I went back to see if there was an update… This man has apparently deleted his entire Reddit account

@arlenparsa It's good practice to not introduce your new partner to your kids until things are serious, but not introducing your love interest to the *fact that you have kids* is insane

@AshtinBird For sure. To me it smacks of insecurity about having kids in the first place… and it also suggests they’re not a big part of his life!

@arlenparsa Whole lot going on here, but... he even notes that he doesn't want to date a woman who would reject him for having kids. But then why conceal their existence?! It's a useful filter! Mentioning them is better for him and his potential partners!

@MaxKennerly Definitely. If he’s looking for a life partner and it turns out he’s been wasting a year of her life then it also means he’s wasting a year of his own too.

@arlenparsa maybe more of a "3rd date" convo, not a year after you've moved in together, secretly paying 10s of thousands of dollars in daycare to hide them from your partner

@arlenparsa He asked for her opinion and then got mad at it 😂😂he doesn’t need to date any damn body.

@arlenparsa Ummmm, wow...

@arlenparsa Oh my gosh please disclose children at the outset

@arlenparsa That was written by a guy?

@arlenparsa This was a wild read. Good God.

@arlenparsa that happened to my friend kinda

@arlenparsa “Oh yeah these are my 2 kids…” like WHAT sir you’re gonna give someone the ick

@arlenparsa First he asks for the friend’s opinion but then gets mad when the friend gives an honest and very good answer? If they’re not willing to disclose their kids, maybe it’s not time to start dating yet.

@arlenparsa This is why I have trust issues.

@arlenparsa @FerrariJonez Sooooo he wants to get in a full blown relationship with someone for over a year then tell them oh btw I have two children 🥴

@arlenparsa Absolutely no no no. I recently found out that a friend (not a contender for dating) had a kid after 2+ years of knowing them and I lost trust. What else are you hiding?

@arlenparsa To his point, tell them early so you know when you've dodged that bullet. Imagine finding out that you need to dodge a bullet after a year.

@arlenparsa @MyP_Chicago At first I was thinking maybe he wanted to wait until like the second or third date. Still weird given that he’s on a dating site and looking for marriage, but not unusual if he’d just met someone irl. But A YEAR?!?!?!?!?!?!

@arlenparsa A year is far too long to wait.