I wrote this song to remind myself to never settle in love again. ‘Out Loud’ is out now 🧡

My 20s were all about visualizing the dream and getting clearer on what I wanted it to look like, my 30s are all about financing and executing the dream.

I truly don’t know if having a family is in my future, but if it is, how beautiful would it be to one day hand down all of the experiences and beliefs I’ve created from living on my own terms as a single woman who chose herself first.

One day you go from struggling to figure out your career, to being the girl everyone wants to get coffee with to ‘pick your brain’. It’s a wild transition 🥹.

The seeds that you planted in July, will become real in August.

Having an aura that attracts everyone can be so confusing. You don’t always know if someone truly likes you, or just likes the way you make them feel, or the way they feel about themselves when they’re with you, or if they only like your accomplishments, or some mix of it all.

Everyone is allowed “grow up” from being racist and hating Black women and we just have to be okay with it. We can’t have any feelings about it, we just have to accept that it’s a right of passage to hate us, and allow people to “grow” into seeing us as human. Very insane to me.

somehow, I’m still dreaming 🦋

I’m actually grateful to have seen my dating standards change with age. I’m happy I get to want different things now and look for them or wait for them without guilt. Every woman deserves that kind of growth.

One day when I’m ready to love again, my next person has to be regulating to my nervous system. I don’t even care to feel butterflies, I just want to see them and instantly know peace and safety. That will be enough of a thrill for me.

Hear it from me as your big sis, it’s better to feel uncomfortable about holding your ground now than dealing with the day-to-day of knowing you never spoke up for yourself and now people are running you crazy. Set your standards early in absolutely everything and STICK TO THEM.

Standing up for yourself and reinforcing your boundaries always feels so unbearable, but then it results in exactly what you need. It’s worth the discomfort every single time.

Having fun with this again 😌

In one of those moods where I want to go off grid and completely start a new life.

Wyd this Saturday Brooklyn? Hopefully coming to see me perform for @CFBGPod 😌🎤

I just hope one day we finally take ‘Black Excellence’ off its pedestal so we can finally make room for Black integrity instead. Success is nothing if we have zero morals, principles, or understanding of mutual care.

You can either live the life you want or spend time explaining yourself to people. You can’t do both.

I am entirely too accessible to people. I love responding and being available to help or give, but it’s just not possible anymore to always be open for everyone, every message, all the time. It’s not healthy.

I just booked a birthday trip for myself that I couldn’t even afford last year. Sometimes the solution is 365 days away from the problem, we just have to be patient!.

To anyone who needs to hear this, running a company is HARD. It’s not something you need to do unless you’re crazy passionate about something enough to stick beside it when it thrives or fails. It’s not the only way to show up for what you believe in. Please understand that.

I don’t want to keep budgeting all my life, there just needs to be an abundance of money. Period.