
Shadows of Control
@shadows_control
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Writer, researcher, and survivor championing the fight against coercive control and domestic abuse. Freedom begins with awareness.
Ireland
Joined February 2024
Follow Vanessa's powerful survivor story of overcoming domestic and sexual abuse, finding strength, and breaking free from a cycle of violence. #SurvivorStory.
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By monopolizing conversation, abusers maintain power and influence, creating an unbalanced and oppressive communication dynamic. #verbalabuse
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Abusers believe they are superior and belittle you to prove it. Don't let their words define you. #emotionalabuse
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Abusers may be emotionally distant, cold, or unresponsive, leaving you questioning if things are OK. You comply with their demands just to get any warmth or connection, creating a dynamic where you cater to their needs while yours are ignored and neglected. #EmotionalAbuse.
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True change requires deep self-reflection, accountability, and a commitment to unlearning harmful behaviors—a journey that few abusers are willing to take. What are your thoughts?. #BreakingTheCycle #abusiverelationship #domesticabuse
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Abusers constantly change the rules. One day they want one thing, but when you deliver, it’s suddenly not enough. They move the goalposts so you’re always striving to meet impossible standards, feeling inadequate and off-balance, never able to satisfy them. #CoerciveControl.
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Abusers 'weaponize' their children in their campaign of control over their partners. #coercivecontrol
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Your abuser may threaten self-harm to manipulate you into staying. This plays on your empathy and fear, making you feel responsible for them. Suicide threats are emotional blackmail meant to control you and stop you from leaving. #CoerciveControl.
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Reclaiming freedom and autonomy after leaving a controlling relationship is empowering—it’s about taking back choices, passions, and dreams that were stifled. What’s one powerful step you’ve taken? Share your story below to inspire others. #HealingJourney #domesticabuserecovery
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