We loved Lauren so much and miss her everyday. We hope for change so that other parents don't lose their daughters to violence when they are away at college. Thanks to all who are supporting us and remembering Lauren.
Our daughter Lauren was murdered 5 years ago today. Please remember Lauren and all victims of dating violence. She was so precious to us. She was loved.
Police didn't think Lauren was in danger when she reported to them because she was stoic. Police didn't think
#GabbyPetito
was in danger because she was crying & her abuser said she was crazy. They were both murdered. We must do better.
These past few days have been a deep, dark valley, but we are hoping for some light. The Lauren McCluskey Memorial Fund will provide scholarships for student-athletes in track and field. This will be an endowed fund and will therefore live forever.
I received a call yesterday that I'm promoted to Regents Professor, the highest rank at WSU & limited to only 30 faculty out of 1800. Thanks to my past & current PhD students, my coauthors, & colleagues for their roles in my career and to friends and family for love and support.
Today my daughter Lauren should have turned 26. We miss her every day. Please make Lauren's Promise: I will listen and believe you if someone is threatening you.
#ForLauren
@LMC_Foundation
Lauren would have been proud of
@Utah_Football
in their comeback win. She loved being a Ute. We'll all be cheering for you in the Pac-12 championship game.
@utahathletics
#ForLauren
I have 3 questions for
@SimGillDA
1. Did you read the full DPS report?
2. Are you afraid to prosecute police officers?
3. Do you understand the harm to me as Lauren's representative & to women who won't report to police because they can share private evidence w/o consequences?
I'm missing my Lauren extra today. Here she is at 7 years old, dressed up with a butterfly crown. Give your daughter an extra hug today.
#CampusSafety
#ForLauren
Thank you for all the messages of sympathy. We are grieving and not doing any interviews, but I'll share a video my brother put together of Lauren doing track in high school when she was being recruited for college
Some say that I'm angry, but the truth is that I'm sad that I lost my daughter. I try to overcome sadness with faith, a purpose to make things better, my work, exercise, my family & friends, & the kindness of others. You never know what other people are going through, so be kind.
Lauren cheered so hard for
@utahfootball
when we watched games together. I wish she could be there with us for the Rose Bowl. I know that she,
#TyJordan
, &
#AaronLowe
will be cheering from heaven.
#ForLauren
Lauren's obituary. It's a very dark time for us right now, but we hope that her light will continue to shine through the people she touched with her kindness.
Lauren was brave to report to police.
@UUtah
confirmed that instead of arresting the man who was stalking & extorting her, Officer Deras exploited her by downloading extortion pictures to his phone & showing them to another officer unrelated to the case.
My daughter Lauren was murdered 4 years ago today. We held a race in SLC for the 1st time. It felt like she was there in the beautiful sunrise. It will never be ok w/o Lauren, but we can still work to make things better. So, the next young woman who asks for help will be safe.
Christmas is always hard without Lauren, even when there's a lot to celebrate. When you lose a child, grief spikes are expected. Please hug your friends & family, especially those who have lost someone
#ForLauren
Matt & I will attend
@rosebowlgame
to cheer for Lauren's
@Utah_Football
. I love this picture of some of the team traveling on the
@Patriots
plane. The young man on the left is wearing a
@FCA_Utes
hoodie with Lauren's name on his sleeve. Thank you for remembering her.
#ForLauren
Pretty cool
@BYUfootball
and
@Utah_football
will both have winged feet on the back of their helmets in tonight’s
#holywar
to honor Utah track star Lauren McCluskey.
Both are gone too soon. I only spoke with Mike Leach a few times, but he cared. He knew that I lost Lauren and he would hug me when he saw me. Rest in Peace Coach.
Thank you to everyone for messages of the love and support. This is Lauren's tree that
@CoachKKepler
planted by the
@UUtah
track
@Utah_trackfield
. She will always have a presence there.
I visited with
@Utah_trackfield
coach & former Iowa prep,
@CoachKKepler
last night. He, his team & Lauren McCluskey's family are overwhelmed with the outpouring of love & support. A Utah T&F scholarship fund has been set up in Lauren's name. "Lauren's tree", by the track.
Thank you to everyone who helped with Lauren's Celebration of Life, especially
@SchweitzerEng
, WSU School of Music &
@UUtah
. We are touched and thank everyone who shared about Lauren. We feel loved by our communities and family, both near and far.
#ForLauren
Tomorrow is Lauren's birthday. She should have turned 24. I still can't believe that she's gone. I'm encouraged by all that has already changed, & what we will accomplish through the
@LMC_Foundation
in the future, but I miss her every day.
