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The way most women lose their identity after marriage should be studied. Women should hold onto friendships, hobbies and little things that put them in a deep sense of relaxation even at 50. This one older doctor recently reminded ammi that she should focus on herself more now -
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This. You can handle the loneliness in your 20s and 30s, but imagine the loneliness after your spouse has passed away, children drifted apart, all you are left w are flashbacks of how you've sent your life, the weakness, the frail body, the deafening silence as you grow older -
Loneliness is such a terrible thing. Nobody speaks her language, nobody is aware of the state of her heart.
Her Creator is all she's got. She still prays. She still asks my mother to ask me fiqh questions that shes wondering about. What a lovely soul she has.
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"Marriage is expensive" literally do nikah in a masjid and go home bro?? Have a family dinner later, go on a long drive w your spouse and make cute memories instead 💁♀️
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and it lowkey makes me sad how most women forsake everything for loved ones and when they reach 50, they barely have anything to hold onto, to relax for, to laugh, and to feel herself again. Look at men tbh, they will be 60 and barely walking yet will willingly -
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spend more time with their friends, practice their hobbies, and have a good life even outside marriage/children.
I wish we become women who don't lose their identity for sake of our families. We live, laugh and enjoy our lives and have better memories to hold onto. In sha allah.
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This hadith makes me cry every single time. Can you imagine how magnificent of a hadith it is? It can make your heart tremble, and fill it w hope all at once. SubhanAllah Alhumdulilah!
I’d stopped making Dua’a for a long time, feeling entitled to have my problems solved and wishes granted. But then I realized: who am I to question His authority and will?
This was one of the ahadith that helped me get out of that mindset and renew my trust in His plan.
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"Nothern lights are so beautiful" yeah but have you seen his eyes????
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One of my newly married friends texted "Ammi ke ghar aayi" and it struck a deep cord in me. From saying "mera ghar" to "ammi ka ghar" real quick. We will leave our parents some day - our mothers, and we will be guests in our own houses instead. I -
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Ps, no wonder most women end up with 2x hormonal disorders, autoimmune disorders and a messed up overstimulated mental health + surpressed rage, and sadness.
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Ifykyk ⌛️
I love how Saudi Arabia has become green recently
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Ammi asking me to keep the controversial opinions to myself in a family gathering.
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@_obnoxiousbeing
I have read nothing more accurate. You turn into "The victim, the pleaser and the controller" of family dysfunction all at once.
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I can say things other men simply cannot because they're scared
Scared of either wife or work
I run both - business & household
My wife has me saved in her phone as 'imam'
She has never called me by my name, ٱلْحَمْدُ لِلَّٰهِ
The righteous men are indeed the imams of women.
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I spent 10 years with my grandmother, and she would weep out of loneliness every night. I was 13 and never understood it then but makes me realize, the real battle of old age is loneliness. When our grandparents and parents call us to sit by their side, sit down and smile w em.
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Imagine spending years with a family, helping your mother make that house a home, and calling a corner of it your comfort zone only to leave it behind someday. I cannot handle the ache already, women are amazing, such kind and caring beings. The compromise, sacrifice -
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If we are so overwhelmed at 25, imagine the grief we'd have at 75 😭 ouf. I can't -
At the end no matter who you are, what you do, and where you are, it is just you and Al Jabbar.
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@deadbodyonline
Currently reading "letters to felice" by Kafka and I'm in love with every part of it. Seeing him so close and vulnerable with his lover is heartbreaking and amazing, at the same time 🤌💘
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I have always said it, will say again. Every muslim who has struggled with depression & suicidal tendencies have 2x better emaan than anyone else. They wake up, they fight this duniya, their nafs, and continue having a ray of hope solely for the sake of Al Jabbar.
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@sumivibesss
Yes, but the culture makes this so impossible and a taboo tbh. You are not allowed to rest, or have privacy/space which is pretty annoying. Another stereotype we must break through! Even as daughters, we give so much of ourselves away :(
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and love they spread has no bounds. They adjust, overcome their fears, take a new role, leave their old selves behind. Comprehending that each one of us as women have to do it too like our mothers did, and her mother did is gut wrenching and beautiful at the same.
