Taking Children Seriously
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Taking Children Seriously: children are entitled to the same freedom, rights, respect & control over their lives as we are. Non-coercion; fallibilism; freedom.
Oxford, UK
Joined July 2021
@EM_RESUS Early childhood caries is a cosmetic problem, no child has ever had a mortal event from tooth decay in their primary dentition. The treatment ie the anesthesia is what has created mortal events for children under 6 being treated for a largely cosmetic problemâŚ
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No wonder so many American parents seem so micromanaging and helicoptery. đ¤Śââď¸ FTR, I babysat my 3-month-old sister for a couple of hours when I was 6 years old! đś
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Youâre this kidâs parent. When they come home from school unhappy, you tell them âBoredom is part of life. You have to deal with unpleasant things.â What does the kid hear? âReading isnât really that great, boredom is more important. And suppressing it and putting on a good
Youâre a five year old. You love to read. You can read chapter books. Youâre excited to start school in the fall. Then you actually start school. Youâre stuck doing basic literacy. The rest of your class canât read. Youâre not allowed to read your books. Youâre frustrated and
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@remedi @DavidDeutschOxf @clarity_cue @flowidealism When a child is upset about something like this, there is a problem to solve, and there will be a reason for her strange upset, and if you remain curious about and explore what that underlying reason is, you may well discover that the problem is actually easy to solve, and she
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The moment we become the authority, we are no longer the trusted guide.
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Although the parent might feel as if they feel empathy for the child, they must actually be deeply disconnected from the childâs experience and numbing themselves to the childâs distress.
Thank you to my dear friends @TCSparents For posting my quote! If you hold a limit on your kid, and then empathize with their upset, it's false empathy! Because you are the perpetrator!
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âIn what universe would your average adult not object to being forced to go to school, to attend lessons they hate, to do homework, and to endure bullying, boredom, and sometimes outright abuse, stealing eleven years of their time?â - Sarah Fitz-Claridge
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Taking Children Seriously is a new/different view of childrenâas being full people whose wishes matter just like ours do, whose lack of consent matters just as much as ours does, whose reasons for their wishes make sense, just like ours do.
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âWe cannot be the perpetrator and the empathizer at the same time.â - Vivek Patel .@meaningfulideas
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âChildren need to be helped to share.â Helped? Or forced to? What does this âhelpingâ involve, exactly? Why is the child distressed if the parent is âhelpingâ? If you were busy working on something important to you on your laptop, and a bigger, stronger person âhelpedâ you
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âParents are making judgements about which ânatural consequencesâ to âjust let happenâ and which ones not to. They are using them to compel compliance.â - Sarah Fitz-Claridge
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Such feelings are not actually inevitable. Childhood does not have to be like that. Children feel such feelings for reasons. The adults in their lives are not listening to their wishes and reasons, but overriding them. Coercion is not compulsory. Problems are soluble.
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ââPromote coping and competenceâ seems to mean training children to expect little and demand less. Competence is not promoted by coercion. And coping is about a problem being stuck instead of being in the process of being solved.â - Sarah Fitz-Claridge
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âToo many children grow up trying to please others, without ever quite knowing what they really want or what really interests them.â â Naomi Fisher, 2021, Changing Our Minds: How children can take control of their own learning, 7: ParentingâMagical Counting, Attachment and
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Nice counter to some of the points I made! Especially about attunement. I think I underestimate how alien the noncoercive view is. Itâs not just the idea children are full people, although thatâs part of it â âeveryone can get everything they wantâ is the truly alien part. đ¤Ż
@reasonisfun @jonnym1ller @astupple Being attuned to your baby and curious about what your baby wants or doesnât want, is interested in or not interested in, what makes your babyâs heart sing, and what doesnât, and how it is all evolving and changing all the time, is absolutely vital. There is sooooo much that is
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âThatâs the thing about taking ourselves and each other seriously: everyone gets what they want, and enjoying your loved oneâs joy is just more icing on the cake!â - Francine Lucidon (From a brand new not-to-be-missed article Francine wrote for the Taking Children Seriously
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Source: The interview first appeared in the paper journal, Taking Children Seriously, in 1996. Taking Children Seriously 21, ISSN 1351-5381, pp. 6-10. It is available here:
takingchildrenseriously.com
David Deutsch explains why he says that he could not be very productive without also being untidy.
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âTidiness is a thing which is foisted upon children, and it results in all sorts of unpleasant things for them like boredom and having their privacy invaded, and so they get nervous and uptight about their personal space, and sometimes this translates itself into hang-ups about
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