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The kids and I were out front shoveling the end of the driveway this evening. An older woman on her walk passed by and told the kids how good of a job they were doing. They, after light prodding from me, responded like normal people - telling her thank you and doing all the goofy

For those curious - the tune behind the video is "Wouldn't it be loverly" played by Fred Hersch. Beautiful playing. Hard to not just, kind of, sigh.

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So many ties, so little time

Love this coffee maker. Makes it real quick and reliable and has lasted us some years at this point without any replacement necessary.

You know your coat is old when the ink on the care tag has almost entirely disappeared.

Man longs to grill Can’t stop, won’t stop

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The mailbox is a super good example of something that has grown bigger. I obviously think of the croc example all the time but I never think about the mailbox. A fascinating example of another random everyday object that has become unnecessarily big.

One of the hardest things about winter far north are the skies. I forget how heavy they are. Cobalt, white, and gray. That’s the world of winter here. The skies are oppressive and almost suffocating. And yet, there is some stark sense of awe.

Remember how thin the steering wheels used to be? I remember because I drove a car from the 70s when I was young. They were so small and smooth. A lot of of weird little things have gotten bigger in recent years. Stuff like steering wheels, coffee mugs, random things.

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1974 Say what you will about the '70s, but at least they were colorful. I don't think I have seen this color inside a car ever in my entire life, and I have to say, sadly, I don't imagine I ever will.

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By the end of the day when he had finally logged off, he had been chopped, cooked, concluded that it was over and that he was ngmi. He woke up the next morning, ready to log on again.

Styrofoam is one of those things that was much more common when I was a kid but feels much less prevalent today. Kind of forget about it.

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Listening to humanity

Part of the reason having kids is an important thing for societies - beyond just the, you know, continuing the human race - is the fact that it forces people to buy into the future with a meaningful stake in it. You are much less likely to want to "burn it down" or operate with

Being angry is not a personality.