People don’t date anymore, they just talk nice, share traumas, lie to each other and enjoy the romantic tension until one of them fall apart or ask for a relationship
If she is independent, pays her own bills, takes care of herself and has ambitions. She is an average adult. Not a boss-girl. Just doing the bare minimum of adulting as she should be
If my partner overthinks everything, then I'll just over explain everything. I have no problem keeping their mind at peace. The aim is to build trust and become each other’s safe place, not destroy it.
The sooner you learn to differentiate between a "friend" and "someone you know" the sooner you'll stop calling people "fake friends" and "snakes". Not everyone owes you love and loyalty, just know your place in people's lives and act accordingly.