Ryan Michler
@ryanmichler
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Father of Four and Founder of #OrderOfMan #protectprovidepreside
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I’m often asked what men can do to fix our societal, cultural, and political challenges. But too many men don’t like or aren’t willing to tackle the answer:. Fix ourselves and the relationship we have with our children. Imagine if millions more men took THAT seriously.
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Remind me again how masculinity is a social construct. 🤔
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My son cried after his 3rd place wrestling finish today. I asked him why. “I’m angry I didn’t win.”. “Good,” I said, “means you care.”. “I don’t want to feel bad.”. “So, what are you going to do about it?” I asked. “Get better.” he said proudly. You’ve learned well, my son.
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Men, be present in all things -whether you’re landing a $1,000,000 deal, on a date with your wife, at the gym, or getting destroyed by your 5-year-old at a made up game where he keeps changing the rules. In an age of distraction, the present man sets himself apart and wins.
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In the past 4 weeks I’ve:. Lost 11lbs, 2.5% body fat.Increased revenue 23%.Home gym build-out.Office renovation.Installed blinds/flooring.Read 6 books.Completed my new book outline.Secured 7 killer podcast guests.Appeared on 12 podcasts.Hit 100,000 YouTube subscribers. You? 👇🏻.
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• 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. • 90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes. • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes.
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I don’t normally watch CNN but I’m sitting here in the airport and it’s what’s on. No wonder people are afraid of everything. The amount of fear mongering is insane and just doesn’t align with reality. Folks, be informed but don’t let this shit ruin you.
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Anyone who doesn’t pay your mortgage, buy your groceries, or cover your expenses, doesn’t get to determine if your job is essential or not.
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What’s one small but simple activity that would drastically change the world for the better?. Mine: dinner as a family.
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At this point, it’s clear to me that COVID is being used as nothing more than a thinly veiled excuse to undermine religious institutions, the family unit, and small businesses - not coincidentally the greatest threats to total government control.
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My son’s 2 year transformation. 2 years ago, he asked my wife and I if he was fat. We decided to be honest with him. This is the result.
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The older I get, the more I resonate with grumpy old men who just want everyone else to leave them the hell alone.
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Someone asked me if I’m scared to raise my sons in a society that increasingly demonizes masculinity. I said, “With the type of men society is trying to produce, my sons are going to rule the damn world.”.
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One day, you’ll never pick your child up again. Think about that. At some point, you’ll set your son or daughter down and you’ll never pick them back up. Make sure you do it often, while you still can.
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If you’re waiting for the President to say it’s okay for you to celebrate the 4th of July with family and friends, you don’t understand or appreciate the significance of the 4th of July.
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If I wanted to destroy society, I'd:. - Remove moral authority.- Undermine the nuclear family.- Eliminate men/women from the home.- Champion victimhood as a virtue.- Diminish the distinction between sexes.- Make people dependent on the state.- Then, indoctrinate the youth.
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My son spent 2 years saving for this bike and processed nearly 8,000 orders. Today, he got to cash in on that effort!. What an incredibly rewarding moment as his father.
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A woman can teach a boy to be a good man but not how to be good at being a man - the distinction between morality and capability. Morality alone is not enough. A man must also be capable. And, that is the responsibility of the elder men.
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If you or I died tonight, there might be 10 people who would care deeply for more than 10-15 days. Focus on those people more.
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At my son’s football game, one kid kneeled before the National Anthem. until his father scolded, “Get up! We stand for the National Anthem!”. Kids don’t know enough to make “statements” like this. That’s why parents exist - to lead in the presence of ignorance.
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I went to church for the first time today in nearly a year. We were asked not to sing, not to congregate before services, and wear a mask the entire time. It was cold and devoid of the spirit and I’m more convinced than ever that the reaction to covid is satan’s work.
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A father is the the most important and influential figure in his children’s lives (and society). Boys look to him for who to be. Girls look to him for who to be with. Fatherhood is the single greatest role any man could ever play.
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Some people like to respond to my posts with “Thanks, Dad,” as some sort of slight or insult. I actually take it as a compliment. It’s clear to me the world needs more fathers and fatherly advice than ever.
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My 16-year-old son hit a 365lbs PR back squat yesterday. Weak people say this is toxic….until men like this carry them out of the fire, rip open the car door after their accident, or pull them from the rubble. It’s only in the ease of comfort and security do we call strength,
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- Exercise daily.- Sleep correctly.- plan your day.- Pursue meaningful hobbies.- Surround yourself with winners.- Say “no” to things you don’t like.- Say “yes” to things you do.- Do things that scare you.- Turn off the TV.- Read good books.- Serve others.- Live to a higher code.
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It’s hard for people who don’t have kids to comprehend that I have 4 of them. They often look at me with pity. I look at them the same way.
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Don’t use weak language. Get rid of the “ummm’s, uh’s, I think’s, maybe’s, etc.” Be bold I’m your communication and concise with your words.
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One benefit of this Coronavirus fallout is millions of people are going to realize they don’t need to sit in a classroom and spend hundreds of thousands of dollars for a meaningless piece of paper that says, “Congrats, you’re educated.”.