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this always reminds me of
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@INAHSANWETRUST
Preparing beforehand will help her focus on her ibadah because it is beyond hard as women during ramadan to juggle between chores, ibadah and other responsibilities.
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Just heard someone say, "The entire generation are choosing partners forgetting that the person they chose will not only be th3 spouse but also the parent and nurture the future generations of your family. The man/woman you choose is going to dictate Tarbiyah of your kids/fam -
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At this hospital rn and the aunty beside me, who is 60+ started offering salah as the doctor informs that her daughter will have a emergency cesarean as the baby's heart beats are getting lower. She didn't panic, she started praying at an instant and I'm here-
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@_biqueer_
Keep crying.
Ps, the fact that you see something sexual in a toddler smiling and wearing hijab says a lot tho 👀
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I see men of today and then I see baba, Mashallah, epitome of strength, patience, and kindness. Who will love us more than our fathers? Who will treat us with such generosity except our fathers? Who will be as patient with us as our fathers? 😭
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Being in your mid 20s is mostly about being okay with how brutally lonely and unfair life can be
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Most women don't dream of mansions, they neither dream of flowers on odd days nor do they dream of a love, unknown to mankind. They live on edge instead, begging themselves to not turn into her mother & to not inherit the female rage. They dream of a companionship built on love -
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"Imagine he sleeps in your lap after tahajjud" "imagine waking him up for sehri" "imagine being his dua" "he is mine on laylatul qadr" "allahumma inni asalukal him" ???????????? chup baigan.
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"marriage requirements this marriage requirements that" now i know why y'alls marriages be ending up in divorce every 3 months
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Are you really an insomniac or do you just want some peace so you preferably stay awake late because you know it is the only time when the entire world is half dead so no one's having expectations from you?
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Had almost death experience today, was reciting shahada for hours straight, I didn't think I would live or come out of it. Told my brother to not abandon my grave, to sit by my side and recite surah rahman after burying me. The only thing on my mind was, how do I face allah?
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right beside smiling widest at her tawwakul. Also, everyone noticed she was praying and they waited for her to complete it 😭 even the docs? Ugh mashallah😩🤍 my heart pls. Even I got worried for the baby and looked at them just calm, and protuding courage. Women are so strong.
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"Women are complicated to love" nah they are easiest to love, they hold the warmth of compassion in their souls. Give them a flower and watch how they bury it in their graves with themselves. They were created for love, and to be loved, and to nurture.
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To all those working harder, and doing night shifts & having no proper time for ibadah esp in these 10 days, May Allah swt bless y'all for your hardwork, ease all your hardships, forgive your shortcomings, heal your hearts, and grant all of us jannatul firdaus. Aameen.
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So important to marry someone who lowers their gaze and guards themselves fr. So many men even the ones I know religiously watch such vulgar reels, videos and are addicted to them like filthy drooling desperate dogs. Shameless.
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"Hijab is a personal choice" ek tappad padega na left aankh right main aajayegi
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I realize this more as each day passes by that as women, we are incredibly driven by our emotions, be it jealousy or compassion. It is always on the extreme edge, so easily influenced and manipulated. Be it by good words or anything we desire, easy to deviate.
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When they said your mid twenties get lonely, and life will be more about sitting back silently watching people fade and fall through your fingers like sand I wasn't prepared for this
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guys can you drop your 'me and who' pictures, I'm trying to see something 😳
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Every man in my family not only pays zakat for his wife, but also gives immense sadqah on her behalf and gifts them 2x new jewelry on eid pls 😭 and i thought this was normal.
Your menfolk don't...pay your zakah for you?
My sisters are in the trenches ya rabb
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shaadi kab karre shaadi kab karre shaadi kab karre shaadi kab karre murda nikalke qabar main gaye jab karre? aate?
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Ps, I'm referring to the weird + unnecessary + extravagant functions/culture we are adopting from non muslims as Indians every day and then taking huge loans/selling all our assets just to please society.
