A therapeutic brand for every human nook and cranny is the profession chasing its own tail. Rather than collecting tools for every situation, we should focus on fundamentals that work in most situations. https://t.co/Uz8zfali9B

“Although it once seemed like a good idea to give every child his or her own device, it’s clear that those policies have been a failure.” 💯 School-issued laptops distract students at school and home, expose them to things they shouldn’t see, and hurt learning. 🧵

The fall of "When prophecies fail": Another social psychology classic turns out to be based on fabrications and lies. In 1954, Dorothy Martin predicted an apocalyptic flood and promised her followers rescue by flying saucers. In “When Prophecy Fails “ (1956), the

When everything from practical advice and political advocacy to pep talks and affirmations is labeled “therapy,” it’s no wonder AI chatbots are being called that too.

“Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real,” wrote Iris Murdoch, British philosopher and novelist in 1959. Half a century later, we seem to have forgotten how to love.

True faith rests on the assumption that the universe is fundamentally uncertain. In the 2024 movie “Conclave” about the election of a new pope, the Dean of the College of Cardinals (played by Ralph Fiennes) says, “There is one sin that I have come to fear above all others.

Counterintuitive but extremely important message! It also has the benefit of lessening moms’ load.

It finally happened. Some readers had asked for a concise, peer-reviewed critique of The Body Keeps the Score. 🔥🔥It’s open access, so everyone can read it — even people who think trauma made them do it. You’re welcome, science. Evaluating evidence behind popular trauma

Have you ever noticed how often people who call themselves "empaths" are actually not very empathetic or compassionate? Oh, the power of self-deception...

"Does this choice enlarge me or diminish me?" is a great question to ask yourself when facing a dilemma (thanks to psychoanalyst James Hollis). Aim for enlargement, however uncomfortable!

Long before growth mindset, French existentialist Jean-Paul Sartre argued that saying “I am what I am” is an excuse. We continually create ourselves through our choices and actions and we're always in the process of becoming. To deny this, or to insist “If I can’t do it

TODAY IS THE DAY to allow child independence! 🎃👻💀🎃👻💀 Kids and neighbors will be all over the place. The perfect situation to stay home, with a nice drink, while you send your kids out into the world to go trick or treating WITHOUT AN ADULT. Let them feel proud and

"Don’t make a “safe” choice, do what needs to be done. To postpone what matters is to live, as the French existentialist Sartre put it, in bad faith: estranged from our own freedom. Life’s finitude means that inaction is a decision to let time, rather than intention, steer the

"Don’t fool yourself into believing that you can just refrain from making a choice. Every time we choose not to choose, we’re diminishing our existence. We trade short-term relief for long-term regret and a life of quiet (or not so quiet) desperation." Read this, and more, in my

Many seem unable to view mental/emotional difficulties in any way but through a moralizing lens. On the right, the moralizing mentality often takes the form, “Straighten up, don’t be weak” (and I’m morally righteous because I’m not weak) On the left, the moralizing mentality

“In 2015, researchers at the University of Sussex in England asked a group of 20 English teachers in Year 8, the U.S. equivalent of 7th grade, to change their practice for 12 weeks. During that period, they would read two novels back to back, with all of the reading done in

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We are told to “live without regrets,” as if that’s even possible. Regret is not a flaw to eradicate but a teacher to listen to. It reveals what truly matters and where we’ve strayed from our values. My latest public Substack post dives into why the myth of a regret-free life

“We would rather be ruined than changed We would rather die in our dread Than climb the cross of the moment And let our illusions die.” ― W H Auden

No wonder we've forgotten how to talk to each other.