Female friendship is so ugh. I can’t even begin to explain. Deepest love I’ve ever experienced personally. It’s just people often value romantic love solely and it’s sad.
Please dump on me. I’m here to be dumped on. No friend in my life should ever feel like their emotions are too much for me. They’ll NEVER be too much. If I ever close myself off from you it’s because it’s not reciprocated, never because you’re too much.
Every toxic relationship has it’s expiry date. I won’t force my friend to leave their toxic boo, cos tbh I know life. You can go back 500x but each time you go back, the love and your energy dies a little more. By the 501st you’ll end it, without anyone telling you.
After seeing all these stories about peoples partners leaving them high and dry and disappearing suddenly. I’m here to say, it’s not sudden. It’s rarely sudden. This isn’t me condoning, but explaining.
Many times people live day to day, in the moment. “We woke up, we cuddled,
If you’re gonna forgive someone, you gotta forgive them properly. You cannot hold things over their head every second to excuse your closed off behaviour. Either choose to accept or cut them off. Can’t have it both ways.
My biggest pet peeve is someone who debates everything you say. They can never just accept the words you speak, they gotta consistently have an opposite opinion, or turn it into some debate challenge. So insufferable.
I saw this tiktok and it’s soooo true and if it’s longer than two years, the first two years are the only years you’re still mentally/emotionally checked in. The following years are just so forced.
How each sign is a personality catfish:
Aries - seems tough but are soft/sensitive internally
Taurus - seems quiet but talks a lot
Gemini - seems avoidant but are super bothered
Cancer - seems caring but have a detached side
Leo - seems strong but often have breakdowns
Virgo -…
See I’d get the ick. I don’t want your exes having bad stories about you. I don’t wanna be the first person you treat right because I don’t buy it. It means it ain’t your default and you may eventually slip back into regular mode. I just don’t like the “good to me, bad to the…
I remember being approached by an ex of my bf warning me what type of man he was. I was his first relationship since they broke up. She told me how terrible he was and how he used her for money and sex. How he never did anything for her and she just wanted to let me know what…
Watch your tone when you’re speaking to people cos “this is just how I speak” isn’t always going to fly. You may unintentionally create hostile environments and defiant relationships cos of your energy.
I saw someone tweet how “there’s nothing worse than seeing someone who treated you like shit, treat other people better” and I wanna say, if you simply stopped watching them, you’d never know.
I only eat a meal a day and it becomes so normal, you don’t realise you’re kinda weak/malnourished until you start eating more and notice a difference.
I dont ever rekindle or reconnect w people who don’t want to have a lengthy discussion about why we fell out in the first place. There’s no sweeping anything under the carpet here.
Some friendships or even romantic relationships are thriving off the simply fact no one communicates how they feel because the moment they do, the emotional immaturity will come out and the whole foundation will collapse. As long as you’re okay w everything, you’ll last.
Videos like this remind me that there really is a person out there for everyone. There is really no one who is unloveable. You just haven’t met your person yet.
Idk if I’m dramatic, but since I was a kid, I always hated making someone feel uncomfortable like if my friend wanted to whisper in my ear, I’d not let her if there’s someone else there so the other person doesn’t think we’re speaking about them. Or diverting the convo if we’re
I’ve always disliked deflection. When you call someone out on something and they have a “yeah you do it too” or “but wb the time you did this n this” like pls. Pick your moment, don’t make my time your moment.
Yes. Heartbreak can kill. I know someone who lost their best friend and died a couple days after the funeral in their sleep with no underlying health issues.
I feel like Aquarius/Capricorn/Taurus/Virgo/Scorpio placements are definitely the types you have to be with in real life for them to properly show/express themselves. I don’t think their personality translates well online at all.
I told this boy imma kill his whole family when we was arguin . Why i went to they function and soon as i walk in they tammat “dea go da family killer yall “😭😭😭😭😂😂😭😭😭
We should be thankful to Taurus/Scorpio placements because there’s a lot they keep to themselves. If they expressed everything? Whew RIP to our feelings. Their observation skills and lack of talking out of turn, allows them to see a lot. They can read a room, your personality &
My no contact tips are the best:
1) don’t check their profile AT ALL (there’s nothing you need to know or see, and not everything shown/posted is their reality)
2) tell the people around you to no longer discuss the person, you shouldn’t either. When you feel you’re about to,
Being loved by an Aquarius is amazing because the side you’re getting is simply because they love you most. The version I get of my best friend had me thinking she’s like this w everyone until I actually saw she’s usually a lot more closed off, anti social and irritable.
Time isn’t even a healer. Acceptance is. Accepting that this is your new reality, this is now who you are, this is what it is. That’ll heal you quicker than attempting to wait it out until it hurts less.
A big manipulation technique I’ve noticed from a lot of liars is actually their ability to be an open book. They’ll admit some really scandalous stuff so you think they’re able to be vulnerable, accountable and naked with you but there’s a madness that they are hiding.
For me, one easy indication of low self esteem is the inability to walk away from things.
The more your confidence and self worth increases, the easier ignoring desires and choosing things based on value of self is. Your will power becomes impenetrable with self love.
I personally believe you gotta condition your brain to be able to date more than one person because that whole focussing on one person too early is how people get trapped with people they’re not compatible with but gained a strong attachment to due to minimal options.
We kissed as usual, we spoke all day as we always do.” But they fail to remember the argument a month ago, the time the person stated they’re tired/dislike something, the eye roll when an old time annoying behaviour is done again, the monotonous routine of the relationship &
It’s a blessing to be emotionally intelligent enough to notice when someone’s feelings towards you are pure projection based on their own lack of self understanding and acceptance of sensitivity levels.
You’ve had you since birth. You’ll have yourself forever. And you’re putting yourself to the side to accommodate keeping someone else that’s replaceable? I don’t think we realise the message this sends to ourselves. We speak on loyalty but we rarely show it to us.
I have said this so many times. Some people can speak, and will speak clearly and eloquently and openly. But there words will lack depth and rawness. You’ll notice they still have an emotional wall up where they cannot be vulnerable and they speak as though they’re narrating
One thing I like about Aquarius/Leo/Scorpio/Taurus placements is once they see a situation is done and dead. It’s done and dead forever. There’s no return. Nothing will ever reignite their interest once it’s been switched off. That’s why it takes them forever to do so.
You really gotta know who you are and be strong in it because people will try tell you who you are based on their own feelings towards you. If you ain’t strong and confident in it, you’ll grow to have a really weak or false perception of yourself. That’s dangerous.
I do this thing w people where I fall back on purpose just to see “hmm if I stop putting in effort, how often will we speak or what kinda relationship will we have.” And I realise damn, I really am the life of the relationship.
Women we need to actively stop being good people. Cause chaos everywhere we go because nothing positive has come from being good except people walking over you and taking advantage.