Doing a little introduction post to pin 📌
I’m Anneliese, I’m a 26y/o stay at home wife and mom to a 2 year old boy and a little girl on the way.
I’ve lived in central Arizona my whole life 🌵
My most popular tweet was about my engagement ring being $80. Kinda wish I didn’t
Can I be real?
I’ve been married for 5 years, and it is easily the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
Those who have had easy marriages may be tempted to see this and assume that there must be something deeply wrong with those who struggle, but I’d like to humbly push back on this.
I grew up being taught to save sex for marriage (and I did) and to be modest and chaste.
And I had zero issue going from that to happily married, having lots of happy married people time with my husband.
Learning purity did not obstruct that, purity that paved the way for
You’re attracted to your spouse when you get married but what they don’t tell you is how after a number of years together that attraction becomes this primal, immovable, intoxicating thing that encompasses the physical and the spiritual and they are simply the fixed standard of
No, all men do not watch porn. I know it’s hard for some worldly people to grasp, but it’s not an uncontrollable impulse or just the way it is. Plenty of men are living totally free from it.
Bring back modest wedding dresses.
If any moment deserves modest attire, it’s while you’re making solemn vows before God and witnesses to love ONE man till death do you part.
It isn’t the day to show off your body to guests.
When I got married, I was warned not to love my husband more than I loved God. As if I could quantify my love for each, and adjust when it became unbalanced.
I was warned not to make my husband an idol. But nobody said what that looked like. It was all elusive Christian lingo.
This stuff makes me so sad. I also truly do not understand how you can love your husband and not want to be intimate with him. How can those two things not go together?
When people say “Jesus wasn’t white” with the assumption anyone cares 😅
He saved me from eternal damnation and is preparing a place for me in Heaven. His skin tone is the last thing I’m concerned about.
As a woman who got married at 20 to the man I fell in love with at 18, I still acknowledge that there is truth to the idea that your brain is not fully developed and that you don’t really know who you are at that age.
It’s true, getting married young is a certain kind of risk.
Reading the comments on my previous tweet, I’m just grateful that my husband is the only person I’ve ever had sex with. That has spared me a great deal of heartache.
My brother married a single mom.
He’s a happy man and totally obsessed with her. And he loves her daughter as his own.
What I see in my own family will always be more real to me than some random tweet on here.
Instead of talking about remaining pure *until* marriage, how about we talk about remaining pure *for* marriage. “Until” implies that purity is lost when you get married. It implies that the act of sex is dirty.
Purity isn’t lost when you consummate. Covenantal love is holy.
If you see a woman who is excelling in her God-given roles, learn from her. She isn’t your competition. Be inspired, not envious. Rejoice in God’s work in her life.
Shocking I know but a woman who previously was promiscuous is allowed to stop being promiscuous and wait until marriage and is perfectly justified in that
As a woman who did save myself for marriage, I still think that people on here exaggerate the impressiveness of doing so.
Depending on your social circle, the opportunity to sleep around simply isn’t there. No such offer was ever made to me. I hung out with friends, and still
Since folks are so curious as to why I would marry my polar opposite, I’m happy to share!
1. I respected his walk with God and his service in our church. His staying late after church potlucks to clean until every last bit of trash was picked up. Not just one Sunday, but over
I entered marriage at 20 years old with maybe a paragraph worth of knowledge about sex. I had never been with a man or even watched porn. You have no idea who you’re talking to. I have no skin in the game. I’m married to a good man and we have two children.
I have many friends
Being madly in love with your husband is a good thing. It’s not a sure sign that you’re “idolizing” him. Can we stop assuming a dichotomy between loving God and loving one’s family? We love God first, and out of that flows abundant love for others.
I’m not a stay at home wife/mom because I don’t think my husband could never cheat or leave me.
Of course he could. I could also do the same to him and put him in a bad spot. Sin is evil like that.
I’m a stay at home mom because I *want* to be with my children 24/7. I want to
I wish someone told me that my love for God and my love for my husband weren’t *inherently* competing affections. More than that, they were inextricably linked. The more I loved God, the more I would obey His commandments, including His commands me for me as a wife.
It’s good to be ordinary. You can still find love. Simplicity is beautiful. Be trustworthy and kind. Smile and be generous. Make other people feel special. It’s good to be ordinary 💛
If my husband stopped wanting to be intimate with me, it would be devastating and soul crushing on many levels.
This doesn’t make me mean, controlling or a pervert. It makes me human. I want to love and give love in accordance with my nature. Would I die from lack of sex?
The Bible says that older women are to teach younger women to love their husbands’ and children, yet so much of what passes for women’s ministry today has more to do with loving oneself.
I married into a family with a long line of divorce.
