According to Psychology, there are four types of Intelligence:
1) Intelligence Quotient (IQ)
2) Emotional Quotient (EQ)
3) Social Quotient (SQ)
4) Adversity Quotient (AQ)
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Be careful with this idea that everyone is replaceable, there are Some people who come into your life and you won't meet twice in life. Some people are special by nature and their presence in your life made things better and you know it.
When you really love someone, you develop a sixth sense for them. You
can feel everything they do. Like when they're in distress, when they're happy, when they're lying. It's the weirdest thing ever. But it's a real thing.
The best dating advice I got from my dad was, "The signs you ignore in the beginning just end up being the reason you leave later. You know right away who's good and bad for you. Don't ignore that."
ADVICE FOR WOMEN IN THE DATING WORLD:
You will never convince a man to love you.
Find a man who answers when you call and texts back in ample time rather than days.
Find a man that gives you clear cut answers and doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand.
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Every man wants a woman with a big heart but what they don’t understand is that a woman with a big heart comes with big emotions. She’s passionate. She gets really sad and mad but she will love you like no other. You can’t have someone with a big heart and expect low emotions.
You can’t be friends with those who broke your heart, ruined your life, took advantage of your love, kindness and forgiveness. They don’t deserve access to your life. You forgive them and move on, but there’s no friendship there.
SPOILING A WOMAN DON'T ALWAYS INCLUDE MONEY! It includes time, attention, being there emotionally, physically, and mentally! The Money comes and goes but how you make HER feel is forever!! If she’s all about money for the spoiling, you might wanna think about that ship
You can feel it when someone is not being real with you. You can sense it when someone is cheating on you. You can tell when things are coming to an end even if you decide to live in denial. Energy never lies.
If you want your relationship to last, you need to be willing to let go of people and situations who make your partner feel uncomfortable, and threaten your relationship. It's not about control, it's about showing RESPECT!
I'm going to say this once.
Never get into a serious relationship until you're done being single.
Never invite someone into your life if you don't have the space for them in your life to begin with.
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DEAR LADIES..
If another WOMAN is able to get CLOSE to your MAN, she's not the PROBLEM, HE is.. The fact that ANOTHER WOMAN feels WELCOMED reflects on your MAN'S BEHAVIOR when you’re not there.
A very annoying thread…
Being MARRIED or COMMITTED to one person is a beautiful thing. Don't let these folks deceive you because they made the wrong choice. Ain't nothing better than having a soulmate, bestfriend, lover and protector all in one amazing person.
In a relationship there are always 3 phases or stages...✍🏾
• The first is where everything is happiness, everything is nice words, there are no problems and everything is going well. Emotional height and display of affecting is on the high side here.
Date with a purpose.
You deserve someone who has plans on marrying you one day.
You deserve to find someone who understands that love is not a game. It’s actually an investment.
Read when you're angry...
We all deserve a person who says “we can fix this, I can’t lose you” and they intentionally work towards fixing it. This generation has gotten so used to letting go and replacing things that we don’t have value for people and emotions anymore.
TO AVOID EMBARRASSMENT AND UNNECESSARY PRESSURE IN LIFE
1. Put your kids in schools you can afford because expensive schools don’t guarantee good results. Just ensure they attend a good affordable school.
The smarter you are, the more self aware and evolved you are, the more likely you are to be single because it becomes almost impossible for you to tolerate rubbish and your boundaries become non negotiable.
Sex is not love
Going on dates is not love
Talking 24/7 is not love
Laying up is not love
Love is someone seeing the absolute worse side of you and still choosing you without demeaning you.
It’s someone making something happen for you when you can’t, someone holding you and…
CHEATING IS NOT JUST ABOUT SEX, you don't have to have sex to be a cheater, once you start hiding text messages, lying about where you are going and who you are with, picking fights just to go be with someone else, you are already on your way.
When you genuinely love someone, the idea of cheating doesn't even cross your mind. True love means respecting and cherishing your partner, and not causing them intentional pain. Breaking someone's trust is breaking their soul. If you find yourself unhappy, it's better to walk…
Hey babe, when you are angry...