#CampusSafety
#ForLauren
I'm always shocked when people victim-blame. Lauren briefly dated & was manipulated by a bad guy; then broke up with him & asked for help from the police. May he who has not sinned cast the first stone. She didn't deserve to die from her young mistake.
#ProtectWomenFromViolence
As graduation season approaches, we will miss watching Lauren receive her degree. She was so excited to graduate from
@UUtah
. I know her death is making an impact on campus safety around the world, but at too high of a price for us.
#LaurenMcCluskey
#SayHerName
#CampusSafety
Please make
#LaurensPromise
: I will listen and believe you if someone is threatening you. Each person who makes this promise helps to change the culture that didn't respond to Lauren's pleas for help. It could be your daughter, your friend, or your coworker who needs help.
Oct 22, the 3rd anniversary of Lauren's murder, students at many universities are hosting memorial walks that bring awareness of relationship violence. Even if you're not a student, on Oct 22, please take a walk anywhere & remember victims of relationship violence.
#ForLauren
Please make
#LaurensPromise
: I will listen and believe you if someone is threatening you. You might save a life. We miss Lauren more than ever as the holidays approach.
#CampusSafety
#ForLauren
4 years ago, Lauren graduated with honors from high school. Today she was supposed to graduate with honors from
@UUtah
. She will watching from heaven as her friends go through the ceremony.
#SheWasLoved
#CampusSafety
#NeverForget
We are in SLC for a press conference tomorrow at 11 a.m. We are filing a lawsuit against
@UUtah
, who never took responsibility for their failures that resulted in Lauren's murder. Any money from the lawsuit will go to the and to support student athletes.
I've talked with many other parents who have lost children. The most difficult dates are birthdays & the anniversary of their death. Oct. 22 will be 5 years since Lauren was murdered. Please make
#LaurensPromise
: I will listen and believe you if someone is threatening you
It's been almost 2 years since Lauren was murdered. She was so loved & we miss her constantly. During Domestic Violence Awareness month, please make
#LaurensPromise
: I will listen & believe you if someone is threatening you. Respond with urgency.
#ForLauren
October is hard for me because it's the month that we lost Lauren. It's also domestic violence awareness month. I hope to change the "I can't help you with your boyfriend problems" culture one person at a time.
#ForLauren
I was told that the
@DatelineNBC
episode about Lauren re-aired last night. I received hate email because of it. I can't believe that people victim-blame a young woman for being briefly fooled by a con artist; even more they go after her mom.
I spoke with
#GabbyPetito
's mom today. The 1-year anniversary of Gabby's murder is Saturday, Aug. 27. Please light up the night to honor Gabby and others like my daughter Lauren who lost their lives to domestic violence.
TOMORROW: A
@GMA
EXCLUSIVE: Parents of star student athlete Lauren McCluskey speak out about daughter who was killed by her ex-boyfriend on her college campus. She had reported she was being harassed on multiple occasions to campus police.
Lauren would have been 23 years old today. We miss her so much. Thanks to everyone who lets her light shine through them with kindness to others & working for positive change.
April is sexual assault awareness month. If you have been assaulted or are being threatened, please tell someone. Lauren's promise is: I will listen and believe you if someone is threatening you.
#ForLauren
Matt and I cheered for
@Utah_Football
at the Rose Bowl. It was wonderful to connect with Utah friends and Lauren's roommate and her close friends.
#ForLauren
My mom passed away this morning. Even though she struggled with Parkinson's disease for more than 20 years, she loved and helped many people. The fact that she was able to live her life for Christ and help others is a testament to her faith and her positive, determined spirit.
This is from Lauren's recruiting visit to
@UUtah
. We thought that the U would be a safe place for Lauren to go to college. She was an honors student athlete, who would have graduated in 4 years. Her name was
#LaurenMcCluskey
.
#NeverForget
#CampusSafety
It surprises me when I get victim-blaming hate messages, especially from people who don't know the facts of Lauren's case. Why would someone send that kind of message to a mother? I know there are many more good people in the world. I try to surround myself with those people.
-Lauren was not treated with respect & dignity
-Her case was not investigated with urgency
-She received no victim services that might have protected her from the man who was threatening her.
Let's do better.
#CampusSafety
#ForLauren
Lauren's promise: I will listen & believe you if someone is threatening you. Thanks to the professors are voluntarily including this in their syllabi, including WSU, Utah State, Minn., Texas Tech, Penn State, Georgia, Nebraska, Ohio St, Oregon St, Illinois St., U. Adelaide & more
Her name was Lauren McCluskey. She was murdered on the
@UUtah
campus under
@RuthVWatkins
' watch. She contacted campus police so many times about the man who committing crimes against her. They did nothing.
