if someone likes your writing, chances are they will like a lot of the other stuff you like and share. our writing reflects our values and tastes. it's not possible to like someone's writing without being drawn to some part of their ethos.

what we read is like what we eat. it tells people so much about us.

noticed i have a tendency to convince myself to go along with something that i have some hesitation about, and then later, my concerns grow, and i end up backtracking and feeling bad for being indecisive. i need to learn to trust my first instinct.

convinced therapy makes you a better writer (both fiction and nonfic). the more you can write complex, emotional layers, the more hearts and minds you move.

i’ve found this to be comforting when going through heartbreak

in love and in life, trying is the only thing that matters. you can't guarantee that you will love someone forever, but you can commit to trying when things get tough. it's the best promise you can make someone and the best you can receive.

this might be obvs to ppl who read/watch a lot of romance, but i'm just now realizing that the genre is intended to be fantasy/escapism bc it usually depicts relationships that are so over-the-top in passion and intensity that it just doesn't seem realistic or even aspirational.

after taking photography, i’m appreciating movies in a totally new way. i’m noticing good composition and where the camera is focused and seeing bokeh everywhere.

loneliness as disconnection from self: it's not about having a busy social calendar or lots of friends—it's about spending your time in ways that make you feel like your truest, most vibrant self. sometimes, that means saying no to more things.

RT @AgnesCallard: LLMs made me realize that my whole life, I had been asking A LOT fewer questions than I wanted to be asking.

seeing animals does wonders for one’s soul. a reminder of the pleasure of simply existing under the sun ☀️

used to ignore my feelings and spend a lot of time interrogating if someone's actions are acceptable. took me a while to realize that in most cases, there's no clear-cut measure of correctness. cultural norms, personalities, preferences vary widely. what actually does matter is.

RT @billyisyoung: NYC has "are we dating the same guy" fb groups. SF has "are we employing the same guy" twitter.

writing is a process of making the subconscious conscious. as joan didion said, "i write entirely to find out what i'm thinking, what i'm looking at, what i see and what it means.".

love is hard because you can't control it, and in the modern world, all we want is to exert control. - celine song on the modern love podcast (paraphrased).

RT @melissabroder: i'm always late because i don't want to be there.

the way we live has changed so much over the centuries and decades, and yet, people haven't changed all that much. the human heart remains the same. (reading the classics is a reminder of this.).

two people can live the same life and have completely different ways of relating to the events that occur .-@tasshinfogleman spilling some wisdom this morning as we discuss writing fiction.

"heartening/heartened" doesn't get used often enough as a word. i almost forgot it's the opposite of disheartened.

manifestation is really just about getting crystal clear on what you want so that you recognize it when it dances naked in front of you.

i really like ppl who are openly ambitious and find them easier to talk to than ppl who are self-deprecating or guarded about their aspirations. ambition is an expression of earnestness. there's way too much cynicism in this world.