My husband’s parents (who had a “traditional marriage” got divorced, and both sides of his grandparents divorced.
Statistically speaking, my husband and I are likely to get divorced.
I’m not naive about this, it happens. My
There’s this idea that being a stay at home wife/mom is simply a privilege for the wealthy.
This is absurd to the many families who forfeit luxury and live humbly in order to make it possible.
Prioritizing the lifestyle you want through the sacrifices you make isn’t privilege.
Not having sex before marriage is bare minimum piety.
The amount of impressed responses to when I tell people I waited blows my mind.
It’s like, just don’t have sex?
Don’t look for a perfect man, look for a man who is growing.
Look for a trajectory. He will have setbacks, just like you do, but the general direction of a man’s life tells you a lot.
Is he maturing or stagnant?
A lady in her 80’s today told me she doesn’t like to have a TV in their bedroom because “I’M the entertainment in the bedroom” and honestly I am adopting that energy from now on.
Is it dangerous for a woman to be more spiritually advanced than her husband?
Let me put it this way. If a woman is truly more spiritually advanced, the last thing she is gonna do is lord it over her husband.
True spiritual advancement would mean greater humility,
You’re not looking for a sinless man, but for a man who is humble and confesses his sin.
You’re not looking for a completely established man, but a man who is driven and works hard.
Recognizing patterns of growth and repentance are key in evaluating a potential husband.
The more I hear discourse about what a man should be able to provide for a woman before entering marriage, the more I’m convinced that what is considered a good standard of living is highly cultural.
I grew up eating lots of rice and beans, my parents drove beaters and we ate
and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
- Titus 2:4-5
As a woman who got married at 20 as a debt free virgin with no tattoos it would have absolutely blown my mind to learn there was something special or desirable about that.
I imagine most women like me would say the same.
I can absolutely understand how women and their needs can be complex and confusing.
But I do think, unless a woman is truly narcissistic, she basically just wants to be seen, cherished and pursued.
She may take a long, convoluted approach to communicating that. Or she may be at
One of the best things you can do for every relationship in your life (especially marriage) is to learn to control your tongue.
Some people can exercise alarming self control and discipline in every area of their life, but when it comes to speech they’re out of control.
Okay I’ll bite. Our grocery budget for two adults and a toddler is $250 a month. At one point we did $100 and so 250 feels like living high off the hog.
And we often go under that.
We live in an expensive city on one income.
How?
1. I shop at selected grocery stores, buying
As a godly woman ages, she exchanges physical beauty for a lasting legacy and works that “praise her in the gates.”
Her husband and children rise up and call her blessed.
She is wise, resourceful, works hard, and most importantly, she fears the Lord.
Charm and beauty are for a
I never encountered any women in my social circles that said they needed a 6 foot, 6 figure, super-attractive man.
Actually, I think the women were mostly hoping they could attract a good man and worried about that.
Let men lift heavy things for you ladies.
I had so much fun being a helpless woman while buying bookshelves today.
The man that helped me assured me it was “not heavy to him” and had a big grin on his face.
It’s so fun to let men help you. Try it sometime.
“Eww Arizona”
Bro you can get raw milk at the grocery store here and they’ll give homeschooling families 5,000 per kid. We also have a Grand Canyon and if heat’s not your thing, drive 2 hours north. I’ve seen like 3 rattlesnakes my entire life living here and never been bit by a
Idolatry is when your heart turns AWAY from God, to seek after and worship something/someone else.
Are you doing this as you tidy your home, submit to your husband and cook healthy meals for your family, or are you just seeking to love God as you steward what He’s given you?
I don’t have the power to quantify “how much” I love my husband, and measure that against “how much” I love God.
That is subjective and rationalistic human wisdom.
I DO have the power, however, through Christ, to receive God’s commands and obey them. Much simpler. Hallelujah!
Some women express a fear of dressing more modestly because they don’t want to feel out of place.
I worked out in this at the gym and felt so feminine and beautiful.
The accusation that dressing modestly is subversively “immodest” because you actually garner MORE attention is
My friend went on a date today and the guy said he was just looking for someone “to vibe with”.
I feel like I truly dodged a bullet getting married young.
I just want to say this for whoever needs to hear it, but the home is a WORTHY place to use your gifts and talents.
Some of us have unknowingly bought the assumption that the world deserves our best while the home gets whatever is left.
This is backwards.
Okay but genuinely what is the point of date nights and why are they magical for marriage
My husband and I got cake, ate it, looked at each other, walked around and went home
Did we miss the memo
Jealousy is an emotion I don’t experience in my marriage.
I got married knowing full well I am not the most attractive woman in the world, and that my looks are not the reason my husband married me. There will always be more attractive women showing lots of skin.
I find