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My recent WaPo column continues the conversation I started last month in The Atlantic about parenting boys vs girls. @MPGKeynoteAgent,@CCF_Families, @penguinrandom
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“We both came from strict households but apparently drew different lessons from it.”
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Honored to be featured in the New York Times on books researchers recommend on estrangement @CCF, @MPGKeynoteAgent,@penguinrandom
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Excellent article yesterday by @MichalLeibowitz about why millennials may be having less children and its relationship to therapeutic culture. @MPGKeynoteAgent @penguinrandom, @CCF_Families.
In @nytopinion. There are people “who try their best to deny themselves the satisfaction of that primary need, even in a world where the word ‘gossip’ is associated more with a guilty pleasure than a sin,” writes Michal Leibowitz.
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Glad to be interviewed for this article in the BBC by @miriamfrankel Should you ever cut ties with your parents? via @BBC_Future @CCF_Families, @penguinrandom, @MPGKeynoteAgent, #estrangement, #rulesofestrangement.
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Estrangement between parents and their children is surprisingly common – this is what research says about making such a difficult decision.
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My newest column in @washingtonpost is about whether a divorced parent should advocate for the estranged parent after divorce. @MPGKeynoteAgent, @CCF_Families, @penguinrandom
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People sometimes distance themselves from one parent or another for reasons that can be complicated.
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Looking forward to being on NPR's KERA radio today at 2 ET. We'll be discussing my recent article in @TheAtlantic @penguinrandom, @CCF_Families, @MPGKeynoteAgent.
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Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.
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Glad to have my @TheAtlantic article about raising boys featured in @mariashriver's Sunday paper here
mariashriversundaypaper.com
Listen to this article.0:00/108.77387755102041× 1. “Pope Leo’s Spirituality is Down to Earth” Every now and then, a moment in history invites us to pause, reflect, and feel a renewed sense of hope....
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RT @TheAtlantic: The idea that boys should be raised to be “tough” is resurgent in American culture. But that attitude, @drjcoleman writes,….
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Daughters tend to receive higher levels of affection and patience at home than sons. But the sons might need it more.
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I'm surprised I'm there too but glad to see it!.
I’m ASTONISHED that I’m in the top 25 parenting substacks! .Clearly parents aren’t into medical transition. @LisaSelinDavis and @drjcoleman you’re both there too!.
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RT @TheAtlantic: The idea that boys should be raised to be “tough” is resurgent in American culture. But that attitude, @drjcoleman writes,….
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My newest article for @TheAtlantic about what raising boys. With quotes from @ruthwhippman, @StephanieCoontz, @Steven_Mintz, @bjrisman, @Phil_Cowan, @CCF_Families, @PenguinBooks, @MPGKeynoteAgent.
The idea that boys should be raised to be “tough” is resurgent in American culture. But that attitude, @drjcoleman writes, conflicts with research showing that to thrive, boys really need more affectionate care:
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Dear Millennial Parents: Your Children May One Day Estrange You, Too.
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