1. Be mad at me, but don't insult me... Anger is not a ticket to speak carelessly.
2. Be mad at me, but tell me why you are mad... Don't assume I know.
3. Be mad at me, but don't broadcast it to others... Cover me.
Read if you're single...
The biggest rule in a relationship is no matter how mad you are at your partner, you do not go and seek someone else's attention. You sit your
ass there and make it right.
Because that's your person. If you can easily go to someone else, you do not love the person you are with.
People think intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth and acceptance. When you lift the veil off your trauma, your hurt, your pain, your scars, your triggers, your dark side, and show them who you really are and their response is "You're safe with me" - that's intimacy.
Date nights are so necessary. Just because you already have the person you want and you've been together for a substantial amount of time does not mean you should stop making those efforts. Never stop dating your partner. Keep loving and chasing each other...
The sixth love language is 'INCLUSION' Include me in your day. include me in your plans and in your schedule. Include me in your ideas, your dreams, your thoughts. Include me in your outings, or decisions. "Let's do..." and "I was thinking we should...". This is a love language.
Couples in healthy relationships also argue, have different opinions, feel frustrated, insecure and bored at times. Healthy doesn't mean perfect. What makes a relationship perfect is HOW you choose to move through those challenges TOGETHER.
Telling Your Partner Where You Are, Who You're With, What Time You're Planning On Going Home, Calling To Let Your Partner Know You Arrived Safely Is NOT A Sign Of Being CONTROLLED, But A Sign Of Showing RESPECT.
WHEN SOMETHING IS FOR YOU!
1.. When something is for you, you won't feel the need to beg, convince, or force. Things will feel easeful, grounded, and safe.
2.. When something is for you, it will not make you question or second guess your worth.
A person who lacks communication skills will often interpret any disagreement as an argument. Immature people who refuse to take responsibility perceive criticism as an attack.
Never force a relationship.
Sometimes it's better to move on, than to hold on to a person who doesn't understand who you truly are. Unfortunately there will be times where your absence will teach you what your presence cannot.
Read after you've had a weird meal...
When a man loves a woman, she becomes his weakness. When a woman truly loves a man, he becomes her strength. That, ladies and gentlemen, is an exchange of power.
You shouldn't sugarcoat how you're feeling because you're afraid your partner will get upset. If something is bothering you, say how you feel. What's the point of being with somebody you're scared of being honest with? Keep being genuine. Keep being honest. When you're in a good,…
If you’re a giver, find another giver to love. Because if you’re a giver, likely you’ve loved a lot of takers, which hurts. So find someone who values generosity as much as you do. Who loves to give because it’s their nature, not their pathology. Just like it’s your nature too❤
Who you should date...
Date someone who values you so much, that they would never put themselves in a position to lose you.
Date someone who understands. that children need to be raised in a home where love is priority despite money.
Read when you remember that breakup...
The Highest Form Of Love Is Consideration. When Someone Thinks About How Things Would Make You Feel. Pays Attention To Details. Holds You In Regard When Making Decisions That Could Affect You. In Any Bond, How Much They Care About You Can Be Found In How Much They Consider You.…
There are no Perfect men and no Perfect women, but if you will keep choosing each other, working on yourself and helping each other become better, there will be plenty of perfect moments in your relationship/marriage.
10 FAILED RELATIONSHIP LESSONS
1. No communication for hours is a turn off.
2. If you’re a giver, find another giver.
3.Nothing about true love is ever forced.
4. Relationships are only serious when commitment and respect are imminent.
5. When it comes to your feelings, nothing…
I’m in the midst of 8 of men in their mid 40s - mid 50s, all super successful (financially) but every single one of them are having serious marital issues.
Two are separated, two fully divorced and one who ran away from his home so he could have peace.
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13 early signs a relationship won’t last.
1. Every argument feels like it could end in breakup.
2. You’re changing the very core of who you are to make it work.
3. You feel like you’re constantly sacrificing your feelings to please them.
Read with a cup of coffee in hand...
The way someone fits you into their schedule, listen and understand your small struggles, comfort and encourage you, says alot about what they think of you and how much they really value you.
