Daniel Stillman
@dastillman
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Host of https://t.co/zhpMRKQLVV podcast author of https://t.co/b4ZbZqObiJ
Harlem, NYC
Joined September 2009
It's thrilling to have the eminent @KirkusReviews describe my book as "absorbing and stylishly designed". Those are basically my life goals.
We all design conversations, whether intentionally or unintentionally. Good Talk is an exploration of the structure of conversation and a set of tools you can use to start intentionally designing your conversations, all rolled into one book: https://t.co/cnsJdy3l85
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Your inner voice runs at 4,000 words per minute while your outer voice only hits 150. That's a lot of unspoken conversation happening. Learning to manage your inner chatter might be the most important leadership skill you never learned about.
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For Leaders, Your Inner Voice is a Superpower...until it isn't. Here are four ways to shift it. As a leader, it's natural to think of strategies to tackle current issues or prepare for future ones -...
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In this podcast episode, Carole Robin, PhD, reminds us: Anger is a secondary emotion. Beneath it usually lives fear or hurt. When leaders stop masking fear and start naming it, everything changes. That's the magic of "touchy feely." More here: https://t.co/1UMr0CBP7r
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How do you scale the culture you want to create? It's about watering your "flowers" (your high performers), and also about taking the right approach for your "puzzles," "gems," and "candles." More about Danny Meyer's Four Quadrants matrix here:
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Hiring, retaining and developing talent is a key leadership skill. Without great talent it’s impossible to have a great team. And without a great team, it’s impossible to build a great organization....
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How do you explore the future from the present? Here, Kevin Bethune reveals his method for widening your lens to see not just the most likely future, but all the futures that might be possible for your organization. https://t.co/Gjm4x7Szwx
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The best performers, like high-level athletes and actors, spend more time in preparation than in performance. But most leaders spend way more time "on stage" than rehearsing! Here are 7 questions you can ask yourself to help shift that balance:
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Performance vs. Preparation Even the best actors spend more time rehearsing than performing. The same is true for athletes. For Olympic athletes, they train a whole year for just a few days of...
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Respect isn't something you talk about. It's something you do, over and over, especially when it's hard. Here, Marcy Syms and I explore what it really takes to lead with respect as your default behavior, even under stress. https://t.co/tvd7271JXw
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Designing better conversations is about technique, but it's also about intentionality. Whether you're having a tough negotiation or a personal chat, Good Talk gives you the tools to intentionally design the best version of that conversation. https://t.co/cnsJdy3l85
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Most conversations move fast... we ask questions, listen just enough to respond, and move on. But what if you slowed down and dug deeper? The Listening Triangle slows things down and connects you with the power of dedicated, deep listening. Try it out!
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Mindfully Slowing down the conversation Lately, I’ve been hearing lots of friends and colleagues talk about slowing down a bit for the summer. If it’s summer where you are, and you have the means,...
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Changing a system doesn't require force. Sometimes the most powerful intervention is changing the default. Shift what's easy versus what's hard, and watch behavior follow.
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The power of changing the default
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How can you effortlessly create value and impact as a leader? In this conversation with my coach, Robert Ellis, we dig into the idea that everyone has an essence, a natural approach of their own, that can transform the way you work. Check it out! https://t.co/lbY65OiSNb
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Leaky meetings drain energy. When people drift in late, hop off early, or the work spills over, you lose momentum. Tighten your leaky meeting container with clear invitations, commitments, and boundaries.
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Your Team Meetings Might be Leaky Do your meetings always start and end on time? Does everyone join at the exact call time, or do people trickle in? Do people sometimes need to “hop off early”? Does...
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Most teams spend their time firefighting the urgent. But leaders who create real impact spend most of their energy on what's important but not yet urgent. That shift is where transformation happens.
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What are today’s most scarce resources? While money can be found, borrowed, printed or even invented, we all know that no amount of money can buy a 25th hour in the day. Time is limited, tomorrow is...
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Community is built through participation, not transactions. I sit down with James Rutter to discuss how shifting from consumer to citizen thinking unlocks creativity and connection in organizations. https://t.co/TBnkysVkdG
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Strong one-on-ones scale excellence across your leadership team. Start by coaching your people to solve their own problems, not solving problems for them. That's how leaders multiply their impact.
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Founders often want to stay involved in many or even most aspects of their businesses (see the conversations over “ founder mode ”). However, most soon realize that if they ever want a vacation, a...
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Conversations have power. In Good Talk, I share how to design conversations with intention so you can navigate difficult moments, strengthen relationships, and create real transformation in your work. https://t.co/cnsJdy3l85
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Yehong Zhu shares lessons from building a startup during COVID: every rejection clears the way for someone who will say yes. We discuss community building, founder resilience, and finding your why. https://t.co/sOOf52cpNq
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Conversations have structure, even when they feel fluid. By understanding these nine key conversational elements, you can design meetings and workshops that truly transform.
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Exploring the Conversation OS Canvas Meetings are Group Conversations My work over the past several years has been in learning and applying the principles of conversation dynamics, found in studying...
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When your team struggles to agree, the first question to ask is: "Are we looking at the same data?" The Ladder of Inference shows us why: we all climb from observation to action differently. The key is to slow down and align at each rung of the ladder.
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Getting groups to make good decisions is no trivial matter. Mostly because it’s hard to agree on what we’re agreeing on: What’s the “real problem” we’re solving for? Who (for what stakeholder?) are...
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Building something great requires design work, but it's also about rapid iteration and embracing failure as learning. Here, Robbie Bent shares how Othership grew through bold experiments, authenticity, and a willingness to be imperfect. https://t.co/sZRthnpTIY
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Urgency tricks us into staying reactive. But real growth only happens when we stop "firefighting" and habitually make room for the long-term, strategic thinking that builds the future. Here's why slowing down might be the fastest path forward:
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Are you fighting fires, sitting on calls, or creating the next iteration of your business? Every morning, noon and night is a flurry of notifications - dings on your phone, pings from people putting...
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