Don’t ever hesitate to reinvent yourself.
So many of us (including myself) have been comfortable in who we are and what we know best.... Well - maybe the greatest opportunities and your biggest blessings are in the next version of yourself.
So go ahead, and reinvent yourself
My biggest win this week is paying off my car 🙏🏾… I’m officially debt free. No car loan. No credit card. No student loans. Nothing. Just me and my investments and savings ❤️…
I get so emotional when I think about how much kindness I’ve poured on people and when it’s my turn , literally look at my phone and wonder who’s available for me…. Heyi
I hope someone marries me for my good heart and ability to think on my toes. I’m not a great chef 😂 and I don’t like cleaning. I’m an average brain and my beauty isn’t breath taking 🥴😂❤️❤️❤️ but I’ve got good heart and I’ll love you
I actually enjoy my single/unmarried life. Don’t get me wrong guys, I’d love to have a husband and children one day. But this thing of staying in a 1 bedroom apartment alone, driving my fuel friendly car and having random selfcare days is the best…
Mina guys - there’s washing machine at home, there’s washing machine at my place 😭 what would I be doing nendoda engena washing machine? In fact 😂 I’d buy him one for his birthday 😘
My happiest moment in 2021 turned out to be one my darkest seasons of my life. To be able to carry someone is a blessing on its own, but to never get the opportunity to meet the someone? Definitely felt like the end of the world. I personally cannot wait to close this year
It started as a tweet - 6 months later, 6 wine farms explored. And we’ve created such a health space for place girls to talk about anything over a glass of wine… (ps: the group is closed. No room of additional members)
You guys are still hosting parties and having friends over etc....
And then on Monday you take your Coronavirus to work - and it spreads to people who stayed at home, iweekend yonke.
Yhoo💔 ni selfish guys
You ask people to contribute to your birthday dinner - you’re broke.
You plan everything - people still come empty handed.
Plan? Take your money and go enjoy your birthday alone in a foreign country 🙏🏾 uPhume ekuthetheni
The list is long, but my top 3:
1. Having to break the news that I am poor
2. Teaching a new partner about my social anxiety
3. Those first sleepovers: discovering their rounds? morning breath? are they happy and chatty person ngo 6am? yessessss!
Department of Employment and Labour filed papers in court today against Huawei Technologies South Africa.
The company was audited in 2020 and found that they employ approximately 90% foreign nationals, which violates the Employment Equity Policy (EAP).
@etvNewsSA
I'm dating such a kind man. I don't remember the last time I have had to over stretch myself or go anything out of character for him.... He has set up such a safe and enabling space for me - I am me through out this whole thing and he receives it with such warmth and kindness😭
My person and I hosted such a beautiful cross over 🥺…
4 couples , braai, drinking and talking until 2am. And then we all called it a night 🥂… I love it here
A thread: some of my favourite wine farms so far:
(PS: I’m still exploring - so I’ll probably keep coming back to this thread to update)
1. Stark-Condé Wines
I’m not a body language expert but sana? this woman is still inlove with this man 😭 just look at how she’s looking at him! Ingath uzothi - yithathe yonke 😭😭😭😭😭
Unemployment for me🙏🏾
Over the past 9 years, I’ve worked so hard to make sure that back at home they have everything I have in the city! So ugoduka will always be my plan.
I fixed our back rooms to make sure my sister and I have our own flats. my car is paid up, I don’t have…
I don’t know maan - but I’ll never be okay with the fact that a man will fetch you at your singleness and peaceful state of mind - ask you to be his gf - only for him to bring you heart break... as if he didn’t fetch you uzihlelele 🤷🏾♀️
I don’t want to elaborate on this because it’s heartbreaking:
I plead with you guys to date healed adults. There’s nothing cute about broken adults who pretend to be wholesome then turn around and break everything they touch...
1 Corinthians 13:11, “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
He who finds a wife, finds a good thing☺️ God has truly blessed me
Thank you all🙏
p.s. It goes down in the DMs😂
Let me reintroduce myself, I’m Anelisa Tuswa - a Jnr Account Director at Hook, Line and Sinker and a former Business Journalist.
