RT @fatfabfeminist: now that everyone is bringing up their issues with the healthcare industry, is this the time to talk about how medical….

“That’ll give me diabetes” or “It’s so sweet it is basically diabetes in a (insert sweet food here)” .😅😜As a diabetic, kindly F off with that unscientific (often fatphobic) shamey nonsense 🙃☺️.

Goals.

RT @NC_Renic: Article’s almost done - just gotta write the conclusion, intro, and most of the body.

RT @AmandaLSmythers: Reminder that science is political whether you like it or not. Politics define how we are funded and what we are fund….

Now, as a therapist, so much of how I have held space this week is informed by those years and the stories I carry with me from that role. These are the humans who are on my mind. So, I hope those celebrating a rapist being in office have the day they deserve.

Months earlier I had shown up to her home, with my dog, after the offender was released on bail. We got 30 mins notice, so I had bolted to my car in my pajamas, scared he would go to her home and kill her.

… When she won her case, a rarity in our work, I made her a mug with the phrase “tipsy ‘n frisky with a vengeance for justice” on it, as our new inside “joke…”.

12. I’m thinking about the defense attorney who asked my client on the stand if she “often got frisky when (she) would get tipsy,” insinuating that the life altering assault was a result of being a frisky-tipsy woman. He also asked her if she just had a “vengeance for justice” ….

…I sat there, stunned. I failed her, I should have known the system would fail her. How harmful and naive to give false hope. I sat in my car and cried, praying I would get into a grad school soon and be able to leave the job that was crushing my soul after nearly 4 long years.

…I will never forget, 30 minutes later, her having a panic attack and running out of the DA’s office after “problems with her case” were flippantly listed off as reasons that they chose not pursue it.

… As we sat in my office before the big meeting, I told her, “Here is the evidence they have, which is more than we normally have, so they will probably schedule the grand jury to indict this guy when we meet.”.

11. I’m thinking, as I often do, about the young woman who had such a clear cut case, that even the jaded investigator thought we could get it prosecuted. DNA evidence, a witness, previous charges… I really thought we had him.

A judge’s orders are only as good as the cops serving them, who are too often offenders themselves, and it is just a piece of paper anyway. Abusers walked through full-stay-away orders all the time. Reporting violations is rarely successful.

10. The friend I helped fill out the order of protection and firearm surrender at the dog park after her ex husband escalated post separation. Separation is the most dangerous time. I was not surprised when the cops buddy-budied with him and took his side.

9. The investigator who joked about playing “ice ice baby” as he pulled up to interview a suspect at a farm known for hiring immigrants. How I was told not to say anything, not to “lose our valuable relationship with him” that was helpful occasionally (?) to our clients.

8. Thinking about the woman who called our hotline via an interpreter, asking for help after her partner threatened to get her deported if she reported his abuse.

7. Thinking about the superintendent of a large school district who called my supervisor to complain after I called him out for violating my client’s Title IX rights. How smug he looked when he proceeded to make meeting with my clients @ school nearly impossible.

6. I’m thinking about the clients I worked with who had become vulnerable to trafficking only after being kicked out of their home for being trans or gay.

Y’all talk about exemptions for “rape and incest,” but never domestic violence as a part of your list. Your list of reasons a woman should get bodily autonomy only after having it violently taken from her.