Most people with #CPTSD symptoms from childhood blame themselves. You may have spent your life believing you’re bad, incompetent or broken. Learning that CPTSD is “a thing” and that your symptoms are normal and common can come as a huge relief.

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“There's a really common denominator with people who are stuck on somebody and can't get over it: a lack of enough attention when they were kids, they didn't get seen as a person.” — @CChildhoodFairy 🔗 https://t.co/WdGcqYec4m

You’ve Wasted Years on UNAVAILABLE PEOPLE For people who were neglected as children, there’s this very damaging tendency to fall in love, but with the wrong people – those who are married, or so far away the whole relationship is online, or those who are not INTO you. If

No One is Coming to Save You I've noticed that a lot of people who were traumatized as children get stuck in the story of what happened to them. It's important to tell you story -- at least you are not alone with the pain, and you get some validation that what happened to you

Feeling attracted to someone is NOT necessarily a sign that they'd be a good partner. It's not always obvious what to look for. Here are 12 signs of that I believe are important when deciding whether someone is partner material. You can download the PDF here:

When You First Date Them, Look For These Signs We talk a lot about "red flags" that tell you someone is NOT a good person to date. But what are the signs that someone has the right characteristics to become a good partner? In this video I list the signs to look for in the first

If you're working to heal from abuse and neglect in childhood, you've probably tried dozens of remedies, which probably didn’t help much, because they didn’t address neurological dysregulation, the CORE symptom that drives most other trauma symptoms. Until you learn to notice

Neurological Dysregulation: The Hidden Trauma Symptom You MUST Heal First Trauma from childhood is associated with brain and emotional dysregulation that can cause a host of other CPTSD symptoms in adults. In this 4-Video compilation, I share my most popular videos on

Almost no one talks about this: Abuse and neglect during childhood can cause brain changes, and this can result  in neurological dysregulation. Symptoms include feeling flustered, spaced out, clumsy, and VERY emotional (at exactly the wrong times). I teach people with CPTSD how

UNFREEZE Your Nervous System To Get Stuff Done All over the world, people who were abused or neglected in childhood are procrastinating, and thinking they are the only one. Freezing up, getting stuck, and struggling to get work done is common for people with CPTSD. And as long

Feeling attracted to someone is NOT necessarily a sign that they'd be a good partner. It's not always obvious what to look for. Here are 12 signs of that I believe are important when deciding whether someone is partner material. You can download the PDF here:

Avoidant People Are Often Drawn to People They Can't Have Avoidance is a style of relating to other people, often driven by past trauma, that can make you feel overwhelmed and anxious even thinking about connecting with other people. If you’ve ever dating an avoidant person, you

People who were abused or neglected as children often struggle with intense emotions, mental overwhelm, and an urge to avoid life, just so they can get through the day. These are caused by neurological dysregulation; when you learn to re-regulate, everything gets easier, and your

Socializing is Stressful for People with CPTSD; Is it Controlling Your Life? Growing up in a chaotic and dysfunctional family can leave you with a wounded ability to connect. And if you have this, you may have the tendency to cling to relationships, or you might respond to

Abuse and neglect in childhood can lead to Complex PTSD later in life (that's the kind that comes from chronic, ongoing exposure to intense stress). Symptoms of CPTSD follow a typical pattern that many people don't realize are normal reactions to trauma in the past. Some of these

Why You Cling The Most to People Who Treat You You The Worst Neglect and abandonment in childhood can leave you with "crossed wires" -- when someone you love mistreats you, you may feel the uncontrollable urge to make them happy -- to make them love you, even if it means

Download my FREE list of “Signs of Healing” PDF here: https://t.co/84oAL6NUc4 When we talk about Childhood PTSD, mostly we talk about what happened, who did it, and the damage it did to us. But it’s so important to also talk about what healing feels like – what changes when the

The Cost of Making Other People the Center of Your Life If you grew up fearing that you were in danger from your own family, you may have developed a strong sense that YOU were responsible to make everyone safe and happy. You’ll see children do this sometimes – completely

It’s common for people who experienced childhood neglect or abuse to struggle with romantic relationships. It often leads to them being locked out of the loving, stable relationships they crave and deserve. Healthy relationships for people with CPTSD are possible! Take this

CPTSD Healing Requires Freedom From Others’ Agenda The idea that finding the right person will solve all your problems dies hard in the minds of traumatized people. If you were abused or neglected as a child, it can be difficult in adulthood to resist the lure of a relationship