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Don’t be duped into having honest conversations with dishonest people. I know it’s tempting but absolutely nothing positive will result from it.
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If you can’t kick the shit out of the 10-year younger version of yourself, you’re doing life wrong.
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My son and I just got to his powerlifting meet. As we got out of the car, he put his phone in the center consul. I asked, “You don’t want you phone?”. “No distractions today, Dad.”. The way he said it with so much dedication and focus. I can’t wait to see what this kid will do.
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If masculinity is such a danger to society, take a look at homes and communities where men are less present and tell me how that’s working out. We have real-world case studies of the absence of masculinity to draw from. Spoiler Alert: It doesn’t work.
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I’ll never understand the “tax the rich” crowd. Then again, if they spent more time figuring how the wealthy did it rather than tearing them down, they wouldn’t have anything to complain about.
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One tremendous benefit of this COVID thing is millions of people have woken up to the dangers of the public school system and have decided to shoulder the responsibility of educating their own children. Homeschool, private school, co-ops are the future of education.
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I know dudes who still talk about how great they were in high school. Who gives a shit. What did you do today?!.
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I opened a door for a woman today. She smiled and said, “thank you.” I smiled back and said, “you’re welcome.”. She knew she could get it herself. I knew she could get it herself. She knew that I knew she could get it herself. The end.
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Why do people replace the word, “God,” with the word, “Universe”?. It seems they’re uncomfortable with the concept of God but comfortable with an all-knowing, great source of power they call the Universe, conspiring for their personal growth and benefit?. That sounds like God.
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Until we increase the rate of fathers in the home and re-learn to embrace men’s role in society, we will continue to see a rise in confusion regarding gender, violence, drug abuse, depression, and suicide. The answer is more masculinity, not less.
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Masculinity does not need to be redefined. Masculinity needs to be restored.
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My Son: Dad, when are we going to deadlift?. Me: My back has been hurting lately. My Son: (in the most demeaning, mocking tone of voice possible) “Ooooh, my back has been hurting lately.”. Me: *tears of pride roll down my face.
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Images like this make it seem that if a man thinks about things these things, there is something wrong with him. Wrong. Men thrive on responsibility. If a man wasn't concerned with these topics, he wouldn't be motivated to improve and make something more of himself.
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Your job as a father is to render yourself obsolete. Period.
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Also, my son just came home from training and found out he is a Maine state record holder in the youth and teen division in the deadlift, squat, and bench!. The kid is on fire! 🔥
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The difference between a boy and a man is that a boy consumes more than he produces and a man produces more than he consumes. It has little to do with age.
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Stop justifying your behavior by saying, “it’s just the way I am.”. It’s pathetic. You might as well be saying, “I’m incapable of learning, growing, and developing.”.
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Damn, man, just three days ago we were playing in the field together. Rest easy, old boy. Your work is done. You did it well. We’ll lay you where you can be close to mom and hear the kids play. Good bye, Sarge. Love you.
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Thousands of new followers in 24 hours. Allow me to introduce myself:. Husband of 15-years, father to 4, Founder of Order of Man. I believe in God, that men and women are fundamentally different, and individually sovereignty is is something all people should fight for. Welcome.
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Why do so many people fight so hard against the notion of educating their own children at home? Very strange.
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The mysteries and perplexities of fatherhood seem to work themselves out when you remember that your presence is the most precious asset you can share with your children.
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Contrary to popular opinion, diversity is not a strength, unity is. Unity may come through diverse backgrounds, but a union of ideals is what makes a people strong, not where they came from or what they look like.
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A society that villainizes masculinity will always be decimated by one that does not.
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I didn’t realize how much I would miss the days when companies just focused on selling us their shit over selling us their political position.
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Don’t get in the habit of apologizing for things you’re not sorry for. First, you prove your words carry no weight. Second, you illustrate you lack the conviction to stand by your actions. Third, you perpetuate the notion that people deserve an apology when they may not.
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The biggest problem with “kids these days,” is “parents these days.”.
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I never thought I’d be coinsidered counter-culture because I:. - Have a relationship with God.- Have never stepped out on my wife.- Put my family above work.- Am blessed with 4 kids.- Believe in law and order.- Love this country. Interesting times.
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Women can’t solve men’s mental health issues because they think that if men simply acted more like women, they’d be “healed.”. Not only is that wrong, it undermines masculinity.
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Some conversations aren’t worth having and some people aren’t worth talking to. Not everything people say to you requires a response.
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She can put her guard down because I’m willing and able to keep mine up. This brings me a deep sense of meaning and purpose.
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Masculinity is a contact sport. - Lift weights.- Have sex.- Roughhouse.- Train martial arts.- Compete.
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@dbongino That’s not the gaffe. The gaffe is that he keeps referring to himself as his wife’s husband as if that’s supposed to mean anything to anyone.
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For the love of your children, let them order their own food at restaurants. They will learn to:. - speak to adults.- communicate effectively.- tell people what they want. Plus, your server will like them more which reinforces effective communication.