—- 😘 bye Journalism - hello PR and Comms💕——
Personally, I’d rather you do this , than ghosting or gaslighting me into thinking I’m not good enough…
If this isn’t what you’re looking for right now.
Great. Thanks for letting me know
I have a friend , who has been so intentional about our friendship and I also learnt to reciprocate her efforts.
Maaaan - adult friendships require you to be friends with people who want to be your friend. Not uzihlohla
Having your own little money as a woman is your best security..... protect yourself mntase and get your little money. Braid hair. Go work over time. Tutor. Etc.... Wow.... yall, I've seen what men do to women who have nothing. And its dehumanizing.
2022 wrap up for me:
Found myself🙏🏾
Caught flights ✈️
Fell inlove with my bestfriend 🥰
Paid off my car
Bought my first home💸
Finished a GetSmart certificate ✅
Got retrenched
Got a new job/new career.
Signed few Influencer gigs.
Built flats at home.
Renovated mamas kitchen.
Having your own space and own car is underrated.
These 2 bring so much peace and convince in ones life. You just live and do as you wish, without inconveniencing anyone or anything.
A few weeks ago I posted here and on Instagram that I needed female friends to do wine farm dates with 🥰 and we had our first wine farm date yesterday. Definitely looking forward to exploring Cape Wine lands and making new friends 🥂🍷
Where I come from guys - you don’t carry your fathers surname if your father did not marry your mother! Even if damages have been paid!
Damages are not lobola!
Thanks for interviewing our people in their home languages. I’m seeing a lot of people who have strong opinions policed and limited by the use of English. I need BLACK JOURNALISTS to ask BLACK people what language they prefer to be interviewed in! THE ENGLISH VIEWER WILL ADJUST
#ShutdownSA
This gentleman (Nkosingiphile) from Pietermaritzburg warns of the devastating economic impact, to be caused by ongoing violent protests & looting in KZN & other parts of the country. Like many motorists in PMB, he's had to travel kilometers to look for fuel.
#eNCA
Ingaske uThixo andiphe imali eninzi, ngoba my love language is spending money on people I love. I love gifting, get aways, random gestures etc…
If I see it - I want to buy it because “my man would like this” 🥺 or “my sister said she doesn’t have data. Let me”…
You guys even have issues with a HAPPY AND PROUD black parent celebrating their children - the African way???? during graduation?
Impakamo eninayo? Shocking 😳
Actually I don’t have an issue with the fact that he drank the coke yazi. A lot of people give away things they wouldn’t even consume … maybe - this is his was of assuring him that “akhonto iwrongo nayo”
My other potential is asking me who bought me flowers 😂 told him his competitor - in the race... he sounds upset 😂😂😂😂 do you guys think nisifuna nodwa?
Being with my man has taught me that:
1. There's no such thing as "too busy" for your partner.
2. You can be physically far but present.
3. Men can adjust! They're fast learners - you dont have to ask twice.
In conclusion - I've learn that, if a man wants to, he will.
Should be fine if you don’t add nightlife.
Tip - do 1 activity per day , have breakfast from your hotel or Airbnb.
Day 1: dunes x 2 = R2000
Day 2: wine tram x 2 = R700
Day 3: Table Mountain cableway x 2 = R800
Day 4: boat ride - zi cheap ke ezi zase waterfront
I’m so proud of my self.
Today is my day 2 of ‘trying’. I woke up early, went for a morning job/walk , came back showered and made breakfast. Now I’m working…
This may sound like a minor thing but When you suffer from horrible anxiety and depression? This is a win
My honours year! Lol I was accepted for honours but my scholarship was only covering tuition and my friends convinced me not to tell my mom because she would have not agreed ukuthi ndibuyele eGoli. To cut the story short 😂 ndandiskwata nabo eRes , ndisitya iMeals zabo eDinning…
“Good morning to you too babe, I’m well. Hope you’re well too. I have a pretty busy day ahead. I’ll be off the grid most of the day. But I’ll call you once I get an opening” …
This is communication. The easiest thing to do when you value someone. It’s really not complicated
I don’t believe in tough love. I’m a gentle person - so even at times where I want to ‘teach you a lesson’, I still want it to land easy.
I’ve never been a fan of people who break you - in the name of ‘teaching you a lesson’…. It’s jussssst does not hang well in my heart