The question I get asked most often: “How do you guys have the time and energy?” • Present parents to 6 kids (2–14 years old), with nr 7 due • Happy marriage • Pursuing fitness goals • CEO of a medium-sized company plus voluntary work Here's the deep dive: 🧵👇

🧠 Most people don’t need a new plan. They need time to think. We spend so much of life moving, reacting, chasing, that we forget to stop and ask simple but powerful questions: What do I actually want? What is really holding me back? What do I need to do next? The answers are

🔥 The magic you are looking for is hiding inside your fear. Every time you avoid something that scares you, you miss a chance to grow. The hard conversation with your wife. The project at work you keep putting off. The course you tell yourself you are not smart enough to take.

Most leaders don't break from the workload. They break from giving everyone else their best and their family their leftovers. A dad I coach said this last week: "I come in hot every night. Short with my kids because I've got nothing left." I've been there. After 13 years

The strongest dads I know don’t do it all. They plan what matters most. One of my early clients was trying to be Superdad and Superman. He was working 60+ hours a week, coaching youth sports, meal prepping, staying “connected” online… He was exhausted and secretly frustrated

💪 You do not need to be perfect. You just cannot quit. This whole game, whether it is fitness, business, or self-improvement, is not a quick sprint. It is a lifelong commitment. There will be days you eat the pizza, skip the gym, or lose focus. That is fine. The problem starts

Some men only know how to move when life is hard. You tell yourself you thrive on pressure. You say you need the struggle, the chaos, the adversity. Because for years, that pain was your fuel. But what happens when life finally starts to go well? When things feel calm and

Why do you close important deals at work but can't make it through bedtime without snapping at your six-year-old? Why does your calendar have 47 meetings blocked but not a single hour for yourself? Why do you know exactly what your team needs from you, but you have no idea what

I nearly burned out in 2024. From the outside: CEO, PhD, dad of 7, ultrarunner. Looked like I had it together. Inside? Exhausted. Disconnected. Numb. The breaking point wasn't the workload getting harder. It was realizing my habits were slowly destroying what I cared about

If you stop training, everything else starts to slip. Most people think fitness is just about looking good or staying in shape. But for me, it is the foundation that holds everything else up. Physical strength and mental strength are not separate. They are two sides of the same

Entrepreneurship is the final boss of manhood. In your twenties, you start the self-improvement game. You get in shape. You learn discipline. Then you start figuring out relationships, finding a partner, maybe building a family. And then comes the real challenge: How do you

The fastest way to sabotage your growth is to compare your season to someone else’s highlight reel. You scroll. You see the shredded dad. The guy building a business in Bali. The perfect family at brunch. And part of you thinks, “What’s wrong with me?” I’ve been there. Even

You don’t have a productivity problem. You have a fear problem. Most high performers already know the tactics. You’ve read the books. You’ve done the time blocking, the Pomodoro, the Eisenhower Matrix. So why do you still procrastinate? Because procrastination isn’t laziness.

You won’t be remembered for what you built. You’ll be remembered for how you showed up. The vision, the deals, the deadlines, they matter. But your presence is what sticks. Your family will remember the way you walked in the door. Your team will remember if they felt seen.

🔥 We’ve been taught out of our instincts. From childhood, we’re told “Don’t raise your hands.” “Don’t hit.” “Be nice.” And while that lesson matters, it can also strip away something vital: the instinct to protect ourselves when real danger shows up. If we’ve spent years

You can’t think your way into clarity. You have to move. One of the dads in my program came in stuck. Frustrated. Overthinking every choice. Paralyzed by indecision: work, fitness, relationships. We didn’t start with strategy. We started with movement. 10-minute walks. Every

Lead from example. Not from emotion. In moments of chaos, the question is: Are you reacting to your emotion, or leading from your standard? At Kokoro, everything hurt. But the guys who led? They stuck to the mission, regardless of how they felt. Same applies at home. At work.

You're not falling behind, you're seeing everyone's highlight reel while living your behind-the-scenes. That late night you're putting in? It counts. That work nobody sees? It matters. Stop measuring your Chapter 3 against someone else's Chapter 20. Your pace is valid. Your

Your family doesn’t need more of your time. They need more of your presence. You could be in the same room… But if your mind is at work, they know it. After dinner, I used to “hang out” while checking email. But one of my kids said, “Dad, you’re always busy.” Gut punch. Now?

The best time to lead yourself is before the world wakes up. You say you don’t have time. But really, you don’t have ownership of your start. Before 6:30 AM, my house is quiet. No snacks to make. No emails. No toddler negotiations. Just breathe. Sweat. Thought. That early

Don’t confuse urgency with importance. Great leaders slow down to see clearly. One dad I coached was stuck in reactivity, constant stress, constant firefighting. We mapped his week. Half the pressure? Self-created. So we built his “strategic hour” each Friday: No meetings. No