Shadows of Control
@shadows_control
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Writer, researcher, and survivor championing the fight against coercive control and domestic abuse. Freedom begins with awareness.
Ireland
Joined February 2024
No one should ever ask an abuse victim, "Why didn't you just leave?" Here, survivors explain why leaving is never as easy as just walking out! #DomesticAbuseAwareness
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Discover the challenges survivors face when leaving an abusive relationship. Learn about the complex dynamics of abusive relationships and why leaving is not a simple decision.
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Abusers try to tell you what you believe, what you think, and what your intentions are, as though they could possibly know what is inside your head. #gaslighting #manipulation #emotionalabuse #coercivecontrol
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Abusers often switch between affectionate and abusive behavior, creating a confusing cycle. They might shower you with love and attention after an abusive incident, causing you to rationalize, excuse, or downplay the abuse. This cycle of manipulation keeps you emotionally
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Author and abuse expert Carol A. Lambert describes the severe impact of psychological abuse on women's physical and mental health. #DomesticAbuseAwareness
https://t.co/IhAM7AcEFI
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Understanding the hidden dangers of psychological abuse. Learn how it can lead to serious physical and mental health problems for women.
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The emotional aftermath of abuse can be complex and overwhelming, but sharing your story can help others feel less alone. #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery
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Something weird I learned about decision making: If you can't decide, the answer is no. If it's not a clear yes, it's a no. Maybe is just no with anxiety. Let me think about it is no with hope. Clear opportunities don't require convincing yourself. The right things feel obvious.
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Question: “Why didn’t you tell your friends or family?” Answer: Because abusers isolate you, making you feel like you can’t trust anyone or that no one will believe you. They plant seeds of doubt and shame, making it incredibly difficult to reach out for help, even to those
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“Mummy, you have to do what Dad says because he’s the boss.” “Look Mummy, now I can control the dog like Daddy controls you.” “What’s wrong with your mind Mummy, you don’t even know how to think!” “Mummy, you are not leaving this room until I say you can.” These were words
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What begins as attention or protectiveness can slowly become control — isolation from loved ones, constant criticism, or financial dependence. Recognizing the signs early is vital. https://t.co/UlxneReLoE
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When in doubt, always choose YOUR memory, YOUR perception, YOUR beliefs! #gaslighting #narcissist #emotionalabuse
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When you marry someone, you make a commitment, and you promise to stay with that person through good times and bad. But the moment your spouse abuses you, your obligation to them is over. Marriage is not a vow to be abused!
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He went from Mr Perfect to pointing a crossbow at her. Chelsea Hamilton shares her chilling journey of surviving coercive control and abuse to empower other women to break free. #domesticabuseawareness #survivorstory
https://t.co/CeeBof8GWt
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Discover the brave story of Chelsea Hamilton, a Belfast domestic abuse survivor who is using her experience to help others recognize the red flags and break free from abusive relationships.
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Every step forward in healing is a victory—whether it's setting boundaries, finding your voice, or reclaiming your joy. Celebrate your wins and share your strength! #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery
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No one willingly IGNORES red flags. That is the wrong word. That word suggests we saw something that was glaringly obvious, and we stupidly brushed it under the carpet. That’s not what happens. Manipulative individuals create a false sense of security and trust. They are
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For anyone still in the shadows... you don't need to stay in the darkness. No one should steal your light, ever!
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Grooming in adult relationships is a manipulative tactic where abusers build trust to exploit and control their partners. #coercivecontrol
https://t.co/qYl4H1DZGX
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Understanding the tactics of grooming in adult relationships is crucial for recognizing early warning signs and breaking free from toxic dynamics.
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Coercive control doesn’t always show up as violence. Sometimes it’s the slow erasure of who you are. #CoerciveControl
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Abusers believe they have the right to control your every move, dictating your actions, choices, and interactions. They may monitor your phone, decide who you can and can’t see, or restrict your activities, all under the guise of ‘care’, ‘concern, or ‘protection’. But this
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Recognizing the signs of an abusive relationship is key to breaking the cycle of harm and reclaiming personal safety, autonomy, and self-worth. #DomesticAbuseAwareness
https://t.co/Iat9xGVpmJ
shadowsofcontrol.com
Learn to recognize the signs of an abusive relationship and take back control. Discover the red flags and break free from the cycle of abuse.
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