@yanatweets Empathy. Especially empathy for myself - absolute game changer.

@dreasaez Yes! Self-compassionate parenting works so much better. I’ve than applied it back to my work: aiming for self-compassionate leadership. Game changer!

@yanatweets Having to invite multiple perspectives becomes a habit so we tend to put ourselves in others' shoes more in real life.

@PMbyChoice It’s also offer really entertaining to get a toddler’s take on what decisions to make as a family 😂

@yanatweets Do you have a framework for this ruthless prioritisation?

@a_2510 Good question! I think I’m a very intuitive prioritizer. For example, in parenting only trying to tell my kid what to do when it’s really important (i.e. he may hurt himself if he runs into traffic) gives him autonomy to understand the world for himself and creates less conflict.

@yanatweets Setting clear expectations of the actions we are about to take as a family. Basically answering together: why are we doing this? What will the outcome be?

@cllaudiu Will try this!

@yanatweets Convincing the devs that my lack of planning was THEIR fault! I told them they needed to go "hardcore" and they belived me! Genius!

@jgoodman751 🤣

@yanatweets Trying to listen to the needs *behind* the stated asks can help most relationships. (I’m still better at applying this at work than home though, I have to say.)

@joepairman Me too! But asking some version of “why” a lot usually helps. Just asking “why” at home feels rude 😅

@yanatweets Ruthless prioritization for sure, for the same positive spillover that you mention (PM > parent 🙂). I'm so grateful I learned to tune out FOMO and spot high-leverage things vs. "just needs to be good enough" stuff.

@davidarens Exactly! One common example for me: so many school events where parents bring home baked stuff. I don’t have time to bake. If I have extra time, I’d rather spend it talking with my kid. My priority is giving him mindful time since I get to give him lots of time 👍

@yanatweets Curiosity about how things work.

@mturner Curiosity definitely makes everything more delightful! 🙌🏼

@yanatweets Had coachings by the DFB how to manage a youth soccer team and job coachings how to manage a team of SW devs. What I learned can also be applied in the respective other context. 1-1, without adaption! I have to smile every time I notice that.

@boris__holzer Influence without authority is important in many contexts 😉

@yanatweets Listening by far! Being able to actively listen to people around me deepened my connections with new and old friends.

@dexterdasilva_ 💡 Now that I think about it, I’m not sure if active listening or being a PM came first for me.