Stop making survivor and victim bad words and start making perpetrator and abuser bad words.

Domestic abuse victims don’t need charity- they need protection and restoration. https://t.co/Eum2LTSqlO

Why are mothers in domestic abuse shelters relying on angel trees to give presents to their children? Because they were failed by every system that was supposed to protect them.

Or, don’t let them… #defendsurvivors

If people only knew and cared how much even the smallest amount of validation means to a survivor…

The harder things get the less energy and mental capacity the person has to deal with it. Then people add to the trauma with hurtful ‘helping’ messages like “you’re the only one that can fix this” or “no one’s coming to save you” survivors need stress taken off not added on.

The problem isn’t that you’re eliminating toxic people from your life - the problem is there are toxic people in your life.

“Too often, society shifts blame onto survivors. But the blame belongs squarely at the feet of the perpetrator. Survivors don’t need to "let go" of shame — they need a world that never put it on them in the first place.” https://t.co/SBuoYUH5sE

Shocking isn’t it, how many times people try to make the survivor the problem. #stopvictimblaming

The problem is not that it’s a ‘trend’ to not have contact with abusive people - the problem is that abusive people have never been held accountable and survivors supported. #nocontact

“So many people want to explain a survivor’s trauma back to them. They want to tell them what it means, how they should feel about it, and how they should heal. But the truth is absolutely no one understands that trauma more than the survivor themselves.” https://t.co/EnLY4yKbCH

One of the best things you can do for a survivor is to help them not accept the guilt, blame, shame, and responsibility that belongs others. Unfortunately too often ‘prevention’ messages do the exact opposite.

If someone responds with a personal attack that’s an immediate block. We’ve already lived through and survived abuse many of us multiple times. We certainly are not tolerating more abuse from strangers online.

It’s great to raise money to give abused children holiday presents but what they really need is to be defended and to get out of abuse. Protective parents need to be supported so THEY can provide for their child’s needs. #priorities #believeprotectdefend

People actually tell loving mothers that their child is better off without them and then they call that beautiful. #adoptionistrauma #motherloss

It’s really upsetting to get to the last phase of your life and realize you made so many mistakes trying to do the right thing.

In 2026 I’ll turn 60. 60 missed birthdays with my mother. It really hurts that people call this beautiful. #adopteevoices https://t.co/OuRnIyHR2C

It took a DNA test and a phone call with a matched cousin to find out my mother was alive. That no one, the state or my adoptive family, thought I was worth knowing that or that my mother was worth knowing hurts so much. Adoption is trauma. #adopteevoices #reunion

Some people don’t love you… They love how much you love them.

Many people don’t realize how toxic something is until they’re out of it. You get to decide when it’s over for you. You don’t have to justify that to anyone else. You can just accept other people won’t understand it and feel like the hurt party but for you it’s freedom.