Francesca Specter
@ChezSpecter
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Podcast host & author of Alonement, a @thetimes book of 2021. Writes The Shoulds newsletter 📧 [email protected]
Camden Town, London
Joined April 2011
The Shoulds, my @SubstackInc publication & community space examining the hidden rules & stories that shape our lives, launches with its first issue this Wednesday. Make sure you subscribe to receive it in your inboxes: https://t.co/BTpxVCtxFH
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Hello! 👋Do you guys still see my posts on here? I'm running a guided journaling workshop online at 12pm midday UK time tomorrow – register to join by signing up on The Shoulds https://t.co/qL5wuFFcv3
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Publicists, PR pals – who's still on here? Planning S10 of the Alonement podcast 🎙️ open to guest pitches for limited slots. Email in bio!
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Sending my book to authors I admire was one of the most nerve-wracking parts of the whole process, so to receive these lovely quotes from @cathgraywrites @Oliviapetter1 @geeewheeler @ChezSpecter and more was an incredible feeling. Under four weeks until Main Character is out ✨
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A tea towel to remember my latest cohort of @cbcreative students by - and their books! Not likely to forget them anyway , a supremely talented group of individuals and wonderful human beings. A joy to work with and now to dry dishes with :)
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big secret to happiness is just liking stuff. finding more stuff to like. finding ways to like stuff you didn’t before. recognizing what it feels like to like something and doubling down on that. what feels frivolous is actually the whole ballgame
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For a pitch I'm working on – I'm looking for examples of public architecture (preferably recent) which is designed to be welcoming to people visiting alone. Can any architects/urbanists help with this one?
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Hello! A question for any therapists I know on here - is there a conversation within therapy circles around financial ethics eg if a client is in a position where they’re struggling to pay (and it’s affecting their life elsewhere), would you recommend they stop?
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& the finished piece - thanks for the inspiration @imbethmccoll
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In this week's newsletter, I'm exploring the concept of romanticising your life – a TikTok phenomenon & the subject of a new book from @imbethmccoll. I'd like to know: what does romanticising your life mean to you – and in what ways might you do it? (Definition via @nytimes)
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Wise words! Imagine a lot of perfectionists struggle with this (as if self-compassion is a concession to mediocrity) – but, as @thom_curran explains, that's not the case. Loved Tom's book, The Perfection Trap – for anyone looking to explore this further
Self-compassion is not the same as complacency; rather, our willingness to reflect on ourselves and our endeavours shows a commitment to progress, not a satisfaction with the status quo.
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I should have added "when I am dead".
Aisling Bea: ‘Bury me in a coffin made out of potato waffles’
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Hey everyone! Excited to share my latest Deep Dive episode where I explore love and relationships with world-renowned relationship experts ❤️ Whether you're new to dating or looking to strengthen a long-term connection, this is for you. Enjoy! x https://t.co/fpCSbY99Bl
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Do you love or loathe Valentine's Day? ❤️ Author and columnist, @NotRollergirl thinks it's a great time for 'showing people in our lives that we love them' but podcast host and author, @ChezSpecter says it seems 'antiquated'. https://t.co/PAiZ4D1jU3 📺 Sky 501 and YouTube
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Alonement author @ChezSpecter joins @KayBurley to discuss how Valentines Day makes any other form of love like friendship seem like a lesser option, and how it's a capitalist invention. 🕐8:30am 👉#Breakfast 📺Sky 501 / Freeview 233 📱Watch live:
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a big part of figuring out your neurodivergence is simply learning to work with your brain rather than against it, and letting go of all of the ‘shoulds’ we’ve been told about how we ‘should’ behave, ‘should’ function, ‘should’ do things and ‘should’ feel.
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FRIENDCOM! Yes!
my books are called romcoms because we haven’t invented the genre of friendcom w/ a romance topping, they’re just as much about friendship as they are about romance, sometimes more the former than the latter! unfortunately they will not let me be in charge of inventing the genres
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Help needed! I'm writing a feature on interior design for living alone – and compiling a list of pop culture representations of living alone (e.g. Carrie Bradshaw in recent And Just Like That series). Any other suggestions?
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Architecture Twitter! For a report, I'm looking for a practice who specialises in designing for single-person households, has designed for a significant number of solo clients. Preferably UK-based but not essential
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