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Even in the mess, we rebuild.
England, United Kingdom
Joined May 2011
Sometimes I sit back and watch the way we treat each other in this UK, and honestly, I laugh. Not the full-belly kind. The tired kind. That laugh that lives deep in your chest because if you start unpacking it, you might never stop. Take how some people look down on care
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Okay, walk me through how the company should special recognize this intern. Give her royalties for her suggestion? Give her stock options? Display her name every time the Wrapped season comes up? I need to understand how the proportionality will be implemented and don’t stop
What’s sensational about that? Wrapped isn’t a minor tweak like “reply” or “edit”—it’s a flagship cultural product that transformed Spotify’s brand and engagement worldwide. Saying “she was paid, so what?” ignores the disproportionate value of her idea. Ownership ≠
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The greatest lie generational harm tells is that "it made you strong." Once you believe that lie, you start to see cruelty as curriculum. And once cruelty becomes curriculum, you teach it with pride. This is how trauma becomes tradition. The men and women who perpetuate harm
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What I see again and again is how much the strain of migration itself piles on a family. Stress, isolation, long work hours, and lack of extended family support turn normal conflicts into crises the law cannot ignore. And the law here moves fast and doesn’t negotiate. Once it
We need to have an honest conversation about the number of Nigerian children being taken into foster care in the UK because it keeps rising and this is not because the system “hate Nigerians” No! It’s because too many families are trying to raise children in a country they do not
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This mindset will choke you slowly. Not every gift is a trap, and not every giver is waiting to cash out on your dignity. Sometimes it is your own mistrust rehearsing disappointment before life even offers it. If you keep refunding kindness, you will eventually attract only
I find it very difficult collecting gifts I can't readily afford, knowing how unpredictable humans can be, my anxiety will always be on the edge bcos self respect is key Incase you move funny, I just transfer the money equivalent of your gift. I hate stress & drama.
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The sad part is this: once a society ties respect to money, you’re never really allowed to feel enough. People think they’re chasing luxury, but most of the time they’re just running from shame. You start living like a stock price, always trying to stay up so you don’t
The resultant effect on the psyche of the country's inhabitants is that they would do anything to make money. If they don't succeed, they'd borrow or steal symbols of wealth/riches that inflate their perceived value. Do this enough times and you're stuck in a vicious loop.
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Stop talking and just do the work. I’m exhausted by the endless, bottom-tier performances.
Let's do this 😤
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The older I get, the more I realize nothing changes if nothing changes. The new life you want doesn’t magically appear. It’s built through action. New habits. New mindsets. New standards. New boundaries. Reinvention has a cost of entry. Pay it with pride.
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Betrayal is personal. There’s a way we use words in today’s world that doesn’t sit well with me. It’s okay to admit simple truths and still make your point without introducing some deeper layer or complexity that forcefully attempts to convey unconventional wisdom
You niggas take betrayal way too personally. Betrayal is an economic issue not a moral one. Loyalty only exists when betrayal is expensive. If it’s cheap to stab you in the back then people will. Anyone telling you different is full of shit Get your worth up
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@Mrpossidez For the ones who don’t enjoy to read like me, watch documentaries, interviews of people of interest, listen to podcasts, listen to conscious music, engage in conversations that are ‘above your level of intellect’, learn!
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Reading. Listen, reading will improve your life dramatically. It offers you fresh perspectives and with that you reorient your life, your story. Remember, all of life is a story. And what we call success is having a story that ‘makes sense’.
Besides working out, what is something any man can do to increase his value?
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A Nigerian woman’s loyalty, softness, and submission are not personal traits, they are survival traits. And once survival is outsourced to the welfare state of the UK, Canada, or the US, the man loses the leverage he never knew was his only leverage. 🧵
Na Nigerian lady do this thing to her Nigerian husband for UK!
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The kitchen was empty. The mug in my hand was still warm, though I could not remember what I had drunk. And in that quiet, I realised how easy it is to borrow sympathy, how tempting it is to wrap yourself in it like a blanket and pretend it will fix everything. It is this
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Beautifully written, Enyinnaya. Where I really agree is in your frustration with how any attempt to unpack male psychology gets waved off as “agenda”. People cling to the narratives that feel morally tidy, even when those narratives flatten the truth. But understanding why
Ojay, I appreciate this explanation, truly. You make a beautiful point, about power imbalance in a sexual relationship; and between a 16 or 17 year old male with a 33 year old female, in this case. And it’s a commentary I genuinely hoped I’d have come across earlier. My point
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Ojay, I appreciate this explanation, truly. You make a beautiful point, about power imbalance in a sexual relationship; and between a 16 or 17 year old male with a 33 year old female, in this case. And it’s a commentary I genuinely hoped I’d have come across earlier. My point
The law is there to protect minors from power imbalances, pressures and exploitation. It doesn't deny they have urges. In fact, what you have described isn't unique to male teenagers. Females have these urges as well and it's what inspires some to seduce adults yet the obligation
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I've set off into a stage in life where I’m neither counting wins nor errors. I'm just in motion.
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I can't explain it to those who have not experienced it, but I always look forward to going to the UK because my mobility is more unrestricted there. I don't have to drive from London to Manchester, and I can hop on a bus or train to get anywhere. I love Ghana, but I hate
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Kindness is the only wealth that never crashes.
In my 87 years on earth, I’ve learned one truth that never changes: life can humble anyone. I’ve watched people rise from nothing to abundance and I’ve also watched people who once had everything lose it all in a moment sometimes through sickness, unexpected setbacks or
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The truth always shows up after the damage. But the more I sat with it, the more I realised something uncomfortable. Wisdom is not a light switch. It is a chemical reaction. It needs time, bruises, and evidence before it can settle in. And maybe that is why certain truths feel
And maybe that’s why life keeps its secrets locked until the exact second they’re meant to break you open. Yet perhaps the bitter miracle, strangely so, is this: every hard-earned truth arrives precisely on schedule, not early enough to save you, but just in time to transform
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