I'm high key one of my favorite people.

You’ll never obsess over someone who actually wants you. Bc obsession isn’t born from love, it’s from uncertainty. It feeds on mixed signals, unmet needs & the tension between what they say… & what they do. It’s the gap.I want you to sit with that for a minute.Let it land.

Maturity is realising being single lets you live in theory & relationships drag you into practice. And practice is messy. Think about it: you can spend years reading about forgiveness, but you only discover your capacity when someone wounds you.

STAY CLEAR of the people who don’t value the small sacrifices you make… like spending money you barely have, showing up when you’re tired, giving advice, being a listening ear, carrying their problems, or being the one who checks in first.

Everyone needs to experience someone emotionally available at some point in life, even if it doesn’t last. You’ll never go back to dating ppl that are emotionally unavailable again. You’ll get the ick & it’s bc you now have a reference point, a baseline & it’s irreversible.

Everyone needs to experience someone emotionally available at some point in life, even if it doesn't last. You'll never go back to dating emotionally unavailable people again. You'll get the ick, and it's because you now have a reference point. A baseline and it's irreversible.

A lot of ppl don’t struggle to let go of ppl, you just struggle bc you thought they were the best you could do. And you’ll know it bc there’s a moment of healing where you bump into your old obsession & feel nothing. Then you realise how incompatible you were. That’s growth.

If someone really valued you, no contact wouldn’t be happening right now. Let go.

Nobody talks about the guy who shows up during your healing stage. The one who’s calm, patient, & genuinely kind. He makes you feel safe in ways you didn’t even realise you needed. He’s not love bombing or playing games,he’s consistent, steady, & truly sees you. It’ll scare you.

Dating Blueprint: Don’t confuse being wanted with being chosen. Wanting is about them. Choosing is about you. You can be pursued without ever being prioritised. Desire = instinct. Choosing = conscious. Desire is the mind & body craving something it doesn’t yet have.

If you’re someone who craves emotional depth… you’re actually more prone to attracting people who fear it. Those who love deeply often attract those who avoid deeply. Let me explain

This nurse is always late to my 9AM appointment.

Avoidants feel things in reverse. At first it’s relief..That space feels like freedom bc connection feels like pressure. Their nervous system calms itself bc your stimulus became too much for them. This is your needs, emotional presence and desire for intimacy. Let me explain:

You’ll never obsess over someone who actually wants you. Bc obsession isn’t born from love, it’s from uncertainty. It feeds on mixed signals, unmet needs & the tension between what they say… & what they do. It’s the gap. I want you to sit with that for a minute. Let it land.

Most ppl don’t realise this, the body grieves routine before it grieves a person. So you aren’t crying over him. You’re crying over the version of yourself that was shaped by his patterns, attuned to his silences, fluent in the unspoken language of his inconsistencies.

nothing exposes your need for character development like a relationship. you will think you have sense, until you realize you have issues with communication, you’re impatient, defensive or have trust issues.

I can finally say in my 30s I’m learning and putting into practice how to date.

He’s interested in me. It’s just not as much as the people I cut off.

I cut everyone interested in me off for the person I’m most interested in. Who the hell told me to do that??

Nah, this isn’t going to go down like this.

Good morning ☀️