Before I enter a relationship with anyone else in the Future, we gotta talk about our love languages and our apology languages. It's a requirement. We really need to focus on APOLOGY LANGUAGES as it's now a big issue in relationships.
Be careful with how much you tolerate in the beginning stage. You are teaching them how to treat you and once they’ve learned, they never want to change no matter how badly it hurts you. Have and honor defined boundaries.
Watch how your partner treats you when you have a misunderstanding. If they become mean and unkind, that's a red flag you don't want to ignore no matter how strong your "feelings" are.
HOW TO APOLOGIZE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
1. ADMIT YOU ARE WRONG
Many grown ups are not humble enough to admit to their fault. Will you mess up your love just because of your pride?
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10 SIGNS YOU ARE TOO EMOTIONAL
1. You just can't say 'no' to anyone without feeling guilty. You care too much and love too much.
2. You cry when you're alone but you don't tell anyone because you're afraid of what people would think of you.
Really short thread I promise
Being in a healthy relationship has taught me that there’s no such thing as “this is who I am, take it or leave it”. When you genuinely love a person, you work on those toxic traits, you learn to communicate.
You listen to each other’s feelings and encourage individuality.
ENJOY YOUR SINGLE LIFE
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Without mincing words, being single is a great place to be as a young person.
It’s a time where you can achieve a lot & become a better version of yourself before you decide to meet someone.
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When two persons are truly in love and committed to themselves, their moods become synchronized. They know when the other person is sad, excited or angry. They feel almost every emotion together. That is why it is easy to tell when one partner is no longer committed because the…
THINGS THAT KILLS RELATIONSHIPS/MARRIAGES...✍️
1. LACK OF COMMUNICATION
The less you two communicate, the more you two slowly learn to live without each other. The more you two take breaks from each other, the faster love dies.
Read when you're thirsty...
RELATIONSHIPS are harder now.
Because conversations became texting, arguments became phone calls, feelings became subliminal messages, the word love is used out of context, insecurities became a way of thinking, getting jealous became a habit, trust is hard to come by, being…
I'll never force anyone to choose me, if you think you can find something better elsewhere then go ahead. I'm not holding you back. life's too short to hang to someone who doesn’t want to stay. I believe in freedom and the truth of feelings.
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If you fall in love because someone makes you laugh, what happens when you no longer find them funny? If you fall in love because someone is beautiful, what happens when that beauty fades? If you fall in love because someone can provide for you, what happens when they lose…
MOBILE PHONE ETIQUETTE FOR COUPLES
1. When you miss your special one, call him/her. "I miss you" means nothing if you don't do anything about it
Read when your partner is closeby...
The most painful part about relationships is when your partner finds someone new‚ and they start acting out of character just so that you can break up with them . You will be out there trying to fix things because you think it’s all your fault . Are we going to ignore the fact…
10 ℙ𝕀𝔼ℂ𝔼𝕊 𝕆𝔽 𝔸𝔻𝕍𝕀ℂ𝔼 𝔽𝕆ℝ 𝔼𝕍𝔼ℝ𝕐 𝕎𝕆𝕄𝔸ℕ.
1. When respect is no longer there, please find your way out. Although it is hard to start over, do not wait until you loose yourself in the process.
2. Do not chase love. Chase your dreams instead.
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An emotionally immature partner will shut you down. To avoid their temper or high reactivity, you don't say anything. You walk on eggshells betraying yourself in the process.
A relationship that silences you is a form of emotional abuse. Choose you and choose who choose you.
• And finally, the third is the most beautiful; when you really grow in love, and you see their perfect imperfections, when they know how to fix problems without the need for yelling or hurtful words, when you really learn to love.
This is the decision stage.
ADVICE FOR MEN IN THE DATING WORLD
1. Looks and body shape don't hold or raise a family, character does. So when you start searching, search with the future in view except you're just fun hunting.
Only men should open this thread...
The truth is, it doesn't matter how tightly you hold on to certain people, because at the end of the day, what is meant for you will always be yours. Trust me when I say, the right people will choose you just as deeply as you choose them. You will not have to beg for the love you…
HOW TO AVOID EMOTIONAL CHEATING WHEN IN A RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE...✍🏾
1. Don't be too friendly with the opposite sex. This is where lots of married people land in trouble. Over spirituality and pride will destroy your marriage/relationship!
