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It's wild how many people think that being polyamorous means you do less -- that you can't commit or care about your relationships. When really, you're a relationship overachiever. You have multiple loves, you're busy, and you care so much. And it's wonderful, yet exhausting.

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"it provided a space for me to be physical, powerful and playful with others. Wrestling, pushing, grabbing, snarling, rolling around - I loved it. A place to let out my inner animal without inhibition."

"I was pleased to see how quickly a bunch of bystanders are able to authentically connect with each other on a wide range of levels within the safety of the play space."

"By the end of the evening I was absolutely buzzing about how safe the space had felt for me, and what that had in turn unlocked for me and my partners."

Here is what participants shared with us about their experience there: "It was everything I had hoped for: well-organised, fun, energetic and intense." "It was great fun, completely exhausting and highly physical, despite only lasting two minutes – it felt like ten! "

I am thrilled to be taking Conscious Play Fighting on the road. In September and October we will be facilitating these fun, exciting and deeply connected experiences: London - 23 Sep Manchester - 6 Oct Nottingham - 7 Oct Bristol - 8 Oct https://t.co/qCkYaN7Ah2

One of my partners needs time to get used to me again, and likes to tumble around, bite and sniff me before they are relaxed again in my presence. With another, I like to sit and eyegaze for a while, staying in connection with our breath.

Reconnection after a period apart is helped with some specific partnered rituals. It is a good practice for any relationship and especially in polyamory if your partner has spent time with another partner/lover. What is your preferred ritual with different partners?

The best work is to know how to become better at meeting more of my needs and not being codependent with my partner.

Which is why I urge newly opened partners to focus on becoming better autonomous individuals and better at seeing their partner as an autonomous individual, instead of focusing on making rules.

Your agreement might suddenly not make any sense to you when exposed to new emotions. Rules may suddenly feel like prison.

You don't really know yourself or your partner, when encountering a situation that neither of you have been in before. The reality of them being sexual and/or romantic with other people 'might' hit you like an unexpected punch in the gut.

You might think you know your partner well and trust that what they do will never hurt you. You might think you know yourself and trust that what you do will never hurt your partner.