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The more you care about people liking you, the less they will. The less you worry about people liking you. the less it matters whether or not they do.
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The reason you don’t have what you want is because you don’t deserve it. Or, more accurately, you haven’t earned it. When you do deserve it, you’ll have it. The answer to, “Why don’t I have what I want?” is “Because you aren’t doing what needs to be done.”.
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Because you said you would is the only reason you need to honor your commitments.
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Celebrating 16 years of marriage today! Here we are circa 2004. Just a couple of dumb kids.
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I don’t lie to my wife. When she asks me about a dress that doesn’t look good, I tell her it isn’t flattering. When she makes a meal I don’t like, I tell her it’s not my favorite. When she asks me what’s wrong, I tell her.
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Men, don’t chase. Don’t chase women. Don’t chase clients. You appear desperate when you do and you undermine any credibility you had. Focus so heavily on yourself that you become absolutely irresistible and position yourself to choose who you engage with on your terms.
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You are the standard by which your daughter judges every other man. Remember that.
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There’s a difference between being a “nice guy” and being kind. A nice guy is a passive wimp who allows himself to be railroaded. A man who’s kind respects others and himself but also has the capacity to protect and defend what is his.
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You can’t help people if you’re broke. Broke people like to shit on the rich but it’s those with abundance who have the most to offer to those without. The is no honor/virtue in being poor. Truly want to help people? Build an abundance of wealth so you have to capacity to.
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I came across a quote today that said, “If you fail, that doesn’t mean you’re not good enough.”. Actually, that’s exactly what it means. Stop bullshitting yourself. You’re not good enough. yet. Good to know. Now, GET BETTER.
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I recently found out that my wife and I have been dubbed “the weird workout people” who moved to the neighborhood. I’ll take that as a compliment and an honor. I pray we always live worthy of such a title.
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Human interaction 101:. - Speak clearly.- Make eye contact.- Shake hands firmly.- Open doors.- Say “please” and “thank you”.- Smile.- Don’t be a dick.
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Wrapping up your opinion with, "that's a fact," doesn't make it a fact. You all know that, right?.
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My oldest son just pulled off the miraculous (and, I could not be more proud of him). He convinced his younger brother that he had to shred the sour cream before dinner. 😂
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I have an idea about the division in this country: . We could all split up into geographical areas where we live with people who hold the same values as us. We’d call these geographical areas “states” and we’d govern ourselves free of the authority of those who live elsewhere.
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I see so many guys getting in shape after a spilt/divorce from the girlfriend/wife. Here’s a thought: Do that *now* and see if that doesn’t help improve your relationship with her (and everything else in your life) *before* it’s too late.
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I’m compiling a list of movies that every man and his son(s) need to watch together. Here is what I have so far:. - Braveheart.- Gladiator.- Last Samurai.- The Patriot.- Rocky IV.- 300.- Top Gun.- Secondhand Lions.- Last of the Mohicans. What would you add to the list?.
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Everything popular culture told me to do, I did the opposite:. - Dropped out of college.- Found God.- Married young.- Moved away from the city.- Had a bunch of kids.- Supported my wife being a homemaker.- Homeschooled our children. Seems to be working well so far….
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If you believe health care is a human right, please explain to me why you believe those without a COVID vaccine should be disqualified from receiving health care.
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I’m convinced that Theodore Roosevelt was sent back in time to warn people what would happen if we did not alter the course of modern civilization. They weren’t listening. Neither are we.
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There are roughly 8,000,000,000 people on the planet and not a damn one of them gets to tell me that my job is or is not essential. I get it decide that. As a husband, father, and free man, it is ME who determines whether or not my work will be performed.
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When society attempts to suppress masculinity rather than harness it, it manifests itself in destructive and often violent ways. Case in point, my boys break things for fun. As their father, its my responsibility to teach them to them to channel that energy in constructive ways.
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We homeschool our children. Wrestling/Jiu-Jitsu is part of their curriculum. as it should be with any child.
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I just had the most dad interaction ever. As I was putting away my cart, another dad asked, “Is that a good cart?”. Without thinking, I said, “It pulls left but at least I left some gas in it for you.”. WTF have I become?! Stay vigilant, fellas.
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I just watched my son punch his youngest brother. Tempted to interject, I resisted. My youngest then punched his older brother in the face. After they both stopped crying, they started playing again. No involvement from me necessary. Fatherhood win for the day.
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“I do what is mine to do; the rest does not disturb me.” Marcus Aurelius.
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Simple observation: you can tell a lot about a man by how he does a push-up.
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The government does not exist to solve your problems. It exists to ensure you have the freedom to solve your own.
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Men, start a side business (and/or build residual income) RIGHT NOW. The day where you’re going to be asked to jeopardize your morals by your current employer is fast approaching. You need to build “f*%k you” money/income immediately.
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Ladies, you aren’t a “bleeder,” “chest feeder,” “birthing human,” or a “person with ovaries.”. You’re a woman. That still means something to me and to billions of people across the planet. Don’t ever let a small group of confused individuals devalue your worth in this world.
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