Read like you're getting paid to...
You can't just give up on someone because the situation's not ideal. Great relationships aren't great because they have no problems. They're great because both people care enough about the other person to find a way to make it work.
You're not grown enough to date someone until you know how to communicate, apologize, be truthful and accept accountability without blaming anyone else.
Whatever you do with your life, just make sure you end up with a kind partner. There will be very many days the feeling of love will not be enough to get you through the days. But a kind person will always be a kind person regardless.
Social media has absolutely destroyed us as a generation.. People cheat, no one can settle for what they have, always looking elsewhere, craving attention, always thinking other people look or have it better, people act like they’re something they’re not...
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Being married or committed to one person is a beautiful thing. Don’t let these folks tell you a lie. Ain’t nothing better than having a Soulmate, Best Friend, Lover & Protector all in one person that you can call “MINE”.
STAY SINGLE, and wait for a Relationship that’s effortless, that’s not confusing, that’s not complicated.
DON’T COMMIT, until you find someone that’s willing to treat you right without constant reminders because they’ve been very attentive with every conversation you’ve had…
CHEATING IS A CHOICE, STAYING FAITHFUL IS ALSO A CHOICE...✍🏾
You will always meet ladies who are more attractive than your woman, you will meet ladies with more vibes, you will meet more informed women, and you will meet women who act as though they care more than your woman.
YOUR PARTNER NEEDS
To feel wanted by you
To know you're willing to grow together
For you to notice the good they do for
To know their feelings aren't "too much" for you
To know their thoughts and ideas matter to you
To know you'll be there in times of need
To know your heart,…
In my years of experience counselling married couples, here's a marriage advice I could give:
1. Choose to love each other, even in those moments when you struggle to like each other. Love is a commitment, not a feeling.
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If you are dating someone, try to find out how that person was raised. A lot of people weren't raised in love. They were raised on survival. That's why you see so many men/women not being able to love properly (hurting people). You'll find a lot of good looking people, damaged…
Stop having sex with everyone you come across. Sex is soul binding and the more you bind yourself to different people the more you allow different unpredictable things into your life. Have some decency and self respect. It’s really about self respect.
the couples that are "meant to be"
are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out even stronger than
they were before. It’s not some “magic” to be this kind of couple, it requires commitment and work.
Relationships fail because people refuse to take responsibility for their actions, apologize when they hurt their partners and do better when their partner calls them to order for doing something that hurts them. Until you’re ready to be responsible, stay single.
Whatever you do with your life, just make sure you end up with a kind partner. There will be very many days the feeling of love will not be enough to get you through the days. But a kind person will always be a kind person regardless.
Not everything is worth fixing. Move on. The only reason people take you for granted is because they assume you'll always be there. Prove them wrong. No second chances to those who had all access and abused it. There are better people out there waiting for just one chance.
Everybody Wants To Be In A Relationship For Years, But Everybody Is Not Ready For The Bad Days, The Crying, Arguments, Communication Going Wrong. Relationships Aren’t Fairytales & It’s Not Easy. If You Love Each Other, You Have To Stay Solid Through It All & Make it Work. You…
Are you in love, or are you in trauma? Let's talk about trauma bonds:
● You meet someone and the connection feels intoxicating. Suddenly, your world revolves around them. It's exciting, but there's lots of chaos.
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IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE FOR 2024
Always go with the person that loves you, don't go with the person you love because, the person you love will only love you on their terms. But the person that loves you will go to the ends of the earth for you.
Strictly for the singles...
My last relationship taught me that the more chances you give someone, the less they value you.
They're not afraid to lose you because they know no matter what, you won't walk away. Never let someone get too comfortable with disrespecting you.
LOVE COMES WITH EVIDENCE
When a person truly loves and care about you, you don't need to remind them of taking care of you because they'll willingly make time for you no matter how tight their issues might be.
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You need a partner who can acknowledge how badly they hurt you. If they can’t acknowledge it or they minimize it, or justify it, if they try to make it look like you drove them to do it then you’re done for.