#SayHerName
This settlement not only addresses how Lauren died, but it honors how she lived.
@Utah_trackfield
and
@utahathletics
were an important part of her life. She will always have a presence on campus.
Our son Ryan will graduate this June from
@UW
in mechanical engineering. He's overcome so much. He suffered from an ruptured aneurysm at age 14 & still graduated high school as valedictorian. He lost his sister when he was 19. I know God has a plan for him.
On Wed., Feb. 12, Lauren should have turned 23 yrs old. She should have lived a long, beautiful life. We will always have broken hearts. Still I'm thankful that her short life has inspired so many to make a difference.
#LetHerLightShine
#CampusSafety
#BelieveWomen
.
@UUtah
is raising funds for an indoor track to be named after Lauren. With this track, she will forever have a presence on campus. Please give any amount to show support & ensure that she is never forgotten. Can 100 people give before her bday on Feb 12?
It's Feb 12 in Australia, where I'm speaking at
@AARES_Inc
. I'm thinking of Lauren who would have turned 22 yrs old today. We loved her so much & miss her, especially today.
I took this picture of Lauren studying when I visited her at
@UUtah
. She had a 3.78 GPA & was going to graduate in 4 yrs while competing for
@Utah_trackfield
& doing an internship. We lost so much when she was murdered.
#ForLauren
#CampusSafety
Matt & I cheered for Lauren's team
@Utah_Football
last night. We wish they won but want to congratulate them on their season. We hope all the players are fully healthy for next year.
After Lauren was murdered,
@RuthVWatkins
could have shown leadership & made
@UUtah
safer. But she chose to be on the wrong side of history by not holding anyone accountable. Most of the police who didn't protect/care about Lauren still work there. I expect it to end her career.
Thank you for the wonderful messages of love for Lauren & support for us who are left behind. We are so moved by your words. We have received cards, flowers, & food from family, friends & strangers who care and are grieving with us. Thank you to everyone who donated in her name.
When asked about recommendations after Lauren's murder,
@uutah
Chief Brophy, said, “There’s never a perfect day in law enforcement. Never a perfect day in golf either. You can always do better.”
Except no one dies in golf.
#ForLauren
#CampusSafety
Nearly half of all female homicide victims are killed by a current or former dating partner, according to a 2017 CDC study. On Oct 22, please take a walk & remember victims of dating violence, especially my daughter Lauren.
#LaurensPromise
Over 11 days, Lauren reported a sex offender was committing crimes against her. Police never tried to speak with him, never banned him from campus, & never posted pictures of him at her dorm to warn other residents. She was deprived of the right to a safe education.
#CivilRights
Women's rights are civil rights. I have a dream that one day when only ONE woman tells the police that she is being harassed, stalked, extorted & a gun will come to campus, they will respond. In Lauren's case 6 women reported this to
@UUtah
campus police & housing.
#CampusSafety
Happy Mother's day to all the wonderful moms, including mine. Lauren used to make me cards. Here's one, probably from middle school. We miss her so much.
Miguel Deras was Lauren's contact at campus police. She had 18 calls with him alone. On the day of her murder, she called him 3x about a text impersonating an officer to lure her out of her dorm. He didn't share that info with anyone. He was never disciplined for failing Lauren.
Officer Miguel Deras wasn’t fired for mishandling reports from student-athlete Lauren McCluskey weeks before she was killed on campus last fall.
Months later, however, Deras made the same mistakes again on another woman’s case.
Lauren & I drove her Jeep to
@UUtah
for her to start college 4 years ago. She was so excited to be a student athlete. I wish campus police believed her & responded with urgency when she told them a man was committing crimes against her & she was scared.
#CampusSafety
#ForLauren
Yesterday we dedicated a tree & plaque for Lauren on the
@WSUPullman
campus. It's the same red maple tree that's next to
@Utah_trackfield
's track. James LaSalle of SLC is the artist.
@WSUecons
and
@wsuphysics
graduate students made this project happen. They are amazing people.
Lauren's teammate
@Brooke_AMartin
made this installation of Lauren in the
@UUtah
art building out of cut and torn black paper. Lauren's light still shines on campus through many people who will never forget.
#CampusSafety
#BelieveWomen
From grief, your empathy for others increases. You listen more closely and really notice people. You appreciate the people in your life who care, provide comfort and even sometimes joy. You hope to return the same to them.
#ForLauren