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All these pictures of nothern lights reminds me of how your eyes behold the entire universe and its beauty altogether, the way your gaze paints rainbows in skies, and how a single glance at you can make my life brighter than yesterday.
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Hyderabad main traffic nai rehti, traffic main toda hyderabad reh jaata 🤌🏻
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May be if we let men express their emotions particularly sadness, then we wouldn't have so many angry men around the house because at the end of the day anger is just grief and ache with no place to go.
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arrange marriage is scaryyyy what if he gets offended by my lame dank humour and starts explaining me why I mustn't laugh about anything everytime 😭
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"Shaadi kab karre" "Hui shaadi?" "Rishta hogaya kya?" "Ab tak nai hui shaadi?" "Shaadi?"
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Haan haan "early marriage" koi mile toh sahi
Getting married at young age for Muslimah is necessary, Y'all believe you'll get married only after you get a degree as a backup so you can be the breadwinner if required. Listen, Suppose you got married at 17-18, and you're blessed with a son. He'll be ready to support you
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We underestimate the impact a woman can have on entire household. My mother was the only practicing woman in the house when she married initially. The way she shaped the entire family, instilled ilm in us and everyone around her, SubhanAllah. If not for her, idk where I'd be.
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How do you tell your parents you are already in mid twenties n would prefer getting married instead of going for a PhD, winning a nobel prize and becoming a boss babe w no family??
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The urge to leave, disappear and create a new identity and start life all over again.
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"All of us have problems but once you have a health issue, you have only one problem."
a lot of people don’t realise how big of a blessing it is to not have any health problems
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The feminine urge to cry tears of happiness after seeing your friends get married to good men and live the life they deserve 😭🤌🏻 >>
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They have no motivation except the promise of Al Wakeel. They have no one by their side except Ar Rahman. They have no help besides the help of Al Ahad. They have no will to live yet they refuse to give up just because As Sami promised them ease. They breathe for his sake.
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The man you choose will be a father and the woman you choose will be the mother of your kids. They will nurture an entire generation of your family. Remember that and prioritize choosing partners with this in mind."
I wish more people understood this.
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I have been reading about people's duas being accepted 24/7 & I felt intensely overwhelmed. No one talks abt the amount of resilience it requires to keep making duas, striving and having faith that it will workout somehow in the end any way 🤌🏻
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People who bullied me for not having a personality in school now lip sync to tony kakkar thrice a day on tiktok 💀
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Being officially in the "Shaadi ki umar hogayi kya toh bhi hai. Abhich karlo baad main nai milte" phase sucks already.
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"Korean beauty standards are cruel"
Meanwhile hyderabadi beauty standards:
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As someone who's cooking for 4+ years, I'm convinced the cooking channels are also lowkey scams cuz wdym its chicken tikka n butter chicken but you add dhaniya n zeera powder every chance you get???? 😭+ all these recipes loaded w cream, butter and cheese for aesthetics? 😭
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Thinking how ammi was also a girl with such beautiful dreams, hopes and yearning for an undying love. Shattered, helpless and ruined as she moved forward. I hope she gets the entire happiness of this world and aakhirah. Aameen.
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Hmm what if I don't like the taste of water in my sasuraal? (overthinking day 9402787)
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That awkward moment when your parents think you have someone in your life but not know how you have extreme mulitple anxiety and depression phases to even have a humane conversation, forcing yourself to completely and entirely dissociate with reality thriving solely on delusion -
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Seeing your parents get older and sicker is so heartbreaking idk how I will get past this phase
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And your Lord is going to give you, and you will be satisfied.
(93 : 5)
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My roman empire is my mother saying she was never bullied as everyone found her pretty, and she grew up being the loveliest-charming girl in the room so she doesn't know what insecurities feel like and how there's not a single moment she felt inadequate or insecure and then -
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Him entering my life:
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Their actions are for his sake, and their will to live comes from Al Basit. I promise you if they have hope, if they are smiling, if they are holding onto life anyway, it is solely because of their tawwakul, their taqwa and their emaan, SubhanAllah.
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